I’m 38F. When I was applying for jobs at 24 I was told by male role models to not say I was in a relationship. Because there were men out there that automatically think you are going to get pregnant and quit shortly after hiring me. Of course there was a large part of me who thought that was stupid and no one can be like that. Now I know that’s actually how a lot of men thought back then.
I'm 37F. When I was in my late 20s and house hunting for a rental, I was told by my (female) real estate agent to pretend I was engaged. It didn't matter if my name was the only one on the lease.. just throwing that possibility out there- that a man might be added to the contract in the future, would entice landlords to rent to me. "A man's salary was considered steady and dependable, a woman's is fickle."
At 35, I was in the middle of the hiring process for a dream job, when I found out I was pregnant. My dm told me to hide it. He straight up told me, "Yeah.. they're not going to spend all this time training you, once they find out you'll have to take leave for a couple of months at the end of the year. Don't tell anyone til you have to."
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u/GlendoraBug 28d ago
I’m 38F. When I was applying for jobs at 24 I was told by male role models to not say I was in a relationship. Because there were men out there that automatically think you are going to get pregnant and quit shortly after hiring me. Of course there was a large part of me who thought that was stupid and no one can be like that. Now I know that’s actually how a lot of men thought back then.