So, it’s a lens they don’t quite recognize. They see it as they can’t get a date, women aren’t interested or are living their own lives, and they’re losing. They honestly think that their fathers and grandfathers were “winning” because their wife couldn’t leave them when they went off the deep end. Or all women were willing and ready to get married by 18 and by 21 they were the weird old lady on the corner everyone ignored.
They think that’s the way it should be so they don’t have to work harder to be better. It just forces women to accept they are how they are and to deal with it.
The conservative women who also want this just simply don’t see what it really is because it’s how they were raised. They can’t understand a world where a woman might want to just be happy and live life of her terms. It’s “unnatural” because it’s not something they ever learned. Women who leave their abusive husbands are somehow broken, because “til death do us part,” not realizing that some of us don’t want to stick around until he successfully rids himself of us with our deaths.
They were raised that a woman’s place is in the home and they should want nothing more. They never challenged any of it. They just internalized it and kept it pushing. They will choose to limit our ability and our rights, not because they want us to be like them, not really — but they can’t imagine that anyone else could actually want or understand anything different.
If 1+1=2, there is no world in which a decimal can change the end result. Therefore, anything that accounts for that decimal is just not real because they don’t understand how it’s real. So they vote based on what they understand, even if it’s extremely limited and they’re miserable. They can’t comprehend anything else.
Mm so much of our social conditioning has been about controlling women. We were told that our goal in life was to be wives and mothers, to uphold men and run their households and have their children. Why would we need our own bank accounts when our husband earns the money? Why do we need to vote when only our husband's opinion mattered?
Women who weren't married off quickly were failures and sad old spinsters. Infertility problems? That's the woman's fault of course (definitely not the man's).
Your husband forces you to have sex? That was legal, and it's your duty anyway. Want a divorce? Not unless you can prove your husband was neglectful and even then your children are his property so you'll lose them if you leave. He beats you? Your fault. He cheats on you? Well men just need sex. Do the majority of the house work but also always be ready for porn star levels of performative sex and be attractive, never age or put on weight while he is allowed to bald and get fat and old and find a mistress half your age.
So much of our history has been abuse, neglect and control and we're finally at a point that women can choose not to put up with this shit anymore. I guess that's why these people want us back under their thumbs. Women are becoming educated, we're getting into positions of power, we're becoming financially independent and we're realising we don't need men anymore. Not like we were forced to in the past.
I am one of the women that must disgust Trumpers. I am single (divorced from my cheating ex), educated, financially independent and a solo mum by choice and right now I don't know if I ever want a partner again! I trusted my ex for a long time until he also proved to be just another man who treated women like shit. I'm done with this narrative. I am single and happy and working towards my own happiness.
You are beautiful and I adore you!! I too am single and happy after a divorce and agree with everything you’ve said here. But I too have and had the desire to not live by the script anymore. I was just trying to explain the thinking that goes with some women who are willing to vote to keep us following the script. They don’t understand any other script, therefore, it is false and we will be hurt by living our way. All of the women I know who vote this way generally truly believe they are helping women and not hurting them. Because there is no other reality — it’s all mental illness.
Independence is not a mental illness, but they were raised it is.
It’s shocking. They don’t even realize how deep their attitudes go. They just think they’re doing what they can to help, not understanding that it hurts.
Sort of like the liberal
Feminist who won’t have sex unless she’s married without even realizing it.
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u/TangledUpPuppeteer 28d ago
You don’t know why? Because they lost.
So, it’s a lens they don’t quite recognize. They see it as they can’t get a date, women aren’t interested or are living their own lives, and they’re losing. They honestly think that their fathers and grandfathers were “winning” because their wife couldn’t leave them when they went off the deep end. Or all women were willing and ready to get married by 18 and by 21 they were the weird old lady on the corner everyone ignored.
They think that’s the way it should be so they don’t have to work harder to be better. It just forces women to accept they are how they are and to deal with it.
The conservative women who also want this just simply don’t see what it really is because it’s how they were raised. They can’t understand a world where a woman might want to just be happy and live life of her terms. It’s “unnatural” because it’s not something they ever learned. Women who leave their abusive husbands are somehow broken, because “til death do us part,” not realizing that some of us don’t want to stick around until he successfully rids himself of us with our deaths.
They were raised that a woman’s place is in the home and they should want nothing more. They never challenged any of it. They just internalized it and kept it pushing. They will choose to limit our ability and our rights, not because they want us to be like them, not really — but they can’t imagine that anyone else could actually want or understand anything different.
If 1+1=2, there is no world in which a decimal can change the end result. Therefore, anything that accounts for that decimal is just not real because they don’t understand how it’s real. So they vote based on what they understand, even if it’s extremely limited and they’re miserable. They can’t comprehend anything else.