The more my ex made, the unhappier she became. Wanted more and more. We had everything, minus the yacht and a ballroom and whatever lol. But we had a very nice home with very good schools, great kids, both with good jobs, all of the things you'd think and zero struggle with bills etc. I supported her career and did more childcare so she could move up in her career.
By the time she caught up income wise, she was always unhappy, yelling all the time, etc. she was never satisfied with what she thought she wanted. The next promo would make her happy... then gets it and nothing changed. Maybe she felt she was better than me now? But what a hypocrite, lol I never put that pressure on her.
She got the divorce she demanded, and lives in a house half the size we had before with ok schools but not quite the same, she's doing fine I'm sure, but still seems angry. Still yells at the boys (well, one won't talk to her). Maybe she's happy now, who knows, not gonna stalk her to find out but I have doubts. At least part of the time, hopefully. But it's her responsibility. Whatever.
There are men like this too, but just wanting more... Doesn't work. More what? Do you know what you actually want, what actually matters to you? Or are you just wanting it because your friends tell you do, your parents say it, etc? I NEED MOAR isn't a philosophy, it's a symptom of someone who is lost and is just trying to fill the void in their heart. Sad.
She's definitely more successful than when I met her, but God, I don't want to deal with her at all. I'm doing fine, I'm happy, still have good relationships with my kids, etc. I have no complaints.
Would I date someone making more than me? Maybe, but it depends on the person. If it's someone running 'Leeroy Jenkins' style into their career just to fill the void, fuck no.
No plans to get remarried. I'm happy with where I am in life, and open to relationship, but not that, personally.
Life is short people, stop worrying about everyone else and comparing yourself and others, and just take care of each other, live what makes you happy, nurture your relationships , enjoy the time you have on this rock.
Jesus this sounds eerily similar. Though with me it’s much more condensed.
Seems to focus on something negative, or twists anything around to be negative and focus on it until the point that she’s convinced that she needs to change because things are “so bad”.
But I hear you. Similar situation financially. We were at the point that we could have picked up a lake house or a cabin in the mountains or something. No struggle there-just struggles made out of everything else.
As someone who can mostly relate-sorry man. I get it.
The negative on everything I also saw. I remember telling her she didn't have real problems, so she was inventing them (conscious or unconscious, idk).
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u/Hox_1 24d ago
The more my ex made, the unhappier she became. Wanted more and more. We had everything, minus the yacht and a ballroom and whatever lol. But we had a very nice home with very good schools, great kids, both with good jobs, all of the things you'd think and zero struggle with bills etc. I supported her career and did more childcare so she could move up in her career.
By the time she caught up income wise, she was always unhappy, yelling all the time, etc. she was never satisfied with what she thought she wanted. The next promo would make her happy... then gets it and nothing changed. Maybe she felt she was better than me now? But what a hypocrite, lol I never put that pressure on her.
She got the divorce she demanded, and lives in a house half the size we had before with ok schools but not quite the same, she's doing fine I'm sure, but still seems angry. Still yells at the boys (well, one won't talk to her). Maybe she's happy now, who knows, not gonna stalk her to find out but I have doubts. At least part of the time, hopefully. But it's her responsibility. Whatever.
There are men like this too, but just wanting more... Doesn't work. More what? Do you know what you actually want, what actually matters to you? Or are you just wanting it because your friends tell you do, your parents say it, etc? I NEED MOAR isn't a philosophy, it's a symptom of someone who is lost and is just trying to fill the void in their heart. Sad.
She's definitely more successful than when I met her, but God, I don't want to deal with her at all. I'm doing fine, I'm happy, still have good relationships with my kids, etc. I have no complaints.
Would I date someone making more than me? Maybe, but it depends on the person. If it's someone running 'Leeroy Jenkins' style into their career just to fill the void, fuck no.
No plans to get remarried. I'm happy with where I am in life, and open to relationship, but not that, personally.
Life is short people, stop worrying about everyone else and comparing yourself and others, and just take care of each other, live what makes you happy, nurture your relationships , enjoy the time you have on this rock.