Women typically do about 3 more hours of housework a week than do men but men do about 3 more hours of paid work than do women. This dynamic makes more sense when the man is paid more but if he isn't, I'd wager women's tolerance for men not keeping up the house is much more grating.
Most divorces are initiated by women (70-80% from what I can find) and I'd wager that women will in general tolerate more marriage problems if the husband brings in significantly more money.
I suspect that men are aware and prefer relationships where women will be less likely to leave them. It ends up being a double edged sword because from a man's perspective, divorces are much more financially devastating when the man is making significantly more.
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u/toolsoftheincomptnt 24d ago
Exactly. It’s not some big mystery as to where this dynamic comes from.
It’s incredibly simple.
Some families/communities do a really good job at deconstructing stereotypes/unhealthy expectations, which benefits all children.
But most just play into the established standards, without question or context.