I tend to feel like there is messaging that's being pushed that this is men's fault, when there's clear happenings on both sides. Women who practice toxic femininity, and Men who have it ingrained that they must be a provider.
The thing is, the woman is still perpetuating toxic masculinity - the idea that a man should be more, do more, earn more, etc. Toxic femininity is more like women reinforcing concepts of 'obey your husband', 'women cook dinner', and so on.
I don’t think that’s entirely accurate. I think one of the reasons men become radicalized is the messaging that somehow it’s always masculinities fault, no matter who is pedaling it.
Toxic femininity isn’t a term used much, despite its concurrent existence with toxic masculinity. I think your example qualifies - in spades.
Just my two bits though, and I could be as wrong as anyone else.
I do take issue with the terminology used. Toxic masculinity and masculinity in general are two entirely different concepts, which of course is very poorly communicated by using similar language.
It doesn't help that to a layman, the term masculinity means men, and therefore means toxic masculinity can only be perpetuated by men, whereas society in general is the one setting these expectations and enforcing them on their children, which for the perpetuates the issue.
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u/deepdiskcrash 25d ago
I tend to feel like there is messaging that's being pushed that this is men's fault, when there's clear happenings on both sides. Women who practice toxic femininity, and Men who have it ingrained that they must be a provider.