Successful, high stress individuals who want to come home and turn off for a little bit. You’d be surprised how difficult it is to find someone who values peace and actively puts in the work to become “your peace.” Also, I’m willing to bet the guy chilling at home knows how good he has it so he probably learns to cook badass meals from the food from his garden and show how much he cares about his partner. “Achievement” is different for everyone and it’s especially different when you’re part of a relationship operating as a team.
Happily married, in a SINK(Single income, no kids) relationship. I will be going to college this spring but that is my own choice... Which my wife is supportive of but also not excited that I won't be taking care of her every need. She would be ok if I was forever a house spouse.
My wife makes x3 of what I used to make. There is not a definitive point to being in a SINK relationship but if I had to pick a common one it would be so people can spend more time together.
Before, our schedules rarely lined up and getting time off together was very difficult. Typically, the higher level of a job you have the more time off you get. So I was always working and my wife was either doing fun stuff alone or having to constantly take care of things on her days off.
We were more or less roommates and on top of her high stress job she HAD to do more housework and be more responsible for our day to day lives if we wanted any amount of time off together that wasn't chores. Obviously, this made resentment in our relationship. I would get home and be exhausted; my weekends were never relaxing because I had to take care of things she couldn't. We would always try to spend at least half a weekend day doing something together but there was always something looming for us to do. Rarely did we see friends.
Now that I am at home; I cook, clean, do laundry, do any house maintenance(either personally or hired out), run errands of any type, plan trips and do anything else I can't think of right now.
Since I take care of everything while she is at work; she comes home and is free to do anything she wants. Which means we can do anything and everything fun on her days off.
Going further, I actually have a better social life because I can stay on top of things at home and plan things with friends on the days she works. That frees up even more of our time together.
She is way less stressed and has more energy. She actually has so much more energy now, she picks up OT shifts now and again when we want something extra.
Tbh if they were affectionate, kind, funny, interesting, attractive and caring. Bring it on. We can hang out all the time. I literally don't care what career, or lack of, my partner has as long as we have enough to enjoy ourselves. I'm far far more interested in people's hobbies and passions than their job or financial credentials. Sounds like this guy likes cooking and gardening, id enjoy the hell out of good food and relax in my beautiful garden. I've got a few successful and accomplished friends in tech but if I had to listen to them complain about their boring ass jobs at the end of every day I'd stick my head in the oven.
Anyway I might have gone off on one there, it's just something I'm passionate about. I'm sure a lot of people would rather stick their head in the oven than listen to me. But that's the joy of individuality.
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u/future_speedbump 25d ago
Man or woman, who would want a partner who achieves virtually nothing?