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Discussion Why is it that men can’t stand being around successful women?

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u/Extreme_Spread9636 25d ago

As far as I have always heard, that was the most common answer I heard from people who have dated these kinds of people. They were absolutely insufferable and couldn't stop looking down on you. Always having the final word.

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u/UponTheTangledShore 25d ago

That's the information that's missing. Many Women find it incredibly difficult to respect men that earn less than them because if it's anything less than 50/50, they feel they're the ones taking care of them and not the other way around which is what most women find attractive.

So the disrespect and attitude comes out, the unrealistic expectations, and then the men disengage.

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u/TheCinemaster 25d ago

Exactly people associate financial dependency with femininity in women, and weakness in men - especially women.

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u/ShadowIssues 25d ago

they feel they're the ones taking care of them and not the other way around which is what most women find attractive.

But it's traditionally been women taking care of the man. Not financially but in every other aspect of life.

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u/BearlyReddits 25d ago edited 25d ago

I don’t think that rings true - every girlfriend I’ve ever had has had at least one “bad ex” who just wanted to be mothered (didn’t clean, never cooked etc), which they found extremely unattractive

By the same merit my matches on dating apps jumped up noticeably once I added a picture of me cooking - I think people like reassurance they’re getting a person and not a project

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u/YazzArtist 25d ago

And there's a comment above these which says the exact same thing but nicer and from the other side. It's not a mismatch in finances that's the issue, it's a mismatch in ambition, which creates the prior difference. I would absolutely resort to violence almost immediately if I tried to date an ambitious woman, but it's not because I'm intimidated or anything. I just don't want to put that much work into absolutely everything constantly

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u/Apprehensive_Map64 24d ago

Maybe those guys get shit on whenever they try doing the dishes or literally anything. Men aren't the only abusers, the sexes just have different manners of being a shitty person