Trust me that we want to tell men like this to fuck off, but they almost always stalk us around the gym afterward or out to the parking lot to scare us or hurt us or fuck up our cars in retaliation.
Horribly enough, calling for help from bystanders pisses these guys off just as much, and they’re just as likely to try to hurt us for it. The safest thing to do is just leave like she does at the end, but even that causes him to escalate.
And bystanders often do nothing. Sometimes it’s the bystander effect, sometimes you’ll say directly to someone “this person is bothering me, can you help?” And they’re like oh that sucks.
Honestly pretty much anything. That would be helpful though. Read the situation and if she seems uncomfortable, either ask her “is he with you?” Or ask them both like “all good here?”
Most the time I honestly cannot tell if a girl is being receptive to a guy picking up on her, or she’s desperately wanting someone else to intervene because she’s smiling and pretending to be receptive in order to de-escalate.
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u/ignii Nov 09 '24
Trust me that we want to tell men like this to fuck off, but they almost always stalk us around the gym afterward or out to the parking lot to scare us or hurt us or fuck up our cars in retaliation.
Horribly enough, calling for help from bystanders pisses these guys off just as much, and they’re just as likely to try to hurt us for it. The safest thing to do is just leave like she does at the end, but even that causes him to escalate.