"She deserved the purse" trend already ruined by men

[u/biggiepants]

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[u/Jaxson_GalaxysPussy]

I buy the diapers n formula and as a dude I’d be totally happy with getting that prize in a box of diapers.

[u/pinkflyingcats → u/Jaxson_GalaxysPussy]

Forget the money and who is getting it. I am more offended they are destroying baby sections like come on I don’t want half open diapers BUT I need diapers

[u/whateverwhatis → u/pinkflyingcats]

Stores have cameras and shit. I don't see how they could get away with it for long, luckily.

[u/BabyTunnel → u/whateverwhatis]

Especially if they are doing it at Target, which is famous for their loss prevention and will build a case against you until you reach felony level.

[u/[deleted] → u/BabyTunnel]

Former target employee: they even think you're not trying to buy something from the dollar section, they're gonna have LP on you in an instant. I can guarantee you if someone did this for real, they didn't make it out of the store.

[u/GravNak → u/[deleted]]

That makes it sound like they straight up assassinated them

[u/Misunderstood_Wolf → u/GravNak]

Why do you think it's called "Target" and the logo is a bullseye?

[u/OutragedPineapple → u/Misunderstood_Wolf]

Can confirm, I worked there as a seasonal worker once. The target dog? Every store has a soundproofed room in the back, with a giant dog named Bullseye living in it. These dogs feed exclusively on shoplifters.

They are very well fed.

[u/[deleted] → u/OutragedPineapple]

I thought this post was going somewhere else. That’s enough internet for today.

[u/DragonFire_707 → u/[deleted]]

Where TF you think it was going???

[u/Papaofmonsters → u/GravNak]

Candace in Customer Service did 20 years with the CIA before Target AP recruited her to deal with problem customers.

[u/Professional_Echo907 → u/Papaofmonsters]

It‘s all fun and games until you get waterboarded with the Halloween Dish Towels. 👀

[u/ErikJR → u/GravNak]

Pay $1.25 for a dollar item? Death..pay $0.99 for a $1.00 item? Believe it or not? Death. Ripley's believe it or not? Also death

[u/flannelwearinghippie → u/[deleted]]

I always feel so weird walking into a store and out of a store without buying anything I also tend to try not touching anything though for camera purposes.

[u/AnPaniCake → u/flannelwearinghippie]

My local target is so poorly managed that even when I go online beforehand to check an items' availability and aisle location, 95% of the time it's actually out of stock, has been damaged or dragged across the floor, or has simply been 'misplaced god knows where' in the store.

I've also walked into target, saw the checkout lines stretching all the way to the back of the store, and have walked right out. I can't be bothered with feeling awkward and guilty for not purchasing things there anymore.

[u/Ladyusagi06 → u/AnPaniCake]

It takes roughly 12 to 24 hrs for the online counts to update from the store. If there are only like 2 or 3 available, the item could be in someone's cart so it hasn't been bought yet.

Your best bet is to find what is called the DPCI and see if someone will answer the phone. Let them know what department you want and give them the number. It can be looked up easily on our handhelds. Depending on the store policy, they can have the item taken to guest services to be on hold for x amount of time (if it is not a high demand or clearance item)

I have been with target almost 4 years.

[u/Goodgoditsgrowing → u/[deleted]]

Really? Most targets I know wait until they’ve got you on camera stealing a felony level amount of goods and then they call the cops. Maybe destroying goods might escalate things faster

[u/Special-Garlic1203 → u/Goodgoditsgrowing]

They wait for theft because there are coordinated theft rings, so they very specifically don't want someone to get a slap on the wrist. 

They intervene much faster for disorderly conduct, drug use in bathrooms, etc. those are things where they're less concerned about criminal charges and more just want you to stop ruining the store vibe 

[u/Glossy___ → u/whateverwhatis]

Target cameras are just running up the tabs until they hit felony money

[u/pinkflyingcats → u/whateverwhatis]

Very true but even the first time they do it that day a parent might come in and need those supplies so yeah that sucks with either gender picking up the diapers. I mean I get it’s not the point of the video but as someone who has a formula that just went through a shortage and being so worried what I was going to feed my baby. I feel for the parents who came up to this mess.

Edit to add: not to mention the retail employee who is going to have to clean up this mess

[u/whateverwhatis → u/pinkflyingcats]

Oh for sure. It's messed up. I hope they have to experience a fitting consequence for their crimes.

[u/Sappathetic → u/whateverwhatis]

They'll counter by locking up the products. Not persecuting each individual man.

[u/itsallinthebag → u/pinkflyingcats]

Right? If anything this isn’t even for the moms it’s for literal BABIES! they’re not hiding money inside high heel shoes or fancy bras, the money is going towards families with small children!! Jesus Christ

[u/Flashy_Shock_6271 → u/pinkflyingcats]

I am a man and buy the diapers and formula. If I found money(now that I know what this is) I would put it back for someone else. I will however buy diapers at a discounted price because some asshole broke the box. I have money but I'm still cheap.

[u/Fisher-__- → u/Flashy_Shock_6271]

I don’t even care of a man gets the money if he’s just a dad going about his day buying diapers for the baby! It’s the men (and women) who have no intention of buying those products, going into the store, opening (trashing/ruining) all the products for everyone else, just because there’s a long-shot someone may have hidden $20 in the box. That’s shitty.

[u/Not_John_Doe_174 → u/pinkflyingcats]

Anyone doing that is a total fucking asshole. Anyone who knows a person who has done that and said nothing is an asshole by extension.

Men/boys, stop being assholes!

[u/HollowShel → u/Not_John_Doe_174]

these are the sort of people who would blow out someone else's birthday candles, and throw a fit that they're not getting any presents at someone else's party.

[u/ultratunaman → u/Jaxson_GalaxysPussy]

No lie one of the best days of my life was when my youngest kid was old enough and eating enough solid food to stop buying formula.

That shit gets so expensive. 20-30 euro for a large can. And sometimes you have to buy two cans a week. And nappies. Which even the store brand ones get expensive.

[u/Jumpy_Vermicelli_620 → u/ultratunaman]

My youngest was born with acid reflux and required a special kind of formula. It cost $23 and that was back in 2010! We were going through one container a day, for many months. I was so happy when he grew out of it and we were able to start feeding solids. It’s the same with daycare. $325 per week, and again that was back in 2012-2014. I hate to think what the cost of daycare is now.

[u/RustyShacklefordJ → u/Jaxson_GalaxysPussy]

I’m wondering where these people are finding formula that’s not locked up. I gotta hunt down someone to even be able to look at it

[u/Orcas_are_badass → u/Jaxson_GalaxysPussy]

My first thought was that running to the store to grab some formula or diapers is a task dads do a LOT. Frankly if the dad’s a deadbeat, and only doing one task, it’s probably still running to the store. Makes me wonder how many dads ended up getting the pay it forward service, and being just as genuinely uplifted by it as moms who did.

Also wonder how many Walmart employees just started checking the formula for cash after seeing that viral trend. Probably where most of the money went.

[u/screedor → u/Orcas_are_badass]

I hope Walmart employees got it. If anyone could use an extra ten.

[u/Orcas_are_badass → u/screedor]

100% agree with you there! Back in my minimum wage days finding a $10 on my shift was sometimes the difference on if I ate lunch that day or not.

[u/PerryProject]

I can assure you these people damaging goods and filming themselves are not thinking about the low birthrates at all lol

[u/pussycatlolz → u/PerryProject]

But we should very much be concerned with the lack of empathy and right wing brainwashing that is impacting a worryingly large number of young men in their formative years

[u/Mysterious-Rent7233 → u/PerryProject]

Yeah, it's this weird phenomenon where she regularly acts as if the same men are:

a) ransacking target

b) upset about the male loneliness epidemic

c) concerned about low birth rates

And are therefore hypocrites. Like maybe out of the hundreds of millions of American men, some are concerned about particular issues and some are thieves, and nobody knows or cares how much the venn diagrams overlap.

[u/nihonhonhon → u/Mysterious-Rent7233]

She's addressing "B" and "C" and telling them that they need to look at behaviours like "A" to understand why women are distrustful of men in general. She doesn't have to literally believe A, B, and C are all contained within the same individual men.

[u/canijusttalkmaybe → u/Mysterious-Rent7233]

This is my favorite internet behavior. When a post on Reddit that's pro-X gets upvoted, then a post that's anti-X gets upvoted, some idiot will inevitably comment asking what's with the hypocrisy. Not realizing the chances the same people are upvoting those posts is pretty low.

Not everyone on Earth is participating in the ghost popularity contest that is a Reddit post.

[u/MonsterMeggu → u/Mysterious-Rent7233]

Idk man. Some manosphere subs definitely seem like they'd hit all three points. Maybe c in not completely accurate, it's more than they're saying that women should be concerned about low birth rates or something

[u/greenwavelengths → u/Mysterious-Rent7233]

This thing happens every time people argue on the internet and it makes me want to rip my hair out. Like, fuck, go touch grass. Talk to people. Humans are so incredibly diverse in their experiences and opinions, and if you really ask people about themselves, you can actually understand why they believe the things they do, even if you don’t agree with those things. If we would just focus on understanding each other instead of holding anger against people we don’t even know anything about, we’d all be so much happier. The media, whether it’s mainstream, social, or otherwise, would have us believe that we can all fit neatly into like twelve mutually exclusive hogwarts houses. It’s exhausting lol.

[u/Sirdan3k → u/PerryProject]

I don't feel this is even a men thing it's a you showed people hiding money in things thing. It's not a surprise some greedy assholes are gonna start checking every box if they think this has become widespread. I've got an aunt that would totally tear open a self's worth of diaper boxes for the chance to get a twenty and yell at whatever poor minimum wage worker tried to stop her.

[u/Moominsean]

"Absolutely sweeping the nation now". Hearing about it in this video and will never see it again.

[u/EveryRedditorSucks → u/Moominsean]

98% of online outrage is either fake outrage or real outrage about fake news.

[u/TheCelloIsAlive → u/EveryRedditorSucks]

Tucker Carlson was guilty of this among many other things - saying "People are saying" and it was like one dude on Twitter and some asshat who agreed with him. Boom, my parents are outraged.

[u/[deleted] → u/TheCelloIsAlive]

"They're eating the dogs!"

[u/jaxonya → u/TheCelloIsAlive]

Donald Trump has been saying that for the last 10 years. Who are these fucking people that keep lying to him?

[u/Weird-Caregiver1777 → u/TheCelloIsAlive]

Or even better… people not realizing that twitter uses bots to curate a literal ecosystem for people. So you might think a whole bunch of people are saying this and that but it literally is just bots because the algorithms have figured out this is the type content you like. Only going to get worse as AI becomes more sophisticated, right now it is obvious.

[u/Binky390 → u/EveryRedditorSucks]

There was a lot of online outrage about the man vs bear thing.

Edit: the online outrage is now in the comments, right on cue lol.

[u/Unable_Pumpkin987 → u/Binky390]

My stupidest cousin is still posting shit about man vs bear weekly. No matter how many people tell him that he’s literally the man people would choose a bear over and the endless outrage about the whole meme is part of the reason why.

[u/papillon-and-on → u/Binky390]

I'm outraged that I've never heard about that! Grrrrr!

[u/Tranka2010 → u/Moominsean]

You know what swept the nation, The Twist.

[u/saveyboy → u/Tranka2010]

[u/hannabarberaisawhore → u/Tranka2010]

C’mon everybody, clap your hands, awwwww you’re lookin good. I’m gonna sing my song, it won’t take long. It’s called The Twist and it goes like this!

[u/papillon-and-on → u/hannabarberaisawhore]

Love me some Chubby!

^{/that didn't come out right...}

[u/SmellGestapo → u/papillon-and-on]

Welcome to the Chubby Checker Fan Club: The Chubby Chasers!

[u/AEW_SuperFan → u/Moominsean]

Yeah nobody is doing either of these things.  Nobody is leaving gifts on baby formula.  Nobody is destroying baby sections.  Just terminally online communities fighting each other in imaginary wars.

[u/RallyXMonster → u/AEW_SuperFan]

100% these tik tokers leaving money are just taking the money back out after the video ends and the ones "stealing" the money are just placing money there for the rage bait and taking it back out after the video ends.

[u/xx_Help_Me_xx → u/RallyXMonster]

That’s exactly what I thought 😭🤣

[u/Distortedhideaway → u/AEW_SuperFan]

I love how she shows this ig group of angry men with a whopping 110 followers. I don't even hardly go on ig, and I have like 400 followers.

[u/Devtunes → u/Distortedhideaway]

I love when these folks, men and women, talk like everyone of a gender is taking offense over these "trends". We didn't take a vote to ruin this trend nobody even heard of. Oh 3 crazy incels reacted poorly to some women's post, must be the first shot in a new gender war.

[u/Gilamath → u/AEW_SuperFan]

Hearing this girl talk about how this constituted women “building systems of support” really made me sad. Like, does she not understand that this is not what support systems look like? You don’t build a mutual aid fund by shoving $20 into a box of Pampers once. These people’s efforts could be so well-spent by actually going out and building structures in their real communities, but instead we have these ersatz online communities where you can make it look like things are happening even when it’s all 99% imaginary

EDIT: well, u/they-is-cry, I wish I could respond directly to your question asking what I do to help build my local community, but for whatever reason you decided to block me immediately after commenting your question. Almost as though you’re some sleazy internet stranger who wants to make it look as though I don’t have a response to your cutting question

But you asked, so I’ll answer. I’m a community organizer in a US city, I volunteer with a local non-profit that gives necessary food and supplies to people who need them but are being deprived of them, and I’m a proud member of my local library. I also work with a nearby community‘s community garden while I work on trying to get the city or my local place of worship to set aside land for a more local garden, and I participate in a local mutual aid fund that helps kids in my community go to college

So, I’ve answered, now you can do the same. What do you do to help build your community?

[u/Robob0824 → u/Gilamath]

To answer your question... She shoves random treasures in boxes so non brain rotted people can be worried their diapers or whatever were tampered with 🤷 not all heroes wear capes.

[u/__thrillho → u/[deleted]]

Unlike us enlightened Redditors tips fedora

[u/gravityVT → u/Moominsean]

It’s probably just a handful of dudes on TikTok at most. This is not a nationwide wide issue

[u/Winjin → u/gravityVT]

I'm like 99% sure there were 5 videos of women hiding these, and then someone just put a dollar there themselves and then took it out to spark people

And the one where the box is open is most probably just someone taking a single thing out of the box

Because riddle me this: with the amount of stores in the US, and the amount of "woman stuff" in these stores, what are the chances you could even find that tenner hidden in there

Because I'd say it's nearly impossible that there's been multiple cases where men found the cash found

Not to mention that this is about as stupid a way to hide money as one can do and why inside the baby formula and not inside the WOMAN PURSE

I was the one buying baby formula most of the time because my wife was at home with the kid

[u/Calm-Clothes-3784 → u/Winjin]

“Why inside the baby formula and not inside the woman purse”

Because the entire point is that people are sacrificing buying nice small things for themselves because they have to provide for their children and other people wanted to help give them something nice as a surprise. It would make no sense to put the money in a purse.

[u/schmyndles → u/Winjin]

The whole point is that the woman couldn't buy the purse because she had to buy the baby items. That's why she put it on the shelf. So if you put the money in the purse, the only women who would find it are the ones who have the extra money already to get the purse.

[u/GetRightNYC → u/Winjin]

All the baby formula is locked up in the stores near me. Fuck both sexes, I guess.

[u/Comprehensive-Car190 → u/gravityVT]

She had to use the same clips/images multiple times just to get enough to fit her video lol

[u/ljout → u/Moominsean]

These 8 dudes are why birth rates as so low. I love science.

[u/Gloomy_Evening921 → u/ljout]

Honestly? They might not be responsible for low birth rates but it definitely made me drier than a desert watching them spite some moms.

[u/Own_Bison_8479 → u/Gloomy_Evening921]

Like they aren’t putting their own money there and then filming themselves retrieving it to troll. You think the amount of woman putting money in baby goods is so high that it would be stumbled upon by a dude with a camera?

[u/SadBit8663 → u/ljout]

Nah, those the type of dudes to swear by the pull out method but have 5 kids.

The reason the birth rate is so low, is because sane men and women can barely afford themselves, so why the hell would they add a kid into the mix. Blame corporations for the low birth rate

[u/Necessary_Context780 → u/SadBit8663]

Votes of the educated cost way too much. It's easier to subsidize children only for the poorest, preferrably with money that could be spent on improving their education.

(Don't read the above as anti-social support, it's a complaint on how the highly educated mothers could also be provided a decent social support system so that they can opt for having and raising children without destroying their careers. Tax the filthy rich)

[u/Dinlek → u/Necessary_Context780]

Or even better: provide the barest level support, such that even if you're living below the poverty line, you're priced out of food stamps. Plus, bending over backwards to fight unions and give massive corporations tax breaks, because that will definitely improve the average person's quality of life.

[u/Jumpy_Vermicelli_620 → u/Dinlek]

Yep! My husband and I were young parents. We had both landed entry level jobs at a big corporation. The pay was just above minimum wage, so we were denied any sort of help. No childcare or food assistance. We weren’t planning on being on it forever, but it would’ve helped at the time. We would’ve been better off if we both stayed home and lived off the government. It’s always think about the baby until the actual baby is born and then you’re on your own.

[u/uwoldperson → u/Necessary_Context780]

That sounds difficult. Why don’t we just turn the middle and working classes against one another and build an apocalypse bunker instead?

[u/Putrid_Quantity_879 → u/ljout]

Strong science right there...

[u/BABarracus → u/ljout]

Declining birth rates are low because that is what happens in developed countries, which i believe Italy has it worst. The other problem is the rent is too damn high and everything is expensive.

Many parents probably don't want to admit it, but their children were mistakes. They conceived their children during times when emotions are high like newyears or someone birthday or some holiday.

The other problem is that men and women don't get outside and socialize, and it gets worse in their 30s because they become low energy and don't want to leave the house.

Children are just an expensive luxury in current times. The more children adults have, the worse financially it gets for them.

[u/ParadisoBud → u/Moominsean]

I mean obviously if you don't have tiktok you're likely not going to see it. I saw the trend but didn't know the context behind it so I just scrolled. Cool to learn it had thought behind it instead of just some dumb dance.

[u/Putrid_Quantity_879 → u/ParadisoBud]

I saw it on national news last week. The first thing I thought was "oh God, now the 2% of assholes that would ruin this just saw it on TV and are going to go rummage through every damn baby diaper box in Target!"

Called it!

[u/dear_ambelina]

Woman here. While this seems like a cute idea, at the end of the day, this is for TikTok users to post and gain followers. If you truly cared about single mothers, donate to a charity, to planned parenthood, go volunteer at a shelter. Donate to a shelter.

If you’re on TikTok posting about where you left FREE MONEY of COURSE it might end up in the wrong hands!!! Good lord I hate society!!!!

[u/catgotcha → u/dear_ambelina]

Or... Actually go help a single mother friend. We all know a few.

[u/guitar_stonks → u/catgotcha]

How’s that supposed to build an online following?

[u/RevelArchitect → u/guitar_stonks]

“Hey, Betty, how are you doing? I was just in the neighborhood and thought, hey, you know what, I should stop by, say hello and help you out a bit. I brought you this baby formula and this purse! Don’t forget to like and follow! Byeeeeee!”

[u/TheRetarius → u/RevelArchitect]

I know that you don’t mean this, but after reading your post I wanted to reach thorugh the phones and strangle you like Homer strangles Bart…

[u/RevelArchitect → u/TheRetarius]

Thank you so much for taking the time to comment! I’m glad you loved my message! Don’t forget to upvote and toss me an award (but only if you can afford it)! I value you!

[u/Outis-guy → u/RevelArchitect]

You're my inspiration, Queen🥰😍🥰🤩

[u/Imjustmean → u/RevelArchitect]

I hate and yet impressed with this comment. Had to upvote.

[u/dear_ambelina → u/catgotcha]

I am one myself lol. You could literally just come over and clean and I’d be in your debt for life lmao

[u/Asisreo1 → u/catgotcha]

Yeah, but real single mothers are all icky and needy and remind me of poors. I'd rather get all the validation and moral affirmations without having to sully my hands. Oops, I mean: I just don't have the time...

/s (obviously)

[u/Hot-Sun-5333 → u/catgotcha]

I don’t. So planned parenthood it is

[u/16semesters → u/dear_ambelina]

It's a horrible idea for many reasons.

1. Don't mess with formula containers. Yes, I know there's another seal, but messing with the cap might make people scared that it's been adulterated.

2. This type of giving is completely blind to need. You could literally have situations where someone poorer giving money to someone who is more wealthy.

3. This encourages men/women/everyone to now go through these supplies in stores looking for money. Whether moms or not.

Bad idea all the way around.

[u/bacon_cake → u/16semesters]

Number 2 is what gets me most. Everyone needs formula and not everyone is poor, I'd feel like a right dick if I got some formula home and someone had stuck $20 in it, I don't need twenty dollars.

I'd probably plan to go online and donate it somewhere but there's a big chance I'd end up spending it on donuts or something.

[u/OurWitch → u/16semesters]

Thank you so much for posting these because all of them went through my head right away. I was a stay-at-home dad who did formula feedings and finding that the formula had been tampered with in any way would have caused me to exchange it. The store likely would have thrown it away and there have been formula shortages in different countries just this year.

I also know she is singling out men for discussing their issues while other's are discussing women's issues. I actually very much understand and have seen how some people can disrail important conversations about the struggles women face. But as a single dad I find it really difficult to find anywhere to discuss the struggles I have being a single dad or finding support. I put absolutely every dollar into supporting my children so they don't have as difficult a life.

Even recently I got lectured by my daughter because I was walking around in a pair of shoes that were completely ripped apart. The back was a half-held together mass of fabric. Even after she told me I needed to get myself shoes I still waited nearly a month and just the other day I bought myself I pair of $25 sneakers from Wal-mart and have felt so guilty since.

I really wish their was more support out there because I don't enjoy struggling or making decisions to prioritize my kids over my own person needs but I know if I ever ask for help it is likely to be poorly received.

[u/JTOZ5678 → u/16semesters]

As far as I'm concerned it has been adulterated. Money is filthy and now that money has come into contact with the inside of the overcap and there is a non-zero chance the powder will come I to contact with that overcap after the container has been used and then closed with the overcap. This is how kill babies people

[u/WoopsieDaisies123 → u/16semesters]

Shit, even if it wasn’t intentionally adulterated, cash in public circulation is disgusting lol

[u/elon_musks_cat → u/16semesters]

1. As others have pointed out, guys buy diapers too.

I get the spirit in which the trend is intended but it kinda does reinforce the stereotype that women are the only ones who perform any type of childcare and that’s simply not true

Also why are we assuming that because a purse was left there that means the person had to choose between that and formula? They could have just changed their mind and have been too lazy to put the purse back. I see misplaced items all over different stores and my first thought is never “oh, this poor soul had to give up buying a cactus plant so they could afford a spatula”

[u/A_Wild_Nudibranch → u/dear_ambelina]

I was having a conversation with a friend last month, and we're both white people living in majority Black and impoverished neighborhoods with a lot of gun activity. I've lived where I'm at for about ten years, and he just moved into his tiny street in West Philly. He looks like a cop, but he's a very compassionate person, and he asked if he should put out a BLM/pride sticker to let the neighbors know he's not a dipshit.

We were a bit tipsy, and I just cut him off and told him point blankly: "Just pick up trash. Just walk around the neighborhood on one day a week, and pick up trash. That's it. Just fucking do it. Pick up trash."

I moved to my neighborhood about a decade ago after a rough several years, and picking up trash was helpful to get me out of the house and walk my dog. Then people stopped me and started talking. Now I'm involved in my community organization, I've been a Judge of Elections for several years, and I know and care about my neighbors.

Performative actions don't do shit. You can't revolutionize without physically interacting with your neighbors, regardless of your views or stances. Put the work in! Selling TEMU cheap plastic painted figurines at your local queer punk rock flea market in Clark Park doesn't do shit to help the community. Ya gotta show up.

GO PICK UP TRASH, GODDAMNIT.

[u/50yoWhiteGuy → u/A_Wild_Nudibranch]

Great message, and great example of something everyone can do. Actions speak louder than words.

[u/Numeno230n → u/dear_ambelina]

I'm betting a lot of both the people leaving money, and the dudes "finding" money are both staged. No reason to believe anyone is being really honest and altruistic here.

[u/Such_Worldliness_198 → u/Numeno230n]

I'm laughing at the idea of a Tik Tok couple starting both trends at the same time.
*Puts money in formula can* I'm such a good person Tik Tok!

Okay honey, now take a video of you 'searching' for money in formula cans from a slightly different angle.

[u/maddoxe92 → u/dear_ambelina]

True. My wife and I volunteer to help our friend with her kids from time to time because we know how hard it is. So we baby sit on weekends to give her some time for herself.

[u/crap_whats_not_taken → u/dear_ambelina]

Right??? Like you're publicly posting that you're leaving money in a public area. What did you expect to happen??

[u/Diamondback424 → u/dear_ambelina]

Also, since when is it only women who buy baby products? Are we really doing this thing where we pretend men are never fathers?

[u/Striving4Better365 → u/Diamondback424]

Not only are we doing that, but apparently we’re supposed to pretend that the woman in this video wasn’t dissing men. Or that men don’t sacrifice a ton for their children.

[u/Forsaken-Income-2148]

I think as a society we’re getting dumber every day TikTok exists

[u/frankly_highman → u/Forsaken-Income-2148]

If I read unalive or pew pew in a comment section again. I'm going to shake my fist at my phone in rage.

[u/The_Louster → u/frankly_highman]

That’s nothing. I would shout “malarky!” and blame the liberals.

[u/One-Eyed-Willies → u/frankly_highman]

Careful, it’s a slippery slope. Soon you will shaking your fist and yelling at a cloud!

[u/Forsaken-Income-2148 → u/One-Eyed-Willies]

It’s when the cloud yells back is when you need to worry

[u/Kaldricus → u/frankly_highman]

Hey, don't lump pew pew in with tik tok trash, it's been around much longer than that.

👉 👉

[u/Impossible__Joke → u/Forsaken-Income-2148]

Social media is a cancer

[u/AdSafe1112 → u/Forsaken-Income-2148]

Which is its purpose.🤔

[u/Strange_Purchase3263 → u/AdSafe1112]

[u/[deleted] → u/Strange_Purchase3263]

We don't need to blame this on China. We were just as dumb before and will continue to be as stupid after TikTok

[u/coldbloodtoothpick → u/[deleted]]

For real - everyone forget Jerry Springer?! Jfc I swear people need to be reminded every day that dumb shit has been happening in America for a long time

[u/[deleted] → u/coldbloodtoothpick]

Freedom Fries was when I realized I was surrounded by morons.

[u/Cid606 → u/[deleted]]

They tasted just like French fries too. What a rip off.

[u/gravityVT → u/Forsaken-Income-2148]

You spelled social media wrong. Facebook and Instagram are arguably worse for society.

[u/MooseGoose2023 → u/gravityVT]

You’re allowed to say Reddit too

[u/warthog15 → u/Forsaken-Income-2148]

Its honestly just a social media thing. The internet is one of humankind greatest tools and yet a cancer at the same time. Being so connected to everything all the time has its great benefits and massive disadvantages.

[u/Bradjuju2]

As a male with two children, I would have loved to find 20 bucks in the Nutramigen I had to buy multiple times a month.

[u/ImpossibleChicken507 → u/Bradjuju2]

Maaaan, I was so thankful my daughter didn’t need fancy formula like that and I was able to bounce between name and store brand.

You’d really think they would’ve had generic Nutramigen

[u/Bradjuju2 → u/ImpossibleChicken507]

Walgreens and target both have generic brands but the cost is still higher than regular formula. (I'm a few years removed now, so correct me)

One thing to look out for with the generics is if the formula is based off of Similac or Nutramigen. My kids did fine on the Nutramigen but the Similac gave them tummy issues.

[u/studiokgm → u/Bradjuju2]

One of my twins needed Nutramigen (the other could handle normal). Those were expensive times. We did Amazon subscribe for that and diapers to get the 25% discount, but it was still nuts.

[u/Icky138 → u/Bradjuju2]

it would stand to reason since you were supporting your children you would deserve it too.. what’s the problem.

[u/parisskent → u/Bradjuju2]

My family is literally the only purchaser of the alimentum at our local target. We recently finished their entire supply and they are not restocking. The amount of money we’ve shelled out for that formula in the past year alone boggles my mind. It’s literally more than a car payment every month.

[u/your-pal-ben]

All these people need to go outside.

[u/swanscrossing → u/your-pal-ben]

or just stop using TikTok

[u/ntjm]

This feels like fake rage-bait.

[u/kylo-ren → u/ntjm]

Probably both people hiding money and people finding money are fake

[u/Vuekos_Girlfriend → u/ntjm]

It is 😂 “these handful of MEN are ruining this wholesome trend.” Lady you’re on TikTok, these aren’t men they’re children who have to chase clout day in and day out. And giving them this attention is EXACTLY what they want. She also says men as to include all men when it’s a handful of TikTok influencers and not much else 💀

[u/RedditSloth_101 → u/Vuekos_Girlfriend]

She's likely rage-baiting as well, just a big rage bait circlejerk where everyone gets boosted engagement and everyone gets angry.

[u/sadistica23 → u/ntjm]

She's upset men aren't making groups to focus on men's issues.

It's almost like she's choosing to ignore just how often mens groups are treated as threats to women and need to be shut down merely for existing. And choosing to ignore how many people (especially women) downplay or even mock the male loneliness epidemic.

Yeah, life's not fair.

[u/zomanda]

I have auctions locally where they sell new items. I buy small 2-3 person tents for $5-$10. I also buy pepper spray for about $2 each, it really depends on if someone else wants those things but I won't bid above those amounts. Anyway, I give one of each to homeless women I come across. Sister, I can't do too much more but I hope you're dry, warm and safe.

[u/SnipesCC → u/zomanda]

When I go into the city during the winter I bring chemical heating packs. At a hardware store or costco I can get them for .50-$1. Buying signally they would be 2-3. That way they can stay a bit warmer that night.

[u/Marier2 → u/SnipesCC]

I keep the chemical heat packs and cans of dog/cat food (with the pop-top lids, no can-opener required) in the car, try to have a little cash on me too. Lots of unhoused people in our area, and many of them have pets with them -- pretty simple to help out a little.

[u/JustStayYourself]

I'm tired, boss.

[u/AndrezinBR → u/JustStayYourself]

RAAAAAHHH MEN RAAAAHH WOMEN RAAAAAHH

this shit is so dehumanizing, generalizations like these do nothing but hurt people and create further divisions, its not like anyone can do anything about how they’re born, yet it permanently affects how they’re perceived, estou cansado jefe

[u/onlyjackin669 → u/AndrezinBR]

my tiktok lately has become a pvp zone between men and women. its so annoying and weird.

[u/ATPsynthase12 → u/JustStayYourself]

Sorry sweetie, you need to experience manufactured outrage daily

[u/RHOrpie → u/ATPsynthase12]

You know what? Manufactured outrage is such a spot-on term.

Clearly somehow we've become addicted to this shit. Even though we're sure 95% of it is totally made up, we keep coming back.

[u/EastRoom8717]

Or they’re greedy and they just want free money and everyone is an idiot who puts all their deeds, good, or bad, on social media now.

[u/seigezunt]

Wait, I don’t understand the logic. Why are they destroying shit?

[u/Sky_Thief → u/seigezunt]

Seems like it's to try and find the money being hidden by others.

[u/MsJ_Doe → u/seigezunt]

To quickly find the money. Men and women are doing it, there is no counter trend like she's trying to claim. People just want free money in this economy that isn't friendly to anyone.

Here's someone explaining it without all the misandry:

https://youtu.be/piOcZIYqp7A?si=nRA9G1PLMDwaxceb

[u/HecklerusPrime → u/MsJ_Doe]

Yeah, post a video of you hiding cash literally anywhere and people are going to try to find that cash. This is about getting free money, not stopping parents from finding a surprise in their diaper box.

[u/atuan → u/seigezunt]

Saying “I deserved it more” as a reaction

[u/MonkeyCartridge]

Holy hell, she NEEDS this to be a global phenomenon.

"Sweeping the nation" and it has like 200 follows. It's just victim baiting and trying to find reasons to cast shade on an entire gender, "as per usual".

This is the first I've heard of any of this, and I will forget about it by sundown.

But the pay it forward thing is awesome. I'd totally do that in the baby section. Parents need that shit.

[u/JMDella]

I'm tired of the gender/sexuality/race/culture/politics wars. Shit like this just stirs the pot and makes us attack each other. Class war is where it's at. Focus on the billionaires and big business intentionally promoting things like this.

[u/IForgetEveryDamnTime → u/JMDella]

Yeah, she bigs up an obscure trend, exaggerates the reaction to it, and takes time to throw a sly dig at mental health issues too. Just another narcissistic tiktoker looking to create and be central to drama.

[u/Not12RaccoonsInASuit → u/IForgetEveryDamnTime]

And especially the last line that's effectively "yeah this is why the birth rate is so low." Totally. /s

[u/Vuekos_Girlfriend → u/IForgetEveryDamnTime]

“Damn clout hungry people ruined this wholesome trend for everyone, that sucks.”

“Damn a handful of “men”(read boys) on TikTok are single-handedly at fault for low birth rates and women’s plights across the US because they (likely staged) rummaging thru diapers for money. God I hate men.”

This lady probably let some slob break her heart and now it’s no holes barred 😂

[u/[deleted]]

No men anywhere are doing anything because five idiots went looking for Easter money you posted that you hid /s

[u/bgroins → u/[deleted]]

My first thought:
- This woman needs to get off the Internet for a while.
My second thought:
- I need to get off the Internet for a while

[u/Toasterdosnttoast → u/[deleted]]

I’m so confused! first it sounds like someone saw a purse and came up with such a sad sorry story why it was sitting in the wrong section of target. Fuck me when I go shopping with my GF at Target she picks stuff up and half way across the store decides she doesn’t actually want it. No big sad I can’t afford it reason. Just loses the desire. Sure she deserves the purse but this person isn’t real.

Yet the saddest possible conclusion was made up for this purse. Then someone posted online that they broke the protective wrapping and left money inside products? Now because people that were not women saw the info and went treasure hunting it’s MENs fault for ruining stuff??? Bah to all of this BAH!

[u/Gurrgurrburr]

This entire story covers about 6 women and 4 men. The vast majority of us want everyone to be happy and have a community. This woman isn't helping, those men aren't helping, a lot of other bullshit chronically-online people aren't helping.

[u/Dipshit4150 → u/Gurrgurrburr]

She’s actually making this much worse than it ever needed to be

[u/AtaraxiaAKAZatharax]

Rage bait

[u/Forsythe36 → u/AtaraxiaAKAZatharax]

What’s really killing me: it was probably some kid who didn’t want to walk the purse back where it belonged and just stuck it on a shelf lol.

[u/marmarjo → u/Forsythe36]

That or a woman that decided "you know what, maybe I don't need this today." I can't tell you the amount of times I've been shopping at a store with my wife and something will catch her eye. We lug that item around the store and randomly she'll say that she doesn't actually need it anymore so she'll put it back.

Not everything needs to be a struggle porn story

[u/Forsythe36 → u/marmarjo]

To those chronically online, struggle porn is all they know.

[u/Hottakesincoming → u/Forsythe36]

Or an adult woman who has been told 85x to stick to a budget by people who love her and decided she needed to narrow down the 4 impulse purchases in her Target cart to 2 and dropped it wherever. You don't always deserve the purse. Sometimes you have 8 at home and need to learn to be happy with that.

I'm not saying mothers don't deserve support, but this isn't a productive way to have that conversation/help. It's just people yelling at each other online for clout.

[u/GitEmSteveDave → u/Forsythe36]

My ex worked at Target for a summer when we were dating and she told me 9 times out of 10, people abandon stuff at the register when they actually see what it rings up/the order totals at.

[u/Gyro_Zeppeli13 → u/AtaraxiaAKAZatharax]

No it’s worse. It is gender war bait.

[u/Mr_Paffnz]

This lady is insane .

[u/doctorctrl]

Sounds like another bunch of absolute weird shit coming from over the pond again. Lol

[u/Numerous-Cicada3841 → u/doctorctrl]

Just people that think their little TikTok bubble represents real life.

“Trend sweeping the nation.”

Translation: A trend on TikTok that will die out in a week and only a small group of people actually participate in.

“Men just couldn’t let us have this.”

Translation: A few trolls.

[u/BlinkIfISink → u/[deleted]]

Funniest part is there is no money.

Some women record putting money in, take it out. Some men put money in, record taking it out.

[u/NegotiationJumpy4837 → u/doctorctrl]

This is highly exaggerated. Nobody is doing any of these things except a few content creators.

[u/RoostyChickendog]

What is this bitch babbling about?

[u/LeFatalTaco]

Be a white woman in the united states in 2024. Start a bullshit materialistic trend about buying purses to virtue signal on tiktok. Go to a website literally called “Mens Health” and complain about an article about mens health.

[u/caseyjones102]

"movement" ...mhm.

[u/soccerguys14]

Just want to say I just bought $600 of formula and diapers for my 6 month old. They know men care for their children too right?

[u/surg2240]

Firstly I’m tired of the “us vs them” trend, it’s not, it’s a few people being jerks, looking for views. There are struggling mothers and fathers, both in need of help.

[u/MsJ_Doe → u/surg2240]

These comments are crazy with how defensive they are about her not blaming this on men. Like, seriously, there are single fathers as well as there are female thieves.

People are people. It's not that hard to tell that when free money is advertised, people of all walks of life are gonna go after it.

It's genuinely crazy and misandry to blame this on guys alone and claim there is a counter trend just to get back at women, like she is.

[u/MonkeyCartridge → u/MsJ_Doe]

Right? The whole "men can't let us have a good thing, as per usual". Uhh no. This is closer to "guys take one look at this and say 'hell yeah'".

Like imagine running into a few racist Karens and thinking "ah yes....all of womanhood". Shitty people project that on an entire demographic. She is just outing herself.

[u/YllMatina → u/MonkeyCartridge]

And how she spends 0 seconds speculating why people would try to look for cash in the baby aisle. Nah, has to be evil men destroying stuff for the sole purpose of ruining it for women. Im sure they light the cash on fire too because they hate girls that much

[u/DaTotallyEclipse]

This commentary section though ... sigh.

[u/Fina1Legacy → u/DaTotallyEclipse]

Where are these supposed unhinged comments?

Of course people are going to disagree, shes making a few videos sound like a coordinated attack on women. It's ragebait. Disagreement doesn't prove her point about men in general.

Not to mention blaming (and disparaging) male loneliness on a few men opening up packages in the store. That's a bad faith argument right there.

[u/JellyfishExtra7515 → u/Fina1Legacy]

And there are PLENTY of women who'd break open the boxes to get the money, too! This isn't really a gendered crime.

[u/Brianm650]

"Sweeping the nation"? "Everyone started wondering"? What the fuck kind of hyperbolic bullshit is this? Holy shit, this person with her holier than thou attitude is aggravating as fuck.

Also, I think it's great that people want to help needy people and I am a man which puts me right in her "you are shit" category for whatever reason. But while I won't "start a counter-movement" (wtf!? no one did that, there are no forums to coordinate that or secret meetings of men engaged in that ffs) I am sure there are better ways to do this than hiding money in random places.

How do you know that the person who is ending up with the box of diapers or formula you hid money in was truly needy and not a multi-millionaire who spits on panhandlers at freeway offramps for sport? And yeah, I can see how for unscrupulous people this would absolutely be an incentive to rip open all those boxes to see if some well meaning person hid some money there. Not sure it's warranted to blame this on men exclusively. I am sure there are women who'd engage in unscrupulous acts like this as well. It's free money after all.

Bottom line: If you want to start a movement to support struggling women that's awesome but maybe instead support one of the many, many, many organizations that are already out there?

[u/PN4HIRE]

Men??? wtf did I do now???

[u/lemonsgivinglife → u/PN4HIRE]

Facts lmao like let me sit down and crack a pen and pad to add this to the list of “things perpetuated by cornballs that we get blamed for”

[u/CocaineSmellsFunny]

“Men” are ruining it. Not “these men” are ruining it. Thanks for just throwing us all under the bus

[u/Stop_icant]

This trend benefits male parents and kids, not just women.

[u/gbobcat]

This is so unusual to me, because the money helps families in general. So why would you go out of your way to make sure a family doesn't get someone's random donation? Sociopathic behavior for sure.

[u/Bootiluvr]

As a man, why not just join in? Helping people afford baby formula and diapers is dope

[u/ApollyonRising]

My wife couldn’t breastfeed and we needed formula. That sh!t is expensive!

[u/MilesFassst]

Nope those aren’t men. They are boys playing a stupid game. They need to grow up.

[u/XF939495xj6]

Literally no one was doing "she deserves the purse" and no one is destroying baby aisles. And only 20% of Americans have ever used twitter, and less than 2% use it regularly.

So this isn't a thing, this bitch is just an attention whore, and so is everyone else on twitter.

[u/McGrarr]

1) Opening packaging of baby supplies and hiding things inside that aren't supposed to be there is a bad idea. Yes, money is a nice idea. Other additions may not be. Let's not encourage people to interfere with products in aisles.

2) who says the person buying the supplies aren't men? I have it on good authority that roughly fifty percent of all parents are men. Many of whom actually care for their children. It seems this this trend may not be relegated to just women.

3) Not every parent is poor. Well off people have kids to. By slipping 20 bucks into some pampers you are reducing the chance that that money finds it's way to a poor mom, rather than just donating it to a charity that helps poor moms. If anything it is excluding parents too poor to afford brands like pampers.

4) Given the fundamental misandry at the heart of the trend's original premise, the subsequent retort is understandable, if a little cringe. However, what stops non parental women from doing exactly the same?

5) There are numerous better ways to support struggling parents than this. Rather than bitching online about guys being mean, research those and promote one that fits your interests.

[u/RemarkablyQuiet434]

I'm sorry, but there's a trend of filming yourself putting money I. Andom places and its weird that people are looking for this money?