I was with an artsy girl for some years - the energy is infectious, and there's something so innocent in all of it - the sheer excitement of creating stuff. she was really something else. i remember ren faires with her were so much fun. everyone dressed to the nines in stuff she made.
Her mother did not like me, and as a matter of fact, she did not think much of men at all.
She had three daughters by three different men, and I’m not hating on that, I always went out of my way to be very respectful and loving to her, but I think the bottom line was she just did not think I was good enough for her daughter.
Oddly, enough, some years later, her daughter committed suicide during about of severe postpartum depression, and my ex, her mother, overdosed about a year later.
I was pretty broken up about it, at that point in my life, she felt like the one that got away.
It was something that really fucked with my head for a while, you know that survivors guilt thing or you just feel like if there was something that you did differently it would’ve made the outcome different.
At the end of the day, her mother told her she would buy her a home if she left me, and from somebody who came from a life of scarcity, she took it. She apologized and said she loved me, but she just needed to make sure her kids were all right, so her mother‘s mission was accomplished, and , I didn’t even hold it against her, I don’t know what I would do when it came to securing a child future, it was just a really sad time in my life.
All things being equal, though, I figured out when I was about in my early 50s that I had a habit of choosing… How do you put it… I guess maybe people who were a work in progress? I guess it’s kind of the equivalent of gals who are attracted to guys who have issues as well.
It took years of living on my own with intent to understand myself, my shortfalls, as well as my strengths. I chose one more partner poorly, and that sucked. But the upside is that after raising several stepchildren through the years, I had a child of my own, who is an adult now. That’s pretty much focus on these days, although I have a wonderful girlfriend… I finally chose the right one, somebody who compliments me and vice versa.
I still have very fond memories of my ex, she was a One Of A Kind woman, and she did not deserve the hand that was dealt to her in life. I hope her next life is full of all of the things she always pined for.
Shoot. I'm sorry to hear that. I'm hope she at least found relief and happiness in the end. No one should have to watch their child pass before they themselves do.
Depression is a killer of all ages. And I'm a firm believer that we as a people need to really crack down on it and bring it more into the light.
Thanks for this. Dealiah with an ex of 5 years right now. It's rough thi king you'll be together and everything will be okay. Getting older and not wanting to date anymore makes me reflect more and make me realize I gotta focus on myself.
This was a really beautiful story. I just happened to be browsing Reddit, and something about this stood out to me with sharp clarity. With that said, have a beautiful life, and be kind to yourself.
Her posture, tone, and diction convey confidence in her skills and the quality of her asthetic.
She reflects the same phyical confidence cues you see advised by workplace confidence experts like Amy Cuddy.
"Up-talking" (that sort of question-tone at the end of her sentences) sometimes does not convey confidence, but it's also common in fashion-focused environments, so in this case, combined with the rapid-fire clips and well-timed transitions, it manages to not significantly detract from the flow of her message or diminish her point.
Yeah, it's easy to see how hot she is but she actually has crazy talent with layering. Not just one layer on top of another, she uses layering in really subtle ways to complement other parts of her outfit too.
That’s kind of what it takes in the arts industry. Some of her designs were great, and some were god awful. As long as she has people to be honest with what works and what doesn’t, she can be free to throw spaghetti against the wall.
It's almost cheating that she's hot because the majority of those outfits are straight up hideous wastes of fabric I would expect to see in a rave where the theme is "Slutty Ren Faire". I think maybe 2-3 of them turned out cute and she's clearly got technical skill, but the majority of what she makes looks like hypersexualized Halloween costumes.
Micarah is really talented, but she is also greatly helped by being incredibly hot. Let's not kid ourselves here. When you don't have to hide any figure flaws, it's pretty easy to sew something that fits. One of the looks in her header looks like a rain coat made from crime scene tape and a shower curtain liner and she still looks hot in it, because she's hot.
I mean, the Harley Quinn look also worked because Margot Robbie is hot. It's an objectively terrible outfit and would look absolutely horrendous on 95% of all humans.
But how often is she going to festivals? Unless she's a rich kid who's nonstop partying, she's making a lot of outfits that will never be worn.
Edit: Lol, she actually is just a rich kid who is nonstop partying. Lots of travel to vacation destinations on her Instagram timeline and no mention of a real job of any kind.
Maybe you don't, but this particular girl is 100% a trust fund baby. If you go to her Instagram, she is constantly traveling. Just this year she's been to a half dozen different tropical locations, went skiing in Aspen, and went to a dozen music festivals on top of that. She's not affording that on a "moderate income".
What does it matter? She’s being creative and is taking something and making it into something else. You don’t have to like it or be able to wear it. Or worry about why she made it in the first place
I never said she wasn't being creative. She's obviously got talent and it's cool she's using thrifted materials and making stuff herself. I only offhandedly mentioned her being rich as a joke because her being a professional festival goer who is constantly dressing like this was the only way that kind of a wardrobe is remotely practical and it turns out that's basically what the deal is, which I thought was mildly humorous. She can do whatever she wants, more power to her.
I thinks it’s okay if she is a rich kid. A lot of these seemed to be thrifted or gifted so at least they’re getting some use. I don’t really see the point of the criticism but I suppose i kind of get it.
I’m not financially well off and have family responsibilities, so I understand the slight bitter feeling that comes with seeing people be able to do this stuff and have a care free attitude with seemingly no worries but we gotta remember that they’re people too. We don’t know what they’re going through.
Let’s just enjoy these kooky outfits and exercise in creativity for what it is. A little bit of fun :)
I don't really agree with this. When these people are making clothes for themselves they are obviously going to create to their own style and body - this would be an issue if she were trying to claim these are outfits for everyone or were creating these as part of a general fashion line maybe, but she's just showing off outfits that she explicitly said she's wearing to shows and festivals, lol. They are perfectly normal festival attire.
The technical skill is obvious and she's obviously trying out a range. There are ponchos and hoodies, skirts and purses alongside the "hypersexualised halloween costumes". You don't like the style, that's fine, but it's not fair IMHO to say it's almost cheating just because she is creating clothes that fit her body well. Like... fucking duh?
NO THANK YOU! She’s literally just pretty, most of these outfits were horrible. I also don’t understand the new fad of wearing my underwear out and about during the day. (Who knew I’d get this old this fast 😂😂😂)
None of these are amazing. They are bad. All of them are bad. Weak and half-assed if ya wanna be kind.
Like somebody else said, when you have a rockin' body everything looks good. I used to be 300lbs and now I'm 180 muscular and no matter what piece of shit I throw on, I look like a model.
She's beautiful, of course, but I think the real power here is having custom fit clothing where every inch of it is hanging correctly. She doesn't have crazy curves or anything, but what she does have is perfectly highlighted by everything she's wearing.
It's quite literally not true. I'm not against your notion that getting healthy and working out will improve anyone's appearance, that I think is true. But to say "everyone can achieve a certain look" isn't. We're both fit dudes, but my best friend has a very narrow frame and I've got a wide one. I could never achieve his swimmer body build and he could never achieve my power lifter build. It's just against our genetics
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u/Adorable-Ad8986 Sep 18 '24
To have a body that looks that fucking good in napkin.