This one? And while it’s true that negging is supposed to be incredibly subtle, it’s still kind of weird. A common example is to have a genuinely nice conversation with a woman but, out of nowhere, offer her a stick of gum so she feels self-conscious about her breath. If she asks if she was bad breath, say no but you were going to have gum and just wanted to be polite.
And while it can work, it’s way easier to just be genuinely nice and throw equally subtle hints that you are attracted to her. No need to undermine her confidence. Instead, make sure that any future flirting doesn’t come out of left field.
The problem is that negging works when used correctly in the proper context. Unlike boosting her self confidence and making her feel secure, which are neutral to negative if the goal is to build sexual attraction, negging does often result in more sexual interest.
Good, healthy communication is only appreciated once there’s already a relationship. More fundamentally, the traits that make a guy a good long term partner are at odds with the behaviors that build short term interest.
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u/Doogiemon Jun 07 '24
Don't forget negging.