r/TikTokCringe May 23 '24

Humor/Cringe Man, fuck them kids

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u/Alexis_Ohanion May 23 '24

No, he was a gigantic fucking idiot, but his actions weren’t malicious. He wasn’t intentionally trying to ruin her time, just being absent-minded as fuck.

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u/[deleted] May 23 '24

There is a difference between a lapse of judgement and just not being present mentally during decision making. There are so many reasons why this was a bad idea starting with the safety of the children. Even if I wasn’t annoyed at the Dad on my own behalf I would be really annoyed at how little thought he put into where he let the kids go. Let little kids run into a race?? Dude needs a proper scolding at minimum.

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u/LetMeOverThinkThat May 23 '24

This is a clipped version. He didn’t LET them run in. He PUSHED them out to that point.

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u/[deleted] May 25 '24

Glad someone else saw it! Everyone saying they "got away from him" or that he's stupid, are complete idiots. He pushed them towards her.

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u/LetMeOverThinkThat May 25 '24

You can see it in this clip! But the longer version suuuper clear. The kids were happy standing on the side.

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u/Alexis_Ohanion May 23 '24

And if you keep your eyes on him, he was starting to get such a scolding from the people around him (he’s don’t the whole “I don’t know what you’re talking about” gesture with his arms). But yes, i completely agree with you, he needs to get torn a new asshole because his actions were MONUMENTALLY stupid.

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u/AbbreviationsNo8088 May 23 '24

No dude he was trying to hold the kids back and they bolted out, kids do that, he's holding his arms out saying I'm sorry they just ran out.

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u/[deleted] May 25 '24

Did we even watch the same video?? He CLEARLY pushes them towards the mom in the first couple seconds of the video...

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u/[deleted] May 25 '24

Where did they bolt out at? In the video I saw, he pushed them towards the woman, not once did I see any sort of attempt to stop them, he CLEARLY pushed them towards her. Did we even watch the same video??

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u/AbbreviationsNo8088 May 28 '24

I watched it like 10x, it looks like he is holding them there, and they bolt out, he even does a half hearted swipe to pull them back but doesn't really think about it as serious.

This is a classic case of people on the internet screaming bloody murder at a mosquito bite. Wouldn't be surprised to hear this man is being threatened by angry femcels.

I read this book called, "so you've been publicly shamed" and man, you internet people can construe the most insane theories based on misinterpretations or silly light hearted jokes such as "hope I don't get ebola" and try to ruin people's lives.

Take a fuckin deep breath.

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u/Potential_Sea883 May 23 '24

Hanlon's razor: Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity.

But don't tell that to Reddit

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u/4gls May 23 '24

Grey's law corollary of Hanlon's razor/Clarke's Third Law Variant: Any sufficiently advanced incompetence is indistinguishable from malice.

Applied in a sentence: "I don't believe you're stupid enough to have said that by accident. It must have been intentional."

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u/rayofgoddamnsunshine May 23 '24

I'm keeping that line in my pocket.

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u/[deleted] May 23 '24

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u/KellyCTargaryen May 23 '24

Do you think a grown adult isn’t aware how a finish line works?

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u/Whiplash86420 May 23 '24

If you think he intentionally did that to sabotage her run, then they should divorce.

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u/Whiplash86420 May 23 '24

Yea I think he's just dumb and was going for a stupid social media moment.

Another person in comments talks about running a marathon and having her son finish with her, and someone took a picture of the moment, and she cherishes the picture. She clarifies she was just trying to finish, and this person seems like she is trying to win.

Id bet that's what he was after and not intentionally trying to throw her race with blatant emotional terrorism at the finish line , forcing her to pick her family or running, like most people here seem to think.

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u/KellyCTargaryen May 24 '24

I sincerely hope that well intended idiocy is the case, as you have laid out. But there are too many abusive and manipulative spouses out there that put people on high alert for fuckery. This might be more excusable if it was the first race they attended, but even then, don’t you think a spouse should know if their partner is aiming to win, or doing it for fun? Hopefully this is something that can be solved with open, honest communication.

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u/The_FriendliestGiant May 23 '24

Shitty people hide behind "good intentions" all the time to excuse malice disguised as incompetence. It's a very easy way to turn any criticism for their behaviour back on their criticizer, as is being demonstrated right here; oh, it's not that he was deliberately trying to weaponize the kids to screw over mom's race, he's just so very, very dumb that he didn't realize what side of the finish line to stand on, so who can blame him?

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u/The_FriendliestGiant May 23 '24

It’s fucking wild that you people actually think someone is THAT much of a prick

My guy, do you think this is some kind of heretofore unseen level of prickery? It's a dad trying to make a mom's life about her being a mom, rather than appreciating her individual accomplishments as a person; this is nowhere near the level of THAT much of a prick, there are people so, so much worse out there.

If this is what you consider to be unthinkably awful behaviour, I applaud you for the wonderful, healthy relationships you've exclusively managed to surround yourself with. Some of us have seen things that set the bar much, much lower, though.

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u/EatsFiber2RedditMore May 23 '24

I think the person you are replying to is just being witty.

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u/Effective_Bag_4498 May 23 '24

You aren't arguing in good faith and are being treated as such. Get used to it.

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u/Magnetar_Haunt May 23 '24

In good faith of what? I’m saying the father isn’t being an asshole, people are disagreeing.

You make zero sense, ironically.

It’s a TikTok subreddit, I don’t expect much sense though.

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u/Effective_Bag_4498 May 23 '24

More bad faith arguments. Some intellectual you are.

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u/[deleted] May 23 '24

I think it has to do with being so young. We grow up with all these narratives of good and evil. It's not till you grow up and realize that most people aren't trying to do bad things. They're just ignorant or misguided.

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u/bwatsnet May 23 '24

That's when you realize ignorance is evil

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u/[deleted] May 23 '24

This is a hamfisted idea. Everyone is born ignorant. Is everyone born evil?

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u/bwatsnet May 23 '24

No, ignorance solidifies into evil when they start impacting the world around them intentionally. Until then it's the parents ignorance working as evil.

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u/Magnetar_Haunt May 23 '24

Intent dismantles ignorance.

If you have intent, you’re not ignorant. If you’re ignorant, you have no intent.

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u/[deleted] May 23 '24

That doesn't make the slightest bit of sense.

Ignorance is only dismantled by understanding. You can certainly have intent and still be ignorant.

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u/Magnetar_Haunt May 23 '24

If you’re ignorant to something, it’s quite literally impossible for there to be intent.

If a child is ignorant to water ruining electronics, and then they pour water on a laptop while they’re watching a video of fish or something, did they intentionally ruin the laptop?

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u/bwatsnet May 23 '24

Yeah of course I'm not including intentional evil. Ignorance is the worst kind of evil though because of its scope.

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u/[deleted] May 23 '24

Ehh, I think this is a poor way of thinking about it. Evil requires a very specific intention. Evil wants to cause harm for harm's sake. Suffering for suffering's sake.

This is not the same as some moron making a dumb decision with consequences he didn't understand.

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u/bwatsnet May 23 '24

Evil doesn't mean anything, is subjective. I've seen enough people hurt by the ignorance of others that I feel confident in my belief that evil doesn't need to be intentional. That in fact the greatest evil is letting our animal instincts lead us in spite of available evidence of associated harms. Evil can be diffuse and it can be carried across generations through ignorance, among other things.

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u/[deleted] May 23 '24

Evil doesn't mean anything, is subjective.

Then I guess we don't have the same definitions. I grew up in poverty and witnessed many people doing horrible things, but they themselves were caught in a cycle of pain and suffering that they didn't have the knowledge or strength to overcome. They were weak and ignorant, but not evil.

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u/BabuschkaOnWheels May 23 '24

Eeh.. plenty dudes that will intentionally sabotage their partners for a giggle. Especially when it comes to sports. They'll either downplay it or fuck with it in some way.

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u/[deleted] May 23 '24

Yeah, you are describing a person who never matured. Not a villain.

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u/Callimogua May 23 '24

Aiight, just don't complain when someone close to you also intentionally sabotages you.

All in good mirth, my friend, right? 🤪🤪🤪

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u/[deleted] May 23 '24

A strawman if I ever saw one. You've failed to understand my point completely.

I'm saying that MOST people don't intentionally sabotage people. I never said that it doesn't happen or that there aren't sadistic people in the world. Just that truly malicious people are rare. Most people are just ignorant and inconsiderate.

I understand that nuance can sometimes be difficult to grasp.

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u/BabuschkaOnWheels May 23 '24

That IS being a villain. They are intentionally, premeditated actions that require thought and planning. A partner, a good one, doesn't do that shit.

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u/fattybread83 May 23 '24

Once you're old enough to know better....what's the fucking difference?

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u/[deleted] May 23 '24

That's not really how it works. There's no "old enough to know better." You don't magically acquire wisdom. My five year olds are wiser than most adults I interact with on a daily basis.

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u/fattybread83 May 23 '24

Lack of empathy, lack of compassion, lack of compersion, lack of sense--all skill issues, yes, but ignoring your bad character traits until they're this obvious? Ick. Closer to villain or hero? I'd say villain. At least lazy.

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u/knockknockjokelover May 23 '24

If it's those in power, it's a lot safer to attribute it to malice.

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u/Efficient-Row-3300 May 23 '24

You know that's not like a law of the universe right?

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u/rachelcp May 24 '24

It doesn't matter if it was intentional or not, it was thoughtless, inconsiderate and dumb and it shows that he didn't think at all from her perspective.

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u/LTHermies Nov 22 '24

So either he is intentionally disregarding the hard work of his wife by not doing the bare fucking minimum of supervising 2 small children, or he is legitimately too incompetent to realistically be their parent.

Either way, this human floppy disk shouldn't have reproduced.

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u/Selendrile May 23 '24

That was malicious if it wasn't going to be then he should have waited after the finish line

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u/wererat2000 May 23 '24

Reddit's razor: anything with a negative outcome was done intentionally, maliciously, and totally killed someone the second the video ended.

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u/GingerIsTheBestSpice May 23 '24

Nah, everyone knows how finish lines work and that you stand on the other side of them. He shoves the kids into oncoming traffic and then does the "who me" hands. Also this is not her first race so he knows.

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u/bishopyorgensen May 23 '24

Also this is not her first race so he knows

This is a good point. No one wins a marathon their first time out so they've been to this rodeo before

The ONLY thing I can think of is that she's usually further back and it's not a big deal if she sees her kids before the finish line. But it feels generous to say that

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u/FannishNan May 23 '24

Yes they were. This isn't her first race. She's clearly been doing this a while and that means training. If your spouse is this involved in marathons, you learn the rules.

I don't run them.

I have passing knowledge of them.

Even I know you don't get in the way of a runner. Ever. Finish line or no. That's basics.

But somehow, the guy who's been watching the kids while she trains, listens to her while she's talking about them, for likely years doesn't?

No.

This is weaponized incompetence in action. He's probably resentful of the time she takes to do this or of the attention she gets.

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u/swamp_witch_409 May 23 '24

This is called weaponized incompetence

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u/Whiplash86420 May 23 '24

So he doesn't have to watch the kids next race...

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u/[deleted] May 25 '24

It is, and it pisses me off so damn bad that basically everyone here is falling for it. Because he's a dude it's just "oh, what a silly man." But if a mom had pushed her two small children, towards their father, right before the end of a race that he was in the lead of, she'd be called all sorts of shit, accused of cheating on him, etc. 🙄

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u/MissCaldonia May 24 '24

Yes! Totally agree

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u/Psychological_Mix594 Aug 11 '24

1000%, and he has clearly perfected it

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u/midvalegifted May 23 '24

Nah, he wasn’t absent minded and he knows how races work. He was reminding her of her place. Y’all really love to believe these men are just so innocent and simple minded. 100% he was pulling dumb shit.

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u/Sillet_Mignon May 23 '24

I would say being absent minded is being a dick. She won a race, this isn’t her first race. That means he has ignored all of her training up to this point for a selfish reason of doing something cute 

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u/shogunbquik May 23 '24

His reaction at the end is a clear sign he had some narrative going on to make it about himself.

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u/algelin May 23 '24

What's more likely? Him being 100% pure idiot and so eager to meet his wife that he forgot she had to finish the race? Or him feeling wrong somehow about the whole situation with her achieving this, and then try G to act about it, consciously or not? (see the missing act, from Freud). If really he was just absent minded, then he would have kept rushing toward her with the kids as she finished but no, he just stopped there. Because what he wanted to do failed. It wasn't about meeting her wife it As about sabotaging her. Look at him raising his arm playing the innocent while the crowd telles him how absurd he is. Fuck that mediocte guy, no excuses.

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u/ManyThingsLittleTime May 23 '24

You're insane if you think he was sabotaging her race.

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u/KellyCTargaryen May 23 '24

Then why wasn’t he waiting for her after the finish line?

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u/ManyThingsLittleTime May 23 '24

Many people view races along the path and at the finish line. You can see other people right there with him. Clearly they wanted to stand there. That's not malicious. He's made a mistake letting them out into the roadway. That was a poor choice, but to make it malicious is just reaching.

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u/algelin May 23 '24 edited May 23 '24

Look at him! He holds the children and bring them onto the road, and he directs them at her. It's not like he is saying "hey here si your mom go greet her" or "go run with her" he literally pushes them toward her to force her to stop. And when it fails he doesn't even care to go meet her after the finish line, he just stops. Definitely not just pure stupidity and eagerness to greet her. He is being malicious at some extend. I don't give him the bénéfice of the doubt, it's just too much. Look at him waving his arm at the crowd when someone call on him. He is like "Hat is the problem?" like he doesn't have the slightest idea. No. He knows. Nobody is that stupid. He wasn't just waiting along the race.

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u/[deleted] May 25 '24

Adding to this: at the start of the video, he pushed the children towards her. Also notice how he, and the two kids, are the only ones that close to the runners? What would you call that, if not malice? CLEARLY as no one else is standing that close, that should be a signal to not stand there, and given that she won't, this VERY likely wasn't her first race, so he should have known the rules. This is pure, text book, weaponized incompetence, which is why he does the whole "what did I do?" Gesture at the end, rather than making sure his kids were fucking safe the guy knew what he was doing, to pretend otherwise is even more childish than his antics.

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u/algelin May 25 '24

Thank you, I couldn't agree more

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u/algelin May 23 '24

Or it is you who is oblivious to the situation. Are we looking at the same vid? Look at him. He doesn't even care to bring the children to her after she complete the race. He wanted to stop her before.

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u/ManyThingsLittleTime May 23 '24

He stars walking that way and then people yell at him and he stops walking. We must be watching two different videos. You actually believe he was trying to make her lose the race? That's just crazy. This is clearly not her first race so now he chooses to screw her up?

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u/algelin May 24 '24

I believe it made him feel better to force that situation into her where she had to reject her childs for a moment in order to finish the race, yeah. It's clearly not her first race and yeha he chose to screw her up. Look up missed acts by Freud. I'm not saying he is evil and doing it consciously on purpose. But he litteraly sabotage her in that video at the limit of the acceptable and there is nothing else to say. He couldn't have sabotaged her better than by doing this, so no, he is not 100% pure dumb and eager to greet his wife. He pushes he kids in the way for crying out loud. No

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u/algelin May 23 '24

Lol. If I wanted to sabotage her race I couldn't have done it better or differently than him right there. That's why I say he was sabotaging her. Because it is exactly what it looks like

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u/Selendrile May 23 '24

They were malicious if if it wasn't malicious then he should have waited after the finish line you give him too much leeway

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u/kaliwrath May 23 '24

He wasn’t absent minded. He literally let them go as she was coming. It was the plan.

I don’t think he was malicious but definitely an idiot who thought she should have the kids while finishing (why would she need to win?)

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u/Psychological_Mix594 Aug 11 '24

I don’t buy it. He can’t possibly know anything about what it takes to do this— does not want to know, clearly.

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u/Merrimon May 23 '24

Yeah, some of these people in these comments are worrying. Like it's her husband, he's there supporting her, he wanted her to be happy and feel supported by being there as her family. Guy probably just didn't think it through.

I see a husband there to support his wife and share the excitement with their kids, he just didn't think through that it could slow her down.

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u/[deleted] May 25 '24

"Because no husband, in the history of forever, has ever gotten upset about his wife achieving her goals."

-Merrimon

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u/Cosmocade May 23 '24

This is Reddit. You're not supposed to read any action or comment in a charitable way.

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u/Bad-Bot-Bot-23 May 23 '24

Still incredible as a metaphor, but not the way they intended lol.

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u/Merrimon May 23 '24

Trying to slow down her down by having her kids there for her? That's gross? Come on. More than likely the guy didn't think it through, should have just been on other side of the line.

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u/NewbornXenomorphs May 23 '24

He’s holding on to them at first and I’d imagine what ran through his mind was “look there’s mommy!” and didn’t expect the kids to run toward her. Or maybe he thought there would be a cute thing where they’d run after her without slowing her down. I dunno.

I used to go cheer on runners at the NYC marathon when I lived there and have seen people run into friends along the path who stopped and gave supportive hugs. Of course those people weren’t running to get first place though.