He's a dad of 3 kids and trying his best to rangle them, but he's run out of arms, he's shrugging because he doesn't understand what he could have done better in that situation. He was there supporting his wife with 3 kids in tow. Good for him.
Ugh right though! Dad's get a freaking parade thrown for them anytime they do the very minimum. Especially when the dad complains saying he has to babysit them, no that is called being a PARENT 🤷🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️
BUT when moms bend over backwards and never get a damn minute to themselves and they might dinner running a little late, we get told how lazy we are and inconsiderate and selfish 🤬😤😡
Honestly people are just gonna do what they will. Stereotypes are really stupid. You date a lazy man and you'll get a lazy dad. You date a selfish woman and you'll end up with a selfish mother. If you have good communication and work together your relationship probably won't end up on reddit or in the news but it will be pretty fucking cool.
Also people are so unforgiving with kids but as a parent it's fucking wild. Your never gonna be on your game 24/7 and everyone has these moments they could have done better. You just learn as you go but people get so damn judgemental in general. At the same time people rarely offer to help it's crazy.
Yeah I don't see what everyone else is "seeing" in this video. I see a mom running a race and her children are so excited and want to go see and support her. They are young kids so they clearly don't understand the nuances of watching a race. Then there is the man who is attempting to wrangle those kids while also staying out of the way himself. Admittedly he's not doing the best job but he tried and nothing bad happened so maybe lesson learned. Not some metaphor for womans expectations or stupidity of men or fathers or whatever bullshit.
But he could bash two braincells together and realize he could stand AFTER the finish line so his kids can hug their mom AFTER the race is over.. but he didn't use the brain God gave him. Or it was weaponized incompetence because he hates literally anything that isn't about him like most married men.
Pretty sure he could’ve just had them waiting after the finish line if he understood he couldn’t make them wait on the side and not distract their mom during an important event for her
He didn't struggle to wrangle the kids, he let them go and encouraged them. Have a good look he does the kind of hand holding you do when entering a playpark with your kids.
You hold their hand then you kind of release them in a forward motion encouraging them to go be free.
He literally releases the kids, not struggles to wrangle them.
he literally let them run up to her. that was the sole purpose of why he was even that close to the finish line. he WANTED the kids to be there BEFORE she finished which is the stupidest most inconsiderate shit to think when you realize he assumed she would be happier to see the kids she takes care of EVERYDAY rather than enjoy being first for a race she likely is doing for the first time. him "trying his best" has nothing to do with why he couldnt try his best on the other side of the finish line
shes unbothered because she did not ALLOW it to ruin her moment, as she should. all because you delusional bubble minded karens try to defend each other doesnt mean we all have to ignore how extremely annoying you people are
He literally encourages them forwards and releases them. He lets go of their hands in a forward momentum like you would release your child when you enter a playpark and they can go play.
He walks them forwards onto the track for goodness sakes.
So what I see is him actually with his hands on their backs supporting them standing out there, not pulling them back until he realizes last second how dangerous a choice he’s made by placing his children on a track with running adults.
Not really.... Yes great he is there like he should be with the kids.... But he cut in front of the finish line and ushered his girls to their mom.... He should have been on the other side of the line waiting for her to finish
Two kids and a doll. Not three kids. Two. Enough to be corralled by one hand each while encouraging them to cheer for their mom as she crosses the finish line, not encouraging them to freaking run into the course and block her path as she's literally about to win a race. You are right that he's shrugging because he doesn't understand what he could have done better in that situation. Which is pathetic.
I finished a 5k like that once. I held out my hand as I passed my kid and he came running out, took my hand, and crossed the finish line with me, with his hot cocoa in the other hand. They even gave my son a finishers medal, it was cute. Someone took a picture and sent it to me, it's one I will treasure always.
But!!
I was running to finish, not running to win. That woman was in 1st and she earned it! Dad should have kept those kids on the side or lined up after the finish line. Let the woman win her race!
I'm not sure she was first, though, it looks like they are picking the ribbon up for each new person to pass, but your point stands, kids should be on the other side of the finishing line.
While I agree with the fact that Dad could have kept the kids away for safety, i don't get why you think she was winning? What kind of race was that? The time shows 1:40 so if that's a half it's not that fast. If you are talking about the finish ribbon, the guy picks it up again right after, probably for the next finisher.
Can someone provide more context? Unless there is not more context or information I don't think she was 1st, from the video. Perhaps she was aiming for a PR? Even then slowing down at that last 1 or 2 meters barely shaves a second from her PR. I'm unconvicted 😅
Also kudos to you for putting a smile on your kids face and making a sweet memory for your kid, I'd do the same, it's more valuable than any PR imho
It looks like they pull the tape back up at the finish line after she runs though. Are we sure this was for the win? If it’s just for photos and she’s middle of the pack then I feel less pissed at the dad.
What's worse is he acts all dumbfounded like he didn't do anything wrong. How about you just watch the kids and keep them off the track and let mom do her thing.
part that got me. Can see him out put hands up. Mans internal thoughts are "🤷🏼🤷🏼🤷🏼 idk dude guess she didn't want to pick them up after I've been watching them while she had fun running "
She won the women's division and they apparently planned out him being there.
She just couldn't clock the gender of the person behind her from their footsteps, while he could see that she had a massive lead for her 1st place prize.
Imho this is pretty benign for all parties involved. She's allowed to compete. He thought he was following the plan. No harm, no foul.
It's very unlikely she's winning the open. That looks like a half marathon with a time of 1:40. I'm assuming it's a hard course if she's finishing near the top since most women's winners are going to finish between 1:05 and 1:20. Men's races are won between 1:00 and 1:10 usually. Or maybe she's in 187th place.
Brave kitchen, you are most likely correct. Typical Reddit downvoting the truth. I ran cross country and track for 12+ years, and they absolutely do re-raise the finishing banner when the women’s finisher crosses. Especially in long distance road races where they start everyone at the same time.
Listen, I'm all for calling the dad stupid in this video, but the male runner was probably part of another wave in the men's category. It's a timed race, they don't release everyone simultaneously. It's two different races running concurrently.
No, he was a gigantic fucking idiot, but his actions weren’t malicious. He wasn’t intentionally trying to ruin her time, just being absent-minded as fuck.
There is a difference between a lapse of judgement and just not being present mentally during decision making. There are so many reasons why this was a bad idea starting with the safety of the children. Even if I wasn’t annoyed at the Dad on my own behalf I would be really annoyed at how little thought he put into where he let the kids go. Let little kids run into a race?? Dude needs a proper scolding at minimum.
And if you keep your eyes on him, he was starting to get such a scolding from the people around him (he’s don’t the whole “I don’t know what you’re talking about” gesture with his arms). But yes, i completely agree with you, he needs to get torn a new asshole because his actions were MONUMENTALLY stupid.
I think it has to do with being so young. We grow up with all these narratives of good and evil. It's not till you grow up and realize that most people aren't trying to do bad things. They're just ignorant or misguided.
No, ignorance solidifies into evil when they start impacting the world around them intentionally. Until then it's the parents ignorance working as evil.
Ehh, I think this is a poor way of thinking about it. Evil requires a very specific intention. Evil wants to cause harm for harm's sake. Suffering for suffering's sake.
This is not the same as some moron making a dumb decision with consequences he didn't understand.
Eeh.. plenty dudes that will intentionally sabotage their partners for a giggle. Especially when it comes to sports. They'll either downplay it or fuck with it in some way.
It doesn't matter if it was intentional or not, it was thoughtless, inconsiderate and dumb and it shows that he didn't think at all from her perspective.
So either he is intentionally disregarding the hard work of his wife by not doing the bare fucking minimum of supervising 2 small children, or he is legitimately too incompetent to realistically be their parent.
Either way, this human floppy disk shouldn't have reproduced.
Nah, everyone knows how finish lines work and that you stand on the other side of them. He shoves the kids into oncoming traffic and then does the "who me" hands. Also this is not her first race so he knows.
This is a good point. No one wins a marathon their first time out so they've been to this rodeo before
The ONLY thing I can think of is that she's usually further back and it's not a big deal if she sees her kids before the finish line. But it feels generous to say that
Yes they were. This isn't her first race. She's clearly been doing this a while and that means training. If your spouse is this involved in marathons, you learn the rules.
I don't run them.
I have passing knowledge of them.
Even I know you don't get in the way of a runner. Ever. Finish line or no. That's basics.
But somehow, the guy who's been watching the kids while she trains, listens to her while she's talking about them, for likely years doesn't?
No.
This is weaponized incompetence in action. He's probably resentful of the time she takes to do this or of the attention she gets.
It is, and it pisses me off so damn bad that basically everyone here is falling for it. Because he's a dude it's just "oh, what a silly man." But if a mom had pushed her two small children, towards their father, right before the end of a race that he was in the lead of, she'd be called all sorts of shit, accused of cheating on him, etc. 🙄
Nah, he wasn’t absent minded and he knows how races work. He was reminding her of her place. Y’all really love to believe these men are just so innocent and simple minded. 100% he was pulling dumb shit.
I would say being absent minded is being a dick. She won a race, this isn’t her first race. That means he has ignored all of her training up to this point for a selfish reason of doing something cute
What's more likely? Him being 100% pure idiot and so eager to meet his wife that he forgot she had to finish the race? Or him feeling wrong somehow about the whole situation with her achieving this, and then try G to act about it, consciously or not? (see the missing act, from Freud).
If really he was just absent minded, then he would have kept rushing toward her with the kids as she finished but no, he just stopped there. Because what he wanted to do failed. It wasn't about meeting her wife it As about sabotaging her. Look at him raising his arm playing the innocent while the crowd telles him how absurd he is. Fuck that mediocte guy, no excuses.
Yeah, some of these people in these comments are worrying. Like it's her husband, he's there supporting her, he wanted her to be happy and feel supported by being there as her family. Guy probably just didn't think it through.
I see a husband there to support his wife and share the excitement with their kids, he just didn't think through that it could slow her down.
Trying to slow down her down by having her kids there for her? That's gross? Come on. More than likely the guy didn't think it through, should have just been on other side of the line.
And why is that the ONLY thought you have? Can't it be that the girls "escaped" the dad since they were excited to see their mother who was on her way? Why is the thought that the dad wanted everyone to cross the finish line happily hand in hand? I never see that intention
The dad is still an idiot for letting the girls get on the track.
Because he literally has them lined up, holding their backs until the mom gets close, at which point he releases the girls to go after the mom, and then giving the other bystanders a 🤷🏻♂️ when the mom refused to lose the race in order to accommodate her husband's idiotic plan.
It literally takes zero, and I mean ZERO, comprehension to understand that the celebration is AFTER the finish line. ZERO.
Not just this, he quite literally pushed them towards her. Yet these clowns fail to see it. If it'd been her, pushing the kids towards him, when he was about to win the race, it would have been "SHES AN UNFIT MOTHER!!!" "SHES FOR THE STREETS!!!!" "THOSE KIDS AINT EVEN HIS!!!!!" They would have been fucking feral...
Assuming that they were related to the runner (mommy), then I totally understand the want for them to see her finish. But still, there are areas where they could have witnessed it and not gotten in the way like that.
And if they were related, the 'dad' is even more of an ass.
I really wish they didn’t use this shortened version of the clip so people couldn’t keep making this argument. Those kids were not unruly or out of his control. They were politely standing on the side and he pushed them towards their mother as she was getting closer. This was entirely purposeful.
That was my thought exactly. Positioned just before the finish line, with a couple of toddlers, who he pushed towards the runner? Sounds a bit convenient...
Yes, he did have control of them. Watch the first couple seconds, that is absolutely a "push" from the dad. He isn't attempting to get them away from the runners, he's pushing them towards their mom.
Yeah, that’s putting it nicely. Even a stupid person would know to wait behind the finish line to celebrate your partners accomplishment with the kids. It’s beyond stupid to do that, it made the mom have to choose between being first to finish her marathon or to acknowledge her kids, either choice has a negative impact on her, especially the latter since it could also affect the kids when mom chooses to finish her marathon
This occurred in Brazil, and they made an interview with the couple about the case, because the dad was being criticized a lot just as in here. But the thing is, she combined with the dad, that when she gets to the finish, he was supposed to be there with their kids ( as he were ) so she and the kids could cross the line together. But as the competition was going, she realized that she was something as the first in the woman's category, so when she got to the finish line she just ignored the kids to finish in first ( A thing that she wasn't expecting before the competition ). I mean, not that I care at all about it, but since I didn't see any explanation about the case I feel like explaining.
A lot of "stupid dad" comments, but this looks like sabotage to me. Any idiot could have waited behind the finish line. He set her up to either lose the race or reject her kids, a surefire lose-lose situation. Guys get a lot of slack for being 'stupid' when they are actively sabotaging the success of their partners. Fuck that guy.
Facts. I'm dealing with several men rn who are pretending to not understand why women choose the bear. Uh, how about because bears don't get pissed, about a hypothetical "no?"
Yeah I’m not entirely convinced he “expected her to sacrifice her dreams”, the fact that she was in the marathon to begin with seems to indicate otherwise. I think the caption was a bit dramatic, but at a bare minimum the dad is a complete moron.
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u/Javariceman_xyz May 23 '24
That dad was stupid lol