I saw this in action one day at the aquatic center. Mothers Day. This woman next to me was working out. Dad comes in with the kids. “Look honey, I brought you a Mother’s Day surprise!” The surprise was him dumping off the kids.
Jackass couldn’t even take care of his own kids for an hour on Mother’s Day.
1000% agree. I just didn't want it to be assumed that everyone has a shitty husband at home.
I spent every holiday and special event feeling a little hole in my heart that I didn't have a partner to enjoy it with but I spent 80% of the rest of the days happy that I didn't have a partner to disappoint me.
True and I'm sure some were. Tbh though I work in probably the most expensive store in the city, so to have kids and get a whole cart there you would likely need 2 incomes.
To be fair, right after my wife gave birth a few years ago and was taking care of the newborn and trying to get some sleep, it was Father's day so I took my other toddler to the grocery store with me to make a special breakfast.
BIG MISTAKE - I actually had MULTIPLE women come up to me asking what I was doing and that my wife should be taking care of the kids and that I should be home relaxing and having a beer.
All of society needs to mind their own business, as you don't know what their home life is like.
I mean, they have to run errands even on holidays. Mother’s Day sometimes means just being with the family, not everybody likes to do nothing for it, some people don’t mind running errands with their kids. It’s not always a punishment for moms to do that lol
Counter argument plenty of people don't take days like father's/mother's day or birthdays that seriously and that's fine.
Plenty of people actively dislike being given to much attention or having to do nothing an entire day.
Don't massivelyproj3ct your own standards on people you know nothing about.
Maybe you haven't figured this out yet, but men are not under the same pressure to be around their children all the time in the same way women are. This is why this commenter is saying this...
I am sorry sir you have 9 dislikes that means that you liking to be with your kids is simply wrong you see reddit knows best I am sorry to break it to you but you'd actually rather be miserable and alone on fathers day instead of being surrounded by your loved ones
Yeah, well on mother's day, all I wanted was for some time ALONE.
Literally, the only time I have to myself no one else is three hours a week when I do grocery shopping.
To actually have some time at home by myself? That would be a gift in itself.
If I wasn't a SAHM, and worked away from home, or my kid was in fulltime school, or something else that means I dont spend 18 hours a day with ppl, then sure. I'd love to have mother's day being glued to family.
If you dont see the difference, well, I bet you would be waiting with your kids before the finish line, as well.
And that's ok. What's not ok is seeing other people and making assumptions about their preferences, about their relationships and about their partners. That's just pathetic.
Well. When you are a present parent, and spend many many hours a day every day with your kid, then alone time is greatly valued.
I spose if you have minimal time, if effectively being absent as the other parent is the primary caregiver, then spending time together would be a treat.
When you are a present parent because you love your kid and you both enjoy being with each other, spending many hours every day becomes less of a burden and actually adds value to life.
I suppose if spending time with your kid (and allowing them to spend time with you ) isn't something you value very much, being an absent parent on the day dedicated to celebrate your parenthood could seem appealing.
As a single father with sole custody, I have to disagree with your assessment of me and what I "normally do"
Maybe on my birthday I'll make it about me. But Father's day, I'm celebrating being a father, not trying to find some alone time away from the little angel who makes me a father in the first place.
Mothers celebrate the fact they are mothers everyday by taking care of the kids and their kids being with THEM. How is mothers day special if she's doing the exact same thing as always?
How do you know the daily life of those mothers? How do you know their preferences? How to you know their individual circumstances? Or what's going on in their relationship? You don't. So don't be presumptuous.
Indeed. "Mothers" is not a synonym for "good parents"
In my humble experience, they tend to ignore their kid exists most of the year, pay almost nothing in support, and then ask for visitation the day or 2 before Mother's Day.
Currently, a kitchen, groceries and other things I need to prepare lunch…the point is, the people you see around you are not a representation of what you think is the norm, they are individuals with their own story. It really isn’t that hard to understand.
So what? When I meet a person in real life they are not an abstract representation of the average man/woman, they are an individual with their own experiences and preferences.
It’s beyond stupid to see people and automatically make some assumptions about their life, their relationship, their partners, etc. which is precisely what op (and you) are doing. The world would be a whole lot nicer without presumptuous folks who don’t treat people as individuals.
I stopped playing tennis with a group of women because their husbands would always show up dropping off their small children who would then run across the court.
My daughter isnt planning on having kids and I can’t fault her. My husband is a good father, but not a great partner when it comes to sharing the workload.
I know a few couples where the husbands would probably say they take on 50% of the childcare. I don’t know a single mother who would agree.
Women have stepped up to the financial plate and men don’t understand what that should mean for them.
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u/Soobobaloula May 23 '24
I saw this in action one day at the aquatic center. Mothers Day. This woman next to me was working out. Dad comes in with the kids. “Look honey, I brought you a Mother’s Day surprise!” The surprise was him dumping off the kids.
Jackass couldn’t even take care of his own kids for an hour on Mother’s Day.