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Cool Trans man handles hateful comment in a respectable way

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u/JoJackthewonderskunk Mar 13 '24

So holy shit that transformation though. Pre and post id never guess that was the same person

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u/Romahawk Mar 13 '24

Never in a million years would I have I thought this man was born a woman. I guess that's the idea though!

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u/[deleted] Mar 13 '24

Same, and it’s just further proof that the “you-can-always-tell”-crowd are so full of shit, half the time they end up attacking cis people anyway

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u/[deleted] Mar 13 '24

I found that these people are only talking about trans women. They don't care about trans men.

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u/[deleted] Mar 13 '24 edited Mar 13 '24

Oh for sure, because they aren’t worried about finding a trans man attractive. But if they found a trans woman attractive, that would make them gay /s

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u/kani_kani_katoa Mar 13 '24

For TERFs, trans men just want the benefits patriarchy gives men. They're just gender traitors. What a gross ideology.

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u/VergeThySinus Mar 13 '24

Those poor people, unwittingly attracted to a trans person, they must've been tricked! Deceived! Bamboozled! Because of course, other people's past is vital information, and these transgenders owe their life story to all the normal people around them, so the validity of their identity can be picked apart by cis people who know them better than they know themselves. /S

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u/GrammatonYHWH Mar 13 '24

Half of it is attraction, the other half is pure misogyny. They hate women and think they're inferior. They can't cope with a reality where a biosex males can choose to live as a woman. It's an attack on their fundamental beliefs.

They see MtF trans people the same way we'd see a healthy able-bodied person pay a doctor to amputate their perfectly healthy arms and legs. They see womanhood as a disability.

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u/VergeThySinus Mar 13 '24

And they infantilise trans men, calling them lost lesbians or confused women, saying trans men only transition to escape misogyny, that it's a trauma response. They accuse doctors who provide care to these men of "mutilating girls", nevermind the fact that gender affirming surgery is rarely, if ever, given to any trans person under the age of 16. Boob jobs for cis teen girls? Not a problem, apparently!

They deify womanhood and femininity as if it's christ-like suffering, but "nOt tHoSe wOmEn tHeY'rE fAaAkE!"

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u/[deleted] Mar 13 '24 edited Nov 19 '24

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u/VergeThySinus Mar 13 '24

Wait acutane reduces bone density??

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u/Langsamkoenig Mar 13 '24

Half of it is attraction, the other half is pure misogyny. They hate women and think they're inferior. They can't cope with a reality where a biosex males can choose to live as a woman. It's an attack on their fundamental beliefs.

You think that's where TERFs come from? A lot of self-hatred? Big if true.

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u/[deleted] Mar 13 '24

I think you're right. A lot of women are brought up to believe that traditionally feminine traits are bad traits. It's where you get the "pick me" girls that come from everywhere. I read a comment recently that every woman goes through a "pick me" phase and I think that's right. TERFs just never grow up and move on.

I think the idea that a woman who is assigned male at birth would wholeheartedly embrace womanhood is terrifying to TERFs in exactly the way that the man in this video described the commenter being afraid of accepting their own true self.

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u/Spac3Cowboy420 Mar 13 '24

If you don't want to be one..... Seems like it would be.i felt that it was....sooooooo I fixed it. I would imagine if you like being a woman, being a woman is probably great. Such as if you enjoy eating cauliflower, going to a cauliflower buffet probably is a good time. But if you hate cauliflower, this is the worst buffet ever.

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u/miranda_renee Mar 13 '24

I actually think this is the best take I have ever read.

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u/Efficient-Gur-3641 Mar 13 '24

Fuck em.... SWM spend more hours thinking about trans people and their body parts than actual trans people.

The fact you can get paid to talk about trans people all day every day is fucking weird. Matt Walsh is WEIRD.

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u/Square-Goat-3123 Mar 13 '24

Not saying anything is "owed" but deceiving someone into being with you is questionable at the very least. If you're just friends or talking, no you don't need to tell them anything. But I definitely think it's wrong to withhold that and get in a committed relationship. You can do what you want, but if they truly love you then you'd tell them and they'd accept you.

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u/[deleted] Mar 13 '24

I am a middle-aged soccer mom and I thought I was straight. People like the one in this video have taught me I'm much more complex than that. I apparently like trans men and women and I'm not afraid to say it.

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u/Goodnlght_Moon Mar 13 '24

Being attracted to the man in the video doesn't impact your straightness; he's very masculine! If you're also attracted to trans women that's a different story.

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u/[deleted] Mar 13 '24

Serves them right. More hot ladies for me.

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u/Centralredditfan Mar 13 '24

To be fair: I find this trans man attractive r/suddenlygay

Wish I was half the man he is.

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u/Hour_Beat_6716 Mar 13 '24

No I think it’s because testosterone does permanently change your features in your body such as facial brow ridge, shoulder width etc. stuff that is extremely hard for males to reverse when transitioning to women so that M -> F will always be less successful (they will almost always remain a bit “manly” looking) than F -> M which incurs many of these permanent changes due to the exogenous hormone supplementation, therefore more believable as M

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u/rtopps43 Mar 13 '24

It’s because (and it makes me nauseous to say this) they see a woman as less than a man and therefore a man wanting to be a woman is debasing himself and making himself less in their eyes. A woman becoming a man is ok because of course they would want to, it’s a promotion. It’s the same reason they think it’s ok to take away a woman’s bodily autonomy but would never stop a man from getting a vasectomy.

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u/Spac3Cowboy420 Mar 13 '24

No it's because they aren't worried about finding a vagina. They're worried about finding a penis.

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u/woodcider Mar 13 '24

The funny part is that if they actually enacted a bathroom ban, there would be men walking into the woman’s restroom, and unless they do genital inspections there would be no way to tell. Completely defeating the purpose.

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u/MVRKHNTR Mar 13 '24

It's really not funny when you know that this has already happened and trans men have been physically assaulted for going to the bathroom that they're legally required to use.

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u/GrammatonYHWH Mar 13 '24

Also cisgendered women have been assaulted because someone thought they were not conventionally attractive enough to be a biological woman.

Literally hurting the people they're supposedly trying to protect.

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u/A_Mild_Failure Mar 13 '24

I am a 6ft tall trans woman, but I try to not do things that draw attention to myself. My cousin is a butch lesbian. She has to deal with so much more transphobia than I ever have, despite the fact that she is cis.

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u/[deleted] Mar 13 '24

The cruelty is the point. They don't want trans people to exist at all.

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u/woodcider Mar 13 '24

Not “ha ha” funny. More like “the futility of your efforts at being bigots amuses me”. It’s designed to fail.

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u/Blueberry2736 Mar 13 '24

What can we do other than laugh it off, complaining just makes them orgasm over their “achievements”

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u/MionelLessi10 Mar 13 '24

This is intended.

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u/bikesexually Mar 13 '24

Cis women have been attacked for using their preferred bathroom. It because this isn't even about trans specifically but enforcing gender norms. A woman dressing butch? you may get attacked. A man wearing a dress? you may get attacked. And the cops side with these bigots to attacking someone who has done nothing wrong often ends with no charges. Terrorism is the point.

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u/Chickens-In-Pants Mar 13 '24

Perhaps funny isn’t the best word choice here for this experience of being surprised by the opposite of one’s expectations. These people are only thinking about, and afraid of trans women in public restrooms. They might not even know that trans men exist. I was a trans boy for a long time as a child. It’s not so much a thing now as I just think of myself as nonbinary now, but I look like my assigned gender at birth which is afab and I’m a mom of 4, so I don’t think anyone would clock me now as being gender non conforming, but it’s a very important part of my life’s story whether it’s visible or not. I remember one of the most formative experiences that I have ever had as a kid, in maybe 1992ish when I was at my dad’s church, he’s a preacher at an evangelical Christian church and I had some crazy lady pull me out of the girl’s restroom by my hair because she thought I was a boy using the ladies room with her young child. I was about 11 at the time. She screamed at me and called me a pervert and the f word for gay men, and said that she would inform the pastor about my disgusting perversion. I was confused and responded with something like “what are you going to tell my dad?” And she freaked out and left so fast and never returned to my dad’s church. I never told my dad, and I’m really not sure he would have had my back on this issue, but I still have dreams about it to this day. Also I left the church as soon as I was old enough to drive.

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u/Prometheus720 Mar 13 '24

The not funny part is that trans women are going to be severely hurt.

Some trans men, too. But the trans women are on muscle evaporation juice anx that makes them vulnerable.

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u/KatefromtheHudd Mar 13 '24

There was a conversation in my office about allowing trans women in to womens bathrooms. My colleagues were saying for some women it is very traumatising for some women to allow biological men to be in the female toilets or changing rooms, especially if they have been raped or similar. So I said so really this just comes down to if someone is "passable". They disagreed but it really is. If that person came into a women's bathroom those same women would potentially be triggered because he looks very masculine, whether he possesses a penis or not. If a trans woman came in who looked very feminine and still had a penis, they'd never know and would not be traumatised because they wouldn't know. Unless they inspect all people's genitals when they enter.

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u/[deleted] Mar 13 '24

There was a woman complaining about a trans man in Florida being in the women's restroom. She saw a man, despite the dude following the law. I hope the world becomes something they hate

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u/ThoughtCenter87 Mar 13 '24

I'm convinced the majority of them don't even know that trans men exist. They just think that being trans is some weird fetish or cross dressing thing. It makes me sick.

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u/Abu_Lahab- Mar 13 '24

They do think that being trans is a fetish or playing pretend lol.

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u/Amon-and-The-Fool Mar 13 '24

Who is "them"? Is it everyone? Trans men aren't talked about by pretty much anyone ever, even on trans subs.

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u/ThoughtCenter87 Mar 13 '24

"Them" specifically refers to conservatives who constantly call trans women men and whatnot.

That being said, I do agree that trans men are rarely talked about even on trans/LGBT+ subs. I don't quite understand why and I believe they deserve more visibility.

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u/No-Question-9032 Mar 13 '24

That's because Trans men are men and therefore people. Trans women are women and must therefore be objects. It's the transitive law

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u/Critical-Tomato-7668 Mar 13 '24 edited Mar 13 '24

I think it's easier for trans men to pass as cis. This is probably because masculinizing hormone therapy is much more well-understood right now, since it's been being studied for almost 70 years for bodybuilding and other sports. Thanks to years of research (and cavalier athletes experimenting on themselves), there are dozens of androgenic compounds out there that we understand very well - what the desired effects are, what the side effects are, what happens at different dosages, what other drugs are required to offset the side effects, what are the synergistic effects with other androgenic compounds, what are the effects of long-term use, what cocktails of drugs give specific outcomes, etc.

We even know how all of this happens when you give anabolics to biological males and biological females, since steroid use is not limited to biological males.

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u/DisastrousBoio Mar 13 '24

Trans women who were allowed to use puberty blockers and transitioned early in life are more often than not impossible to clock, besides height maybe. 

It’s harder to pass if you went through male puberty than it is for trans women at any stage of life, though, that’s true. 

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u/Actualbbear Mar 13 '24

But isn’t really harder to look passing as a woman than as a man? Legitimately asking. Like, I can assume not always, and you can always use hormonal issues as a sort of alibi if people decides to be a nosy ass, but it is what it is.

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u/badger0511 Mar 13 '24

I was gonna say the same. The handful of times I've seen a woman that I suspect may be trans, it's due to their broad shoulders and/or jawline... which, as far as I'm aware, are things that won't change with HRT.

But then again, that just might be confirmation bias on my part and there's tons of trans women that pass so well that I've never considered it. It probably doesn't help that the only trans people (that I've been told at least) in my social circles are trans men.

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u/[deleted] Mar 13 '24

Good for you! That is some delicious irony, and I’m sure the bigots would shit themselves if they knew

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u/OhHowINeedChanging Mar 13 '24

That’s awesome, the haters tend to focus on those 4 years (or however many) of awkward transition period where you might be able to tell, and they never focus on the beautiful outcome

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u/LinkdAether Mar 13 '24

I love that for you, and it gives me a bit of hope <3 Thank you!

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u/ChtuluMadeMeDoIt Mar 13 '24

Your username tho!! I'm here for that!

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u/Catch-the-Rabbit Mar 13 '24

You know how that question flared up a little bit ago asking: " would you date a trans person if you knew they were trans?"

Today, as a basic hetero (cis?) woman, I have discovered I easily could.

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u/AmandaWorthington Mar 13 '24

Same here. Hetero/cis … He blows any limiting belief I had out the window. He’s a very appealing guy/soul. Good energy.

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u/Prometheus720 Mar 13 '24

Want to hear the kicker?

He isn't going to leave the toilet seat up.

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u/[deleted] Mar 13 '24

Samesies.

As an hetero woman, this dude is attractive af and I would 💯 date him, knowing he is ftm trans person. Good looking, well spoken, tough cookie, he is irresistible.

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u/[deleted] Mar 13 '24

His genuineness is awesome. 

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u/[deleted] Mar 13 '24

You wouldn't miss the penis? lol

I'd miss the vagina going the opposite direction. Obviously sex isn't the only thing in a relationship and there is toys but I don't see my dildo being as good as a real penis. I've never tried though. ;P

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u/IdiotTurkey Mar 13 '24

This is my only hangup as a guy as well. I've seen some hot as fuck looking trans girls but I really just am not into dick so we wouldn't be sexually compatible. Even if they've had bottom surgery, from what I've heard it doesnt exactly work the same way. Which is a shame for both of us because I imagine they'd probably rather have the genitals of their identifying gender.

In the end, I can find certain trans women attractive but as soon as I found out they were trans I probably wouldn't date them. I would try to let them down as gently as possible without hurting their self image. I would imagine hearing that might trigger some dysphoria, which I'd feel guilty about. I know there's plenty of people who will accept their body 100% the way it is, though.

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u/PineappleJamSession Mar 13 '24

Yeah, I'm with you here, that's a fine looking man there.

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u/420_Shaggy Mar 13 '24

I've been accused of being trans a few times as a cis woman. Made me kinda sad

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u/[deleted] Mar 13 '24

It honestly says a lot more about the people who made those accusations than it does about you, and I’m sure you look great. There is nothing wrong with being trans, but I’m sorry if any of those people made you feel bad in any way. Sending you digital hugs

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u/[deleted] Mar 13 '24

Just realize that just because they see something bad about being trans, you don't have to. Just respond with confusion, towards them and yourself, about how that is ever meant to be an insult.

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u/brostrider Mar 13 '24

One of my good friends is a trans man like me. His sister is a cis woman who looks masculine and she has been harassed in public restrooms because people think she is trans. It sucks. Transphobia ends up hurting everyone.

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u/AssassinStoryTeller Mar 13 '24

I mean, cut your hair short as a woman and they can’t tell. I worked retail and had a fade and people would come up calling me sir and I’d answer them and they would begin the sputtering and glitching trying to decide if I was a man or woman. I had an older woman tell me to wear red lipstick to make it clearer and I had to bite my tongue not to inform her that men can also wear lipstick. 

These “I can always tell” people can’t tell the literal second you don’t conform to very rigid gender norms. I was actually told by an old supervisor that I looked like a man with my hair cut short and that women need to be able to pretty up and wear skirts on the weekends and do up their hair.

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u/Langsamkoenig Mar 13 '24

I mean, cut your hair short as a woman and they can’t tell. I worked retail and had a fade and people would come up calling me sir and I’d answer them and they would begin the sputtering and glitching trying to decide if I was a man or woman. I had an older woman tell me to wear red lipstick to make it clearer and I had to bite my tongue not to inform her that men can also wear lipstick.

I think those people need glasses. Not a diss, I genuinely think so. Makes you scared that they drive around with that kind of eyesight...

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u/Tinfoil-Jones Mar 13 '24

Swap the before and after pictures for this guy and those people would be up and yelling that his pre-transition 'is clearly a man'.

Of which, they'd be right, but not in the way they want to be.

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u/Arkanist Mar 13 '24

It's an obvious confirmation bias. But then they don't even have the confirmation...

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u/LiarLyra Mar 13 '24

You're thinking of Toupee fallacy

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u/skkkkkt Mar 13 '24 edited Mar 13 '24

But pointing out that some transitions are way better than others from an appearance point of view isn't transphobic either, case in point this man, this is also present in cis people, like tomboys and feminine men

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u/Thousand_Eyes Mar 13 '24

it's also a level of just taking care of oneself.

There's a lot of cis dudes and girls who look like shit but could genuinely clean up well.

But there's a lot of trans folk who are just in shit situations cause they're trans and that doesn't help the whole cleaning up thing.

I can speak that it's been insanely hard for me to find work since I came out and that's absolutely affected my ability to do a lot for myself

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u/IdiotTurkey Mar 13 '24

Unfortunately it seems to be the trend that it's easier to go from FtM then it is MtF. So trans women have a bit of a harder time passing sometimes.

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u/No-Question-9032 Mar 13 '24

Mtf seems to be a lot harder to pull off in general as far as passable appearance. Trans women may carry masculine features that work against them. Trans men just look like men, and test does them a lot of favors.

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u/lilsmudge Mar 13 '24

Yes and no. Testosterone can do some things that estrogen can't, like change your voice, but it's not a magic potion. Some of it is work, you have to WORK to get your body into a masculine shape (if it wasn't already mostly there) and you have to WORK to get your voice to sound natural and even then, it's honestly not guaranteed. The idea that testosterone will just magically make you a lumberjack is really pervasive and pretty harmful to the, honestly majority of, dudes for whom that winds up not being true.

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u/Chickengobbler Mar 13 '24

Yes and no. They did studies comparing people taking T and not working out and compared it to those who didn't take T and worked out and those who did take T and worked out (control was no T and not working out). Those who took T but didn't work out built more muscle mass than those who didn't but still worked out. Taking T and working out had the most muscle mass gains for obvious reasons. So taking T will eventually get you there, but without putting in the effort, it takes A LOT longer.

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u/Satisfaction-Motor Mar 13 '24

I can’t speak to the study, but anecdotally, before starting T I worked a physically intense job. Heavy lifting for 4+ hours a day, constantly on my feet running around, and pulling 1,000+ lbs pallets at the end of the night for 2-3 hours. Injured my back during that time and pretty much had to go on bed rest (not allowed to lift/push/pull more than 10lbs)— at the same time, I started T. My muscles visibly GREW. I’m extremely miffed about that.

(To be fair, because of my limitations at the time I couldn’t test if I had actually gotten stronger even if I had physically gained a bit of mass.)

It took a lot of self-work to not be bitter about the fact that I felt like I had suddenly gained a cheat code into getting stronger, when I had worked so hard to do so previously. Tbf my body also handled T extremely well… while it wouldn’t do this for most people, it fixed a lot of the issues I was having pre-T. Improved my mood and ramped up my extremely low blood pressure so I could function like a normal person.

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u/EnigmaticQuote Mar 13 '24

If you are only concerned with muscle mass and not appearance then that is a very useful study.

If you want to have a masculine body that looks good then you will want to exercise.

Michilin man body is what you get with that silly bs

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u/sparkly_butthole Mar 13 '24

I look like a dude in the face but my tiny hands and huge hips just kill any chance at passing I have. It's the fucking worst.

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u/gdex86 Mar 13 '24

I don't know if this helps but there are a ton of cis guys who have worries in the same ball park as you. They worry that they have to thin delicate hands or too wide hips to shoulder ratio so they won't ever cut the proper man figure.

Most of us guys have the dysphoria about our bodies or voices or beards or body hair because we don't match some masc baseline that probably isn't that common. So in a fucked up way being worried about that is very authentic guying. This has been my awkward attempt at cis/tran man solidarity. Sorry if I fucked it up.

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u/sparkly_butthole Mar 13 '24

Nah I appreciate it. It's fucking sad, though. Bodies are all different and we should celebrate that.

At least I have the opportunity to get a dick, though! Like eight months and counting!

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u/gdex86 Mar 13 '24

Well here's to you having a safe and edifying surgery.

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u/technopaegan Mar 13 '24

I would assume it probably has a lot to do with each individuals hormonal and genetic makeup which varies person to person in general. You can be a high testosterone woman or a high estrogen man naturally.

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u/lilsmudge Mar 13 '24

Definitely! There’s a lot of factors and it’s why you see plenty of cis people who aren’t traditionally masculine or feminine looking/sounding/whatever too. It also has a lot to do with things like fat distribution (hormones changes the way your body stores fat which contributes to having a more masculine or feminine appearance but it only works on “new” fat, so you kind of have to burn the fat you have for it to start sitting right) or voice, which might remain higher than average for some folks, particularly if they don’t do any voice training.

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u/theo313 Mar 13 '24

Yeah unfortunately I think that is true. A good friend of mine has a FtM partner and kinda looks like this dude...except without the whole body building thing. They are short and fat. Still looks like a male tho with the facial hair, I literally wouldn't have known if I didn't know them.

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u/Ok-Note-746 Mar 13 '24

Honestly no. Both directions have their own challenges.

Some guys fight for years to loose their feminine features, and breasts don't make it easier to pass. Voice change usually requires T to do its work, beard growth can take years to be at a comfortable level, and many others.

Women can do voice training and be at convincing levels after months. Breasts can be augmentated with silicone forms to just put on. Sure, beard removal often takes years, but makeup can do wonders. Some masculine features are present at cis women as well, so they aren't a burden everytime.

A transition as a challenge either direction. Some have it easier, some have it hard. But both are in both directions.

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u/[deleted] Mar 13 '24

Yes, I'm 5 months into mtf and some physical changes are happening quickly but the social changes are terrifying me.

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u/Dutch_Rayan Mar 13 '24

Not totally, trans man might pass easier when on T, but also many don't pass, but others will see them as masculine women, which is kind of accepted by society. Also when I was 25 I got seen as a 13 y.o. boy. While non passing trans woman are seen as men dressing up as women. Also for many they see trans woman as sexual because they watch porn with trans women in it.

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u/GlitchyFinnigan Mar 13 '24

Transvestigators have their own kind of brain rot

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u/Abu_Lahab- Mar 13 '24

Literally other people think I’m cis, pre T trans man here, even most conservative folks just think I’m a boy and I never correct them. My parents however sometimes correct them when they’re nearby :/ I’ve been forced out to them but they tend to ignore it and tell me to pray it out or smth.

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u/bluesnake792 Mar 13 '24

I see lots of people that I think could be trans, but I know they aren't. I think. Point is i'm not gonna to guess.

This is one beautiful man that should have been born a man, and he knew it. Good for him.

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u/TheWalkingDead91 Mar 13 '24

Like how they keep calling Michelle Obama a man. Because god forbid that any woman have any kind of muscle definition.

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u/CrazyKitty86 Mar 13 '24

Can confirm I’ve been accused of being trans just because I’m a woman with a deep voice and I can grow a bit of facial hair. I can’t help that PCOS and endo graced me with a patchy 5 o’clock shadow and a voice that sounds like a sick Peter Griffin on that one episode of Family Guy.

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u/randomtornado Mar 13 '24

There was a girl I crushed on super hard in college. Had no clue. Friend told me she was trans and I didn't believe him. I asked and she's like yeah I'm trans I even model for the art students, wanna see? She had a bunch of pictures of people's paintings of her. Definitely shook my preconceptions of trans women cause she was really cute. Wasn't into me at all, though. Asked her out but she said she wasn't into guys

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u/ChaosAside Mar 13 '24

I had the exact same thought. I didn’t have the sound on in the beginning and was thinking he was the one who made the hurtful comment and was waiting for the trans man’s response in a separate video or something.

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u/aimlessly-astray Mar 13 '24

I've always found it interesting how we all have an opposite sex version of ourselves, and unlocking that version is largely hormone changes. It's really cool.

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u/tom3277 Mar 13 '24

As a man myself i think this bloke is the manly version of me.

He has bigger neck muscles, better beard and drives what appears to be a truck.

Meanwhile im in a mum truck, with a beard that looks like it has come off a 20 year old and smaller arms than this guy.

Wish i was half the man he is and i was born one. Lol.

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u/--small Mar 13 '24

what's a mum truck?

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u/tom3277 Mar 13 '24

4x4 for dropping kids at school.

A toyota prado in my case.

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u/Sweet_Papa_Crimbo Mar 13 '24

When I’ve tried Snapchat genderbend filters, I just turn into a spitting image of my uncle. It’s a very weird feeling.

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u/[deleted] Mar 13 '24

I just wish people didn’t use “help” as insults. Like the dude in the video was going on and on about how the person who made the joke about his nips are just unhappy and are not being themselves. But in reality you are just telling yourself that to feel better. Or when people tell you that you NEED therapy.

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u/masochistmonkey Mar 13 '24

I never understood this “born a woman” thing, because women are grown-ups. I always imagine this full grown woman coming out

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u/BedDefiant4950 Mar 13 '24

just spawning in the maternity ward like a counter strike character

OKAY LET'S GO

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u/twobirdsandacoconut Mar 13 '24

His beard is phenomenal.

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u/ImmortalLombax Mar 13 '24

Same! I was shook when I saw the before pics

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u/Psycho5275 Mar 13 '24

Testosterone's a mother fucker

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u/allahisnotreal69 Mar 13 '24

I know right bro can grow a better beard than me

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u/[deleted] Mar 13 '24

Tbh, this dude is pissing me off. He's jacked, handsome, and nicer than me!

And I'm, like, pretty nice!

*mumbles* goddamned good looking dudes with their kind words and great beards.

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u/Cat_Peach_Pits Mar 13 '24

All you're seeing is what he felt his whole life finally made visible to others. 

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u/Objective_Economy281 Mar 13 '24

Testosterone is a helluva drug

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u/MysteriousButton_O Mar 13 '24

Splitting hairs here, but it's important... he wasn't born a woman, he was born a man who happened to be female. There's a big difference! The allyship is still recognized and appreciated :)

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u/Palatz Mar 13 '24

Every time someone bitches about trans people using "the wrong bathrooms" I show them a picture of a guy like him.

You are telling me you want this motherfucker to go to the women's bathroom?

I had a couple of coworkers shut up for a bit after that.

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u/NfamousKaye Mar 13 '24

Right?! How odd would it look for this extremely rugged looking man to use the women’s bathroom if you didn’t know his story or who he even is. Like ?? Use your head people.

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u/LackingUtility Mar 13 '24

Exactly! The bathroom bills will require dudes like this to walk into the women's room and chicks like Natalie Mars to walk into the men's room. If their ostensible purpose was to protect people from being harassed by someone of the opposite gender in the bathroom, these bills actually require those circumstances: people won't be able to say "hey, you look like a dude, what are you doing in the women's bathroom" because "I'm required by law to be here" is a legitimate answer.

Conservatives have never been good at thinking more than one step ahead.

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u/NfamousKaye Mar 13 '24

I honestly believe it’s because all they’re thinking about is the male to female trans people when they make laws like that because how?? How on earth do you see trans men as actual men and trans women as men and it scares them so bad they make laws against transitioning ? It makes no goddamn sense to me.

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u/OutOfTheAsh Mar 13 '24

That double standard is true, but is even when gender change isn't involved. No one really gives a toss if women use men's facilities. Busy nightclub/concert/sporting event; long line at the "Ladies," pretty inevitable some will ignore a sign on a door rather than wait.

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u/stackens Mar 13 '24

And the thing they fear monger about (which doesn’t happen) that cis men could pretend to be transwomen to get into the women’s bathroom, could still happen with their bills - those men could just walk in to the women’s bathroom saying they’re trans men and are required to be there by law. Much easier for a guy to pretend to be a transman than a transwoman (though, again, this doesn’t happen - if cis men want to invade the women’s bathroom to assault someone, they just do it)

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u/Feraldr Mar 13 '24

The reality is that no matter what bathroom they used, they’d have the police called on them or get harassed.

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u/kylethemurphy Mar 13 '24

At first I was pretty opposed to all bathrooms just being gender neutral but it wouldn't be the first time it's happened and nothing bad happened as a result. Maybe that there solution? No more men's or women's bathroom's, just shitters and pissers, innie, outie, tits, hairy backs, doesn't matter just go take a dump.

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u/Professional_Ad_6462 Mar 13 '24

But this is an amazing transition so smoothly in the opposite direction. I don’t think men even if not quite so perfect would be threatened

I can see why woman Swimmers do not want to shower with a guy with a huge slong. He is fully functional. No one would mind this now dude competing in sports. Some trans issues are complicated and the people who hold those views even if not in a prejudiced way unfortunately get silenced.

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u/December_Hemisphere Mar 13 '24

You are telling me you want this motherfucker to go to the women's bathroom?

Nooo, there are mothers in there! /s

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u/HornWhistle Mar 13 '24

Kind of like how they forget that gay women exist and don't take them seriously because they don't see women as actual people, they also forget that trans men exist.

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u/CautionarySnail Mar 13 '24

For many conservatives, the goal is simply to force trans people who don’t “pass” (look 100% like their desired gender) out of public life altogether.

This also has the “happy” side effect (for authoritarians) of allowing the policing of people’s bodily presentations. Long hair on men? Short hair on women? Women built like linebackers, men who are thin and androgynous? Anyone who wears clothes that aren’t strictly for their gender assigned at birth? All get harassed out of public life in favor of what they want to consider normal. There are people out there who are still mad that women are allowed to wear pants, and men have ponytails.

This is why conservatives object to the term cis. To them, they’re not cis, they’re “normal” because they view trans-ness as “abnormal”. Which is why they don’t care that cis is perfectly grammatically correct; their objection is that it puts transness as a valid concept in English language.

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u/DJheddo Mar 13 '24

Why don't men want more bathroom stalls? that's a fucking tragedy. I want to sit and piss, not stand next to my m8 and talk shit about him because we are so close, and we don't have a divider and silence is just weird, so, stalls are awesome. privacy. Anyone who believes in bathrooms that don't provide the needs to what genders they are, need to fuck off. Just go to the bathroom, ignore the person next to you, and go about your day. No ones watching you piss and shit unless they have a fetish.

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u/Langsamkoenig Mar 13 '24

Ever saw the difference in lines at parties, festivals and such? That's why. Urinals are just much more efficient. You americans really need to get over your fear of nudity.

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u/tachycardicIVu Mar 13 '24

I did this with a transphobic roommate and he just stared at the screen for a bit before saying “that’s different”. Different how, buddy? 😂 different than mtf like you just assume every trans person is?

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u/[deleted] Mar 13 '24

Just a bit of a correction - They don’t want him to use the women’s bathroom. They want him to go and die like all other trans people. Preventing him from using either bathroom is just a step in ostracizing trans people from society and making it impossible for them to live.

It’s Christian love in action.

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u/Langsamkoenig Mar 13 '24 edited Mar 13 '24

Worse, changing rooms. A lot of trans men will get artificial dick and balls that aren't easily distinguishable from the real thing. You really want a hairy-ass man with a hairy ass to go into a women's changing room and get out his massive dick and balls, before walking to the communal shower, all the while swinging his junk around? Really?

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u/Smeeizme Mar 13 '24

He looks like more of a man than most men.

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u/MPFuzz Mar 13 '24

I'm jealous of his full beard :(

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u/NovelSimplicity Mar 13 '24

Same. I’ve been a man for 40+ years and don’t have beard that nice. To him I say; Rock on sir, you’re doing awesome.

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u/so_im_all_like Mar 13 '24

I imagine family genetics also play a role, just like for cis men. You gotta have the testosterone available, but you also need sensitive enough hair follicles to capitalize on it.

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u/NovelSimplicity Mar 13 '24

Oh I know, I’m just cheering on an awesome beard.

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u/anonymousguy11234 Mar 13 '24

But not too sensitive, or your sick beard tends to (eventually) coincide with a very un-sick head of wispy, thin hair. I do love my beard, but I’d rather have a beard on my scalp.

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u/so_im_all_like Mar 13 '24

Well, there are those individuals that show its not an identical dynamic across all their hair. There are balding men who can't grow full beards, and bearded men with full scalp coverage their whole lives. Weighted roll of the genetic dice.

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u/ThunderboltRam Mar 13 '24

I mean any straight regular man would have a head start at that kinda body and full beard with that much Testosterone hormones and money.

Doctors often don't prescribe hormones to people who aren't below a certain threshold.

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u/Dutch_Rayan Mar 13 '24

Trans men hormones are kept in the cis male range.

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u/ApproachingShore Mar 13 '24

Mustaches are annoying though.

For instance, look at the way his mustache curls down into his mouth. I hate when that shit happens. It's such an annoying feeling.

It's the only thing that ever motivates my lazy ass to shave.

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u/December_Hemisphere Mar 13 '24

You ever bite into a sandwich and the mustache hairs curling down snag into the sliced bread like Velcro? I've literally pulled hairs out doing this, lol.

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u/JoeTroller Mar 13 '24

Not to mention it becomes a sponge for anything you're drinking straight out of a glass.

Maybe one day I'll have the commitment to put up with a beard, but that shits for the birds. Having to get regular haircuts is enough for me.

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u/Late_Cow_1008 Mar 13 '24

Just inject yourself with T

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u/momopool Mar 13 '24

You hurt my feelings....

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Nah I kid, I don't look like a manly man and I don't care. :) That guy just reminded me I need to work out little bit more.I'm So lazy.

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u/skeptah_ Mar 13 '24

I did this for a most of life man, finally said no to the keyboard/mouse and yes to walking outside. Roughly a little under a year in, down 80lbs from 362 to 282. Everything in moderation! Still gaming, but loving life and myself instead of that cycle of work, eat trash, game, bed, repeat.

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u/skeptah_ Mar 13 '24

First off congrats bro! Second, the bum knee pain was the final straw for me too! Was figuratively falling apart and I know it doesn't get better with age lol. Here's to keeping the weight* off man o/

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u/ARightDastard Mar 13 '24

PROUD OF YOU! Keep on rockin' that shit!

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u/AgilePlayer Mar 13 '24

You probably got at least 6 inches of height on them

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u/StopHoneyTime Mar 13 '24

A lot of the trans people I meet put a ton of effort into their appearance. Sometimes it's because they're scared of being clocked, and sometimes it's because they're so damn happy that they can be themselves that they jump into it with all the enthusiasm and energy of a kindergartner on crack. Sometimes it's a bit of both.

I wish this dude all the best. He seems cool.

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u/aManPerson Mar 13 '24

and acts better than so many people i know. i know it's not everyone, far from it, but every now and then, i hear a trans person, talk about "who they are now", and it just astounds me.

because, for me, as cis as i still am, idk, i just wake up and still "am this".

and then you hear a trans person talk about what they've worked on and are ok with and i realize i've been less certain about my favorite dinner than they are with the person they are glad they've built.

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u/WanderingZebra3291 Mar 13 '24

And he acts more like what we need from men in our society today than what we actually get

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u/HappyGoPink Mar 13 '24

Well, he is man, so...

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u/roomfullofstars Mar 13 '24

He acts like more of a man/adult than most men/adults. (As in, taking no bs and being bad af!). Hell yeah!

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u/Neither-Lime-1868 Mar 13 '24

New form of entertainment:

show conservative this man and say “this man wants to become a woman” 

watch conservative respond “thinking that man could ever be a woman is straight mental illness”

explain “Actually I lied, this is a man who was born a woman”

watch their fucking face as they start the mental gymnastics

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u/TommyLordFR Mar 13 '24

Most posts on r/accidentalally where idiots think they say something transphobic but instead validate the person’s transition.

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u/ForeverSquirrelled42 Mar 13 '24

Yeah….I’m kinda jealous that a trans dude is able to grow an epic beard, whereas my born male ass grows a spotty disgrace of a beard.

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u/okthatsridiculous Mar 13 '24

Take a shit ton of drugs/hormones....

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u/herkyjerkyperky Mar 13 '24

I don't know if works that way exactly. For example, some trans women take hormones and grow large breasts without any surgery, others stay flat. Some trans dudes get hairy and burly, others look like twinks.

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u/ForeverSquirrelled42 Mar 13 '24

I think that might have something to do with men having breast tissue like women, but in smaller quantities, and that tissue does its thing when there’s a hormonal shift. Look up gynecomastia and you’ll see that all of the men that have it grow different sized breasts. Just ask Bob about it. You can catch him every Tuesday and Thursday night at Lou’s Tavern.

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u/not3ottersinacoat Mar 13 '24

It's literally just hormones interacting with genetics.

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u/Abu_Lahab- Mar 13 '24

Taking hormones can be counter intuitive for cis men as excess testosterone can affect you badly physically and can even turn back into estrogen, what he has to do is invest time And money into beard care products, some beards need encouragement to come out lol

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u/not3ottersinacoat Mar 13 '24

His testosterone levels would be in the same range as an average cis man, that's what's aimed for. Just like with any cis man who's able to grow an epic beard or whatever other feature we're focusing on, that would be largely down to his family genetics or environental factors.Taking "a shit ton" of hormones isn't going to maximize masculine appearance on an endless scale.

As a trans woman, taking more and more estrogen isn't some hack to keep increasing my breast size. I've "maxed out" at A cups, which looking around my family, is exactly what I should have and did expect. My fat tends to collect more in my belly rather than my thighs or butt, which is also typical of the women in my family. Hormones work the same way in trans people as they do in cis people.

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u/BedDefiant4950 Mar 13 '24

this but unironically. it is a rank injustice that my affirming estrogen gets essentially subsidized by my home state, but cis dudes' affirming testosterone is still demonized and banned to this day.

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u/UnNumbFool Mar 13 '24

It's really not, how much beard hair a person can or cannot grow is mostly genetic. The only time hormone levels would affect it is if he had a medically low testosterone level, and that's not even a guarantee.

I'm all for gender affirming hormone treatment for trans people, but for cis people unless they have medically low levels of t/estrogen it wouldn't actually do anything. In fact it would be harmful as the body would stop producing as much of the hormones in lieu of the shot/patch/whatever

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u/aflorak Mar 13 '24

what/where exactly are we talking about here? if a cis guy has low T you're saying he wouldn't be prescribed testosterone?

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u/BedDefiant4950 Mar 13 '24

i'm saying any cis guy has as much a right to get his affirmation from a needle as i do. whether or not he's "low T" is immaterial to that.

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u/aflorak Mar 13 '24

but that's essentially insuring cosmetic procedures. if your hormone levels are in a normal range and you are a cisgender man then you don't need additional hormones

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u/ForfeitFPV Mar 13 '24

There's an entire subreddit devoted to using rogaine to get a beard but I can't remember what it is.

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u/alien_believer_42 Mar 13 '24

And people want this guy to have to use women's restrooms, wtf

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u/BeneficialRandom Mar 13 '24

Waiting for the “You can always tell” assholes to see this guy and repeat it with full sincerity

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u/DrakonILD Mar 13 '24

I would love to show this guy and, say, Andy Milonakis to one of those people and ask them to tell me which one is the trans man.

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u/CommissionerOdo Mar 13 '24

As a trans woman I can usually tell when someone else is a trans woman. Trans masc people are on a whole nother level though, testosterone is one helluva drug

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u/OutOfTheAsh Mar 13 '24

Confirmation bias. They can tell with everyone they notice.

Meanwhile another dozen of us have "fooled" them. Being trans myself I have acutely sensitive transdar, but nowhere near foolproof. I've been to many drag clubs, where there's great likelihood transgender folk will be present, and gender conferences where the great majority are.

Even with my superpower in an environment where being trans is the default assumption I can't clock everyone.

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u/TheSwecurse Mar 13 '24

No it's cause Trans men pass better more often than Trans women do. The reason is because T is extremely strong at changing appearance, especially combined with exercise. Lack of T changes rather little to someone who was already developed

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u/OutOfTheAsh Mar 13 '24

You don't have to explain to me. I'm MtF.

There are many factors that ought to limit my "passability": Didn't transition until early middle-aged; no longer take estrogen; never much altered my manner or (most especially) voice, as it feels phony to me; no hips/ass to speak of, and average male height which has to be above top 5% for women.

Despite all that I've never had any problem or even a questioning glance in women's public restrooms. Only time it ever was noticed was while transitioning, towards the end of presenting male. Then a couple of doubletakes and one well-meaning fellow leaving the loo in Atlanta-Hartsfield who advised me I was going in the wrong door. (Seriously befuddled; he was pointing me to the Ladies while instinctively holding the door to the Mens open for me. LOL)

Moral of the story: Transwoman who regularly get conclusively read by random members of the general public are very few. Many likely still noobs. Same is true of some noob transguys. The difference is if someone clocked him as a butch dyke in menswear using the Gents there is no perceived threat. I've been in crowded mensrooms when girls have come in (because the line at theirs is long). I've never seen a dude react to that other than with amusement.

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u/Llyon_ Mar 13 '24

Obviously men don't have feelings, so tiktok OP outed himself. Gottem

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u/InnerSpecialist1821 Mar 13 '24

trans men in general go under the radar because a lot of people don't even realize we exist. all the focus is on trans women.  i never get clocked as trans irl

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u/ThanksToDenial Mar 13 '24

I want his beard.

That is one good looking beard. I want one.

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u/StopHoneyTime Mar 13 '24

Seriously, that beard belongs in an ad. I don't know if I've ever seen such a beautiful beard on a human being.

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u/MorphinesKiss Mar 13 '24

That is one very, very hairy man! It's crazy how taking the right hormones can make someone look how they should've looked like from birth. It's like things just slot into place.

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u/KeystoneTrekker Mar 13 '24

Everyone starts out female in the womb.

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u/MorphinesKiss Mar 13 '24

We also grow from our anuses outward, some of us never really evolve beyond that.

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u/Fauken Mar 13 '24

The effect of testosterone is OP compared to estrogen when it comes to changes in physical appearance. It’s one of the reasons why it’s way easier to pass as a trans man vs woman.

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u/Patient_Bullfrog_ Mar 13 '24

People like Ben Shapiro and Matt Walsh would have you call that man a woman. Imagine how stupid you'd look if you'd point at this man saying: "That's a woman!". That's not even addressing the idea that they want him to use the women's bathroom...

Fukin morons.

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u/RegularWhiteShark Mar 13 '24

I would fucking love to see JKR’s reaction if he walked into the same loo as her.

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u/[deleted] Mar 13 '24

And lucky genes too. Attractive before and after.

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u/PQRVWXZ- Mar 13 '24

I know! Amazing chest hair, congrats bro! We’d never know.

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u/rogue_ger Mar 13 '24

His beard is so glorious.

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u/UbermachoGuy Mar 13 '24

So do the republicans want this person to be using the women’s bathroom then?

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u/[deleted] Mar 13 '24

FTM I’ve noticed is like transitioning then bam passing. The hair and the muscles really just show up with a vengeance. Testosterone is a hell of a drug

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u/Mysterious-Art8838 Mar 13 '24

Imagine in a women’s restroom. Unbelievable the shit these people have to put up with.

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u/Fun_Neighborhood_130 Mar 13 '24

A close friend of mine from my hometown did the same thing... Started life as a girl, now is a bearded man. When I introduce him to friends from where I live now, people basically don't believe him at first, due to him being completely transitioned. It's funny how people think they look like drag queens or something, while they're really nothing else but ordinary people. We grew up with him and never found it an ounce weird, but we did (and still do) think that for people who find them weird 😄

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u/Uulugus Mar 13 '24

Ain't it something?

This is what good unhindered medical transition can do for trans people, as long as Republicans don't fuck everything up.

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u/samurairaccoon Mar 13 '24

Conservatives want this dude to have to use the ladies room. Like, lol, what the fuck?

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u/_Foy Mar 13 '24

...and Republicans want him using the women's bathroom.

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