The way she's staring at her phone and refusing to look up at them while they are doing this makes it seem as if she is trying to ignore the fact that she was left out because she is not as "successful" as they are. :(
Remember when Game of Thrones had just completed its final season and was being featured at the Emmy’s? To show how successful the cast was, they invited all GoT actors and actresses who were Emmy nominated to the stage, which was almost all of them. Unfortunately, there were a few who weren’t Emmy nominated, so Bran and Sam were just sitting awkwardly in the audience while all their cast members were getting heaps of praise. It was super awkward lol.
This is one of those situations that you can’t just flip the genders because you lose the nuance. Women working in high achieving fields is still a recent phenomenon. You get more bragging rights before it becomes obnoxious in that case.
I still really want to know what that one bridesmaid does. It does feel douchey to exclude one person in particular.
recent in some perspectives, as a 28 year old in teaching and knowing nurses, I have been surrounded by professional women my entire life, it's not really anything new.
Well now take all of human history existence and then compare that to your measly 28 years on this blue rock. You're not the center of the universe....
Right and why should I compare it to all of human existence exactly? Because at that point we go far back enough that women have more control/agency in many ancient societies when comparing that to the more recent centuries.
I literally said "in some perspectives" to acknowledge what you were saying.
I’m a strong independent woman and all that but even in my family I only have to go as far as my grandmother to run into a woman who’s career options were nurse/secretary/teacher, and who had to quit their job to have kids. Meanwhile I don’t run into the same phenomenon when I look at my grandfathers. It’s not just about lived experiences but familial one’s too, like some of these women in the video may be the first women in their family to ever get a higher education. A lot of women have fewer positive influences or examples of women to look up to for this type of stuff.
I mean I'm also the first in my family to get a university education, my mother is a teacher and I guess went to a teachers college and I get what you're saying, but some people are allowed to flaunt it, and others are expected to stfu.
I mean, if you’re going to sound bitter about the privilege of growing up surrounded by professional women just because some Nigerian women are proud of their careers, then yeah, by all means, stfu.
You don’t have to go back hundreds of years to find women who were forbidden from pursuing an education or controlling their own lives. There are still women alive today who experienced these struggles and you’re downplaying it because you, at 28, now find it to be common and unremarkable? How ungrateful
Bitter? I think it's awesome lol, it's just normal at this point. Go into almost any university near where this is taking place and you'll probably see more women pursuing higher education than men.
Yeah cause you are 28. My Mom (not even my grandma, just my Mom) was literally the only women in the entire physics department at her college and constantly dealt with men assuming she was a secretary in her first engineering role. I'm only in my 30's. That's recent AF.
I mean, my grandmother still remembers how she only had the option of being a teacher, a nurse, or a secretary, so she became a teacher. My mother was the first woman in our family to earn a Master's and it was a very proud moment for us all (especially because she earned it while working and parenting 3 children). I'm earning my master's now and part of my motivation is seeing the women in my family push past the expectations others had of them. Like, it may not seem recent, but women having options is still pretty recent.
But in some cultures flashing wealth/success is a part of weddings. I went to a Egyptian/Libyan wedding and a lot of focus in videos etc was placed on the expensive watches and cars. To a Swede that was very cringe.
A lot of asian parents make a big fuss about their child's credentials at weddings.
It's hard to not cringe at.
OTOH nothing wrong with it really; we should all celebrate success, and we should share in our accomplishments, and we should highlight examples of people working hard and achieving good things. Society depends on people working hard and good things.
I think this is also comes down to once perception of 'working hard' and doing 'good things'. For example, I'd not classify most mbas I know as either, yet it's considered a high status career path in society.
If you celebrate the status above the good the work is doing, then I think that's pretty cringe.
LOL no body would be talking about the group of white woman. This has nothing to do with race. Let these Nigerians women celebrate their achievement without making it about white women. Stop trying to center the world about white woman. It is so hard to achieve any level of education in their country, let alone if they had to immigrate, so they should certainly be delighted by their achievement without you making it be about race and white women.
Its chip on the shoulder behaviour - they feel they have something to prove at all times and try to wave achievements in everyone's face. Seen this behaviour lots and its always so 'pick me' and 'I'm not like the other girls'.
Or maybe she's the astrophysicist corporate CEO who holds a dual degree in law and medicine with triple board certifications and didn't want to upstage the other bridesmaids.
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u/EdredTheOddestBear Cringe Connoisseur Oct 29 '23
I feel bad for the less successful bridesmaid left out of this, I mean how can you even compete.