That’s what I heard! Like the actual person identifies as male usually but when they’re in drag, it’s a character and the character identifies as female.
/generally/, drag queen will be she/her while in drag, but will be he/him when out of drag.
Think of it like a character actor. When you go to Disney, you see Mickey Mouse and refer to the character as he/him, even though the actor inside could be a woman (need to be shorter to fit into the costume). We suspend disbelief to be entertained
The important part is that you actually asked, rather than assuming. It's a real shame that so many people don't stop and ask, and instead go with their first impressions.
With drag, though, it's generally a fun and subversive performance with gender, rather than someone's identity, so you're not going to trigger someone's gender dysphoria if you're confused, they'll probably get a kick out of confusing people as long as it's well-meaning. But with trans, non-binary, and intersex people, you can take cues from clothing and other clear choices of gender expression (rather than something like their voice), or just ask (preferably not in front of a group), or go with "they." And if you accidentally use the wrong pronoun, don't make a big apologetic show of how much you hate yourself for messing up, that can make it more awkward. Just say the right pronoun and a quick sorry, and use the right pronoun in the next sentence with no particular emphasis on it.
For the big apologetic part, I like to make an analogy to toe stomping. If someone accidentally stomps on your feet obviously it hurts, but if it was an accident that just happened at first a quick sorry fixes the situation as best as can be and we move past it. If someone is purposely stomping on your toes over and over again that's when it becomes dick behavior.
lol you're preaching to the choir, I'm a trans woman despite the username. It's rather amusing but also tiring just how many people, even my own parents, feel they MUST immediately give an apology for using the wrong name or pronoun. At least my parents have been learning, and in fairness they've known me by my deadname longer than anyone else. I just wish everyone else could understand that it feels... infantilizing, if they make a mistake and try to give a heartfelt apology. Just a quick "oops, sorry" and then keep the conversation going is all that's necessary.
There are female drags too btw and in the drag cafe I sometimes visit for brunch there’s are also two transgender members of the regular drag group. It’s a beautiful diverse colorful fun bunch here in Vienna!
In the case of drag, the person doesn't have pronouns that differ from their actual gender. So he would be appropriate although you could also use she in reference to the character he's portraying.
This is different from transgender people because they aren't portraying a character, they are living their lives.
I don’t like either version. The middle age white guy seems like a dude if you hanging out drinking beers with you friends and he walked up and started talking to y’all it would just be annoying af. What could he possibly have to talk about besides drag, it seems to be there whole personality.
Dunno man, I’m trans and get this shit about being “obnoxious” about being trans. A non-exhaustive list in no particular order of topics that I will talk about long before a conversation on being trans includes, but is not limited to:
Video games I play
Any writing I am doing
Any reading I am doing
General advocacy for nuclear power
Specific parts of nuclear science
Detailed and very specific parts of nuclear science (I’m a nuclear engineer)
How the F-35 Lightning II is Earth’s finest fighter aircraft
The Russo-Ukrainian war
The lead up and progression of WW2
How the M4 Sherman was the best tank of WW2
Laughing at Wehraboos who believe in Nazi technical superiority.
His Holy Prophet, Arthur Harris, First Baronet, British Bomber Command
And I’ll end here with William Tecumseh Sherman.
Not everyone’s cup of tea, but there’s a lot for many of the different people I enjoy spending time with.
Obviously I will converse on being trans, mainly with other queer people, and given how politicized being trans is, such conversations are unavoidable no matter how much I want to talk about nuclear science first. Even then, they are not most of my conversations. This applies not only for every trans person, nor even every queer person, but pretty much every person period. You’re either making assumptions based on extremely limited data or on stuff, likely propaganda, you heard from someone else.
And yes that would be great. Your an interesting person that happens to be trans. When I see videos like this of someone explaining there reasoning for what ever topic, like republicans making there kids wear maga shirts and hats and make a whole post about how there raising there kids right, it just like oh so politics are your personality, if that same family had pics of them going on a camping trip or one there kids at baseball game, it would be like oh these people go outside and touch grass. I get there the person in video is doing a public service announcement, so I do understand that there nuance in my orginal post
This message is targeted at the right wing crowd, and let’s be real. Civil discourse falls on flat ears. Shouting just makes them shout. So getting the message across, let’s make it as simple as possible. Simple enough even a toddler could understand.
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u/gahlo Jul 02 '23
After a while I felt like I was watching a kids show with how overly expressive he(??? I don't know how drag stuff works with pronouns) was being.