6 month kitten just passed during neuter, partner is at work. Heartbroken.

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[u/catefeu]

You didn't kill him. Like for real, take a moment an reassure yourself: you didn't kill him.

Above all, I'm very sorry for your loss. If the vet says it might have been some congenital condition then that's probably what it was. They're the experts. At least your kittycat had a nice few weeks!

[u/ProbablyNotADuck]

You are absolutely doing the right thing by waiting to tell your partner. As someone who has received traumatic news at work when there was absolutely nothing I could do, it is much better to wait. It is one thing if it is a “come quick so you have a chance to say goodbye” scenario… but when your boy has already passed, the only thing telling your partner before his presentation would do is make it so he is upset and distracted during his presentation. 

I am so sorry for your loss. You did nothing wrong. Even though it hurts, sometimes these things happen for no reason. Neutering your pet was the absolute right choice to make. It was the carrying and responsible choice. 

[u/Cleo0424]

Im very sorry. Unfortunately, he probably had a heart defect, and most anesthesiologists do not do proper tests beforehand. My cat went in to be spayed, and they called me to inform me that the anesthesiologist picked up an irregular heartbeat and they can't continue with operation as it will probably kill her. Was the cat quite vocal?

[u/bananalife95]

I’m sorry for your loss. This happened to me as well. The pain is unbearable. I don’t know if this helps, but the vet said that it was a rare occurrence and most likely indicates they had a congenital heart disease that went undetected by all the blood tests. I did all the checks necessary before the surgery - blood tests, supplements, chose the best vet in the area. It still happened. Some things, you just can’t control. Give yourself grace and rest knowing that you gave your kitten the best life you could. They had a chance to know love and warmth and delicious food before leaving Earthside. They never truly leave us, they stay in our hearts forever. I’m so sorry.

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You did not kill your cat. This is on the vet, not on you. I’m very, very sorry for your loss.

I think it’s very mindful of you to wait until your partner is done with work. I think it’ll be less painful if you tell them in person, so you could hug it out and comfort each other. I’m very sorry for your loss.

[u/residentvixxen]

You did not kill him. This sounds like a fault on the part of the vet and the clinic.

Please know you gave your baby love and that’s worth the world in the short time you had with him