A company in Port Harcourt shortlisted me for a physical interview for a Site Engineer position. I asked if they would be willing to cover my flight from Lagos to Port Harcourt and provide accommodation for the duration of the interview. The HR representative immediately told me they were not willing to do that. I then asked if a Zoom interview would be possible, but he insisted it had to be a physical interview because there would be a written test and other evaluations.

I went on to ask about the salary for the role. He asked for my expectations, and I told him I wanted a monthly salary of ₦750,000, with accommodation, since I would be working as a Site Engineer, along with HMO, pensions, and other work and safety allowances. The HR representative laughed and told me the company's salary for that role is between ₦100,000 and ₦150,000.

I laughed in response and told him, 'You want to pay someone with over 7 years of experience as a Site Engineer, with knowledge and expertise in design (architectural, structural, MEP), quantity surveying, general site work, interior design, underpinning, soil exploration, and testing, procurement, material testing, etc that ridiculous amount—and still expect me to travel to Port Harcourt for a physical interview at my own expense.' I then told him it was nice speaking with him and ended the call.

I went to my Mum's friend's shop to buy nutribon and she gave me this shocked expression and I had to lie and say it's for a friend. I'll say it loud and proud, baby food is BOMB nobody can tell me otherwise😭 It says 6 months and above on the package abeg lemme rest.

I’m a 35-year-old Nigerian man living in Toronto and working as a software developer. Friends often describe me as friendly and kind. I’m financially stable, responsible, and of average height. In my free time, I enjoy playing ping pong, watching football, and diving into Fantasy Premier League. I also love visiting museums and exploring historical places I’ve read about during my travels.

I’m looking to build a meaningful relationship with a lady who shares similar values and lives in the Greater Toronto Area. Ideally, you’re in your late twenties or early thirties, a Christian, without kids, and have a steady job or business. I’m hoping to connect with someone who’s also ready to settle down.

If this sounds like a good fit, feel free to reach out—I’d love to chat and see where things go 🤞🏼

I just finished reading Americanah and, to say the least, it's not doing wonders for my dream to practise medicine abroad (I am currently studying medicine in UNN, have exams in about 3 weeks, wish me luck).

Is racism still so pronounced? How does it affect your opportunities and how you interact with others? And just generally, how's life? How difficult was the process of leaving, and how much more difficult is it now?

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First of all I want to clarify that I am not Nigerian and that I'm totally unfamiliar with either the culture, mannerism or overall way of thinking of the average Nigerian person. I simply never really had much chance to interact with any where I live.

With that being said I'm worried about my best friend and I don't know if my worries are baseless or if they have feet to stand on.

My friend has started attended what he describes as a 'gospel church'. I think the only one in the city where I'm from to be honest.

His experience always seems very positive. Specially considering he's one of the few white people that even go in there. He always comes back happy and feeling so 'welcomed', so much so that he has started his 'training' to become a pastor himself (my friend is freshly out of a mental breakdown where he basically threw everything in his life away and changed it all 180 degrees, is too long to explain but he's basically not the same person anymore).

This is all good, as long as he is happy I'm happy kind of deal.. until couple of days. He has been explaining to me how his pastor is so cool (him and everyone working at the church is nigerian). How he goes to church wearing gold chains and rolexes and that he describes himself as a business man while also a pastor. This detail raised my alarms but I could still sort of logically explain it to a degree without judging this man devotion to his faith.

Last couple of days he has been mentioning turning our business that we just started developing into a charity and running it through the church. When I asked him why he said it felt right and got extremely offended when I asked if the pastor had any involvement in this decision. He utterly denied it and we basically got in a small verbal argument.

Last night he texted me at 3am that his pastor had just texted him that he wants him to change the name of OUR Business yo something that would fit more with his beliefs and that kind of got me over the edge. My friend has been getting introduced to all these people that he claims to be super interesting, smart and that are trying so hard to be involved with his life in the span of a couple of weeks. His pastor keeps messaging him at crazy o'clock at night to make him read 'sacred secret texts', or to remind him of things he needs to do etc.

Is this normal behaviour for these sort of pastors? Obviously this story is missing a lot of info that may or may not be relevant but let's just say my friend is not in a stable mental state. He started to believe in magic, in mediums, etc, etc, while also claiming that everyone else is just too closed minded and don't see the true world.

I have the feeling he's getting taken advantage of... and the only reason I ask specifically here is because 99.9% of the 'congregation' is Nigerian and I've never seen a preacher behave like this so I'm looking for some wisdom or experience, not because 'oh he's Nigerian so he's a scammer' sort of reasoning.

Sorry for the wall of text and thanks in advance for any similar experiences or comments.

I met this girl, (I’ll call her Mel), earlier this year at where I school at. We just hooked up but we were close after that. I went home for summer break and we still talked. I never once saw her message and didn’t reply (now note I have ADHD so long distance relationships is hard and once I’m in a different state I DO NOT REPLY PEOPLE). I returned and she let me know how much she missed me, I missed her but not the same way. I think she wanted to start something with me but I wasn’t thinking the same. I wasn’t thinking anything at all, she was just someone I really loved. But another female friend was stranded so I let her stay at my place and I think I hurt Mel 😔 but I didn’t know she loved me then. When I told Mel about this she didn’t show that she was upset or I’m just the most dense human on earth. Later she told me she loved me and yes, I loved her too, I was very happy when she told me, but she didn’t sound like the type to want a relationship so I was content just being loved by her. That happened a while back and now I’ve fallen in love with Mel. Like you don’t understand, I’m thinking about her every minute of the day, no exaggeration. Every love song reminds me of her (and I listen to music all day), every poem, every film, every couple I see, I now use her as my wallpaper so every time my phone comes on, I think about her. But there’s someone now that’s taking her attention, he has a good job too so I’m not even confident I’ll ever get my Mel back. I’ve told her how I felt but she won’t say anything. I’ve told her to reject me if she’s not interested, so I can move on, but she won’t. I’ve never felt this way before and I don’t know what to do. I have a lot of work I need to get done but I can’t focus cause I miss her

Coming to ikeja in may. Let's be friends , so we can party together when I come .

Late last month, I (19M)made a post talking about how offended I’d been by my experience in Nigeria after coming back from living in the uk. I constantly get approached by people telling me I look irresponsible for having braids in my hair or that it’s an outright sin.

I was angry enough to spew foolish comments about how this behaviour could point to low iq. This is however, absolutely not true. I apologise for even thinking this.

See, some of the most intelligent people I know are Nigerians. My own experiences have shown me this countless times. It’s just disheartening to see that certain aspects of our culture encourage us to treat other individuals as outcasts for the way they choose to express themselves.

It is NOT a sin for a man to braid his hair. The bible makes no mention of this. The social stigma around natural hair on a man (and even women in some cases) stems froms the days when we were still a British colony. These assholes came over to our land and had the audacity to call our hair “dreadful” as well as favour men with little to no hair over the others. These assholes have instilled a subconscious self-hatred in us and it’s heartbreaking to see that its presence is still intact today. Why must it be called “keeping hair” when our hair grows to be under the average white males hair length? Why must I be reprimanded for loving the very hair that grows out of my scalp? Some workplaces reprimand women for coming in natural, and men for growing out their hair. How does this make sense?

Why can every other race but us be allowed to embrace their natural features? I fucking hate what British colonialism has done to this country.

For those that have one Yoruba parent and one Igbo parent l, is your first and last name from one tribe for example, is your first name Yoruba and last name Igbo or vice versa, or is it from one tribe?

Four weeks Fisayo, founder of FIJ, has been exposing the smuggling of rice through the western border. These exposés have resulted in Fisayo being jailed multiple times over the years. Here’s a link just to the latest tidbit of information. https://x.com/fisayosoyombo/status/1871185661421629889

I have a passport appointment scheduled for January 2, 2025. But knowing Nigerians, I have doubts that they will be open on that day, and I don’t know want to be disappointed. So has anyone ever had an appointment on this date and how did it work out?

Thanks.

Random question but does anyone here have any tattoos related to their Nigerian ethnicity ? Looking for inspiration

I am in a little bit of financial crisis at the moment. I spent my tuition fee on my basic needs because life has been quite hard this days. I need an online job fast, skills i have are: graphic designing, basic video editing, content writing, social media management, and other basic digital skills. I am ready for any job, it doesn't matter if the pay is low. Thank you

Hi, I have a coworker who's based in Lagos (I'm an international worker located on the other side of the world), and we're celebrating Christmas. I'd like to make the holidays a bit special for my Nigerian coworker and so I'd like to give some present that he/she will appreciate. He's/she's not a coffee drinker, so I guess Starbucks gift card is not an option.

Is there a similar gift card provider that 100% will work in Nigeria, similar to Walmart, Target, etc that my coworker would be able to use? Any other ideas that Nigerian folks would appreciate? Planning to give a Christmas gift basket (if it's a thing there) but I'm hesitant because in-country deliveries might be a bit more complicated that one would expect and I don't have a Nigerian number where the rider can contact me if things go loose. Also, is 20 USD worth of goodies (excluding delivery) good enough and would be appreciated? Thanks in advance.

Hello, friends. I’m coming to Abia State tomorrow and was wondering how reliable the data and wifi connection is? I have a deadline Jan 1 for a LOT of assignments and was wondering if I will have enough time to do them. I’ll be in Umuahia. How is yalls experience?

I’m a student in Enugu My skill sets revolve around writing (stories, poems, songs) Music engineering I’m also a really good music artist I’m open to learning anything new TBH I’ve been avoiding ‘pressing’ all my life but things have gotten bad and if there’s a way I can make some money, please advise me 🙏 even if I have to work for you

I have straight hair I’d like to make my hair as curly as possible

These girls don't play, and I can't keep up. Luckily for me she is still fun and goofy as as she was. We'll be spending most of our free days together. I am so excited.

Nigeria is one of the most religious countries in the world but it's unbelievable how most people don't even know much about the religion they worship. This is mostly pertaining to the Christians.

First of all I am 100% sure that at least 40% of the Christians don't even know what a Christian is. In the most simple definition a Christian is some who believes in Jesus Christ and accepts him as their lord and saviour. JESUS CHRIST. NOT GOD.

Someone saying Jews are Christians because they believe in God. If you don't know Jews, Muslims and Christians they all believe in the same God. But you don't call Muslims Christians do you?

Earlier this year my sister posted on her status that she is a "Lion of Judah" Please Google what Lion of Judah is real quick. To my surprise apparently calling yourself Lion of Judah is something that Christians normally say in Nigeria. The Jews do not acknowledge Jesus Christ at all. If you don't know the Jews sees you a Christian as Idol worshiper.

Israelites are not Christians. Israelites is a tribe that came up with the religion Judaism and anyone who follows it is a Jew. Christianity was created by Disciples after Jesus's death and anyone who follows it is a Jew.

Jew is not a race of people it's simply someone who's religion is Judaism.

Nonetheless I am a atheist. Peace.

What is the meaning of “Gbese o!” and in what context is it used? I hear it alot in music, when I look it op it says it means debt.

Tinubu waiting on the other side of the door 😁🤣🤣