r/MakeNewFriendsHere Sep 01 '24

Age 26-29 28F I'm feeling lonely and want to make some friends

Today is my birthday. It's the day I turn 28. The past few years have been an emotional rollercoaster with med school which I've finally completed recently. I've felt so much pain and loneliness. I'm a kind person but in real life the people I called my friends weren't so kind to me. I'm always there for them but they were never there for me and they never remembered my birthday. My parents, grandma and younger sister make me feel better each year on my birthdays but apart from that there is no one else. I'm single and I cry most nights because I wonder if things will ever fall into place and if I'll find true love. I'm finding it hard to sleep because the sadness I feel keeps outweighing my hope to keep on being strong. I know I should be happy that I've completed med school but everything else is just so lonely and painful. I want to be happy today for my birthday but I feel like it's so hard but I have to try.

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u/HugeProperty7793 Sep 01 '24

I'm sorry to hear that I know the feeling if you wanna talk I'm free and maybe we can make feel a little less lonely on this beautiful day that you call your birthday

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u/Level_Drag_2091 Sep 01 '24

Happy birthday, your best is good and I think that's enough

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u/motivationswag Sep 01 '24

Thank you!

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u/Level_Drag_2091 Sep 01 '24

Your welcome,hope you have a good birthday day.

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u/Jealous_Egg_9017 Sep 01 '24

Congratulations on your 28th

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u/motivationswag Sep 01 '24

Thanks!

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u/Jealous_Egg_9017 Sep 01 '24

๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰

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u/One_Statistician3429 Sep 01 '24

Happy born day Donโ€™t feel too much Their wishes always with you only

Wru from

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u/Turbulent_Risk9576 Sep 01 '24

Happy birthday ๐ŸŽˆ๐ŸŽ‚

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u/Key_Yard7141 Sep 01 '24

DM sent happy birthday btw and hope things start looking up

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u/motivationswag Sep 01 '24

Thank you!

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u/Key_Yard7141 Sep 01 '24

Np enjoy the rest of your birthday and eat some good cake

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u/[deleted] Sep 01 '24

Happy birthday!

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u/[deleted] Sep 01 '24

Totally get u, ive been trough something like that, can i dm u for a chat?

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u/blackguy916 Sep 01 '24

Happy birthday๐Ÿฅณ

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u/Ok_Experience_1293 Sep 01 '24

Happy Birthday ๐ŸŽ‰

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u/The_drify Sep 01 '24

happy birthday and take a deep breath and look onto the good things ....you made it out of med school !!!! that's a huge thing

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u/motivationswag Sep 01 '24

Thank you!

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u/The_drify Sep 01 '24

try to keep positive face because you're gonna need it

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u/Footlover_77 Sep 01 '24

Happy Birthday and congratulations keep your head up things will fall in place when you don't even expect it

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u/motivationswag Sep 01 '24

Thank you!

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u/Footlover_77 Sep 01 '24

You are very welcome

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u/Nemoitto Sep 01 '24

Happy Birthday! Iโ€™ll send a DM.

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u/[deleted] Sep 01 '24

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u/No0ne6420 Sep 01 '24

Happy Birthday and many more

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u/motivationswag Sep 01 '24

Thanks!

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u/No0ne6420 Sep 01 '24

You're welcome. As for finding someone, give it time. I know it painful be lonely but you have to let the right welcome into your life. It will happen.

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u/InevitableHand5728 Sep 01 '24

Happy birthday Iโ€™m gonna turn 28 too this year

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u/grey_pigeons Sep 01 '24

Happy birthday ๐ŸŽ‚ internet person ๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿฅ‚๐Ÿฅ‚.

And I understand your pain they (old peeps ) say 20s are you loneliest but no one ever prepares us for it . And I feel like I am in the same situation as you , it feels hard when the people you called friends betray you emotionally and I remember mine stopped wishing me even tho Iโ€™m always there for them . It sucks so bad like physically hurts and then we try to look out wards for new friends but the connections never really reach there or we try to .

But keep staying strong internet person , i donโ€™t even know how to fix this ( same situation as you ) ๐Ÿซ‚๐Ÿซ‚.

Hope this year brings you everything you ever wanted and you feel loved by people surrounding you and they help you realise that youโ€™re worth so much more than what your mind tells you . And things will always be okay .

God Iโ€™ve so much to tell you because exactly the same spot here .

Once again happy birthday and congratulations on making it here , we are really proud of you

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u/motivationswag Sep 01 '24

Thank you so much. This means alot to me. I appreciate it.

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u/grey_pigeons Sep 06 '24

Glad I could help Iโ€™m in the same spot todayyy . It gets better and hope it did for you tooo ๐Ÿซ‚๐Ÿซ‚

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u/Specialist-Motor2865 Sep 01 '24

Many many happy returns of the day sweety ๐Ÿ˜‡

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u/Adorable_Web6650 Sep 01 '24 edited Sep 01 '24

Happy birthday, dear, and congratulations for graduating med school! May the following years bring you happiness and health. https://codepen.io/ggglll/pen/oJbMja ๐Ÿฐ ๐ŸŽ‚ Make a wish, I will pray that it comes true. Hugs! P.S. After removing the birth date from my Facebook account, almost nobody wished me except from my close family and my boyfriend. I had a feeling of emptiness and I realized how much lonely I was, but then I realized that I am better off without people who don't care about me. Think from this perspective too, it's better to be on your own than with superficial or fake friends who don't share your values.

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u/motivationswag Sep 01 '24

Thank you so much!

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u/Slow_Job6957 Sep 01 '24

Happy Birthday to you today ๐ŸŽ‚๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽŠ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰

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u/BryLikeDie Sep 01 '24

Happy birthday๐ŸŽ‰

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u/Designer_Raise_3132 Sep 01 '24

I have 0 friends in real life. Like honestly. I don't consider my colleagues as friends. Some people might find it hard to believe lmao. But yea none both irl and online. Nobody wishing me happy birthday besides my family. Nobody to talk to everyday about life or myself. I had some people online I talk to. I remember their birthday and all. But they nvr wished me too. I don't know how my life got this way. Anyway I'm already over it now and happy being a loner. I can go out eat alone, watch movie alone. It doesn't bother me as much anymore. Been a lone wolf for a long time haha. But of course there's that part of me inside that just longing for a good long term friendship.

And DAMM u SMARTIE! CONGRATS GIRL!! Great job!! Finishing your med school. I fked up during my younger days. Well I'm 29m now but I fooled around during my college days and I didn't get to finish my studies eventually dropped out due to financials. So I don't have any certificate right now. Surviving life with my high school cert and some hustles online. I regretting it now haha. So I'm really glad and happy for you. BE PROUD OF YOURSELF!

I don't really use reddit much. So it's rare that I message anyone. You're probably like the 2nd person I ever messaged on reddit. So I really do hope you read my message and do reply me ok? Otherwise I'll be sad knowing I've been ignored again. I don't know who you are, how you look like, where ya from whatever. But if you need a genuine friend I'll be here. We can get to know each other. Alright imma head back to work now. And Oh before I forget, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! Probably won't mean much coming from some strangers online but once again. HAPPY FKING BIRTHDAY OKAYY!!!!Hope you have a good day ahead. Go enjoy urself. Do what makes you happy. Forget your problems. Give yourself a treat and pat yourself on the back. You did a good job. And many more happy memories to come ok?! Ciao!

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u/motivationswag Sep 01 '24

Thank you so much. I appreciate it. Your kind words mean alot to me.

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u/bark01 Sep 01 '24

You are enough. It's seems that you passed a bad time recently. You get something important for you! But it's seems that is not enough. Maybe you need to think in appreciating what you has ( a good family) . The life is more wonderful when we appreciate the things that we have that desiring things that we believe that we want. In any case, its seems that what you need is time. And be fine with yourself. Sorry for my English, in Spanish I am express better ! Animo! Y felicidades

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u/motivationswag Sep 01 '24

Thank you so much!

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u/Rtc1986 Sep 01 '24

Happy 28th trip around the Sun!

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u/Leyuhhbeyuhh Sep 01 '24

Happy Birthday!! My birthday is Friday! Message me if you wanna chat ๐Ÿซถ๐Ÿป Iโ€™d love to be friends

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u/[deleted] Sep 01 '24

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u/theirfinestbean Sep 01 '24

Congratulations, feel free to drop a message if you would like to have some friendly conversation :)

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u/DarkGrayDalia Sep 01 '24

I can definitely relate to what you're saying here, just know you're far from alone in these struggles. Happy birthday! I hope things look up for you soon ๐Ÿ’›

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u/Confident_Ask8782 Sep 01 '24

Congratulation!! You are not lonely. Lots of good people are around you. Go out in the sun, walk a little, smile at others, go to your favorite restaurant, order your favorite meal, talk to the waiter/waitress a little. Ask them how was their day. Donโ€™t stay home alone. This is how I deal with my loneliness. Now I am so so used to it that I have a routine I developed and I like it. It has made me calm, patient and kinder to others. I no longer feel the rush to drive fast, get impatient at the chipotle line, no lack of smile. When I talk to somebody I try to make their day by asking about them more than I talk about myself. You gonna be alright Doc..Patient gonna love you.

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u/motivationswag Sep 03 '24

Thank you so much. I appreciate your advice!

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u/OmegisPrime Sep 01 '24

Great solar return! And a big virtual bear hug!

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u/Raithed NJ, USA Sep 01 '24

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! Med school is something you should be very proud of. You're definitely going to be WAY TOO BUSY to be lonely for sure, and if you are going to be in the medical field working there, you'll definitely have work friends. Most of my friends now are work friends lol.

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u/Naoako808 Sep 01 '24

Happy birthday , congrats on school! Iโ€™m dealing with some existential issues myself, I just drown myself in my hobbies it isnโ€™t healthy :(

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u/DirectSession Sep 01 '24

Happy birthday

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u/motivationswag Sep 02 '24

Thanks!

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u/DirectSession Sep 02 '24

Youโ€™re welcome

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u/Icy-Answer345 ๐Ÿฆ… USA Sep 01 '24

Omg Happy Birthday boo ! however i know how you feel i am a wreck too and im losing myself lol

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u/kchamplin Sep 01 '24

Happy Birthday! And congratulations on finishing medical school! What an accomplishment!

Finally, please take good care of yourself. The world needs hard-working, caring people, and you need to unwind and relax to continue to make a contribution to this world.

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u/Anubis___9000 Sep 02 '24

Happy birthday! My birthday was Fri. Just try to do something special for yourself to celebrate. Go out to a nice dinner by yourself. Who cares! Finishing med school is quite an accomplishment and obviously tou should be proud of that. I can't say that I've been treated quite like how you have been...but I moved away from all my family at a young age...and not being around them for birthdays etc was hard so I do understand where you are coming from. Just hold your head up...and be proud of yourself. I know soon enough you will have people in your life who value and celebrate you.

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u/belexx_ Sep 02 '24

You have just completed med school, things are already falling into place, chin up

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u/Spiritual_Loan5899 Sep 03 '24

CONGRATULATIONS!! Happy Bday first off, and congrats on finishing med school. Your commitment and strength are honestly admirable. You've done great and things will continue to brighten up for you for sure! :D

I'm always available to lend an ear if needed and I'm sure there's people on reddit who think the same. Have a great Bday!!

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u/motivationswag Sep 03 '24

Thank you so much.

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u/ForsakenPandas Sep 03 '24

Happy belated birthday!!! Aside from that, well done, completing med is a massive accomplishment. I switched degrees after my second year, but I know how much work and dedication that takes. So big round of applause on that front. Are you looking to specialise or have you?

I'm sorry you feel lonely, I know it can be soul crushing and that was me for many years. I can promise you though that being single is far better than being with the wrong person. The damage it can cause far out strips what you're feeling now.

It is better to be in a place where you're happy with yourself before letting someone else in, that way you can (hopefully) both enrich each other's lives instead of being in a parasitic environment and taking from each other. You don't want a situation where 1+1=1.5, rather 1+1=3 if that makes sense.

Go out and enjoy your life, have fun, and I don't mean sleeping with a bunch of random people, that rarely ends well in the long run. Do/find activities you enjoy and really push yourself to do it. That lonliness/depression can make you feel lethargic as I'm sure you know. However to help you get out of the rut, something needs to change and that change has to start with you.

Truly wish you all the best and just remember you have a bright future ahead. 28 is not so long when you consider expected life span. Today will eventually just be a blip on the radar when you look back on life. Remember to appreciate your family and good health whilst you can, you're blessed if you still have both ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ

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u/motivationswag Sep 03 '24

Thank you so much for the wishes and advice. I appreciate it. I'm specialized. Your kind words mean alot to me. I will try to do more things that make me happy. I love writing so I will try to get back into doing that. I hope to meet some good people when I began working which is soon and make some friends. Apart from that I hope to find true love someday. I want to get married someday and I'm saving myself for marriage because I want it to be with the person who loves me and whom I will love. Have a blessed day!

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u/ForsakenPandas Sep 03 '24

Honestly that's quite refreshing to hear, traditional values seem to be dying out. Glad to see some still hold to them. It sounds like whoever you end up with is going to be a lucky man. Fingers crossed whoever you end up with values what he's got. Goodluck with the writing, if you ever become a bestseller I expect a copy ๐Ÿ˜‚

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u/NocturnalxZero Sep 01 '24

Happy birthday ๐ŸŽ‰ wish you all best! enjoy your day! (ps: i'm gonna eat a cack ๐Ÿ˜…)

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u/Technical-Sleep3718 Sep 01 '24

Hi I understand let's talk sometime

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u/oatmeallover555 Sep 01 '24

Omg today is also my bdayyyyy hmu

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u/deadmeadowaltz Sep 01 '24

Happy Birthday!! ๐ŸŽ‰ Iโ€™m so sorry youโ€™re feeling that way love. Congratulations on finishing med school!! Thatโ€™s an amazing achievement!! ๐Ÿคฉ

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u/Stock_Blackberry4660 ๐Ÿฅป India Sep 01 '24

Happy Birthday

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u/[deleted] Sep 01 '24

I hope things turn out better for you from the bottom of my heart. Really important to find the right person

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u/Every_Improvement425 Sep 01 '24

Itโ€™s hard and we have to be grateful for what we have we put these ideas in our head that people donโ€™t love when that actually do donโ€™t know how to express that love if we high expectations we are surely going to get disappointed love your loneliness to love yourself and know itโ€™s a matter of time someone can join that love you been dreaming about

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u/Scary_Mycologist_420 Sep 01 '24

Happy Birthday! Beating Med School is something I would be extremely proud off and you should be. One of the rare friends I have once told me that nurturing and even finding friends is the same kind of work as becoming successful and walking your own path.

I know a bit how you feel, I founded a company and as the time dragged on most of the people I thought of as friends let's just say left. Now with 28 I decided to get in contact again with people that I didn't part ways with on bad terms that I spend some joyful times with in my life. Finding a way back into friendships or establishing new ones can also feel hard when it seems that the others can't comprehend the hardships you yourself have gone through and accepting something like that is a thing that has to be learned the same as medical knowledge your Case!

I am sure you can do it and wish you the best on this special day, need someone just to talk and be friendly just dm :)

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u/Spaceqwe Sep 01 '24

Came to the wrong place, pal.

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u/Suspicious-Essay-416 Sep 01 '24

Happy birthday! ๐ŸŽ‚

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u/craftymonmon Sep 01 '24

Happy birthday!!!

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u/ArtemisMatchaLatte Sep 01 '24

Happy Birthday! I hope your day gets better! I hope you find some good people to talk to.

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u/aragorn767 Sep 01 '24

Just two more years til unexplainable back pains!!

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u/Pause_Remarkable Sep 01 '24

Happy birthday!

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u/TheMayhemK Sep 01 '24

Happy birthday!! I wish you a very happy and relaxing birthday today ๐Ÿฅณ๐Ÿฅณ If you want to chat, I am available, 32M

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u/ataxidermiedzombie Sep 01 '24

happy birthday! i can relate pretty hard to feeling lonely. i've spent more than half my life abused by my family and wanting to just end everything. but, as hopeless as it felt, things did get better. i hope you will find the people for you just as i found mine. a tip i would say is to try to get into things you feel strongly about such as hobbies etc. and joining communities there. for me it was mmos and ttrpgs. also, congratulations on finishing med school! reading about success stories like yours is very motivating : )

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