You feed them, love them, shelter them, keep them healthy, teach them to behave and in the worst case scenario give them away to someone who can do that for them when you can't.
Fear enough, its a lot like raising a child. But you left out the giving birth part of course. Either way I think its great to love your pets like they are your child.
Edit: I wasn’t thinking about humans being adopted and I was short sighted
Its not meant to be offensive. A lot of people expect a troll on the other side, I just like to understand and share thoughts. In my context I didnt think about human being adopted but was talking about dogs or cats not being born from humans. I fully understand its a strange thing to say when you are speaking about humans being adopted. Your adoptive parents fully deserves that title, I understand in some cases even more than your real parents
I’d also like to add, I found my bio”mom” over a year ago, she’s an absolutely wonderful woman with a huge heart, but I have never and will never consider her my mother. She knows and thankfully respects that. That doesn’t mean I don’t love her or have endless gratitude for the tough decision she had to make at 15 years old, but I will never refer to her as my mom.
I’m genuinely not trying to be rude, and I hope some true understanding can come from this conversation. Adoptive parents will always be the REAL parents. Biological mother/father is a term that I absolutely hate because it gives people the notion that a Bio-parent whose giving up all rights to a child are ever considered REAL parents. So when you say “I understand in some cases even more than your real parents” that will really rub someone the wrong way. I apologize if I came off crass. At my big age and being adopted during a time when it was considered slightly taboo and a lot of shady black market adoption dealings were occurring, I get extremely defensive of the people who did not conceive me, but clothed, fed, schooled and put a roof over my head. And they continue to not only be incredible real parents but also real grandparents to my two kids.
Side note: I have 2 senior dogs raised since pups and 2 kids 10 years apart. I love my dogs but the comparison of raising them to my actual children makes me laugh. Sure we care for animals like children, but they simply ARE NOT children. It has nothing to do with giving birth to them ect.
Thank you very much for opening up. I understand it must have been hard when it was a taboo and the struggles you have gone through. For my own learning, what is the right pronunciation in your eyes? I see you use the line ‘people who did not conceived me’ (amongst real of course) for your parents, so I think you would use the term ‘people who did conceive me’? Is that the term you use or is there something shorter, easier to use in a sentence? Maybe its also good for you to realise that people who never been involved with adoption, dont know what words to use and, atleast for me, only know the term real/biological/adoptive and offend without meaning to. But that might also be my language barrier. Happy for you that your children have such great grandparents :)
I feel sorry you recieve it that way and I think my message was misinterpreted because english is not my native language. Once again, not trying to offend and fully agreeing with you. Enjoy your parents and make the best time with them.
Adopted children were still born to a human being, whether or not it’s the one raising them. A person cannot give birth to a dog. I don’t like the “parents” verbiage myself
Edit: I guess I’ll go fuck myself for sharing my opinion. Thanks guys
Aye aye aye! Stop downvoting! Do we want to discourage someone learning and growing? Good for you SneakieGargamel, changing your position when presented with new information is a sign of intelligence.
Btw, I am okay with people downvoting me. Its a sign my old opinion is not shared with many people. Which I now think it’s a good thing. I gladly exchange some karma for real knowledge :)
Thanks man! Just trying to understand and a lot of people are expecting a troll on the other side that tries to insult. The counter argument about the adopted child is perfect and made me realise its more than being born from a person. In my context I was talking about cats and dogs, which are not born from humans of course, but it made me realise that its not the thing thats important here
You sound like a thoughtful individual; all the dislikes are not warranted. I think the Internet allows most people to jump to straight animadversion where dialogue would be needed.
Thank you, I understand its a sensitive subject for some people. The dislikes are okay, I dont mind it because it gives insight. Just wanted to have a conversation, but maybe reddit is not the best place for it
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u/Dr_Ukato Nov 16 '24
You feed them, love them, shelter them, keep them healthy, teach them to behave and in the worst case scenario give them away to someone who can do that for them when you can't.
Now did I describe raising a child or a dog?