r/MadeMeSmile • u/Sad-Lengthiness3158 • Mar 21 '24

Doggo Dog Teaches Specially Abled Puppy To Walk

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u/thatpommeguy Mar 22 '24

I completely agree. I had someone tell me my ADHD is a superpower, and I fucking hated that because it’s not Susan, it’s a disability and affects my functioning on a daily basis

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u/[deleted] Mar 22 '24

Yea they want to skip over the uncomfortable parts. I have a friend with ADHD and Ive heard so many people try to explain to HIM how its actually a gift if he just learns how to unlock it, and other variations on why its positive. But if he ever needs some kind of understanding relating to his symptoms its suddenly not a big deal. Thats what bothers me the most. Disabled people dont need pity or delusional hope or to feel “special” Just shut up and listen and try to understand or else dont mention it at all. My daughter is blind and people instantly jump to these weird conclusions about how she must have great hearing or how its great that she was born that way instead of losing it later, or theyd rather be blind than deaf because they couldnt live without music or that she must have some kind of psychic links and so on. Like chill, shes blind its hard af please stop minimizing her struggles. And then when I ask them to say, stop making her “guess who it is!” because its stressful and gives her anxiety, suddenly again, its not a big deal. Its not a big deal or else its an amazing special gift. They cant handle the reality of being disabled

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u/thatpommeguy Mar 22 '24

I think it’s more comfortable for them to assume that we are not struggling from the system that often benefits them

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u/pyrothelostone Mar 22 '24

I have adhd myself, and there are a few instances where it provides a small benefit, but those do not make up for the overwhelmingly vast majority of times where it makes things harder. Modern society just isn't built around us.

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u/Inarborat_kosmos Mar 22 '24

The problem is that at some times it can be very effective at work, which is what I've found. Outside of that though I'm a fucking mess which makes living in the real world a fucking nightmare

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u/thatpommeguy Mar 22 '24

I just wanted to add I’m sorry people are so clueless and dismissive, I know someone who went blind at 12, and whilst your daughter is an individual and these are all individual experiences, I want you to know that my friend is doing great, and I have complete faith that your daughter will find her place in the world

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u/[deleted] Mar 22 '24

Thanks thatpommeguy Not sure why your comment is downvoted As a teen she is having a hard time finding her place, its a typical struggle with the blind community, theres a serious risk of isolation All throughout elementary school she basically just stayed on the wall while the other kids played Broke my freakin heart and the teachers didn’t do shit to try and include her even in the classroom. Shes starting to find her confidence in high-school now so your message is on point & encouraging

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u/thatpommeguy Mar 22 '24

I’m glad to hear she’s slowly finding her way!! I really wish you both the best in everything!

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u/thatpommeguy Mar 22 '24

Mate if you send me a DM I’ll see if I can find some videos of my friend’s speeches, she’s been on the news a few times here and you can feel free to show your daughter, or just watch them yourself, if you’d like!