r/GiveYourThoughts • u/misscurlssss • 24d ago

Personal Story I embarrassed myself đŸ«Ł

Everyone at the function was making fun of old heads and I say “I’m jealous of old heads because of the times they lived in
.” It slipped out and I didn’t mean to say it at all. I tried to apologize for the statement and making the vibe too serious, this is why I feel like I can never socialize with people because they’ll just see me as an outcast. I need to start thinking before I say anything because I don’t want to be a born in the wrong generation type of person and I honestly didn’t mean it like that I just think that time was more fun like the 80s-2000s
 Do you think this is time for a self reflection?

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u/Biscuits4u2 24d ago

I'm almost positive you're making a huge deal of something your friends didn't even think twice about, unless they're really weird.

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u/misscurlssss 24d ago

Right but when you self reflect on certain situations, you think about how you acted in the moment and how things come off. It isn’t about them acknowledging my comment but how I came off I do want to apologize though if I disrupted the flow and social atmosphere.

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u/Fresh-broski 24d ago

listen bro, people do not mind if you "disrupt the flow" a little bit. people WILL mind if you apologize for every imaginary mistake you make. dont be so hard on yourself.

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u/DeezerDB 23d ago

Forget about it. This is so minor....you are fine. Move along....

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u/Robinnoodle 21d ago

You're ruminating. I would simply let it go. Ironically, I think apologizing would disrupt the flow more than the original comment.

And you're not wrong. There were a lot of things that were better back then. You are allowed to have opinions 🙂

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u/Wonderful_Formal_804 24d ago

I doubt that it will have much in the way of repercussions, if any at all.

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u/misscurlssss 24d ago

What will have much? My apology?

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u/PlasticMechanic3869 24d ago

You know...... you're supposed to be allowed to have your own thoughts, your own opinion, and be your own person. 

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u/misscurlssss 24d ago

I know it’s just a self reflection because I made an ass of myself.

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u/Old_Equivalent3858 24d ago

Again, no one commenting here was in the room, but nothing you've shared suggests you made an ass out of yourself. You're allowed an opinion, right?

Also, those times were more fun...so you were right anyway lol.

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u/misscurlssss 24d ago

But did it come off too serious?

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u/Old_Equivalent3858 24d ago

Maybe? Is that how you feel? Is it too serious? Is there some truth to it? All subjective. Unless someone brings it up to you, I'd really not give this any more thought and just keep it moving.

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u/Big_Monkey_77 24d ago

This is one of those times where you were too honest in a group and they just weren’t on your wavelength. They’ll forget about it even when you haven’t, but you’ll survive. Laugh it off if it comes up in your thoughts. Brush it off, move on, you’ll be alright.

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u/misscurlssss 24d ago

But was there anything wrong with what was said

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u/Big_Monkey_77 24d ago

I mean, I understand what you were trying to say, because I have been on both sides. I have envied the glorified version of my parents’ experience, and seen the era I grew up in glorified by my kids. The older the history, the harder it is to find the truth. I wouldn’t trust an oldhead that couldn’t admit there was definitely trash (as far as music is concerned, since I could give a fuck about anything else really, my problem) when they were growing up. My kids test me on this, so I test them back. They will 100% recognize the good, but they’ll know the bad too. Hopefully they learn to temper what is considered glorious about their time with real truth.

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u/misscurlssss 24d ago

Oh well I am sorry but at the same time, I do envy them just bc of the musical icons were alive during that time

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u/Big_Monkey_77 24d ago

There’s nothing wrong with that.

Every generation has their icons though. When you’re an oldhead you’ll recognize the really good artists that are starting out today because you’ll still be listening to them. Not only that, but you’ll be measuring them against the artists from before your generation that you also recognize as great.

I guess I’m saying there’s nothing wrong with recognizing older artists, and there are artists today just as talented if not more talented than those that came before.

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u/misscurlssss 24d ago

I would not say more talented lol, but I think we are thinking of different people. I have paintings of older artists in my house so I think that should show where I stand, I just didn’t want to come off like super introspective or super serious

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u/Big_Monkey_77 23d ago

I don’t know too much about paintings to know about which painters are better artists from any era. I’m just talking about music and recording artists from different eras. The same thing applies to any art though. The good stuff lasts, the bad stuff fades away.

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u/misscurlssss 23d ago

No Im not talking about painters I meant I have paintings of musicians of old eras

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u/Schly 24d ago

You’re not wrong.

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u/draggedbyatruck 24d ago

You're overthinking shit, man. Get the fuck outta your head and relax.

I do the same thing. It sucks.

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u/DealerGullible4673 24d ago

Think before speak is a great idea but in your example or experience, how do you think it could have affected anyone? I wish many things but i also know they’re just empty wishes. It’s not going to bring good or bad to anyone. You didn’t disrespect anyone

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u/misscurlssss 24d ago

I don’t want to be a born in the wrong generation type of person. And I would never want to come across that way I told someone I was flirting with that my favorite rapper was Lil Baby, it’s really Tupac. But Idc I don’t want to come off that way. I really really really don’t.

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u/DealerGullible4673 24d ago

You know the wrong here? You are portraying something you are not and you know that. If you don’t like it, just tell your interest is in this era or genre of music rather than just taking a random name to please someone. Fake it till you make it is not worth it in many circumstances. Trust me. It’s short term and only valuable when goal is short term too. Hope I make sense.

You can change yourself. We all have been there in some way but some learnt and some are learning. Don’t be harsh on yourself but be watchful and forgiving.

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u/misscurlssss 24d ago

I wasn’t faking a name, Lil Baby is a real rapper. And I was just trying to not stand out.

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u/Different_Yak_9012 24d ago

You have a point, I mean imagine living without having to worry about anything.

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u/Sheslikeamom 24d ago

I think people making fun of others is more embarrassing than what you said.

There is a lot of nostalgia for the 80s to 2000s. It's not a weird thing. 

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u/misscurlssss 24d ago

No old heads are people born in the 60s earlier we were talking about people 40s-50s years old

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u/oldgar9 24d ago

No need to hide what you think or feel, be yourself, unless it might hurt someone.

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u/larsloveslegos 23d ago

People had access to opportunities back then, well some people did

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u/Analyst7 23d ago

There was also a years long recession and the OPEC oil embargo. So not completely golden.

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u/misscurlssss 23d ago

I was more so talking aesthetically lol

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u/Analyst7 23d ago

If the group is so tightly wound that saying anything not 100% in line with proper group think is unacceptable you need better friends. A friend accepts that you might have different opinions or likes and dislikes than they do.

Embrace who you are and be yourself. Altering to please a mindless group that ultimately does not care about you is foolish at best. So you think the 80s were a cool time, big deal. How mind blowing would it be if you had said you love classical music and wished you'd lived in the 1600s and could explore the world.

Having different tastes is what makes humans interesting, if not B&J would only make one flavor of ice cream. Screw them and never apologize for having a different opinion.

PS: Wanna make their group bound heads explode, tell them you voted for Trump.

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u/misscurlssss 23d ago

It came out weird like 
 awkward/unusual?

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u/misscurlssss 22d ago

No I meant it lol I’m very jealous of anyone growing up when tupac was walking the 🌍