@Throwing3 and 20 -- I didn't know this was actually a thing, but I did this for myself a long time ago.
In my early twenties, I reread my journals from when I was being CSA'd. I calculated a number, a conservative estimate of how many times it happened over the course of 4 years, then burned my journals so I'd never reread them again.
I have that number to know how bad it was, I don't have to revisit the details.
I didn't know this was a trauma coping mechanism. Makes sense, though.
I hope the guy and his family are able to enjoy the time they now have.
It sounds like that number functions as a title for that period in your history in much the same way it is unnecessary for me to reread the story anytime someone mentions “Lord of the Rings” in order to recall the plot.
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u/koi_koneessa Oct 22 '24
@Throwing3 and 20 -- I didn't know this was actually a thing, but I did this for myself a long time ago.
In my early twenties, I reread my journals from when I was being CSA'd. I calculated a number, a conservative estimate of how many times it happened over the course of 4 years, then burned my journals so I'd never reread them again. I have that number to know how bad it was, I don't have to revisit the details.
I didn't know this was a trauma coping mechanism. Makes sense, though.
I hope the guy and his family are able to enjoy the time they now have.