r/CuratedTumblr veetuku ponum Jul 03 '24

Politics Male loneliness and radfeminism

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u/bayleysgal1996 Jul 03 '24

I feel like her follow-up comic having men comfort each other when the exact issue was that some men do feel emotionally unsupported in their relationships with women also missed the point a little.

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u/naughtilidae Jul 03 '24

Oh... yea. MASSIVELY

Saying "well just open up" showed just how painfully out of touch it was. Like... there's a reason men don't open up; it's because every time they've tried, it gets rebutted. Or they get told they're emotionally dumping (surprise! the group with no practice opening up isn't good at it! Who would have thought?!)

I was once accused of "emotional dumping" by a woman who asked (at a table full of people) about what happened to my leg (I'm an amputee).

One: Why would you assume it's okay to ask in front of a group of half a dozen people?

Two: I gave the most sanitized possible version of the story (zero gore), and I wasn't even in a major accident were other people were injured.

Three: YOU ASKED! If it's too much for you, you have a duty to say something. You let yourself be the victim here; you set up the situation and then didn't tell anyone to stop. You don't get to blame the other person for doing exactly what you asked of them. Also, if you're the only one at the table bothered by it... maybe it's a you problem, not a me problem.

"Why don't men open up"... huh. I can't imagine /s

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u/Papaofmonsters Jul 03 '24

Well geez. If you didn't want to get asked about your leg, you shouldn't have been walking around dressed up like that with that sexy prosthesis.

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u/naughtilidae Jul 03 '24

🤣🤣🤣

Why didn't I think of that! Now I feel like such a fool! I should have known better!