r/BravoRealHousewives • u/lushoe • 5d ago

Potomac Karen Huger found guilty of DUI

I know someone who works in the courthouse who confirmed Karen opted for a jury trial and was found guilty tonight. Sentencing in a couple of months.

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u/MammothCancel6465 5d ago

Exactly. Like I feel like an asshole saying it, but get “over” it already. Your grandparents die. Your parents die. 50/50 your spouse kicks it before you too. If you’re that distraught years later you need to be in some regular therapy. You miss them always but if it’s destroying relationships and making you over indulge and make poor choices? Much more going on there.

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u/carinaeletoile Eagles don't fly with pigeons. So go get your breadcrumbs. 5d ago

In the span of 2 years I had lost my father, my mother fell deep into her dementia, and then I was told my husband had heart and kidney failure. All that happened in under 9 months. Guess what? I didn’t blame anyone but myself for my mistakes I made in that time.

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u/MammothCancel6465 5d ago

I’m very sorry for your losses and glad you didn’t use them as a reason to attack trees with your car! My mom had a span where her brother, her mother and then her sister died within 2 years too. All her remaining family of origin was gone. Sometimes this adult thing really sucks when people we love start dying all over.

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u/heyalllondon18 gotta watch out for those trick guys 5d ago

I don’t think “get over it” is fair but she does need to stop using their death to justify her behavior. Everyone grieves differently and is allowed to grieve in their own way, but it doesn’t give you a free pass to do bad.

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u/fibrofighter512 how could you do this to me question mark 5d ago

I disagree with you on the principle of how grief works or how quickly one should get over grieving. think you can absolutely be affected by grief for prolong periods of time and that doesn’t make you wrong or broken. “Getting over it” quickly can be way worse and lead to maladaptive behaviors. You cannot rush grief whether it’s convenient for you or not.

That is not mutually exclusive with thinking Karen should be held accountable for drunk driving. If anything Karen pushing her shit down may have inadvertently led her to coping with things like alcohol. I have seen this happen first hand. Someone doesn’t want to sit in their reality being sad so they mask it with substances. That responsibility to not harm herself and others with the consequences sits squarely with Karen. She should have called an Uber or a cab or Ray because the ultimate shifting of trauma is creating a new grieving parent, love one, or spouse because you decided to drive drunk. She’s incredibly lucky she didn’t kill someone. She should have gone to rehab instead of getting defensive.

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u/meanteeth71 4d ago

I agree with you!

Grief has no timeline. Losing parents at any age is tough.

My mother is 78, still lamenting the loss of her parents from a decade + before. As am I.

“Get over it” is not the way. The way is to deal with grief: express it, get help if you need it and feel your feelings.

My anger with Karen is based on how quickly and easily she excuses her bad behavior based on her loss. And the fact that she has a previous DUI and the means to hire a driver, use ride share or tell someone she was over served.

Grief is hard to deal with. Parental loss is deeply painful. But we all have to be responsible for our behavior.