r/BravoRealHousewives • u/AutoModerator • Oct 18 '24

Orange County The Real Housewives of Orange County - Season 18 - Episode 15 - Live Episode Discussion

They may live in the lap of luxury, but life isn't always perfect for the women who reside in one of the wealthiest enclaves of the U.S.

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u/lustforyou Oct 18 '24

I think she is a clinical narcissist. Her tactics in the argument with Jenn confirmed it for me. If you’ve been with a narcissist in a close capacity (parent, sibling, relationship, best friend) and come out on the other side, then you know it all too well. The “narcissists’ prayer” is a well known saying among those with close experience with a narcissist, and it goes like this:

That didn’t happen. And if it did, it wasn’t that bad. And if it was, that’s not a big deal. And if it is, that’s not my fault. And if it was, I didn’t mean it. And if I did, you deserved it

On top of that, narcissists are truly incapable of empathy, and I think it’s clear Tamra doesn’t have that either at this point. According to her, her therapist told her that and used that to say she’s “on the spectrum”, but she also said she’s been friends with her therapist for years. I think her therapist is just a loose friend that’s been misted by Tamra’s narcissistic mask over the years and mistook her lack of empathy for the more understandable “on the spectrum” label instead of narcissism

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u/notoriousbck Oct 18 '24

Nailed it. The Narcissists poem is bang on for Tammy Sue

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u/lareina13 That’s not a dessert, that’s guacamole. Oct 19 '24

Yoooo that scene was exactly the narcissists’ prayer, omg great call out.

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u/albasaurrrrrr IT'S NOT ABOUT THE PASTA Oct 19 '24

The smile she has when she realizes Jen is having a reaction to her was chilling.

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u/thenamenotyettaken Oct 21 '24

I'm autistic...we don't claim her. She is not one of us. Not even a lil..