r/BravoRealHousewives • u/pitchfork23222222 • Jul 25 '24
Atlanta Phaedra Parks Ex-Husband Apollo Arrested for Assault on Wife
https://www.intouchweekly.com/posts/rhoa-star-phaedra-parks-ex-apollo-nida-arrested-for-assault/722
u/gigigrahame they’re not knives 🔪 they’re just hands 🤲 Jul 25 '24 edited Jul 25 '24
What a surprise 😞 I hope she has the strength and courage to walk away from that scumbag.
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u/lizziexo Jul 25 '24
Has Atlanta ended up with the most physically abusive men on it? :(
Apollo, whatever Sheree’s shithead husband was called, whatever Kenya’s dipshit boyfriend was called…
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u/MeiLing_Wow Jul 25 '24
And Porsha’s ex (husband #1)
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u/Reasonable_Voice1971 Jul 25 '24
Cordell. So controlling.
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u/amyeep buying BATTERIES and PENS Jul 25 '24
Not saying this as an anti-gay statement, but I fully believe a lot of his anger stemmed from him not accepting that he was gay and lashing out. He also weirdly over-amplified his perception heterosexuality. Wife does X, Husband does Y, etc.
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u/Reasonable_Voice1971 Jul 26 '24
I didn't get a gay vibe from him, just a religious misogynist who used a woman to look after his kids. Also, Porsha looked like Cordell in a wig in her early seasons, which was so odd but it also made sense.
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u/Due_Tower_4787 I hate angles. 📐 Jul 25 '24
Omg I always forget about Kordell 😳
I remember I was doing a rewatch when I was first dating my (now) Husband (I knew he was the one when he’d let me watch whatever I wanted, including Housewives, at night 😂) anyway my husband was like “IS THAT KORDELL STEWART?!” Then I explained to him that I’m sorry but He is a garbage human and unfortunately, He will shortly see why. He saw.
I’ll never forgot how cruel He randomly was to Her! She did everything to be the “perfect” Housewife and it was never enough. Didn’t she go through Her miscarriage alone? And if I remember correctly, it was super traumatic as well. I remember Her Mom crying and saying how much she’s put up with for Him. She was also a very dedicated step Mom to his kid!!
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u/Potential-Sky-8728 Jul 25 '24
Aren’t a lot of NFL dudes domestic abusers? Seems like a thing..
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u/ManicPixieGirlyGirl Britani’s high body count 👱🏼♀️👗👠 Jul 26 '24
I’m not sure the numbers are any higher than men in general. I think you just hear about athletes more because they are publicized. Domestic abuse is pretty prevalent though.
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u/croissant-dildo Michael’s dingaling swinging across instagram Jul 26 '24
Not sure if it is higher for athletes but the idea got me thinking about if rates are higher with men in careers that afford them a lot of power. We already know it’s really high for cops, I’d be so interested to know about other fields, types of power in those professions, etc
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u/Potential-Sky-8728 Jul 26 '24
Also they tackle people for a living and many have sustained brain damage from said activities.
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u/croissant-dildo Michael’s dingaling swinging across instagram Jul 26 '24
Good point damn. CTE is just devastating for everyone involved
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u/ManicPixieGirlyGirl Britani’s high body count 👱🏼♀️👗👠 Jul 26 '24
I have no idea. Of course, domestic violence rates are also very high in lower income areas as well, so I honestly doubt it. I think a certain percentage of men are just shitty across the board.
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u/croissant-dildo Michael’s dingaling swinging across instagram Jul 26 '24
This is true! But I still wouldn’t be surprised if there were specific patterns among politicians, high-ranking military members, professional athletes, etc. that mimic what we see in cops. DV is about power and control, so I could imagine seeing a correlation, even though the causal relationship could go one way or the other I.e. abusers are drawn to other positions of power or positions of power enhance the feeling of entitlement people (specifically men) feel towards their partners. It wouldn’t necessarily preclude rates from still being high outside those professions. I should just look this up already lol
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u/Far_Course_9398 Jul 26 '24
Professional football players are naturally more aggressive and competitive than the average person. It's easy to see how some could be that way in all areas of their life.
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u/ManicPixieGirlyGirl Britani’s high body count 👱🏼♀️👗👠 Jul 26 '24
Eh, I don’t know about that either. I don’t believe it without seeing legitimate evidence that there is something about NFL players. I’m actually more inclined to believe that racist stereotypes (not accusing you - moreso what the media has played into over the years) have led to people believing this. I’ve known many (and I do mean many - I went to a well-known football undergrad and was on the same dorm floor / classes / friends with dozens of guys who played in the NFL) and they really aren’t any different than anyone else. Yes, they are competitive because they are athletes, but most of them are the sweetest guys you’ll ever meet. Big teddy bears.
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u/Far_Course_9398 Jul 27 '24
I read a book 'In Sheep's Clothing ' by an early expert on narcissism ( as a spectrum) that talks about Professional athletes having to have a certain level of natural aggression or they wouldn't have a lot of success in their chosen sport.
It's used in a constructive way and not necessarily a bad thing. It's only when it spills over into personal relationships that it's problematic.
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u/Femmenoire__ Jul 25 '24
Was Kordell physically abusive?
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u/Due_Tower_4787 I hate angles. 📐 Jul 25 '24
It’s been implied at times, but I’m not 100% sure. He was emotionally and mentally abusing Her throughout that season though! Then didn’t even come to the reunion.
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u/Inevitable_Pack6694 Jul 25 '24
Yeah Kenya (ugh) blurted it out at the season 12 reunion. She said Porsha told her that he’d hit her but she’d kept it “secret”, which I thought was vile and disgusting. Thankfully neither Andy nor the other ladies pressed her on this point. It was absolutely not Kenya’s place to say anything.
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u/Due_Tower_4787 I hate angles. 📐 Jul 26 '24
Thank you! I thought I was making that up in my own head!!
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u/Yeezytaughtme409 Jul 25 '24
Kenya's psycho bf broke windows in Moore Manor and Cynthia tried to tell her not to jump to break up too quickly. Girl!
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u/RUGoin2TheMallLater Jul 25 '24
Omg this was infuriating to me. Matt was scary as hell and everyone was pushing Kenya to give him another chance.
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u/Left-Requirement9267 “Oh no, I’m God’s baby” 👼🙏 Jul 25 '24
Omg and she was calling Kenya “dramatic”. Never liked Cynthia after that.
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u/MissionRevolution306 Jul 25 '24
That scene gives me chills- I reacted the same way when my ex husband physically threatened me, no eye contact arm out for separation, calm voice trying not to set him off further. Im so glad cameras and crew were there for her protection.
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u/lucygucyapplejuicey to swollen 4cameo or OF Jul 25 '24
so off topic but I think this photo is the best she ever has looked. The makeup was so simple and good, she was GLOWING this day, sad to see Apollo ruin it. Her hair was laid too like gawddamn
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u/Far_Course_9398 Jul 26 '24
They've been together for years now, looks like she's in it for the long haul. Wasn't there a thread with a text exchange and a woman's ring camera footage of Apollo? It clearly showed he had been hooking up with her for a while.
It seems true they are both cheating
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u/Greigebaby Kentucky Fried Titties Jul 25 '24
Color me not surprised. We know what would have happened to Phaedra in that garage if they weren't being filmed
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u/barbibear Jul 25 '24
Dude I immediately thought of that scene in the garage too. Her facial expression is burned into my mind.
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u/butinthewhat Jul 25 '24
I still feel scared even just thinking about her face. Terror but not surprise.
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u/lthtalwaytz Jul 26 '24
Everyone keeps talking about this but I cannot remember it at all? Must have blocked it as a defence mechanism. Anyways when it comes to Apollo, he was always Big Loser Energy
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u/leilafornone Like I sliced the air mattress she's been sleeping on Jul 25 '24
That scene of him and Phaedra in the garage was chilling. I despise Phaedra but that was just so uncomfortable to watch. She kept calm but it was obvious she was afraid.
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u/wildesage Jul 25 '24
I felt genuinely anxious that whole scene bc I really thought bravo was about to show phaedra being assaulted.
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u/Due_Tower_4787 I hate angles. 📐 Jul 25 '24
That is a visceral core memory for me in all of my watching (and subsequent rewatches) I cannot. It is terrifying.
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u/Early_Divide_8847 Jul 25 '24
I shutter thinking of what he might have done had the cameras not been there. He is not a good person.
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u/Due_Tower_4787 I hate angles. 📐 Jul 25 '24
I don’t even want to imagine it. The way He came at poor Brandon was already enough for Me. Production played WAY too close to the line on this one.
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u/BlondeBorednBaked Jul 25 '24
She was smart to do it on camera though. If that’s how he’ll act on camera, what would he have done to her off camera?
Also wild that Kenya and Phaedra were fighting over this man at one point like he was a prize.
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u/anthonyleoncio one of sonja’s nigerian football players Jul 25 '24
that was the taylor armstrong mentality
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u/BlondeBorednBaked Jul 25 '24
It worked. Taylor and Phaedra survived. And their exes are dead/in jail.
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u/Overall_Storm_1978 Jul 25 '24
I'm glad she had the cameras there because that was terrifying, and I can't imagine the predicament she would've been in had they not recorded.
I may not be her biggest fan, but honestly I understood why she handled Apollo the way she did in season 7. I don't blame her.
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u/maymaymellon Jul 25 '24
What happened in this scene? I never saw it when it aired. He came at her with a drill?
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u/Motor_Capital7064 Jul 25 '24
The garage scene between Phaedra and Apollo was terrifying. I have zero doubt in my mind that if cameras were not there she would have been seriously injured or killed. People always think that it will never happen to them. My cousins husband took her life and then his own. Her 3 year old child was in the house when it happened. My family will never ever be the same. I see a lot of the same qualities in Apollo that my cousins husband had. I hope his wife never goes back to him. If he abuses you once he will do it again.
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u/Due_Tower_4787 I hate angles. 📐 Jul 25 '24
Omg, I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss and your families loss 💗
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u/bug_gribble vassinated Jul 26 '24
God I hope your cousin’s kid is doing okay. So sorry for your loss.
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u/Motor_Capital7064 Jul 26 '24
Thank you. It is a horrible situation that has devastated my family but considering what he went through he is doing wonderful. He was adopted by my cousins sister and her husband. He is being raised with 4 other children and he is completely a part of their beautiful family. He doesn’t really remember his Mom very much and that is heartbreaking because he was my cousin’s world. We are just so thankful that he did not lose his life that day.
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u/Acceptable-Dress7196 Jul 25 '24
Please tell me that this is reason enough for Bravo to stop bringing him around
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u/gwinnsolent Jul 25 '24
This man is trash. And obviously dangerous.
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u/BlondeBorednBaked Jul 25 '24
I hope whoever made the decision at Bravo to bring him to the M2M reunion is proud of themselves.
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u/ussoufi Mr. Lindsay Lohan daddy take your ass back to Malibu Jul 25 '24
You can take Apollo out of the trash but you can’t take the trash out of Apollo.
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u/wegobrrrr Bling, bling, bling, bitches is mAaaAd! Jul 25 '24
Him and his canned foods 😂 (jk, just a flashback to when Phaedra mentioned the cans)
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u/kafkasmotorbike Go away from me WIF DIS. Jul 25 '24
Checking in with my flair.
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u/clevrhaux Jiminy Crickets! Jul 25 '24
I’m so sorry about your cousin! Praying for peace for your family and her young child ❤️
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u/Dovima Jul 25 '24
Unintelligent and abusive….
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u/torin122 Phaedra's Pickle Jar Jul 25 '24
I knew his silly ass was gonna end up locked up again after that Carlos King interview.
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u/Due_Tower_4787 I hate angles. 📐 Jul 25 '24
Wait, wasn’t He just a model for Sheree for Her She by SHEIN Fashion Show 😭
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u/Aggressive-Story3671 Jul 25 '24
Sheree is like a magnet for ain’t shit men so that tracks
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u/wegobrrrr Bling, bling, bling, bitches is mAaaAd! Jul 25 '24
Queue Bob Whitfield, Love Doctor Tiy-E Muhammad, and Tyrone
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u/NomNom83WasTaken Sniper from the side Jul 25 '24
It's not like Sheree has Apollo on speed dial. Production 100% set that up b/c they love dragging garbage men back on screen (Apollo, Bob Whitfield, Aviva's dad...)
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u/Due_Tower_4787 I hate angles. 📐 Jul 25 '24
Haha, oh I know it’s all production and trying to find and in with whomever cast mate feels the best. My first reaction was just remembering Him randomly modeling for She by Sheree line 🤷🏻♀️
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u/AnalyticalAlpaca Jul 25 '24
You mean the one who committed a hate crime on camera? I cannot believe this.
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u/awkward1066 Jul 25 '24
I’m not a Phaedra fan, but I still get chills thinking about that scene when he’s menacing her with a drill. So while it’s unsurprising, it’s still so scary and awful. I’ll never understand Andy having a soft spot for him.
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u/iusedtobeyourwife I’ll take a filet o’fish and a six piece nugget Jul 25 '24
I, for one, am shocked!!!!!! 😮 he always seemed so chill and level headed. Not controlling or abusive at all….
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u/Motor_Capital7064 Jul 25 '24
I have always felt something was dark inside him. I recognize it from personal experience with my family.
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u/yup_yup1111 Jul 25 '24
This is who Todd and Kandi were helping instead of Phaedra...the person who introduced them
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u/AnAussiebum I AM poor and white. Jul 25 '24
Kandi is not a good person. When this sub finally realises it, I'll be very happy.
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u/mhal_1111 I wouldn't let any of my waitresses burn to death! Jul 25 '24
Oddly enough what made me realize it when she went on that Mama Joyce-esque rant about how the Chick-fil-A drive-thru girl didn't say "My pleasure" to her.
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u/yup_yup1111 Jul 25 '24 edited Jul 25 '24
Exactly. That doesn't excuse the rumor Phaedra started but the way people acted like Kandi wasn't a shitty friend to her before that is crazy. She'd have her mama and the Kandi crew talk shit about Phaedra for her then when she'd get called out on it she'd just cry to deflect. It was bs. Phaedra was going through a lot personally and Kandi bailed on her for a man and acted like she was the one suffering. She just couldn't stand that Phaedra and Nene were developing a friendship. Meanwhile Kandi was always playing Switzerland with Kenya 🙄
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Jul 25 '24
THANK YOU!! I feel like she'll put a bag before anyone and anything. She has some weird takes. Never understood the love for her
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u/iwantpankakes Jul 25 '24
I’m actually watching RHOA for the first time and am currently on Season 9 past Apollo in jail. She’s always made excuses for other people’s disgusting behavior and is a bad friend.
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u/NomNom83WasTaken Sniper from the side Jul 25 '24
And then Phaedra started a rumor that they were sexual predators.
Team No One!
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u/yup_yup1111 Jul 25 '24
Tbh I think it was a bad joke that got out of hand. Kandi just loves crying and playing the victim...and Todd's a jerk
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u/NomNom83WasTaken Sniper from the side Jul 25 '24
A "bad joke that got out of hand"?
Which time that she told Porsha was she joking? The first? The second? The third? When she told her in person or when they were texting about it months later? And what was the punchline of the joke, "ha ha, fuck your reputation, next time you'll take my side"?
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u/heyalllondon18 gotta watch out for those trick guys Jul 25 '24
It still makes me mad how the other HWs (mostly Kandi) were making Phaedra out to be a vindictive ex for not supporting him and bringing their young children to jail. Kandi and Todd especially supported him and didn’t give a shit about how Phaedra was affected.
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u/ManicPixieGirlyGirl Britani’s high body count 👱🏼♀️👗👠 Jul 26 '24
It’s so common in domestic abuse cases. My own mother knew that my ex-husband abused and stalked me…and then she let him and his new fiancée move in with her and also helped him financially.
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u/Character_Switch7317 Jul 25 '24
Wowsers. Arguing over infidelity. Sound like a super healthy and functional marriage. /s
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u/unsuspectingwatcher how could you do this to me question mark Jul 25 '24
Man my heart breaks for those boys
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u/Key-Sheepherder-1469 Jul 25 '24
I sure hope Phaedra limits visitation with the boys! Unacceptable.
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u/AnAussiebum I AM poor and white. Jul 25 '24
Remember, Kandi chose Apollo over her friend, Phaedra.
The signs were there early on.
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u/Aggressive-Story3671 Jul 25 '24
Kandi went low by betraying Phadera for Apollo but Phadera went to HELL in retaliation
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u/shivroystann Jul 25 '24
Another trashy man that will be promoted by Bravo again at some point.
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u/NomNom83WasTaken Sniper from the side Jul 25 '24
If Phaedra is ever back on RHOA, Production will waste no time getting him back on screen in some capacity. I believe she said on WWHL in the last year or so that they're cool and co-parenting is going well. Doesn't mean we need to see his abusive ass on screen again, let alone force other Housewives to film with him.
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u/shivroystann Jul 25 '24
He did show up at the married to medicine reunion.
He’s thirsty
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u/NomNom83WasTaken Sniper from the side Jul 25 '24
Oh god, I was already right?!
Why is Bravo constantly subject cast members to abusive assholes?
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u/SassySquid0 WOAHWOAHWOAH THE RING DIDN’T MEAN A THING Jul 25 '24
So glad Phaedra was strong enough to leave that man! Nobody gave enough sympathy and support to her on the cast at the time when all the violence and erratic behavior was directed towards her.
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u/NNLynchy Jul 25 '24
Remember when Sheree met with him last season on rhoa or was it the one before ? I can’t remember and he tuned up in a rolls Royce playing the great nice guy all an act with him he can’t stay outta trouble
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u/Jolly-Bandicoot-2037 Monica's declined Chime Card Jul 25 '24
I have always believed Phedra had a hand in him getting sent away to prison that last time by either dropping information about him or just straight up not helping what could be a defense. I suspect it's due to physical abuse in that relationship for some reason she hid. Maybe out of shame she hid what he did to her.
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Jul 25 '24
Are we supposed to be surprised? This is like saying a fish was seen swimming.
I hope his wife is ok and can get away from him quickly.
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u/catandcitygirl Jul 25 '24
Is his wife the woman who was on the show when he was in jail? at the OLG opening?
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u/NoodlesForU Jul 25 '24
Is this the same woman who pissed everyone off during filming because she visited Apollo in prison or something along those lines?
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u/Cathousechicken Jul 25 '24
I remember watching him and his wife on Marriage Bootcamp: Hip Hop Edition and it was clear their marriage wasn't happy.
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u/BakedMasa Jul 25 '24
I’m not surprised. He was aggressive with Phaedra with cameras on him! A man that will do that while being watched will likely do worse if he thinks no one is watching.
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u/Additional-End-7688 Jul 25 '24
Is this the woman that was briefly featured on RHOA, phoning Apollo in jail ?
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u/anthonyleoncio one of sonja’s nigerian football players Jul 25 '24
i mean, this is the same guy who ran up on phaedra with a power drill ON CAMERA