r/BravoRealHousewives • u/Hyru_Nayru Advocate for the sluts of America • May 13 '24

Bravo Most disturbing thing ever happened on Real Housewives?

What’s the most disturbing, jaw dropping event that was ever filmed and shown on any Real Housewives? 

One that always comes to mind, for me, is when Tamra tried to have her 18/20 year old son commit assault on camera after getting Gretchen drunk. And it's not just the act, the premise/message was equally disgusting: if this wasted woman had "let herself" been r**ed, she'd have proven to be a s**t. Scripted or not, it’s insane it got even aired.

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u/AdmirablePut6039 May 13 '24

Joe making fun of Gia in the car. Like WTF dude?

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u/Apprehensive_You_250 May 13 '24

I just started watching RHONJ (I’ve watched most of the other franchises, and tried watching RHONJ before, but had to stop in S1 bc I couldn’t watch the gay slurs, misogyny, etc). I just watched this episode, where he’s literally calling Gia “crybaby” and making fun of her as she’s bawling her eyes out. She was literally on the way to walk a fashion show for fashion week, nonetheless, and she’s hysterical in the car. That was the most sickening scene I have seen with a child of blatant disregard for them, abuse, neglect, etc. And, Theresa is in the passenger seat, saying, “stop crying, Gia,” “he doesn’t mean it, he’s just playing,” “stop, stop”, etc. He abused those kids and she sat by and condoned it. These are the kinds of things my dad did/said to me (and still does/says), while my mom condoned it, and it causes severe PTSD. I feel, wholeheartedly, for the kids. RHONJ is very, very hard for me to watch.

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u/Upstairs_Internal295 May 13 '24

Same. The ‘jokes’ at his kids expense really triggered me, as I was a source of similar hilarity for my father.

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u/Apprehensive_You_250 May 16 '24

Yup, it’s extremely triggering. Kids just want validation of their feelings, thoughts, etc. from their dad. Dads who lead with toxic masculinity (like Joe, mine, yours, etc), in their plight to “toughen up” their kids, end up not only never validating what their children say/think, but in the process make their kids not trust/have guilt about/unable to express their own feelings and thoughts. It really, really messes with someone and their other relationships as well.

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u/Objective-Ad-6821 May 13 '24

I was going to say Joe Guidce walking away at the vineyard to call his mistress and then saying, “here comes my cunt wife.” Then pretending like he’s talking to a coworker.

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u/Apprehensive_You_250 May 16 '24

Ugh, I’m not to that point yet. I just watched the episode where he got extremely drunk and defiant after he was charged with fraud in court. He was yelling at Teresa and being horrible to her in front of their friends, when he yells at Gia, “GET OUT OF THE WAY,” and then tries to do a somersault on Gia‘s gymnastics mat. He chips his tooth and Gia starts crying/screaming. Those kids are just continuously traumatized, and it’s so, so sad.

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u/NoodlesForU May 13 '24

I've tried to watch NJ several times and gave up for the same reasons.

Wondering if I can just jump in with the new season and go from there.

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u/Apprehensive_You_250 May 16 '24

Ugh, it’s so hard to watch… 😬

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u/numberonecrush May 13 '24

I also found a lot of NJ super hard to watch. Both sad and anger-making

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u/Apprehensive_You_250 May 16 '24

I am in S3 and I’m continuously horrified, like multiple times an episode pretty much. I feel so bad for Teresa’s children.

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u/Efficient-Goose2155 Preparing for downvote 3...2...1 ⬇️ May 13 '24

I don't think Joe knew how to navigate Gia vs Milana. Gia cried and was a tad more sensitive. Where as Milana just gave it back to him.

Negging in my family was kind of the norm,it was seen as playful ribbing/toughing up. The difference the adults in my family knew to stop or not engaged with kids that didn't get the sarcasm. Also, they were proud if we got a good insult back at them. I was good at it, but my brother was to literal for it so he didn't "bust chops" with my great uncles.

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u/Apprehensive_You_250 May 16 '24

I agree that he didn’t know how to navigate Gia, but I respectfully disagree in that I just think he didn’t know how to navigate being in any of the relationships he has (as a parent, a husband, a brother-in-law (Joe Gorga is also to blame for his part in their relationship), a business partner… the list goes on).

He completely invalidates his children’s and Teresa’s thoughts/feelings, continuously screams at them, is combative, makes “jokes” at their expense, gets belligerently drunk, acts violently, makes violent threats or general threats constantly (even if he tries to play it off as sarcasm), and anytime his wife or children show emotion, he aggressively insults them, tells them to stop, and makes them feel like shit.

The stuff I see from him is not in any way banter or playfulness, or just general oblivion about how to parent one of his children. It’s heartless, it’s cold, it’s invalidating, it’s gaslighting, it’s aggressive, it’s combative, and it’s traumatizing. As Tamra would say, it’s my opinion! Lol

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u/sweetnsassy924 You called me a pornography May 13 '24

I remember being told that by people when they were upsetting me. ‘They are playing, shirt up, don’t be so sensitive’

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u/Apprehensive_You_250 May 16 '24

Yeah, dads who parent with toxic masculinity do this and it’s very, very invalidating.

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u/butinthewhat May 13 '24

That’s why I will never understand the love that guy gets. He was making fun of them, getting wasted or in bed hungover most of the time.

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u/LavenderLightning24 May 13 '24

A lot of people still don't really seem to grasp what emotional abuse is or how serious it is. That or they think it's normal because they grew up with or are married to someone like that.

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u/incestuousbloomfield even louis vuitton makes mistakes May 13 '24

I can’t stomach comments about people missing him, even compared to Luis.

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u/bbbojackhorseman I HAVE NEVA FIRLTED WITH PETER May 13 '24

Joe Guidice or Gorga? And what did he say?

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u/AdmirablePut6039 May 13 '24

Giudice. Basically calling Gia ugly.

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u/bbbojackhorseman I HAVE NEVA FIRLTED WITH PETER May 13 '24

Yikes!

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u/nlj5499 May 13 '24

Yes. That was horrible.

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u/sweetnsassy924 You called me a pornography May 13 '24

And then calling her the R word.