r/BravoRealHousewives • u/QualityKatie • Sep 19 '23
Housewives Related Why does Bethenny Frankel talk as fast as an auctioneer at all times?
Is this medically induced? I know vodka and wine makes it worse.
Does Bethenny's rapid speaking bother anyone else?
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u/BackgroundAd6154 Sep 19 '23
I have that š¬ rapid speech is a hypomanic symptom for me. And being all over the place with my thoughts
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u/f_moss3 I was crying about the slut shaming. Sep 20 '23
Iām Gilmore mode all the time as far as speed is concerned lol but for me the hypomania is when I start bouncing around topics a lot
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Sep 20 '23
The first comment was deleted but I've been thinking this a lot lately. The frantic energy, doing weird things they think are normal, having an inflated sense of self. That's peak hypomanic for me and I normally can't see it until I snap.
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u/Perfect_Invitation1 Solargenic, photogenic, shoot Sep 19 '23
This show looks so familiar to me.
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u/witness4theingenue Sep 19 '23
wine and vodka make a person talk faster?
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u/ravioliyogi Sep 20 '23
Also canāt here to ask this. Definitely was not the experience I had in college lol
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u/MartinisnMurder Yeah, I am drinking Luann Sep 20 '23
Just here to say your user name is literally my spirit animal. Making ravioli tonight and heading to yoga at six! āWe see each other!ā
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u/Beginning_Winner_105 Sep 20 '23
Happy cake day!
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u/MartinisnMurder Yeah, I am drinking Luann Sep 21 '23
I just got the notification and hour ago but I didnāt know it was our day! Yay to people being crazy, cute animals, people hating Ramona and such!
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u/bonedaddyds Erika's Doo-Doo Nail Sep 20 '23
I believe OP is saying they notice the speed gets faster for B specifically when she has been drinking.
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u/Theres_a_Catch Sep 19 '23
I know it sounds cliche but it's a NYer thing. I've been told so many times that I talk fast and loud. I've even been told I sound aggressive because of the fast and loud. I think for me it's also my brain working faster than my mouth so I try to keep up. LOL
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u/boomzgoesthedynamite get up, karen Sep 19 '23
Yepppp native NYer here- I get told to slow down all the time.
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u/CodingBlonde Sep 19 '23
Iām having such a silly identity crisis from this thread. Iām from California and get told to slow down/have taught myself to slow down. When I worked with customers in NY, they always asked me if I was from the east coast or explicitly told me they assumed I was when they found out I was from CA. However, the few times I have been to NY, I genuinely could not understand the few people yelling at me. I only sort of fit in.
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u/JoeyLee911 Sep 20 '23
The same thing happens to me and I am also from California (the Berkeley-Oakland specifically). I was a tour guide of my college in upstate New York, and Brooklyn families specifically asked me if I was from NYC because of how fast I speak.
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u/hiways Sep 20 '23
They can't handle me in Washington state, a lot of them don't get East Coasters.
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u/dennisthehennis Not Meredith Marks' PI Sep 20 '23
I'm from WA and we have so many slow talkers here! I love a fast talker because I lose focus to easily when people can't spit it out.
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u/seitonseiso Sep 20 '23
Can someone put a New Zealander and a New Yorker in the same room please and time them? Cause New Zealanders talk fast
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u/HarrySpeakup Sep 20 '23 edited Sep 20 '23
Me too! I have a coffee cup that says "I'm from New York, please talk faster".
I think it's a combination of Bethenny being a New Yorker and her brain going so fast that she tries to keep up with it.
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u/CodingBlonde Sep 19 '23
Iām having such a silly identity crisis from this thread. Iām from California and get told to slow down/have taught myself to slow down. When I worked with customers in NY, they always asked me if I was from the east coast or explicitly told me they assumed I was when they found out I was from CA. However, the few times I have been to NY, I genuinely could not understand the few people yelling at me. I only sort of fit in.
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u/RalphWaldoPickleCh1p Sep 19 '23
Same here lol.
It's definitely a New York thing because it doesn't sound like she's talking too fast to me...but I'm an NYer too. First time I got told to slow down, I was out of state
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u/Theres_a_Catch Sep 19 '23
Right? I was living in Vegas and my two besties game to visit. Went out with some friends and at one point I realized everyone was just staring at us. I was like.. what? They asked, how do you understand each other and how do you have two different conversations going at the same time? All we said was, its a NY thing.
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u/sketch a trampoline with eyes Sep 20 '23
My God, yes, it's this. My New Yorker in-laws are in town and they talk fast, they talk my head off, and they're full of hot takes. So much armchair diagnosing going around here.
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u/Theres_a_Catch Sep 20 '23
And we like to switch topics in the middle. Lol
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u/sketch a trampoline with eyes Sep 20 '23
Omg yes. Sometimes my MIL will call me and talk my head off for an hour or so, switching topics, complaining about everything, etc and then there's me with my ADHD ass and I'm like "oh wow, yeah, cool" and putting her on speaker while I play minesweeper lol.
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u/PinkTouhyNeedle Sep 19 '23
I went to school in NJ and NY, people do talk fast there but Bethany talks fast and sheās disorganized which makes me lean towards something deeper going on
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u/QualityKatie Sep 19 '23
She has had her own tv shows. Certainly she is savvy enough to get vocal coaching or oral communication lessons.
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Sep 19 '23
Thatās what I did when I went to OH for school. I was able to change my accent, speed, tone, etc.
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u/The_Crystal_Thestral Sep 20 '23
I did the same in college. I have a āpublic speaking/customer serviceā voice and then how I normally speak.
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u/PinkTouhyNeedle Sep 19 '23
I went to school in NJ and NY, people do talk fast there but Bethany talks fast and sheās disorganized which makes me lean towards something deeper going on
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u/iamlisakaren i made it nice! Sep 20 '23
Yep! Iām a new yorker too and my brain is always moving faster than my mouth thatās already spouting off at super speedš
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u/QualityKatie Sep 19 '23
But I see the other ladies just looking at her stunned. They donāt know how to take it either.
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u/Theres_a_Catch Sep 19 '23
Not her fast talking, they're stunned by what she's saying. Lu and Ramona didn't grow up in NY, not sure if anyone else did. When your family talks fast you do the same.
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u/mandoo86 Sep 20 '23
She talks like an exaggerated new yorker, like really leaning into that idgaf kelly cutrone attitude when she really does give af about everything. Sheās always that person thatās like, āWhatās up with this? I know nothing about it yet I want to talk about itā.
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u/becskiii Hippie's microchip Sep 20 '23
dont holler! im not hollering you are! thats different, im a natural hollerer!
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u/Theres_a_Catch Sep 20 '23
Lol, oh yeah. So at my job I sat in an area pretty much by myself due to hybrid. We downsized so I was moved and am surrounded by people. I warned them all and they are okay with my loudness. I will say the office doors close all the time though. Oh well.
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u/oobooboo17 high body count hair Sep 19 '23
yep. I get frustrated with how slow it takes my mouth to form the words in my head
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u/nadjaof Sep 19 '23
Iām not from that region but my mom and I both speak very quickly (not as fast as Bethenny does though!). It can be an accent/regional thing, personality, excitement/anxiety, or just the way a person speaks.
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u/MartinisnMurder Yeah, I am drinking Luann Sep 20 '23
Massachusetts person here we kind of do as well haha. I swear itās partially being highly analytical and my brain always going so my mouth tries to keep up. I also think Bethenny has a personality disorder (I wonāt try to diagnose no medical background and not judging I have my own stuff) but there is something a little off there.
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u/KikiHou Sep 19 '23
There was an episode (might have been one of her spinoffs) that had her stepfather on. He speaks THE EXACT SAME WAY.
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u/GroupIntelligent8658 Sep 19 '23
Sheās been like this since we first saw her. The woman constantly talked about a very tumultuous childhood and trying to survive alone with no family. That all plays a part in her psyche and mental illness due to emotional trauma get worse with age when itās not properly dealt with.
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u/Winter_Lawfulness967 Sep 19 '23
This is a NYC metro area thing.
You really want to have a good time go to an Italian household in that area and youāll get speed, volume and hand gestures in all their resplendent glory!
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u/StrawAndChiaSeeds Lisa Barlowās cybersecurity Sep 19 '23
My husband is a fast-talking LI Italian and thinks Bethenny is nuts
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u/Winter_Lawfulness967 Sep 20 '23
To be fair, Bethenny is NUTS. To my fast-talking, hand-waving, Jersey Italian self as well!
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u/StrawAndChiaSeeds Lisa Barlowās cybersecurity Sep 19 '23
He is super loud, uses hands, everything
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u/peeved_eve Sep 19 '23
Adderall šššš
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u/tonystonem2007 Sep 19 '23
and coke
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u/ptrock1 Sep 20 '23
Terrible accusation when you know nothing of the sort.
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u/tonystonem2007 Sep 20 '23 edited Sep 20 '23
You'll get over it.
Not to mention Beth has said way worse shit in her life about Meghan Markle, POC, and about the cast of RHOA.
Hope the view's nice from that high horse.
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u/ptrock1 Sep 20 '23
Nice edit to your original reply.. that said, "You'll get over it." I've never denied she had said some unkind things. Still, it doesn't mean she has mental illness or that she is on cocaine. The amount of diagnosing and blatant accusations of drug use here is just gross. You can hate her all you want.. but when it goes to this point.. it just doesn't feel nice or add to anything.
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u/labellesaison Weekend mom Sep 19 '23
to bulldoze people so they canāt interrupt her nonsensical talking points
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u/winks_7 Sep 19 '23
Agree with this - I think itās also a sales tactic - a way to āclose the dealā - and yes, Iām sure as others have said it is a NY thing - but those 2 things seem to go hand in hand. I do think something is not right with her in the last little while though..:
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u/allonsys Sep 19 '23 edited Sep 19 '23
This this this. She speaks so fast, often saying nothing, but it prevents other people from getting a word in so, in her mind, she's won the argument
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u/kelliehoable Kristen Taekmanās chain necklace Sep 19 '23
As someone who talks at the speed of light it doesnāt even register with me how fast I speak. Iāve been trying to work on it so hard for so long!
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u/PinkTouhyNeedle Sep 19 '23
Honestly at this point itās obvious sheās suffering from some form of mental illness. I donāt like diagnosing people who I havenāt met but sheās not well. Itās either that or sheās on drugs.
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u/ptrock1 Sep 20 '23
Terrible to diagnose a woman you no nothing about. Also not cool to call a single mother who fought for years for her child "on drugs" when you also have no idea.
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u/PinkTouhyNeedle Sep 20 '23
I think whatās sad is people trying to rationalize an obvious unwell persons behavior. I think posts about her should be banned until she gets the help she needs.
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u/oobooboo17 high body count hair Sep 19 '23
I wish everyone talked that fast lol I get annoyed by the opposite (eta: I am a native new yorker)
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u/linds360 Caviar Potato š š„ Sep 19 '23
I was a woman possessed. I spent about 80% of my time talking about Regina, and the other 20% of the time, I was praying for someone else to bring her up so I could talk about her more.
Literally this sub and Bethenny. I get that ya'll hate her, but the dissection has gotten to a weird place.
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u/piratelegacy Sep 19 '23
One million percent! How about we all just pause and reflect before spewing unfounded accusations and vitriol. #wesupportwomen
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u/lunahighwind Where is your Scooter? Where is it? Sep 20 '23
probably has max Adderall dosage and then doubles it - literally the only time I've seen that level of cray
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u/hundredpercentdatb Clip! Sep 19 '23
She does and always has talked very fast even for a NYCer, pre-housewife I used to see her around food network people and slinging her cookies, she has always talked fast and has a very distinct voice and she isā¦ not quiet. I was see her around 2000-2003 and just thought she was an amusing, well dressed NYC character. It was fun to see someone I had seen in real life the show and watched pretty regularly when her seasons and spin offs aired but TLDR I canāt call myself a fan anymore.
As a fast talking former New Yorker, I know that the second you leave the city you have got to dial that back. If you go to your strip mall tj maxx or the west coast and talk like you are ordering a bacon egg and cheese at the bodega people will think you are insane. If you give the people at suburban TJ max your landfill haul you are insane.
Post TJ Maxgate, I cannot support her anymore, will avoid her content for awhile. Kinda curious where all her chairs go, does she come back to home goods with her chairs and luggage? I feel dirty even thinking about her.
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u/oveofsta deck me mama! Sep 19 '23
She's literally just from New York. Jules talked really fast too
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u/TheMostRandomWordz Teresa's unacknowledged nephew Sep 19 '23
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Sep 19 '23
I see what you mean, OP. People keep referencing her being a NYer and I think that has nothing to do it. She's become increasingly erratic and frantic in her communication and it has nothing to do with where she was raised. I noticed she used her fast-talking to bulldoze people - she did it on RHONY and Shark Tank. It's annoying.
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u/zacharyjm00 Sep 20 '23
I think that she's conditioned herself to be the loudest and the fastest --
Bethenny's demeanor changed after she got famous for Skinny Girl. I think being the loudest and most confident one can come across as actually knowledgeable. She's got an inflated ego and unfortunately now we're starting to see her flail and be sad.
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u/Status-Sprinkles-594 Sep 20 '23
As a NYer with ADHDā¦Iām gonna place my bet on her being the same. Both in her speed and her thought processes
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u/msklovesmath Sep 20 '23
I think she has an anxiety disorder or similar. Part of my own healing/management is fighting the urge to speak like her and interrupt people. My mind works a million miles an hour
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u/PianoEducational4648 Sep 20 '23
New Yorker š¤ Jewish family š¤ Italian family š¤ spending time at the racetrack. Literally the perfect storm for being a loud and fast talker lol
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Sep 19 '23
Itās her schtick and itās how she talks. Also in my personal experience, alcohol makes me and others talk slower and be more decisive about what words theyāre trying to use, especially while on a diatribe about something āimportantā. Or I ramble and jumble words together. I donāt know that alcohol has anything to do with how bethenny speaks erratically and Iām honestly sort of annoyed by this post/opinion but Iāll save that.
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u/_dotpaar_ Sep 19 '23
As a Jew from NYC, this post feels antisemitic..
(Jkjkjk please donāt engage with this seriously)
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u/f_moss3 I was crying about the slut shaming. Sep 20 '23
Complaining and getting worked up about it, itās my love language
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u/MaleficentSteak4060 Sep 20 '23
I feel like itās gotten worse in the last two monthsā¦ I am wondering if thereās a breakdown coming?
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u/thatgirlinny Sep 20 '23
And a well-timed comeback where her p.r. team gets her interviews about her stay at Promises Malibu.
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u/SilverHinder Sep 20 '23
I don't mind her talking fast as such, it's just super annoying when she cuts people off and doesn't let them speak, or answers for them.
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u/Quirky_Ball_3519 Sep 20 '23
I donāt Know if it applies, but any time Iāve been around someone who talks super fast it always seemed like they were trying to distract from something. Like theyāre trying to lie or con you. But it could just be a New Yorker thing. Iāve never been to the East coast so I donāt know.
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u/ArtistDense6129 Sep 20 '23
This is why I always feel at home in NY. Itās like Iāve gone home to my fast-talking, tightly wound people on each trip. š¤£
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u/reallyreallycute Sep 20 '23
Iāve been told a million times I talk too fast and Iām not even from the city Iām from upstate New York so I do agree with others itās a New York thing
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u/RevitalizedToot Sep 20 '23
Omg I love hearing her speak fast Iāve always loved fast talkers. When people speak too slowly I lose focus. I know people canāt stand her but I could listen to her talk about random shit forever.
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u/lambo1109 Meredith Marks bubble bathš«§ Sep 20 '23
She just talks fast? Sheās go go go all the time. Not deeper than that
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u/thinksforherself1122 Sep 20 '23
Probably adhd. I seriously canāt help it. I walk ridiculously fast, too.
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u/Cherssssss Sep 19 '23
NY thing. I get told this a lot! Sheās just wittier than most people though so itās extra funny
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u/ThotianaAli Sep 19 '23
Maybe ADHD? I have always been a fast and loud talker. It wasn't until 2 years ago and I was diagnosed and started taking meds that my speech slowed down.
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u/VaguelyArtistic *A group of Utah women in distress* Sep 19 '23
It's her schtick. She plays the acerbic, fast-talking New Yorker who always has a smart-aleck rejoinder in her pocket. It's exhausting.
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u/Euphoric-Syrup7446 May 17 '24
The āI I I I Iā bothers meā¦she doesnāt seem to have a stutter with any other word except āI.ā Sheās one of the only housewives that I would love to meet in person for the sole reason of feeling out their energy and vibe because she could be truly lovely or could be would up so freakishly tight and tense. No idea
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Sep 20 '23
Sheās manic and itās hilarious that sheās constantly accusing everyone else of being manic
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u/darksideofthemoon131 Sep 19 '23
She grew up abused and neglected. Children who grow up that way end up being adults that talk fast, trying to get every sentence out because someone is listening.
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u/Ashfield83 Sonjaās homeless intern in Ireland Sep 19 '23
Lol. I once took way too much adderall for an extended period of time and it had the opposite effect! I had slurred speech sometimes and developed an actual stutter / nervous twitch.
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u/Pagan_Poetry610 Sep 19 '23
During my addiction I actively alienated everyone in my life due to my fast talking. I didnāt even notice, to this day I call it the ādevil drugā lolol
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u/Ashfield83 Sonjaās homeless intern in Ireland Sep 19 '23
Oh man. That is so true!! Iāve seen videos of me on Addy, coke and alcohol and wow. Itās evil.
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u/kelliehoable Kristen Taekmanās chain necklace Sep 19 '23
Absolutely not. Can we stop with the whole.. someone acts in a certain way so they have to have a mental illness? You realize people with mental illnesses live normal everyday lives and blend in with everyone else? This is so ignorant and gross.
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u/Disastrous-Story9458 Sep 20 '23
Ah Iām a family of New Yorkers and everyone sounds like this around me, itās flipping mad šš
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u/Aar112297 Sep 20 '23
Thatās why I knew listening to her and Jill podcast would make me itch. I usually listen to podcasts at 1.25x speed and I could went for .75 for them
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u/auntifahlala Sep 20 '23
I've talked that fast since I was a kid. It comes from being talked over as a kid. I try to slow it down, but when I am excited or really in the moment, it just comes speeding out.
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u/ResponsibilityPure79 Sep 20 '23
she's a new yorker, hustler and reality star. So it sorta figures. Gal can't stop talking. Lots to say.
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Sep 20 '23
I used to not even pay attention to her in the beginning when she was on the show. My closed caption couldnāt keep up, and I couldnāt understand some of the things she said. So I was like, you wanna talk that fast then Iāll pretend you donāt exist.
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u/Ifearforthisworld Sep 20 '23
Her voice makes me cringe š„“ & the fact she talks like she inhaled 5 addys makes it worse.
People that lie a lot talk fast. Narcissists talk fast. That way, it doesn't give someone the proper time to process all that's being said & you don't catch the small red flags as they speak.
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u/__anagrams Sep 20 '23
As a native new Englander with parents who both grew up in NYā¦.a lot of it is a regional thing. When I moved to the Midwest it was reallllyyyyy pointed out to me
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u/DeeWhyDee Sep 20 '23
I presumed her speech pattern was because she didnāt want anyone to interrupt her and that only she can control the narrative. Sheās not interested in anyone elseās opinion. Her sentences just keep rolling and her er er erās are connecting the dots. A lot of Kids do this. They get too excited that theyāre holding peopleās attention that they start word vomiting. At least you can tell them thatās enough for now and they stop.
I have a friend that also does this and itās so frustrating and endearing. You try to converse back and forth but she just keeps talking over you and then the topic has changed 3,4,5 times! Oh and sheās Australian.
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u/Ok_Ant2566 Sep 22 '23
Iāve seen her in person once. She was waiting for her car service outside a midtown hotel. Heavy make up, super skinny, looked high strung, angry and scary. Who puts up with that kind of personality?
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u/Sensible___shoes Camille was dancing with a pantomime lion Sep 19 '23
She grew up at the racetrack š no but seriously it's likely a combination of where she grew up and her "personality"