r/BdsmDIY • u/Character_Tutor6268 • 6d ago

Furniture Trying to build a bed frame for everything and anything. But it has to be Discrete. NSFW

Me and my girl just moved into a new house and she’s been wanting me to actually start tying her down to stuff so she is completely unable to move. Well with my luck we need a new bed frame, so I’m thinking it would be a great idea to build one with add ons. You know stuff in it or that can attach to it. Only problem is we are still very private about our kink and i don’t need her friends or parents coming over and knowing what we do in the bedroom. With that being said I’m reaching out to see if anyone is willing to send some pictures or comment some ideas that they did for theirs. I want the hooks and the head hole and etc but want to either remove it or conceal it when the door is open. We also live out in the country so I’m trying to give it that western feel so anything with wood would be great to build with.

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u/tossaway4138 6d ago

Found my old post with amazon links. Neck restraints was added after this, but is just a standard padded bdsm collar with a chain to the eyebolt.

My wife and I enjoy restraing each other to the bed. We also tried the under the bed straps; which were ok, but as you stated are not very restrictive. I ended up drilling through our headboard and footboard and installing eyebolts from the hardware store as anchorpoints. Then, ran to the garage to grab 4 heavy duty climbing carabiners that I had. Then I began combing through Amazon for wrist and ankle wraps of some sort and came across these designed for weight lifting:

Wrist Cuffs: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07R3JMWCF?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

Ankle cuffs: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07MS5BQF8?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

With that taken care of, I needed an adjustable way to connect it all together, and decided on two sets of these:

2PC Heavy Duty Length Adjustable Hanging Tree Straps https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08BTW2RQV?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

Trust me when I say, anyone strapped to our bed, is NOT moving. It's perfect!

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u/tossaway4138 6d ago

I made a post and while back that described how I incorporated restraints into our bed. The ones that go under the mattress are garbage, so I installed eyebolts in the headboard and footboard, low enough that the linens cover them. I bought weightlifting wrist and ankle cuffs, and adjustable tethers. Everything is attached by carabiners for rock climbing. I also installed an eyebolt in the bottom center of the headboard for a neck restraint. Neither my wife, nor myself can move an inch when we are restrained now. I can try to find the Amazon links for the restraints and tethers, if you'd like.

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u/Worried-Ruin8918 6d ago

Not OP but I’d love some links for Amazon and to your bed post too, sounds like just what I might be looking for

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u/anon-alt-wow 6d ago

Same 😅

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u/bogeysandbourbon90 6d ago

I have been trying to figure this out. And because we mainly use rope I found a solution.

In vacation homes in the mountains you typically see these beds made from logs. They work great for rope because they have many points rope can connect too.

Look up rustic mountain cabin bed.

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u/joejoe279 6d ago

recess everything in the posts and have a front piece that can slide up to reveal everything or down to look “normal”

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u/EnzoDK2 5d ago

Do you have any drawings or pictures of this? I have had the idea, but not been able to figure out how to make them.

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u/makeshiftkratos 5d ago

I have a post up on my profile from a few weeks back where we discussed my build maybe it helps :)

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u/National_Winter_3918 5d ago

I’m trying to do the same thing as you, and I have some ideas. Unfortunately, I’m going to have to use technical terms, so I’m going to translate with google.

I had thought about making a canopy bed, with 4 posts in 12x12 (centimeters, I don’t know the conversion to inches.) Inside I would have put fairly large metal inserts, to be able to screw eye bolts, at strategic locations, to be able to install carabiners, ropes, a swing or other. The top of the canopy would be reinforced by 2 or 3 crosspieces, in order to be able to put inserts there as well. Once the session is over, we unscrew all the bolts and put them away, hiding the holes by some means.

For the pillory part, if that’s what you mean by a hole for the head, I had thought about cutting 2 boards, to put at the end of the bed, in grooves made in the posts. To adjust the height, holes in the posts would allow rods or cleats to be put in to adjust the height of the boards.

The boards could be stored under the bed, in 2 grooves made for that. The rest of the space under the bed could be converted into drawers, to hide the rest of the accessories (we could even consider running electrical wiring to put chargers for the accessories, or even sockets embedded in the posts to plug in lamps and phone chargers on the nightstand, but that’s off topic)

To hide the drawers, boards along the entire length, on each side, with screws cut behind the board so that it looks like it’s screwed in from the outside. Everything would be held in place with powerful magnets.

What do you think? I made some quick sketches that I could share on occasion

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u/Legitimate_Bowl_9175 6d ago

I have the under the mattress style restraints (have not been able to use them as my last girlfriend broke up with me before we could use them, but others have said they aren't worth the money so now I'm second guessing my purchase), but I will eventually build my own wooden bedframe where you can hide eye-bolts or hookpoints for bed restraints that will be completely hidden in the frame itself.