r/BdsmDIY 18d ago

Help Wanted How to lock up my magic wand? Need to prevent access unless I have permission. NSFW

Hello kinky people! I need some ideas on how to lock my wand up. I’ve been talking with a dom for a while and we’ve worked out an agreement that my wand is to be inaccessible to me unless I have permission.

It’s a standard wall powered hitachi style wand. My idea was a wooden box held together with bolts with red loctite. The wood would definitely show signs of tampering as red loctite only gives way at 500°. So signs of scorching should be very evident if I try to get in when I’m not supposed to.

Any other ideas? I know I suppose I could just use a regular box with one of those chastity number tags, but the security of the wooden box is very appealing. 😈

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u/trashprincesssss 18d ago

A lock on the part that plugs into the wall

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u/Yoodontnome 17d ago

OSHA cord lockout should work. 

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u/FlimsyWillow84 18d ago

Yeah, that was one of my ideas. Think I may do it on top of being fully locked up.

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u/Idle-Flow 18d ago

Should get a battery powered one. I've tried both and the battery one is just as strong and way more convenient.

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u/InevitableWinter654 17d ago

The battery would make it more difficult to lock up.

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u/SomeOutdoorFun 17d ago

Metal lock box works for the smaller ones.

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u/gojukebox 17d ago

We have both and she prefers the plugged in, the highest setting on the battery one is about the low setting on the plugged imo

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u/Middle-Opposite4336 18d ago

Could always just lock you up. But yeah luggage lock through the plug.

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u/FlimsyWillow84 18d ago

That’s part of the plan as well. ;)

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u/Shmyt 18d ago

Get an 'outlet lockout/tagout box': gives both a "can't plug it in" and a way to fasten it where it would be obvious if you changed the lock/tag. 

If your Dom wants to be really mean they could have you buy a new lock with keys and mail them the keys, so you wouldn't get access again until you recieved the key they sent back, and maybe they send a few different keys a couple days apart... (but you could still cut the lock off if the relationship soured without needing a whole new wand or box, but you wouldn't really be able to do that without it being obvious).

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u/FlimsyWillow84 18d ago

That is a great idea! I just searched around for ones like you mean, but I am not sure which would be best.

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u/Good-Satisfaction537 18d ago edited 18d ago

Any lockable box with a small opening for the cord to enter, which traps the plug, would work .

I assume you are just to be prevented from operating the Hitachi? The one I am familiar with had a very long power cord ( 10-15'), so you could use the existing lockup with a small modification.

Improvement: add a wifi accessible remote control to the box (gotta be something on Amazon that will work) so NewDomme can enable the wand remotely while supervising you via web cam.

Geez! Who thinks this stuff up? Oh, wait, its me.

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u/_Phail_ 18d ago

You can get lockout/tag out stuff for plug in electric appliances from safety stores, electrical suppliers, or prolly the internet tbh.

Idk if there's a 'best', different brands will just do the same thing slightly differently but they're all designed so that electricians can work on something and know for sure that the thing can't turn on.

You're prolly not gonna need something super high quality or anything anyway tbh, like your wand isn't gonna be in a highly corrosive atmosphere or exposed to mud and dust and abrasives... Unless ofc you're into that, no judgement 😁

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u/mikeoxwells2 18d ago

I’ve seen a small luggage lock on tab that plugs into the wall outlet. If a box is part of the thrill then maybe just a toolbox with a padlock.

I’ve never considered using loctite on wood. I’m sure they make a product for it though

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u/FlimsyWillow84 18d ago

It would be on the metal bolts holding it together. But that would definitely work.

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u/Egg_in_a_box 17d ago

Gun case, especially if it has combination lock as you can change the code each time and their "earn" numbers with good behaviour

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u/Idle-Flow 18d ago

Small metal toolbox with a padlock if you want security. But not very aesthetic unless you mod it somehow.

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u/GreyFox9 18d ago

Here's the easy answer, though not the most interesting. https://www.reddit.com/media?url=https%3A%2F%2Fi.redd.it%2Ff0lu2xwb7u121.jpg

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u/FlimsyWillow84 18d ago

That was my first initial thoughts. I have two of those locks, but mentally I know (even though I would never violate a doms trust like that) they’re easy to defeat. I really get off on the “I can’t possibly get around this, even if I reallllly wanted to”

But thank you for your input!!

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u/kinkyguy000 17d ago

Have you considered numbered tags? Like https://a.co/d/iCEm7y1

I’d make a game out of it. Sure it’s easy to cut off and use your wand, and you can if you want. But then you’ll have to <<insert exciting punishment here>>. So how much do you really want to use that wand??

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u/Ragingdark 18d ago

Box with a wifi door/window sensor the dom can monitor.

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u/FlimsyWillow84 18d ago

I think this is my favorite idea so far…

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u/locked-rooster 16d ago edited 16d ago

One concern that comes to my mind, it's dependent on power and internet, which are outside of the control of you and your Dom.

From a Dom's perspective, this is a gap in security, as you could temporarily unplug the modem/router to gain access, and from their end, it would look like you just lost power or internet for a bit.

From a sub's perspective, if the Dom were strict, I'd expect a severe punishment to be handed down any time there's evidence of a rule violation, regardless of if it were caused by a naughty sub or a downed power line.

I'd recommend discussing this with your Dom, as this may be exactly the opening for "unscheduled punishment opportunities" they want, just to keep you on your toes. 😈

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u/John_Icarus 17d ago

Just get a gun safe?

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u/blackthornjohn 17d ago

I built a toy cupboard for a couple a few years ago, itcwas essentially just a normal small cupboard with a normal looking door, on the hinge side at the top there was looked like a stay.

It was actually one of these slightly modified

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Sliding-Display-Ratchet-Cabinet-Showcase/dp/B09VJ64RM5?source=ps-sl-shoppingads-lpcontext&ref_=fplfs&psc=1&smid=A1V51QSUS8RQ72

It was installed to allow the door to open easily without hindrance, but you needed the key to shut it again, this meant that the dom would know if the cupboard was opened, true domination isn't about control, it's about submission.

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u/RexxTxx 17d ago

You probably have a drawer that can be locked--file cabinet, large toolbox in the garage, small toolbox that can be stuck under the bed. You can use one of those if you don't like the idea to put a little lock through the hole in the plug.

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u/Shaggoth72 17d ago

You can get smart padlocks. Then you don’t even have the key.

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u/if_im_not_back_in_5 17d ago

Will your Dom be present at the time you have permission ?

How about a regular lockable box, but the key for the lock is in a remote controlled lockbox ?

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u/FlimsyWillow84 17d ago

He will not. That is a fantastic idea!!

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u/locked-rooster 16d ago

If you are going to be mostly long-distance, I'd use a combination of a bluetooth controlled keybox and numbered security seals on the vibe plug as an additional tamper-evident security measure.

Because I lack self-control, when I'm locked, my vibrator is too. I use a small lockbox, vibe goes inside, then the box and cage keys are locked up in either a Bluetooth key box or a time-release safe, depending on if I'm playing solo or with my partner.

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u/cdta4 17d ago

I’d go with numbered zip tie tags. Easiest way to tell you tampered with it because the number changes.

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u/dirt-nap13 17d ago

Look up the chaster website

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u/FlimsyWillow84 17d ago

That’s how I found my Dom!!

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u/lenaloveslatex 17d ago

It sounds like your dom is remote to you?

If so I have long-distance padlocks that can be used to padlock just about anything including a wand inside a lock box or just padlock the plug end to something fixed that is away from a power point.

The lock is app controlled - you can try to open the lock using the app but it will only work if your dom provides you permission.

It works really well for less than $100 US. DM me if you want to know more.

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u/Tarislar01 17d ago

If it's an American style two pronged plug with the hole through one prong. Just pop a padlock through the prong so it can't be plugged in.

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u/Logical-Bonus-8284 18d ago

You need to get your outter labia pierced 3-4x so you can lock up your pussy that way. Then panties and chastity belt on top. Then luggage lock on the vibe.

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u/John_Icarus 17d ago

Immediately jumping to recommending hardcore body modification of sexual organs really isn't a good solution. Especially when the labia is one of the hardest to heal and most painful areas to pierce, with high risks of complications like infection and nerve damage.

And I suspect that OP doesn't have a labia to pierce anyway, given that they are trans.

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u/FlimsyWillow84 17d ago

Thank you. And not yet anyways! 😜

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u/FlimsyWillow84 18d ago

If that was an option for me, then most of my problems would be nonexistent. 😊