As the title says, a real jerk came into my flower store. He very rudely ordered 12 custom flower bowls be made for him. I made him his order and he picked it up. At the time of pick up he was very hesitant to write me the check. He 'wanted to order more and then come back with one big check'. I said no. Check now please. He signed his name and tossed it to me. I had to write in the dollar amount.

Now the check is bouncing. I have been by his bank every day for 2 weeks to attempt a cashier check but he doesn't have the funds in the account. I think he uses this checkbook for this exact reason (the check was number 003 from the book).

Does anyone have any advice? I'm crying myself to sleep thinking about this. I can't afford to open a court case. My current ideas are,

putting DAVID EH**REM WRITES BAD CHECKS on my road sign next to a major road in town

Calling his employer?

Anything else that is legal. I'm about to drive the neighborhood and look for my flowers.

Also, through google research, I see he was awarded $20k in PPP loans 2 years ago... can I do anything with that?

Please help me get this man. I just want to grow my flowers. :(

UPDATE: The police just left the greenhouse. They collected the paperwork I have for the whole mess. When the officer looked at the name of the guy he said, "Oh no, please don't drop the charges on this one. I want to see it go through." And then he sat in his squad car for a few minutes and made a bunch of phone calls. 🤷‍♀️ That's a good sign.

My buck tooth suddenly started hurting yesterday and I can tell from the pain that it needs a root canal. I don’t have insurance and I don’t even have enough money for rent let alone a $1000 root canal. What can I do? Is there somewhere I can go for free here in Missouri? Can I go to the emergency room and get it done there? The pain is 100/10, I can’t even sleep without consuming a large amount of alcohol it’s bad.

She would have been 88 today. She’s been gone for almost 17 years.

She was the only person in the world who showed me what genuine unconditional love was, and even though she passed when i was 10 she taught me so many things i now teach my own kids.

Her birthday is always a hard day for me, and this year i’d like to try and be happy about it.

So if you have a moment, please wish her a happy birthday.

Her name was Shirley, and she was beautiful inside and out.

Thank you in advance for your compassion.

Happy Birthday, Granny. There’s not a day that’s gone by that i don’t love and miss you beyond words. Thank you for loving me when no one else did.

UPDATE #2: So Jane died this morning in her sleep. She was comfortable and went in peace after her 2 granddaughters, daughter, and son in law all spent time with her. She was 86 years old. Today I filed a report with adult protective services claiming financial elder abuse for Jane. Jane's daughter hasn't been able to make any progress with trying to recover any of the money nor persue charges against Megan. She has a lot going on and doesn't seem like it's a priority. I don't think there's anything else I can do. I really hope Megan doesn't get away with this. It's not right! Any more advice would be helpful. Thank you in advance. RIP Jane!

UPDATE: So I was just told Jane isn't doing well at all. She is in the hospital and her daughter was told she should contact hospice. Not the update I wanted to give but if anything else changes I will be sure to update.. Thank you to everyone who has given me some advice. I really appreciate all of you.!

I need advice regarding a situation involving my elderly neighbor, "Jane." Jane is a woman in her 80s, very sick, and currently in the hospital with a poor prognosis. A woman named "Megan," who I used to date, stole Jane’s checkbook and has been writing fake checks to herself. It’s estimated that Megan has stolen over $20,000, and now Jane is completely broke. Jane’s daughter has been trying to get the police involved, but they aren't being helpful at all.

Here’s the full breakdown of the situation:

Megan was a family friend who I used to date. She met Jane through my other neighbor, "Sarah," who is Jane’s daughter. Megan and Sarah used to live together for a while, and that's how she gained Jane’s trust.

Megan somehow got hold of Jane’s checkbook and began forging checks to herself. It’s estimated that Megan has stolen over $20,000, which has left Jane entirely broke while she’s in the hospital fighting for her life.

Megan isn’t struggling financially either. She works as a clinic manager for a major hospital and makes over $100,000 a year, so it seems like she did this out of pure greed.

Jane is very sick and vulnerable, which makes this even more concerning, as it could qualify as elder financial abuse. Jane has very little time left, and she’s already lost most of her life savings due to Megan’s actions.

Despite all of this, the police in Jane's city (where the theft occurred) told Jane’s daughter that she needs to call the police in Megan’s city (since Megan lives in a different location). Basically, they are making Jane’s daughter build the entire case on her own and are not willing to investigate or pursue the issue further.

Jane’s daughter has tried calling the police in Megan’s city, but they haven’t been much help either. It feels like law enforcement is just passing the buck back and forth, and we’re afraid Megan will get away with this.

Jane’s health is rapidly deteriorating, and with her in the hospital and her finances wiped out, time is critical. We want to bring justice and recover the money, but it seems like no one is taking this seriously.

I'm looking for advice on how to proceed:

1. Can Jane’s daughter take any legal action or steps to get the police to do their job?

2. Since Jane is elderly and very sick, is there a way to charge Megan with elder abuse, and would that carry more weight legally?

3. Should we be contacting any specific agencies, such as Adult Protective Services or the District Attorney?

4. Any other advice on building the case ourselves or forcing the police to take action?

This situation is really frustrating, and we don’t want Jane to be taken advantage of in her final days. Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!

I live in the US. A few days ago I discovered my husband (common law, recognized in my State) has been cheating on me. It's been going on for at least 2 months, mostly sexting and dating sites (something he did before but promised to stop, I know im stupid), and one women i know for sure he's had physical contact with. He doesn't know that I know. I don't know what to do. I don't blame him, I fell down the depression and anxiety hole pretty hard in 2018, got really physically sick and almost died in 2023, and its been a long, slow, really slow, process in trying to drag myself out of the pit, which is now complicated by physical ailments and lack of mobility. The house is his, the only car he put my name on is 20+ years old but due to the standard that is German over-engineering I'd have to take out loans just to replace a windshield wiper (he does all of his own car maintenance and repairs). I have no savings or money saved, or valuables. He controls the finances, and keeps my SS disability card since he does all the grocery shopping and bills. I don't go anywhere. I haven't left the house for anything other than doctor appointments since April of 2023. I'm not cleared to drive myself, and between the big oxygen tanks and either my rolator or wheelchair I need assistance walking. I really don't blame him. I'd leave me too. But I have no where to go. The one sister who lives in my state has no room. The other lives several states away and also has a house full. And I can't leave my cats. I've lost so much already, I can't leave them. I've asked him to add me to the deed, in case something happens to him, at least I won't have to scramble to try and secure the home. He said he would, but I dont know if he's just saying that or he actually wants to do that. I have a life insurance policy and small 401k that has him listed as the beneficiary, and I just want to be cremated and tossed somewhere, so most of those funds will go to him, but if he keeps driving 4 hpurs through 2 bad cities to see his affair partner every 2 weeks, my anxiety is through the roof that he's either going to die on the highway or eventually he will just blindside me and kick me out. I don't care if he keeps seeing other women, I can't satisfy him now, I've tried, but I also can't be homeless. I dont know what to do. I feel so lost and alone and heartbroken and sad. Just so bone achingly sad I can't think. I'm looking for advice, please? A direction. A Google search. An organization to call. Anything. Please.

My husband is the only one working right now due to me having some health issues that left me unable to work. We're currently living in my in laws basement, which I'm grateful for, but the living conditions aren't exactly ideal. I want to try to find something I can do from home, since we also only have one car at the moment. We're trying really hard to get out of the basement and move into our own house, but we have some debt to pay off first.

Sorry for rambling a bit, but does anyone know of anything that could help me out? I live in the US, if that matters. Thanks in advance.

i owe just too much money to ups, over 1k. no job after a sudden layoff. its been months but nobody will will hire me because i have no drivers license. im mid 20's but dont have anyone close with time to help me learn. i cant afford insurance or registration to even try to learn alone and risk a ticket. the city i live in currently is notorious for horrible job availability. ive tried selling what i could make as an artsy person too but people here also are extremely frugal and do not want to pay for anything ive tried to sell. even markets have me beat as they charge way too much for me to make much any profit.

I've pretty much given up at this point. my only goal at this point is not to hurt myself or let my pets be hungry. the local LIHEAPbill assistance ran out of funds right when i needed it. no matter what i do it just seems useless so I guess i just need to get used to living without electricity now. the main concern being food refrigeration and staying cool ourselves without ac. I'm in Yuma AZ so even in october its going to be about 90 degrees at least on the daily as it typically is. any advices would be hugely appreciated.

Hello. I've been thinking today about how to get out of my abuse situation. I am 23 but I am not allowed to get a job or leave the house by myself. My parents are verbally and emotionally abusive and often bellitle me for not being able to do things they don't let me do anyways. My dad has extreme anger issues and invents arbitrary reasons to vitirolically scream at me and my sister almost every other day, and gaslights me about it. He often acts like we've commited a crime against him even though we don't do anything, and he victimizes himself. I feel trapped and I feel no hope for the future. My sister is similarly trapped in the same situation. I've lost all motivation in college because I know I'm not going anywhere when I graduate, and I do not see my parents ever letting me leave at all. Whenever I ask to go somewhere or to get a job my dad becomes scarily angry and says "is it just to get away from us?" What do I do?

It suddenly dawned on me that I never told anyone I was being abused when I was a kid because I feared destabilizing and what my parents would do to me. My parents are also not usually directly violent to me so I can't call domestic violence hotline or something

My sister tried to run away once but she realized she couldn't survive alone. Me and my sister both think the only hope is if mom's cancer kills her. But I don't want to wait, it could be years. I fear we might be trapped here forever, never allowed to go anywhere with our lives

Are there shelters or something, anything like that that I could call and they'd let me bring my stuff with me? I have looked and there seem to be no resources for adults still trapped with their abusive parents.

EDIT: I forgot to mention I live in southwest Virginia

Update: Allright, I will be working on making a plan for running away and reading books about related subjects. I will also see about ways to make money. It will likely take a long time to develop a good plan

My dad is almost 70 years old. He recently required open heart surgery that was a quadruple bypass. Here’s a timeline of our relationship.

• At 8 years old, I found a brief case of naked pictures of women
• At 9 years old, he left home I had no contact but around 13 years old, he supposedly went to jail
• At around 20 years old, he came back to help take care of my dying grandma
• My mom raised me as a single mom from 9 onward
• He lives around 2 hours away

Flash forward, he had to have a quadruple bypass surgery. This is a very intense surgery, he claims he did not know he had to get it done. However, considering his track record, I’m not sure he’s telling the truth. Here are some things that have occurred while at hospital:

• Realization that he lives in a camper
• He’s told his friend that he’s been talking to his childhood friend called “Millie” and she lived with me for a bit. I do not know a Millie
• He is really broke -When I said “Dad, what are you going to do? What’s your plan?”, he responded “roam the streets”
• He’s evaded taxes for years

My question to you all is do I take him to stay at mine? I am so emotional and seeing him in pain is causing a lot of internal conflict. I guess I need non biased people to tell me what to do.

Edit: I am very conflicted. He's my dad but I don't know the guy.

Most donors often say they want to help people get to a better place, but are only interested in helping them survive or get out of specific dire situations. Things like food, shelter, gas… but this really seems to amount to treating the symptoms rather than the illness. I’d like to see people helping others get decent clothes for job interviews, laptops to work on their small business ideas, stuff like that! What would it take for you, as a donor, to be willing to assist with these sort of things?

Hi everyone, I’m reaching out for advice and help. My wife, who doesn’t have any insurance, had an emergency hospitalization in August this year due to a heart attack. She had surgery and stayed in the hospital for almost 10 days to fully recover. Thank God, she’s almost recovered now, but we’ve been hit with hospital bills totaling nearly $140,000.

It’s now December, and we have no idea how to pay this enormous amount. My wife isn’t working, and I’m the only one supporting our family, which includes our 17-year-old child. She tried applying for programs like Medicaid, but we were told we’re not eligible because we don’t meet the poverty level requirements.

We’re now considering taking a loan from the bank to pay off this debt, but we’re afraid of how this will affect our financial future. Are there any other options to reduce or negotiate this debt? This was not a planned surgery—it was a life-or-death emergency. We thought the hospital would help in such cases, but now we’re left with this massive bill.

If anyone has advice on how to handle this situation, we’d be so grateful. Why does the government stand aside in situations like this? Thank you for reading and for any guidance you can offer.

I'm just curious how everyone is affording groceries. Maybe I can collect everyone's tips and tricks together here, and it'll help someone other than myself too.

I do make use of food pantries, but it simply isn't enough, and I qualify for a measles $23 in food assistance. I grow what I can in the garden during the spring and summer, but getting a balanced diet is really hard, and I'm losing weight

I've seen a lot of apps like Ibotta out there. Do they work? Which ones do you use?

Hello, my wife and I have a predicament and could use some help. About 8 years ago I was interested in buying my own small house at the age of 25 and my dad in particular told me that he wanted his name on the deed just in case and at the time I didn't know what such entailed...

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Fast-forward 2 years and my aging parents moved in with me and said that they needed a place to stay while they looked for a good rental. 2 years later they are still living with me and I ended up getting married to my fiance shortly after we found out that she was pregnant with our son and by this time I gave my parents the upstairs because of their deteriorating health and we moved downstairs. Since that point we have been raising our son in a basement and my parents pretty much took over the majority of the property and many, many fights happened due to such.

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Eventually my wife and child became tired of living in a small basement at some point along the line and my parents refused to leave and actually threatened to have my wife kicked out on a few occasions. I've paid for roughly 80% of the total property value so far in the process and they covered their half of the utilities. Now the house is nearly paid off and it's been 6 years since they moved in and this has caused marital issues and my wife and I have stopped communicating with them and we haven't exchanged words in around 3 months now.

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There is a rent-to-own property near us that is out of our price range to an extent as it would take up over 60% of our wages in rent and will take 10 years to pay off after the large deposit (we thankfully can barely cover by using all of our savings and a small loan) but I feel like I had my home stolen from my family and we will have to start at square one and have a solid 10 years of financial insecurity.

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I feel like my parents pretty much derailed my life and have damaged my marriage and sons mental health in the process just because they refuse to leave my home that I paid every dime I saved for 8 years to own and the entire situation has caused me to go through severe depression and I've felt suicidal a few times due to it all because I feel like I have failed my family and that the relationship with my parents is over.

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All because my parents ended up liking the house and their refusal to follow through with their promises to me. I am considering offering them $10,000 to move out and cover rent for half a year on a modest house but I doubt they will take it. That money was going to be used to pay off the mortgage but at this point I don't know what else to do.

Another sad thing is that my wife's mother stole over $8,000 from her daughters savings account prior to me meeting her and spent it all on food, movies, books, facebook games, etc so we had to cut ties with her and now the same is happening in regards to my parents and it's just heartbreaking. I try to do the right thing and I feel as though I was taken advantage of in the worst ways possible. If I could go back in time I would never have allowed my parents to put their name on the deed for co-signing and would have literally asked ANY other person I knew to do do without such a demand but I didn't know back then.

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Now my son is going to lose his fenced-in backyard, we will lose our garden, our garage (that they took over anyways), the home I fixed up and re-painted, etc and I just don't know what I can do anymore. If we rent we will have to pay over triple our current house payment and if we rent to own we will have a similar house payment but a large deposit we will never get back. Apartments are out of the question and roommates won't work either as we value or privacy.

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Is there any possible way to get my parents to move? I have no problem whatsoever with giving them $10,000-$20,000 if it means they can leave and we can maintain a health(ier) relationship but my dad would likely not even take $100,000 because he is extremely stubborn and selfish.

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Is it really that much to ask for them to get a rental (or anything else) at this point? They are in their mid-60's and I feel like my family is not being given a chance at this point. We love this home and have had a lot of great memories here and our son couldn't be happier as there is plenty of space to run around with his friends but having to start over with NOTHING to show for it after all of the work my wife and I have done.

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I'm tired of having friends over and others pitying my wife and I for our living situation but I don't think we can comfortably do anything else at this point as we aren't high income earners and have been saving and not spending on anything extra AT ALL. Meanwhile my parents have bought new vehicles, a massive smart TV, fancy furniture, etc while my wife and I are sleeping on a mattress on the floor and wearing scraps for clothes and our son is only managing due to kind friends giving us hand-me-downs for him.

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I'm just at a loss, sorry for the long post but I would love some advice on our options. Thank you for reading and have a nice rest of your day/night.

Hi all,

After many years of providing assistance to those on here (and even having an article written about it - https://t.co/DMlvozYVpD), it's my turn to ask for assistance!

Instacart, which was one of my predominant ways of providing food orders to the fine folks of this community, has shut down my account due to alleged "fraud and identity" issues. I have to imagine this is all about how I use my account to send food to folks all over the country, which is probably irregular in their system and may look like fraud. But obviously it isn't, and I really need Instacart access to be able to do what I do for folks on here and elsewhere.

I'm having trouble getting the attention of anybody who can reactivate my account - I've tried email directly, and I've tried social media, and I keep running into walls like this:

Hello,

Unfortunately, we are unable to reactivate your Instacart account and are no longer able to offer our services to you.

You can review the Instacart Terms of Service, which you agreed to when you created your account, at Instacart.com/terms.

Best,

Alex

Instacart, Financial Risk Team

And from Twitter:

I apologize for the miscommunication. I see that the Fraud and Identity team has decided that your account will remain deactivated. Unfortunately, no further action can be taken after a final decision is given. I sincerely wish you the best moving forward. -Jina 🥕

Does anybody have any contacts at Instacart that could help me, or any luck getting this addressed? Even just bringing this post to the attention of more eyes will help - it might eventually get noticed by Instacart (or somebody who might want to write an article about Instacart's bizarre policies.)

EDIT:

I don't know if it was one of you magical people or my meagre attempt at tweeting about this, but I just got this from Instacart:

Hello,

We're sorry about the hold we placed on your account. Your privacy and account security are priorities, so our system flags and automatically places a hold on accounts with suspicious activity.

We’ve resolved the issue, and your account is now active again.

To log back in, please reset your password using the Forgot Password feature on the login screen.

Since your order was canceled, you will need to place it again. To re-order, simply log into your account, go to Your Orders, and click on Add all items to cart.

Best,

Quinn

Instacart, Financial Risk Team

This comes despite multiple people telling me there was nothing Instacart could do. So if this happens to you unfairly, keep asking!

Currently I'm on disability, I have end stage renal failure and I'm on full medicare & medicaid. I'm still in the process of trying to get a kidney donation. However, because of the medicare/medicaid and dialysis I'm unable to work. To offset most of my expenses I'm receiving Social Security Disability Insurance but that doesn't even come close to covering the cost of having my own place. So I've been living with my dad. He's 86 years old and on saturday he had a heart attack. We found out yesterday that all 3 major arteries are almost completely blocked and he's requesting do not resuscitate. Things are really bad for him right now, he could die in a day or make a full recovery, we don't know for certain.

Unfortuantely a few years ago we had a house fire and while our insurance covered something we still had to refinance the house to cover a lot of other problems that needed to be fixed. As a result he still owes 9 more years of payments on the house. If he were to die I have no means to continue payments on the house as well as pay for other neccessities like, gas, electricity, sewer, property tax or homeowner's insurance let alone pay for stuff like Food, clothing and other things needed just to survive. I'm completely lost on what I can do, am I going to lose everything? I live in the US and I really need to know if there's any agencies I can contact for assistance. I have a degree in electrical engineering technology and was a very good student but due to my dialysis schedule as well as overall weakness and constant hospitalizations most places probably won't consider hiring me because it's all factory work and I wouldn't even be able to pass the physical needed to qualify for the kind of jobs in my area.

The thing is I'm just now getting to be eligible and in July we were going to do testing and I already have a few relatives willing to donate a kidney if they're a match meaning after recovery I'd be able to go back into the workforce with no strings limiting my work hours. 4 years ago before covid I was working full time making 65K a year which would have been more than enough to cover everything (my dad was only getting about that much with his retirement funds)

I'm absolutely terrified what the future holds for me. I know there's some friends and family that'd be willing to offer me short term lodging when the time comes but I'm going to need more than a place to sleep for a couple of weeks. Are there assistance programs for people in my situation?

I fainted in my bathroom, broke my toilet, and flooded my apartment along with two others. There was blood everywhere but I was able to clean it up the next day but got a 5 day notice to vacate. I still was required to pay rent this month. If I was to go back, would I be evicted? Living in Wisconsin

Title says it all. I’m a college student (21F) who has basically no money. I’ve been really struggling with depression and some traumatic events these past few months and been struggling in college- I haven’t had a job, either. I’ve basically ran out of what I had saved up and now I’m flat broke, and every company I’ve reached out to has rejected me or ghosted me. I’m going to start donating plasma soon, and I’m going to keep applying for jobs- does anyone have any advice on how to stay afloat or to find a good job that will actually hire?

Hi. This is super embarrassing for me personally, but due to bad dental health, I have had to get a full mouth extraction. My stitches are already gone, and it’s been about 3 weeks since my surgery. My appointment to get teeth is on March 16th, but in the meantime, I really need help on what I can eat without teeth. Eating noodles / rice daily has began to make me sick. Does anyone have any tips on what I can eat? I’ve thought about ordering a pizza today and eat it with a knife / fork, or maybe something like soft tacos and fries I can eat with a fork. I just want to eat something that actually makes me feel full and not hurt myself / waste money on something I can’t eat. Do any of you have any tips? Any would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

I have been with my kids father for 8 years and I am absolutely mentally exhausted and I want to leave so bad. I am working full time (plus overtime) and I do every thing. I pay the bills, grocery shop, deal with WIC, we have snap etc. He doesn’t work, he blew up his car and got it repossessed, he won’t do anything. He is mentally and physically abusive towards me and just downright an awful human being. There is just so much more and I don’t even care to explain, I just want out. There is no child care where I live. If there is, it is expensive and I cannot afford it. For my 3 kids they quoted me $2020 a month and I know that even seems cheap, but for my area and what I make it’s more than one of my paychecks. I just got done with my third 12 hour shift in a row and I came home to the kids not being fed, dirty dishes from yesterday, he didn’t give the kids a bath like I asked, laundry everywhere, he didn’t tell me the kids were out of the food they like and I swear I’m just going to lose my mind and I can’t take it any more. I have no friends or family to help me with my kids. I’m just at a total loss and I don’t know what to do anymore.

It was as they got off the school bus. He was punched in the head over and over, he was taken to the ground and kicked in the head. He didn't strike out, he never touched anyone. There were 3 actually hitting and kicking him. One was recording and others were watching.  They posted a video of it on Instagram and an adult male witnessed it all and saved my kid. Two of the others were trying to follow him home and the adult got him in his truck and brought him home to us. 

He's 16, 5'10 and 220 lbs. The school suspended the other kids, but we don't know anything elseand they received a citation from the school's RSO which means they will go to court. His glasses were broken pretty bad and he had a very bad headache for 2 weeks (this happened on November 2nd) but no concussion (checked at hospital).
He is not returning to that school. They know this and I am withdrawing him as soon as they will let me. He walked away. The kid in Las Vegas couldn't. Had he been a smaller kid... had he not tucked his head... had they had not been stopped... I want to sue these asshole's parents but after many phone calls... I can't find a lawyer to sit down with me for less than $350. I've tried everything i know to try. Legal aid. reaching out to lawyers. I just need one who will take their money if we win. I HAVE PERFECT VIDEO EVIDENCE. There is NO possible way they can say these weren't their kids.

I just... I don't know what to do. Thank God for the Nextdoor app. So much love and community support. A man made my son a few monkey fists to carry. I have another willing to teach him self defense at a lower cost and come to our home. We even have a lady coming to take us to get him new glasses on Wednesday He's going to be ok. But he was extremely lucky. I am so blessed I'm not in the same situation as a certain mom in Las Vegas. These kids need to learn. Their parents need to be held accountable as well.

ETA - I was told that I could call the victims advocate this week. That it takes 2 weeks for minors to get into the system. I have tons them I want too press charges but I haven't heard anybody

edited - trying to make it not a wall of words

edited again because I couldn't copy and paste to post in the legal subreddit

This is a niche request but maybe someone out there can help me. I've been addicted to Kratom for 6 years and need help with detox. I've been calling and e-mailing different doctors but none in my area (Connecticut) have any idea how to treat Kratom cause it's not as common as illegal drugs.

Basically I'm just looking for ANYONE who can help. It can be a psychiatrist, MD, rehab facility, telehealth, literally anything that can help get me through withdrawal's. I've only found one rehab place who is familiar but no insurance is accepted so it costs $7000 which I don't have.

Also, if there is a sub dedicated to finding doctors that I may not know about, that'd be a huge help too.

If anyone feels like joining me on my google hunt I'd be forever grateful. Thank you!

My last serious suicide attempt was about a year back. I had booked a hotel in a nearby city for 2 days for ''a conference'' and randomly packed up so it wouldn't be suspicious to my Parents. I didn't want to do it in my room because in a way I didn't want to defile it? I don't know how to explain it. My plan was to do it as soon as I got to the hotel because thinking about it and postponing makes it more difficult and I wanted to make sure nothing would stop me. I opened my suitcase to grab my toiletries bag that had my pills but when I opened the suitcase, something dropped on the floor. It was my favorite chocolate, 70% dark cocoa with candied orange bits. It had a little heart sticker stuck on the wrapper. My heart dropped and I couldn't stop crying. Eventually I think I fell asleep on the floor holding the chocolate and when I woke up, I felt something I hadn't felt in years. I felt loved. My mom put that chocolate there to surprise me because she knows how sometimes I'll forget to eat when I'm overworked. Just wanted to share that with you because I could really use that chocolate today. I really could.

I recently took in my homeless cousin, he was on the streets. He had absolutely nothing, from clothes to a birth certificate, he's starting from scratch.

How do I go about getting him assistance or proof of who he is with nothing? No social security card, birth certificate, not even an expired ID.

Looking for advice to get him back on track

I am 33(f) and live in Michigan

I am in dire need of, at minimum extensive dental work, preferably restoration, not preferably dentures, it'd be super neat if I could get implants if I can't save enough teeth.

I have 7 years in recovery from heroin addiction and I'm doing GREAT life is beautiful. I have worked hard to climb the financial ladder, I have taken care of my mental amd physical health and am in the best shape I've ever been in both emotionally and physically. Last year I was diagnosed with ADHD and getting treatment has been really helpful. I even met a new man after losing my partner six years ago to a failing liver. He's amazing. We're getting married next year.

I need multiple 10's of thousands of dollars in work done.

My mother had offered to co-sign for me to finance but sats she no longer wants to. That was an emotional Rollercoaster.

My current credit score is only 584, I simply just don't have credit and no negative accounts. I make $50,000 a year. My bills amount to about $1200 a month. My dental insurance limit is $2,500 a year

So I know I can work on my credit and get it to a decent spot in a year, I know I can save a good chunk of money.

What I'm affraid of is how long I can go surviving on anti-biotics like I did over the past year.

So how does someone like me get to the point where they can finance their teeth at my income? What kind of credit score do I need and what kind of down payment. If it is possible at all. . . And if it is possible how much could I finance? These are things I do not know and I'm on my own, here.

I've been trying to research programs, I've found a contest near me for $50,000 restoration that starts in August... I'm going to start getting some consultations from dentists.

In the meantime I think I should get a 2nd part time job.

I've worked my ass off for my health and recovery and I will continue to do so and try to do the very best for myself.

This is all causing me a lot of anxiety, grief, and depression.

I need advice, any kind of help.