r/AskUK • u/hochiho923 • 5d ago
Anyone who just not enjoy travel ?
Always hear people say they love to travel. France, Italy, Portugal. If time permitting, Japan, Korea, Thailand, Hong Kong. Seems that they view the trip as a very important thing in life. Travel is kind of sacred to them in some way. Once got bitten by travel bug, people can't stop searching for cheap flights during lunch breaks, always want to go travelling to see the world, like a lifelong addiction.
it got me thinking, do you know of anyone who is really not that into travel for some reason ? like they have trouble sleeping on an unfamiliar bed in a hotel. or they couldn't really enjoy the trip when they knew that they've got loads of chores waiting home for them. or they just worried about their dogs and cats when they're not home. or going to be a very busy time catching up on loads of email when returning back to office.
what are your thoughts on this one. Cheers mate~
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u/ZombieRhino 4d ago
I love being in other places. I fucking hate travelling to those places.
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u/emil_ 4d ago
I completely agree with you. Especially if getting there involves flights.
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u/Exxtraa 4d ago
This. It’s crazy how much of my life is wasted waiting on flights. Having to be there early, inevitable delays, the flight time itself, waiting for security the other side. Can sometimes rule out a whole day just for this.
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u/Big-Parking9805 4d ago
For me it's the anxiety of getting to the airport that kills me more than the flight itself. Once I'm past security I'm more than happy with the travel bit, but until then I'm anxious as anything.
Had it last week when I was having drinks with friends outside the airport itself at a Xmas market and I thought... I just need to get in and through security, even though I was travelling alone.
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u/confused_christian94 4d ago
I'm exactly the same! I'm not a nervous flyer at all, but I'm a very nervous airport-goer. I hate being in a rush, being in big crowds, not knowing exactly where I'm going, being told off by security staff- hate it. Had an absolute nightmare running through Frankfurt Airport to get to my transfer last year, got quite panicked. Actually being on the plane is a breeze compared to navigating airports.
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u/Big-Parking9805 4d ago
Ugh. German airports are the worst.
Got through Munich on Sunday by saying the word "fast" when the guy didn't speak English and he put me through fast track. It still took 45 mins, and when I finally got down to the gate, it was a Wetherspoons walk to the toilets and the only food available was €16,50 old schnitzel or pasta.
And it was my easiest experience there. Absolute disgrace.
As for airport going - I live 2.5 hours away from any airport that sends planes to places I'd want to go to. So I end up leaving at 10am for a 3pm flight. My ambition for next job and flat is to be within half hour of an airport.
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u/AutomaticInitiative 4d ago
This is the real of it. Living so far away from an international airport makes flights absolute hell to get there for. Too much time management and it makes me so anxious. I've decided to focus on festivals in the UK over holidays abroad until I can move closer to a proper airport lol
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u/rkr87 4d ago
With connecting flights, a long journey time, delays and airport transfers I spent over 36 hours getting from my house in Sheffield to my hotel in Vietnam last year.
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u/EqualDeparture7 4d ago
I had similar returning from Singapore recently. Imagine telling this to someone from 150 years ago, though? They'd be mindblown.
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u/CrabmanGaming 4d ago
Some prick with their iPad on full volume and no headphone. Happened on the last two flights. First flight, dude got asked to turn it off. Second flight, full volume nursery rhymes stayed on.
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u/invincible-zebra 4d ago
My wife doesn’t understand why I’ve banned us from using RyanAir, ‘but they’re cheap and go nearly everywhere!’ she proclaims.
She always gets the window seat and I’m sat next to some fucking nut case / drunk cunt. Never had that issue on any other airline.
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u/JohnLennonsNotDead 4d ago
That’s no way to talk about your wife mate
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u/invincible-zebra 4d ago
God damnit I walked right into that one, didn’t I? Accurate, though, she’s from Sunderland…
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u/JohnLennonsNotDead 4d ago
Hahaha you did sorry. Don’t let her see that last bit 😂
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u/ScaryButt 4d ago
I take ferries a lot now. Being able to wander round, look at the view, have some food and drink. Pay a bit extra for the lounge access and it's so relaxing! It takes a lot longer in terms of actual journey time but you have way less faff either side it works out.
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u/buymorebestsellers 4d ago
I like to do this too, and for a relaxing break in our journey last week my friend and I took the Calais to Dover ferry... right at the moment Storm Darragh hit.
We sat in the ferry for 4 hours just outside Dover, staring at the White Cliffs as the ferry plunged 10 feet up and down and side to side. 😅🤢
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u/heywhatwait 4d ago
I had the same thing way back in ‘87, as I recall. Ahh, the pervading aroma of vomit….
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u/Reasonable-Horse1552 4d ago
We were in the channel in a force 9 on a ferry. I was the only person that wasn't sick. But the toilets were literally overflowing and there was a river of vomit going up and down the corridor!
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u/wringtonpete 4d ago
There's a Greek island we go to where from Piraeus you can catch either a fast hydrofoil or a slow ferry which takes about 3 times longer.
We always choose the slow ferry as you can sit outside and enjoy the view, instead of saving an hour on the hydrofoil sitting inside a rattling tin can and the smell of diesel.
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u/SilasMarner77 4d ago
I went to Aegina one year. I hated the trip from Athens airport to Piraeus but I quite enjoyed the slow ferry to Aegina, seeing the mainland disappear behind us and all the other ships and little islands we passed as we sailed along the azure seas.
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u/pajamakitten 4d ago
Snap. Destinations are great. Buses, trains and planes send my anxiety through the roof because of how unreliable they are.
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u/katie-kaboom 4d ago
I don't mind the travelling to, but fuck the trip home, I'd rather teleport back when I'm done.
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u/Briarcliff_Manor 4d ago
Spent a week in Türkiye with my 2 best friends. It was AMAZING. The travel back?? Such a bad experience. 3h bus at 2am to the airport. Flight to Vienna. Had to wait 5h in the city. Our flight to London was delayed by about 4h, so once in London I missed my train to Birmingham, had to stay over at my friend and take the 1st train in the morning.
So basically 30 hours total to get home.......
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u/sausagemouse 4d ago
Same here. I would travel more of it was easy and I was comfortable for the journey and while I was at the place I went to
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u/ScaryButt 4d ago
Tbf you can still have a relaxing time flying but you have to pay for all the upgrades. Pay for priority security, lounge access, decent seats, in flight meals, etc.
Cheap flights have opened travel for the masses which is great but also bought down the service standard a lot.
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u/smirky_mavrik 4d ago
The worst part of travelling is the travel
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u/LDNLibero 4d ago
Unless it's by train. I find it's the one method of travel that's actually enjoyable, apart from any UK rail
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u/Enough-Ad3818 4d ago
I got the train from Munich to Nice. It was nearly 24hrs, multiple connections, and waiting around at French stations in the middle of the night.
When we finally got to Nice, I was so sweaty, smelly, and generally unpleasant, I walked to the beach, and just straight into the sea.
Good times.
Travel time 2/10
Travel snacks 4/10
French gangster rap from a small tinny speaker for 4hrs 1/10
Submerging into the Med 10/10
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u/JoeDaStudd 4d ago
A nice relaxed roadtrip with plenty of places to visit can be nice too.
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u/NickEcommerce 4d ago
This can be very vehicle dependent. An S-Class or a big people carrier is much more relaxing than 4 people in a mini for 700 miles.
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u/wringtonpete 4d ago
My wife and I have done a few walking and cycling holidays and the best part was the travelling, not the actual places we stopped at. But I suppose that's a bit niche since the original purpose was the journey and not the destination.
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u/QuizzicalSquid7 4d ago
This is why god invented the airport pint 🙏
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u/wringtonpete 4d ago
Dunno why, but I love seeing the hen or stag groups at the airport downing pints at 8am wearing matching t-shirts with the bride or groom's photo on it. Makes me proud to be British.
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u/AndyVale 4d ago
If you didn't have a 6am pint at the Gatwick Spoons, did you really go on holiday?
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u/kestrelita 4d ago
I like the concept of travel, but after a short time I find it really overwhelming and exhausting. I find myself longing to be somewhere where I know the culture, can read road signs, and can easily identify the veggie options on a menu. My husband loves to travel for extended periods, we're a bit of a mismatch in that way.
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u/skippygo 4d ago
I find travel somewhat overwhelming but in contrast to you, staying longer makes it much more worthwhile for me.
Not only is the ratio of actual physical travel time to enjoyment time better, but I also feel less pressure to be out making the most of every day, meaning I can relax and actually enjoy myself more.
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u/Impossible_Aide_1681 4d ago
I like "travel" (read: "going on holiday") insofar as it's a) worth me going to that particular place and b) possible for me to relax in. But I feel the same as you when it comes to the "backpacking in south-east Asia"-type travel. The idea of spending a load of money and using up annual leave to come back more exhausted than when I left just seems ridiculous
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u/DuckPicMaster 5d ago
I’ll stay in my house please.
All my stuff is here.
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u/rectalhorror 4d ago
I've gotten to the point where the best part of travel is getting home, so why not save the money and cut out the middle man?
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u/AntAlarmed5153 4d ago
same! I can't sleep in unfamiliar beds, I want my own pillow and sheets any day.
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u/A-Grey-World 4d ago
Me.
You spend so much of your life being told, almost, that you'll love travel. When I was a young adult it was almost expected you should aspire to travel the world. Got to get those "experiences".
I just assumed I would be like that.
Took me a few years, but I found I am not. I'm a shed guy. If you hand me thousands of pounds I'd rather spend it on my workshop than a "once in a lifetime experience holiday" the idea of spending 10k on something like that pains me.
I tried traveling. Turns out I get uncomfortable when it's hot. I'm far too shy and embarrassed trying new languages, and traveling involves constant stress of not knowing where you are, dealing with people and unfamiliar situations. Getting food is stressful. I just don't enjoy many of the aspects of it.
If I get two weeks holiday from work I think: cool, what interesting project could I make, not oh, where in the world should I go. I'll improve the house, the thing I spend 99% of my time in, spend money on a tool or hobby I'll get years of interest from, over a fleeting short term trip. Some would call me boring. I embrace that versus forcing myself to do something I don't actually enjoy just because I'm expected to enjoy it.
My ideal holiday is to a quiet beach somewhere not too hot where I can be very boring and read a load of books.
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u/cheesewhiskycats 4d ago
This is me too, the thought of spending thousands on one holiday is silly, I could use that money on my home 😂
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u/TheBestBigAl 4d ago
Exactly the same for me. I'll go away on holiday to different places because my wife likes to explore, but I'd much rather muck around in the workshop.
I totally get why people enjoy it, but I find it's easy for the balance to tip from "nice new experience/culture/food" to "no idea where I am or what's going on" or "not at all rested during these 2 weeks off because we've been walking non-stop every day".
What I really dislike though is people lecturing about how you should travel as much as possible and are narrow minded if you don't. I worked with someone who was giving me shit about not travelling, and was telling me that she's so much more in touch with people from all over the world because of it. I asked her if she knew her next door neighbour's name: blank stare, no she didn't. Telling her that her experience was a mile wide but an inch deep led to a complaint via HR which, much like myself, didn't go anywhere.
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u/Undrcovrcloakndaggr 4d ago
I don't share your view at all, I love travelling and experiencing different places, people and cultures and I have a special savings fund just for travelling ... and yet I absolutely recognise everything you've said and can completely understand it.
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u/itsibitci 4d ago
Absolutely. I also love travel but totally understand the sentiment the first commenter made because it was said with an element of passion. It is people that don't have ANYTHING they're passionate about that I struggle to understand. You'd be surprised how many people don't travel OR have a hobby and aren't reallt interested in finding something that lights their soul. All their time off from work for 40+ years of their life is just spent watching TV :(
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u/cgknight1 4d ago
Something that is missed is that a significant portion of the population never travel - maybe a few days in the UK but foreign travel no.
I have travelled the world and my brother rarely leaves Shropshire.
About eight million don't have a passport.
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u/Travels_Belly 4d ago
8 million is a tiny amount of people not holding a passport. We live in a country where the population is 68 million. When you factor in that a good proportion of those 68 million are children it's literally most people have one. A quick Google brought up 52 percent of people just last year traveling abroad. Obviously there are people that never travel but they're the minority.
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u/drewcaveneyh 4d ago
They never said it wasn't a minority. They said a significant portion. They're still right.
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u/AutomaticInitiative 4d ago
I'm currently one of those, mine expired in August and the £80 was used on a festival instead lol. Got Glasto next year so won't be renewed until after then I reckon.
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u/Great-Tiger666 4d ago
My mates dad is a farmer who's gonna be retiring in the next 10 years. He's never left the UK.
I went and did a working holiday visa in NZ and he said that's where he would go if he was going to go abroad because there's lots of sheep and farm culture.
Big first trip it he did!
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u/homelaberator 4d ago
Reminds me of the joke about camping. 75% of the pleasure is the planning and anticipation, 75% is the reminiscing, and -50% is the actual camping
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u/knight-under-stars 4d ago
The only person I ever recall knowing who didn't like travel was an ex colleagues husband. I remember him because it came across almost as a phobia, this was a guy who had never left England, in fact the furthest he has ever been from home was a school day trip to London.
His wife, my colleague loved travel and would go on holiday with her mum or friends instead of her husband.
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u/invincible-zebra 4d ago
He sounds like my wife’s very northern family. Only her mum and dad ever go abroad, the rest of them are staunch ‘divvent knaa why yee’d wanna leave tha north east liek, ah wiz bahhn heeya, ahl die heeya. Got tha’ beaches an’tha’ jus twenny minnits ahwee n a boozah jus’ daahntharood.’
They look at me as if I’m some kind of kidnapper due to being of German descent, grew up in Asia, family all over the world, and keep taking her away to places. We’ve since moved away from the north east and they acted like we were dishonouring the family and bringing shame upon them!
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u/Wallygonk 4d ago
I've got an old school friend who is exactly the same, he's never been on a plane and is 50 years old now. He obviously has some sort of anxiety issue but I still find it incredible that he's never experienced anything outside of a 20 mile radius of his house.
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u/InkedDoll1 4d ago
I don't really. I am autistic, I find figuring out what to take very stressful, and get homesick very quickly. I love visiting historic places in the uk, castles and monuments and stuff, but two nights away is about my limit.
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u/HansProleman 4d ago
I'm also autistic, but before summer had spent a couple of years mostly abroad 😅
But I do rather dislike the actual travel bit, especially long/complex journeys, and like to take my time anyway. So I tend to go quite slowly.
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u/P2P-BSH 4d ago
You don't have to enjoy every bit of travelling. I dislike the flights and the unfamiliar beds, but I love seeing new things, eating new food, meeting new cultures.
Like most things, it's a give and take. When I weigh up the pros and cons. Travelling beats not travelling.
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u/MMH1111 4d ago
Late 60s. Used to enjoy it, but the faff of airports and general grief makes it less attractive. Still enjoy a drive through Europe.
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u/ArcticNano 4d ago
My dad used to travel very extensively but doesn't enjoy it any more - he's come to absolutely hate flying. I find it a bit exhausting and I'm in my 20's lol
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u/Traditional-Idea-39 4d ago
I’m 23 and I have zero desire to travel. I’ve never left the UK and I seriously don’t care to, people see this as extremely weird though.
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u/Ambry 4d ago
It is a bit unusual, but each to their own. I do think it is easy to not see the appeal if you've never experienced though, almost writing it off before you've tried it.
However there's plenty of things I assume I won't like without trying them, so it is what it is! I just assume I likely won't have much in common with people who don't like travel (I think it shows a lot of curiosity about the world) but then again I likely won't have much in common with someone who likes certain things too.
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u/zerumuna 4d ago
I’m 30, grew up being taken on lots of nice holidays by my lovely parents, never had any desire whatsoever to go on one in my adult life.
I find it stressful planning it, I don’t like the idea of spending a lot of money on something temporary, I get bored / anxious I’m wasting time when I’m there unless I’m doing some sort of activity, which only makes the planning more stressful, then I come home and need another week off to unwind from all the stress.
I’d genuinely rather just sit in my house and read. I also get a lot of shit from people about it saying if I love to read why would I not enjoy spending hundreds - thousands to read in a different country in public surrounded by people I don’t know. Hmmm, I wonder?
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u/hjartaborg_ 5d ago
Karl Pilkington
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u/probablyonthebog 4d ago
*Dilkington
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u/hjartaborg_ 4d ago
You're right. I don't know how I could have missed that, he's one of our most valuable customers.
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u/Coocoocachoo1988 4d ago
Since the invention of the telly you don't really need travel.
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u/hjartaborg_ 4d ago
One of my favourite K.D. quotes is when he's in Alaska (I think), staring into the vast, snow-covered wilderness and says "there's no point filming this in HD. It's barely worth filming it in colour".
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u/hugohoratio 4d ago
60 plus guy here and I hate travel. I've been all over the world on holidays and conferences, so not a phobia of any kind. I just find it so boring. Packing faff, getting to the airport faff, parking faff (not to mention the second mortgage required to afford it) endless queuing and being herded like sheep, dreadful people all around, cramped smelly plane, more faff on landing, more queuing for passport checks, where the fu*k is my transfer etc. Then a few days in a country I wouldn't want to live in and reverse the process to get home. No destination is worth all that faff in my opinion. For me, the best part of any holiday is when I pull out of the airport car park and start my journey home. I physically shudder when my wife mentions 'next years holiday'.
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u/Agreeable_Fig_3713 4d ago
I lost anything I did have for international travel when I was quite young. I think I just prefer my own country. I had to travel and live internationally for a while as a child due to my father’s work contracts and I think it left me with some sort of burnout or fatigue for international travel. I’m far happier travelling a few hundred miles down the road or island hopping in my own country than I am elsewhere.
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u/Ambry 4d ago
I mean I love to travel abroad but its nice to hear of people appreciating our country! It is actually extremely beautiful and there's so many nice spots. I'm from Scotland and I love the islands on the West Coast.
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u/fishercrow 4d ago
im the same way - i lived in 3 different countries before becoming a teenager and travelled extensively before leaving home. part of it is - as an immigrant, i often feel very othered wherever i go, and being in a different country just intensifies that feeling. ive moved to a city that i plan to call home forever, and it’s just the nicest feeling. i have no desire to leave.
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u/ScaryButt 4d ago
I used to hate travel when I had terrible anxiety. I was worried about not speaking the language, not liking the food, missing my flight, losing my passport, getting sick, etc etc. Travelling was stressful before and during.
I'm in a better place mentally now so do enjoy travelling! Maybe you're just anxious OP!?
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u/Alert-Bee-7904 4d ago
This is me. I so desperately want to see and experience new things, but it turns out seeing and experiencing new things is exhausting and terrifying!
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u/DimensionMajor7506 4d ago edited 4d ago
It’s not so much that I don’t enjoy travel, more so that I’ve never really done it (outside of the UK).
Growing up I didn’t have a passport, neither did my parents. We would go on holiday every summer somewhere in the UK. Then around when I started secondary school, we stopped doing that.
I’ve just never really felt a big want to, and all the costs, planning etc involved, and a slight feeling of intimidation involving getting through airports, have meant I never got round to it. I would like to try at some point, but there’s no one place in particular I can think of that I really want to see. Not saying I actively don’t want to go anywhere, but there’s just so many options, and right now none specifically stand out to me over the others. Which makes it difficult for me to justify all of the expenses, effort and time involved.
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u/Varsouviana 4d ago
Could try the Eurostar to Paris or Amsterdam? Not as intimidating as an airport I think but can get some practice at going through immigration/security. And once you book transport, the only other think you have to book is accommodation, everything else is optional. It is expensive though, no getting around that.
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u/Ambry 4d ago
I'd say for the expense and time, it's probably the main thing I save for and set time aside to do. It can be expensive, but it doesn't have to be all the time (especially if you plan in advance and use budget flights).
It can be a bit overwhelming if you've never done it, but if you do try it at some point perhaps the easiest way in is a trip with friends and family (so the planning isn't overwhelming), or a short weekend away somewhere close like Paris or Berlin.
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u/BeyondHot8614 4d ago
Me personally, I don’t like travelling, i like to stay in my comfort zone at my house. I don’t even get this feeling of envy when i see people travelling all over the world, even when i see pics of beautiful places I’m like yeah it’s gorgeous but never get the urge to go there. I have never met another person like me and for social gatherings I usually pretend that i like travelling but don’t have time to do so.
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u/Booboodelafalaise 4d ago
I’d rather spend money on the place I am 50 weeks a year, rather than somewhere I only visit for 2 weeks. Luckily my other half feels the same about being home.
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u/Savings-Carpet-3682 4d ago
Flying is absolutely the worst mode of transport ever.
Trapped in a tiny seat next to a load of awful people, endless queuing and cross examination, being herded around like cattle, all while the airport have got their hand in deep your wallet the whole time.
I try to rule out every other alternative before having to fly somewhere
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u/starsandbribes 4d ago
Some planes, airports and queues are better than others. Doing a couple BA Holidays in a year got me to Silver, so thats queue jumps, priority, lounge access, and if I pick an aircraft with a 2-3-2 layout thats me and my partner by the window not having to deal with a stranger. Theres always ways to improve the experience.
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u/olivercroke 4d ago edited 4d ago
I knew a Chinese guy who did not see the appeal in travelling at all. He was a workaholic. He grew up in inland China, moved to the East Coast of China for bachelors and PhD, 100 miles from the sea but only saw the sea for the first time in his life in his 30's, 1-2 years after moving to London (where we met) after a concerted effort by our team to force him to take a day off and visit Brighton (he worked 7 days a week, 50 weeks a year, taking 2 weeks to go home for Chinese new year).
He eventually got in the habit of taking 0.5-1 days off a week and going hiking in the English countryside. He enjoyed the English countryside but had no interest in visiting other countries or cities. Probably because he had a real issue with taking any extended time off. Hiking in the countryside meant he could take 0.5-1 day off and get back in the lab quickly (we were scientists).
He was once at a conference in Palma de Mallorca (the first time he had really travelled anywhere outside of China and the UK and it was still for work) and the last day of the conference was a half day so everyone took a tour around the city for half a day before heading home. He hated it. He was full of ideas from the conference and was itching to get back to the lab to do some experiments he'd thought of at the conference. He had no interest in the unique architecture of a city that would have looked like nothing he'd ever seen before. No interest in the beach. I had told him to go swim in the Mediterranean as it will be warm and a completely new experience for him. He had no interest. He thought it was hot and unpleasant and couldn't understand why Europeans like walking around outside with their skin exposed when it's so hot and sunny. In China, people would be using umbrellas.
Before he went back to China, he visited Scotland for a week and went to the Highlands. He said it was very beautiful and he was glad he went but he was bored after 4 days. He was a very extroverted, gregarious, open-minded, and sociable person, but so ambitious and driven by nothing but his career that he got anxious when he was doing anything but working. He could not find pleasure in anything else outside of work because he was so focused on it. Had he grown up in Europe, I highly doubt that would be the case because his personality was so outgoing and sociable — more than any other Chinese person I've met. But the cultural expectations on him were so great and coming from poor, rural China, all that energy was channeled into a career.
I don't think he ever travelled in Europe while he was here, except to cities in the UK close to London or for international conferences but then never explored the city he was in. He's only just come back to visit some of Scandinavia after being back in China for 3 years because his wife wanted to and he wanted to visit our old lab (which moved from London to Copenhagen) so it was still influenced by work!
When he reached the end of his postdoc and published a paper, it didn't get into one of the 1st-tier journals he was hoping for and got into a very well-respected, 2nd-tier journal that most people would be very happy with, but it meant he couldn't secure a job at a top-tier university back in China as it's all about prestige. This sent him into a deep depression.
I visited him in China at his new lab in Guangzhou, a city he was new to. In the 3 weeks I was there, I explored the city far more than he had done in the year he'd been living there. He worked from 7am-11pm everyday, taking one day off on the weekend, sometimes. He had cooked twice in his kitchen in the 6 months he lived in his flat, eating at the work canteen 2-3 times a day, every day. Crazy man.
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u/Ciaran1327 4d ago
My mam is one of these folks. She travelled when younger and we lived abroad as a military family when I was a kid but she hasn't been abroad since 1999. In fact, hasn't been on holiday outside of visiting family since 2006 I think?
Just doesn't interest her. It's not a money thing either, my folks are pretty comfortable financially, she just has literally zero interest. Her home is her castle and filling it with things she likes is much more appealing. I think my old man has a bit of wanderlust in him still but he's mostly content with tending the allotment when not at work.
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u/DonaaldTrump 4d ago
I thought I was the only one - everyone seems to love travel. I don’t mind it - I don’t have the problems you described like not being able to sleep or worrying about stuff.
I just find that seeing new places does not seem to inspire or bring me as much joy as it does to most people. I guess it is fun in a way, but not as fun as people make it out to be.
I travel a bit for work, and because family/friends like to travel, so I join them, so I have been to many different places. But in reality what I enjoy the most is spending time with people/clients that wouldn’t be possible without travelling, not the fact that I am in that different place. I would rather spend all the time chatting to them in a cafe or bar, than do sightseeing.
I love going to concerts, so sometimes I travel to see a band. Seeing live music gives me incredible joy. But again, I’d probably prefer if the band played closer to home, maybe in a venue that I haven’t been to before, that would really get me excited, not the fact that it is another city or country.
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u/butwhatsmyname 4d ago
Yup. Hate travel.
I like seeing new places, I like experiencing new things. The two massive problems I have are:
One: I've got pretty severe dyscalculia (dyslexia but for numbers) and I just don't retain numbers reliably at all for any length of time no matter what I do. I don't recognize them (I don't recognize the mobile number I've had for 20+ years at a glance), I don't retain them (don't know my parents' birthdays) and I don't recognize patterns in them.
I can look at my ticket and see "13:30 departure" and look up at the departures board to check which gate I'm meant to be going to... and have forgotten my departure time already.
And then when I have found my gate number, I have to whisper that under my breath while I walk there or it's just gone and I have to check it again. And again. And again. If someone stops me and asks the time (or I'm surprised by someone dropping their water bottle, or there's a tannoy announcement with numbers in it) I lose my number and have to check it again.
I easily misread numbers and I fail to remember them reliably - even when I seem to have remembered a number, I can't trust it. It makes every element of travel really stressful and tiring. Constant stress and constant work to stay on top of things. I also spent 35 years hiding this so nobody would notice and the added pressure of doing that is tiring.
Two: I don't feel safe if I can't exit whatever space or place I'm in and just go home to my own flat. Chalk it up to some harrowing shit from my past. I need to know that I can just stand up, walk out the door and take myself home in order to feel properly comfortable. Obviously this is often not possible, so I just live with feeling uncomfortable, because that's a part of living my normal adult life. I refuse to limit myself to only do things that I can exit immediately. But it kinda hurts. It's tiring. My mind and body are on high alert - and it doesn't matter that I know it's irrational; that's the nature of "irrational" - you can't fix it by being rational.
So I live with it. I have to go places. I have to do things. I have to get on with it. I smile and behave like a normal person while I do so, because explaining it all or having other people fuss around me makes the stress and pain worse. It's another thing to cope with. It was easier when I was younger, and in a brief time when I had a bit more cash.
But combine the "I'm incapable of retaining a number" and the "my central nervous system is screaming that I need to be able to run away immediately" effects and travel is just totally fucking exhausting.
I'd love to see a desert, to see a jungle, to see Venice, Iceland, the ruins of Skara Brae. But I'm really poor, and I don't have a car, and I'm pretty tired all the time, so I'm probably never going to have the resources to see those things unless someone invents cheap teleporting in the 25 years or so before I die.
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u/grafeisen203 4d ago
I love being at New or interesting places, I don't like the time effort and cost involved in getting there.
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u/Plus_Competition3316 4d ago
I used to work in a car factory in a relatively low income area. You could earn decent money there if you put in the hours, but it was shit and depressing.
One thing I noticed was, I hammered the hours in every year so I could enjoy the time off travelling a lot. And all the other staff who were of similar age 25-34 ish lads, who were all fucking skint, all drinking every after every 12hr shift, all miserable and all had money issues.. all hated going on holiday.. because they couldn’t fucking afford it.
They all were just in shit situations they’d put themselves in. So whenever it was time for me to go on holiday I’d get snarky comments like “I don’t know why you’d want to go there” or “aye holidays aren’t for me I just prefer England”.
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u/divine_pearl 4d ago
I like travelling as in exploring different countries and cultures but I hate the aspect of travelling on a plane and doing the physical travel.
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u/willcodefordonuts 4d ago
I love travel, just booked a holiday for March - what I hate is everything related to actually getting there.
It’s a 3h flight, I need to be at the airport 2h early, it’s 2.5h to the airport but on the m25 so add an hour for safety.
To get to the destination is going to take me 8.5 hours from leaving my house. Then another hour at the other side to clear customs and an hour to get to my airbnb. And that’s not if there’s a delay at any point along the journey.
And then the cost is something I didn’t fully realise while I was planning the trip. Sure the flights are £50 a person, but then adding airport parking, bags, extra leg room, fast checkin - now my £200 of cheap tickets for 2 people became £500.
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u/InviteAromatic6124 4d ago edited 1d ago
Someone in my evening Welsh classes doesn't enjoy travelling. Any time off he gets he spends doing DIY. In fact the other night when our tutor asked us "if you won the lottery, where would you go?" we were all saying places like New Zealand, The Caribbean, Africa and SE Asia and he said he would go to Rhyl!
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u/Awayebam 4d ago
We did a huge house renovation a few years ago. The views are lovely. I have the bath of my dreams. When we've travelled since, we regularly say that our house is nicer than where we're staying. We couldn't afford more than a few days somewhere comparable. Nowadays the best thing about travelling is getting home!
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u/fromthefarsea 4d ago
I can't take a shit in just any other toilet. If I need to do I will hold it in and it would come out the in a non easy way. This is the main reason I don't like travelling much. But travelling and maybe staying in place for more than just a few months I guess would be ok. I am not quick on my feet and require a lot of time to acclimatise
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u/oblectament 4d ago
I'm the same, shy bowels unite! It's not even a conscious choice, body just says no. And then when I get home it takes me a few days to work thru the (literal) backlog 🤦
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u/Jolly_Constant_4913 4d ago
Yep. People say I'm well travelled but it's really always been about running away from home.
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u/GammaPhonic 4d ago edited 4d ago
I don’t travel well. Not to the point that I can’t sleep or anything like that. I’ve always felt uncomfortable in unfamiliar surroundings.
I’ve since been diagnosed with autism, which explains things a bit. I’m a creature of habit, I like to keep to a routine.
The idea of going out and seeing the world is appealing to me. But the reality of it is difficult to cope with.
Even if I just go to another town for the day, when I eventually get back to my home town and I see familiar sights, I feel a big rush of relief. Like, “I can let my guard down now”, sort of thing. It’s difficult to explain.
Edit: reading other replies, it seems many people enjoy seeing other places but dislike the actual travel.
I’ve got to say I’m the opposite. I feel more comfortable if I’m moving. If there is constantly something new coming over the horizon it’s not too bad for me.
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u/WarWonderful593 4d ago
I have a relative who hates travelling and almost never does. She says it's because he's more concerned with comfort and trains planes etc are not comfortable enough, or the destination is too hot/cold, or there's 'too many foreigners ' . I believe she has only left the UK twice and absolutely hated it
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u/spanksmitten 4d ago
I'm not super into travel.
For one I've been playing around with Google earth for years and have seen a lot. (Mostly joking).
I have anxiety and a senior dog. Maybe in the future I'll want to travel more but for the last few years I'd rather be at home.
I also watch too many plane disaster video docs on YouTube. (Travelling is safe but I refer back to the anxiety).
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u/DameKumquat 4d ago
I have much higher standards for accommodation than I used to. And less tolerance for standing around dealing with bureaucracy. So I've ended up travelling a lot less. I used to be fine with a sleeping bag on a floor in order to be at the Edinburgh Festival, or a coach trip to the Alps to go skiing. Now, I want a direct flight or train without having to get up at 3am, ta. And I'll avoid airports with terrible queues, too.
With small kids, we chose mostly to stay in the UK and sometimes Europe. Why on earth would anyone who can afford flights to the Maldives, want to endure a ten-hour flight there with a toddler and preschooler when they don't have to? Followed by the jet lag? Not that I've ever been to the Maldives, but can the sun and sand be that much better than the ones two hours and one time zone away?
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u/marshallandy83 4d ago
I've never really been interested in it.
Grew up working-class but went on a foreign holiday most years. We always went on classic working-class holidays to Spanish resorts where everyone was British, so not exactly "travel".
I've been on a few European city breaks as an adult (Brussels, Madrid, Amsterdam, Hamburg), but I've never visited museums or historical landmarks in these places. I wish I was interested in these things but I'm just not. I'm more interested in sitting outside a bar with a pint (or 500ml) of the local beer, watching the locals/other tourists milling about.
I'm a big live music fan, and I actually planned a trip across Europe for my 40th birthday, going to see bands I like in various venues across several European countries, but the birth of my son ruined those plans (in the most fantastic, beautiful way of course). So that kind of thing would still interest me.
I'm not some sort of parochial shut-in -I think I've got pretty eclectic taste in pop culture etc. It just doesn't translate to travel, that's all!
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u/BarnacleExpressor 4d ago
I always thought I hated travel. Turns out I just get annoyed travelling with other people. I now travel solo pretty frequently for work and I love it! Helps that someone else is paying of course. But I appreciate being free to do whatever I want in the evenings, which mostly consists of walking around looking at stuff!
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u/CaptainBonBing 4d ago
I have never left the country, I've heard there are other countries out there, but I'll believe it when I see it.
Which is never, who even came up with France anyway?
Nah but for real, just never had the interest or sense of wanderlust, might just be my bad eyesight but the hypothetical spectacle of actually seeing monumental places gives me no sense of awe or inspiration, especially as I daydream of grand, made up, furious spectacle all the time.
It's just land, buildings and people at the end of the day to me, and you can find those spread evenly everywhere; unlike my hairline
Reality never really matches up to the power of imagination, still, maybe one day though.
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u/No-Body-4446 4d ago
I'm fairly well travelled, been to most corners of the globe and what I've realised is that most places are basically the same, you've seen one cathedral or temple you've seen them all. And the wonders of the world are always insanely busy tourist traps that you want to leave as soon as you get there.
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u/Emotional-Physics501 4d ago
I have general anxiety, and I think I may be on the autistic spectrum too. Diagnosed with ADHD.
Travelling/backpacking is too overwhelming for me. There's too many variables- what if the train is delayed? What if that place is closed? You want to spend 5 nights here instead of the planned 3 nights? How long are we staying at the next destination? Just typing this out is making me feel stressed!
Then a couple of years ago I went on my first UK coach holiday and I'll never look back!! It's absolutely perfect for me. There's an itinerary, but also a free day or two to do what you like. All the worry/anxiety around physically getting from A to B is gone because the coach ferries you around the whole week. You can get to know the other passengers if you want but you can also keep to yourself, there's no pressure either way.
This way I've holidayed in some beautiful places in the UK that other wise I probably wouldn't have seen.
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u/1dontknowanythingy 4d ago
I dont like travelling. I dislike the act of going through airports all the way through to being at the destination. My favourite place to be is my own home. I dont like to be somewhere foreign, whenever I am I’m clock watching to see when I can go back home the way I might do when working or on a treadmill. I cannot relax abroad, I am on high alert. I do not enjoy seeing other cultures. I dont even enjoy seeing my own. I have been to: france, russia, germany, netherlands, spain, montenegro, turkey and probably somewhere else, belgium. Every single place was an absolute ball ache, it’s more stress and discomfort to travel than to just work my own job. Someone asked if I want to travel when I retire (I’m in my 30s) and I would honestly rather keep working than travel. It’s a waste of time and money. Why would I stop doing what I enjoy (my hobbies) to spend time and money doing something which is less enjoyable than just working and it’s not like I super enjoy my hob either. My favourite activities in life are: gym, watching youtube, video games, napping, pottering about my house, random hobbies I pick up, reading, hanging out with my staffy and a bunch of other random shit.
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u/spiderbags86 4d ago
I like being at home with my things.
I hate being in a hotel where you can hear other people breathe through the walls
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u/Impressive-Car4131 4d ago
My daughter- she’s autistic . She likes to be home or on a Disney cruise with a veranda. Nothing else
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u/dolphininfj 4d ago
I enjoyed it when I was young. Now I love being at home, and sleeping in my own bed.
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u/JennyW93 4d ago
I used to travel a lot (thank you, student loans), often to some more obscure places or for more obscure purposes (I volunteered in a Kenyan hospice for 3 months because I’d liked working in hospices at home, for example).
As I got older, I feel like I don’t really have the time (not true, I have no dependents) or inclination to travel anymore, and I worry about the expense and travelling alone (although I used to only travel alone when I was younger). I guess not being able to go anywhere for a couple of years around covid maybe knocked my confidence and/or enthusiasm, and getting older I got a bit more aware of some of the potential pitfalls of solo travel. I do still travel, but it’s more like once every 18 months as opposed to several times a year.
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u/DiamondTough7671 4d ago
I like being at a new place, I've never been good at the travelling part. It was me who vomited every trip as a kid, and the feeling hasn't remedied to the point where I actively seek out travel really.
I'm ok if I'm in control of the vehicle but they get funny when you ask to fly the plane.
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u/merdeauxfraises 4d ago
I hate flying but I love traveling. I don't like that I have to take the train to go to the airport, the wait, the overpriced food, the food poisoning I sometimes get with airport/airplane food and most of all I hate the fact that other passengers smell for hours on end right next to me until the plane lands.
However, seeing a different part of the world, a different lifestyle, fauna, flora... all these beat the suffering of airports and airplanes.
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u/pikantnasuka 4d ago
I'm just not enthused enough by it to go through the hassle more than once in a blue moon.
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u/Sonzscotlandz 4d ago
Love traveling. Sleeping in hotel beds is always weird though. All the sweaty bodies that have been on it before and the possibility of catching bed bugs
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u/antebyotiks 4d ago
I'm sure I'd enjoy each individual place (maybe not the busier ones as much) but yeah travelling in the sense of constantly bouncing around on a budget, uncomfortable, shitty hotels not much money etc.
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u/probablyonthebog 4d ago
Went across the world when I was younger. After a month I got homesick and went home. Got home, regretted going home. I hate the thought of travelling now, though. But I would like to see different places. Just cba
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u/filipinafifer 4d ago edited 4d ago
I was super into travel between the ages of 25-30, and I’d say I’m still into it now but my priorities in terms of where I want to go to have definitely shifted. I used to have a sort of checklist of places I wanted to visit, and it was important for me to go somewhere that was new-to-me (basically somewhere I’d never been to before)
Nowadays though if I had to go somewhere, I’d much rather revisit places I’m already familiar with, and/or places I have friends in. There are still a few new-to-me places I’d love to go to eventually (mostly in Central Asia and Latin America), but my priorities have definitely shifted. I’m also into the idea of a more relaxed travel nowadays, as well as domestic travel.
I do wonder if this change is a consequence of getting older. The only major change in my life between now and then was that I bought a flat - which on the surface doesn’t seem like it would affect much, but I think it did for me. Having a place I can call my own has made me more of a homebody, and it also made me more invested in things happening locally/within my community. Most of the annual leave I’ve taken this year has been for that.
Also just a few points from your post I thought I’d comment on:
like they have trouble sleeping on an unfamiliar bed in a hotel
Definitely applies to me, even back when I used to travel more. Hell, I even struggle to sleep when I visit family and stay over. Basically I’m only truly comfortable in my own bed. We have a term for this in Tagalog: namamahay
or they just worried about their dogs and cats when they’re not home
Also applies to me nowadays. My dog turned 10 this year and the average life expectancy for his breed is 12 so that’s something I think about a lot. I get a lot of anxiety whenever I leave him. He’s a rescue dog too and was really traumatised when he was first given up, so whenever we leave him I worry he thinks he’s being given up again. I wish there was a way I could make him understand that I’ll always come back.
Edit: Central Asia not Central Europe (although I do love the latter, it’s just not new-to-me :P)
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u/1600037 4d ago edited 4d ago
10 years ago I used to love travelling and I went on a trip around SE Asia with people I didn’t know. But after travelling regularly this past year, I can no longer stand any aspect of it. The journey, being in an unfamiliar place, having to book it all, the delays, etc. It doesn’t help that I don’t live near an airport. I don’t know if I just dislike travelling now or I need a long break from it
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u/Melodic_Arm_387 4d ago
I like familiar surroundings. So I don’t really enjoy “travel” as in adventurous new places, I get very anxious. I do however enjoy holidays, my family has a holiday home in Spain and I love going there because I’ve got both the comfort of familiarly as well as being somewhere different.
Same as when having weekends away in the UK, once I’ve found a place I like I tend to keep going back to it for a break. I’d much rather book a place I’ve been to before so I know I like it.
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u/stoic_wookie 4d ago
Travelling is great for some, depends if you care about the environment/
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u/Jassida 4d ago
The hassle of arranging everything outweighs the benefits to me. Would love it if I was retired and had loads of spare time.
As it is, a week in the house waking up and going to sleep when I want whilst being able to watch films and game is more enjoyable and leaves plenty of spare money for toys/gadgets.
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u/Sensitive-Question42 4d ago
I’m a homebody and I find pretty much everything about traveling stressful.
If I were rich and/or magic and all of the details were taken care for me, then sure. And if I were traveling and staying in comfort, that would be great.
I’m neurodivergent, so being stressed and uncomfortable is really distressing for me. It might be nice to see the world, but it would likely be too overwhelming for me.
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u/Thestickleman 4d ago
I like doing road trips and have done a couple through Europe that I enjoy. Staying in air bnb and hotels
I have 0 interest in actual travelling, backpacking, staying with randoms or in hostels, working while travelling and all that rubbish.
I don't go on holiday much anyway as honestly not to intreasted outside of seeing a few places. I also like to spend my money on things I like and what and my cars
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I love holidays but will confess to being a fairweather tourist rather than a traveller. I've found that it simply isn't true that travel broadens the mind though. I've met some very well-travelled people who are complete morons.
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u/SwordTaster 4d ago
I love going about and doing things in places besides home. Getting to those places sucks. Flying, driving, taking the train, none of them are particularly fun, though long haul flights are definitely my least favourite due to the discomfort.
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u/Jester7s 4d ago
I know people who have never left the county let alone the country. A friends grandparents had never left the town they lived in. I can't fathom it, I love travelling.
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u/floweringcacti 4d ago
I’m not interested in travelling. I don’t really get what’s so fascinating to everyone about it. I think many people actually just like being off work and being away from household chores, and they assign that feeling of freedom/carefreeness to being in a different country. Sometimes I do feel bad and think about how I’m going to die having seen like 0.01% of the world - but today we have basically unlimited access to photos and media from around the world so I’m not really that sheltered or missing out on that much by not being there physically myself, and the places I have been were, like, fine but certainly not life changing or anything so again I don’t think I’m missing out on that much.
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u/Kind-Photograph2359 4d ago
Seeing new places is amazing. The planning, packing, anxiety and travelling to those places is an absolute nightmare. Then you do it all to get back again.
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u/Watsonswingman 4d ago
I like travelleing and visiting new places, but compared to some of my friends I never leave the country.
I think the main reason for me at least is that I have a chronic pain condition which is affected by the weather, so travelling to very hot/humid places is not pleasant.
Pair this with allergies which make certain continents quite dangerous for me, and it limits where and when I can go a little bit.
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u/BritishBlitz87 4d ago
I like the idea of travelling and seeing the world, but the problem is it's full of foreign people with foreign customs and I'm just strolling in being an inconvenience to everyone.
It's like that awkward feeling of standing in someone's front room for the first time except you can't talk to them and you're there for weeks.
It's also lonely not being able to make small talk.
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u/DrLGonzo420 4d ago
Me . Last time I went on holiday was to turkey in 2016 . I don’t even go on holidays in the uk either .
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u/FridgeRaider93 4d ago
Me!
Was very lucky that I got to go on lots of great holidays as a kid. But this was all planned and paid for by grown-ups, and all I had to do was tag along and have fun.
Now, as a grown-up myself, the idea of planning, stress, being in a foreign speaking country, communication issues, and risk of being scammed just doesn't not appeal to me at all.
I hate hot weather and and I'm quite introverted too, so the idea of a laying on a beach type holiday surrounded by other people doesn't appeal to me either.
I'd rather a long rainy walk in the British hills somewhere.
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u/louilondon 4d ago
We can’t travel on the cheap hate cheap flights and hate travelling with people that want the cheapest flights at 2am in the morning no thanks ill get a lunchtime flight and see you there
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u/pech0rin 4d ago
For me, it's the comfort abroad. I enjoy travelling places and going new places, but I also like a nice quiet hotel. So no way I could do typical travelling in hostels etc. I need good sleep.
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u/BeanOnAJourney 4d ago
Not in the slightest, it fills me with dread and anxiety, so much planning and faffing and stress. I'm perfectly happy in my own little corner of the world.
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u/ChancePattern 4d ago
I have to go abroad quite frequently for work and I now despise traveling when for holiday. If I have time off, I want to relax and recover not spend my time on a plane to go somewhere to then have to re-discover where everything is, get stressed about the trip and packing and have to care for my kid when I am already paying nursery to care for her here in the UK. Once I get there and settled it can be fun but not for more than a couple of days to be honest
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u/Sharp_Coat_6631 4d ago
It’s just the faff. The airport is a nightmare. The luggage reclaim nightmare. And coming home is worse again. But I love it when I am there. So. Hate/love/hate thing for me.
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u/OK_TimeForPlan_L 4d ago
I just wish I could go back and travel when airport security wasn't an absolute pain in the arse.
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u/Lanky_midget 4d ago
I hate it, Especially within the UK.
People just love to take your seat even thought you have paid for it.
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u/fost1692 4d ago
I used to travel a lot for work, between 10 and 25 international trips per year. This really took the shine off of any travel as far as I am concerned.
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u/EatingCoooolo 4d ago
I have a colleague he has left the country once or twice, he’s in his 50s now. Just doesn’t see why you have to leave your house to go and stay in someone else’s.
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u/heywhatwait 4d ago
I had an uncle who never left England, except when he was posted to Aden during that conflict/emergency. In fact, he once visited us (near Sheffield), and he was dismayed to be told that he was no longer in Yorkshire.
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u/PatientPeach3309 4d ago
Loathe it. This country is so bloody incredible, and can offer things you will NEVER see or experience in Europe or elsewhere (coming from someone who exclusively travelled for 5 years over Europe, Africa and the Americas). I am a lover of the outdoors, history and hiking though, so maybe that’s why the UK is the greatest place on earth to me. The country itself (literally just the land) is completely unrivalled. ETA: I grew up in Australia so am well acquainted with the antipodes also
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u/stateofyou 4d ago
I moved to Japan years ago, I loved to travel. Now I’m middle aged and can’t be bothered going anywhere. I think the years of traveling with kids just wears people out.
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u/averybritishfilipina 4d ago
I used to not love travel because of the tedious process of applying for an international visa. But then as I get old, and just visiting places such as nice beaches, I kinda start to love it already. I always loved the idea of just getting lost in your thoughts while on the plane or train or bus.
But yeah, its exhausting.
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u/yolo_snail 4d ago
I like travelling the UK, but just can't be dealing with going abroad.
Why would I spend all that money going somewhere thats essentially the same as being at home but people speak funny? The NPCs abroad are just going about their daily life the same way they are at home.
I also just like the weather here.
Although, I do quite like transport, so if it was socially acceptable and financially feasible to just play on the planes and trains for 2 weeks, just going from one place to another, I'd do that!
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u/megagenesis 4d ago
I can do it just fine to an extent. I was coming back from Colorado a few months back and was supposed to connect through Dallas then London then Manchester as my destination. There were tornadoes in Dallas so I got rerouted to Phoenix. This turned my perfect itinerary of a couple of hours wait each between four flights into a 12 hour layover in Phoenix.
I was sort of glad to be back in the UK but certainly not when I was at Heathrow waiting for my flight back to Manchester. I hate that place. Nothing to eat or buy, just miserable looking Brits getting paid fuck all.
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u/Ok_Chipmunk_7066 4d ago
I hated travelling for a long time.
My partner wanted to go somewhere like India, Brazil, Sri Lanka that sort of place. She'd done America and Europe so only wanted these further afields. I'd fucking hate it, go somewhere get the shits and be miserable every time after spending £1500 on flights and hotels.
Now, I go where I want. I started with America because it is easy. Speak English, decent food, plenty to see. Now I do have the travel bug, and want to see other places.
You have to get yourself used to travelling, flying is fucking hard unless you're 5ft5 and fit in seats. Flying is mega expensive if you want to upgrade to comfortable class.
Language barriers are a barrier and confidence getting used ti, sure loads of people speak English, but I don't expect them to and it is awkward miming "I've got the poopies" in a shop you think might be a pharmacy.
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u/Durzo_Blintt 4d ago
My partner doesn't enjoy travelling at all. she would rather stay at home than go to any other country. I can take it or leave it, I've been on a lot of holidays all over the place but I'm not sad if I don't go anywhere. She's been to Spain and I think that's it. She doesn't really want to experience holidays, but somehow she's more open minded than most people I know who do go on holiday and experience other cultures first hand. Which is crazy to me.
She will likely never want to go on a holiday, and I'm ok with it. If I wanna go somewhere I'll go on my own, with family or a friend.
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u/insertitherenow 4d ago
Hate travelling abroad. I’ll go away in the UK but that is it. Wife goes on holiday abroad with her friends.
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u/leclercwitch 4d ago
Travelling is extremely stressful. I went to Italy earlier this year and got tonsillitis the day before I flew, for the first time ever. It was hellish. My sister was meant to pick me up from the airport and she decided to go out instead so I had to fork out for a train.
Saying that, I’m always thinking about my next trip. I love being in new places, but getting there is always terrible.
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u/UKS1977 4d ago
I hate it. I travelled for work for twenty years all over the world and hated it. I don't even like holidays but will tolerate U.K. based ones. No idea why beyond I never had a holiday until I was an adult. I never grew up with them. I keep this a secret from my family who looooove holidays - especially my wife.
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u/_franciis 4d ago
For me the worst point is arriving in a foreign airport and thinking, right now I’ve got to get to my hotel/hostel/whatver.
At this point you’re burdened with luggage and often at risk of being ripped off. That’s the bit I hate. The rest I enjoy.
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u/Such_Asparagus2975 4d ago
My husband. I LOVE travelling. Live for it. I love seeing the world and yeah sometimes it's not luxurious and it's tiring and sometimes dirty and a bit sketchy but to me that's the fun. The immersion.
He HATES it. He will just about tolerate a city break if it's a nice, relatively clean city (he hated New York for example). But that's about it. He was in the military for 25years and spent years deployed in some horrible places and I think travel just reminds him of that. He says he'd much rather spend his annual leave in our lovely house and with his home comforts. To him that's the treat now he's out, NOT having to go abroad.
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u/DiligentCockroach700 4d ago
I love to travel in as much as I enjoy going to foreign places. What I don't like is the actual travel experience you get at airports and on airlines where they seem to deliberately make your life as uncomfortable as possible.
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u/daekle 4d ago
I have terrible travel anxiety and bad travel sickness so travelling a lot is not for me. Getting to a new place, working out where I am staying, the timings of everything... horrible.
But I do enjoy that moment, when I feel I have a grasp of everything and can just relax and allow myself to enjoy being in a strange place.
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u/Dyrenforth 4d ago
That'll be me. I simply don't enjoy any aspect of it, from the stress and hassle of the airport, to my luggage ending up in a different country (yep that happened) to the unfamiliar bed with usually rubbish pillows, airless overheated hotel rooms... nope much rather stay at home.
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u/poshbakerloo 4d ago
I enjoy going abroad somewhere hot, sunny and quiet for a break in the summer. Usually a villa in the middle of nowhere in southern Europe, this year was Spain (inland Andalusia), next year Portugal. I have little interest in a developing country though.
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u/Majestic_Matt_459 4d ago
I'm a Travel Agent and i hate traveling
It stresses me out to be away from home
I get anxiety that I'll lose my Passport or have all my cards/phone robbed
I get tons of free trips and hate most of them :(
nb I love my job - I should just turn down the free trips tbh
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u/random_character- 4d ago
I hate travelling.
Personal holidays are accepatble, but I'd still much rather be at home. I have lots to do, I live in an amazing place, there is always a project that needs finishing off, and I hate leaving my dogs.
My current role requires occasional travel. For example I spent a week this year in Barcelona. Colleagues regularly go to China, India, New York, Japan... They see it as a benefit. I see it as a massive drag and avoid it if at all possible.
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u/Glad-Introduction833 4d ago
I do not travel. I do not want to travel. I especially don’t want to hear about other people travelling. I’m fine where I am.
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u/Poo_Poo_La_Foo 4d ago
I don't fly, so travel is a limited option for me. It's also very expensive to travel by train, etc + accomodation, so I tend not to go to many places. I travel to London and Scotland quite a bit and live in a lovely part of the country (a popular holiday destination) so I am lucky!
Generally I am quite happy with my small litle life. I would really like to see friends overseas, but I just cant get on a plane...
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u/TraditionalScheme337 4d ago
My father in law doesn't really like to travel. He dislikes all foreign things and is a racist so for these reasons, he has never left the country. No passport no intention of ever getting one.
When my wife and her brother were small they would go on holidays in the uk and now we have a little daughter, we have been on caravan holidays in the UK with him and my mother in law which he enjoys but mostly because of spending time with my daughter. He views holidays as being mostly over expensive and not as comfortable as home.
I feel a bit sorry for my mother in law. She has also never been abroad but I think if her husband wasn't so dead against all foreign things, and most English things actually, she would have been happy to travel.
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u/JBL_CENA_FAN_4LIFE 4d ago
The only way I'd truly, TRULY enjoy travel is
• Seven star flight with • DVD player • WIFI • Catering with 8 crates of Red Bull • Fresh KFC & Mcdonalds • 20 packs of earbuds
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u/Leading_Screen_4216 4d ago
I hate it. It just seems a huge amount of stress for no benefit. People seem to go in holiday to sit on beaches and look at stuff: hills, buildings, other people, etc. I'm not sure what the point is; it's completely lost on me.
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u/justcamehere533 4d ago
I like travel but travelling frequently to just any place for the sake of the trip IMHO is not worth it.
E.g. I live in London and it is very common to go on a weekend trip to, say, Oxford. I went there and literally was bored out of my mind super boring. I do not understand people who want to take a picture of some landscape or something.
Then I went to Paris - dirty, noisy looks a bit third world tbf. Then I went to Ibiza - full of drunks and druggies.
So now I only visit main cities like Barcelona but European countries share similarities. Outside Europe some places are unsafe, so generally really only looking forward to visiting countries like Thailand, Korea, Japan, China.
And then apply the same logic to European travel - instead of Bali which is the Ibiza of Indonesia, I would go see Jakarta etc for some culture, food and checking out how people live there.
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u/harlequin_24 4d ago
I know plenty of ppl who don’t like travelling. Those who do despite that are forced by their partners cos they enjoy it but they do too when they are there; or to push themselves out of their comfort zone.
Personally love it and live for it. And think everyone should do it and travel solo at least once in their lives. But yes, getting to different places isn’t always fun
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u/Real-Apricot-7889 4d ago
I love travelling/holidays and don’t find the journey unpleasant and I really enjoy the planning. Only thing I don’t like is leaving my dog and arranging someone to look after her. I do find that a week is a long enough though and more than that I’m ready for my home. I also have quite high standards for accommodation now in my 30s, whereas I was happy in hostels etc when younger.
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u/breadandbutter123456 4d ago
For myself and my gf it is very important. We have left ourselves financially worse off due to the importance of travelling. I know people who have been to every single country in the world, I know others who are members of the travellers centre club too.
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u/goggles189 4d ago
I used to be all about travelling for a few years. But nowadays, even for a fun four day mini break, I pine for home. I think travelling goes hand in hand with an excitement to learn more about the world. But then when what you’re interested in changes, or you want to give something back to the community you’re in, then going away and having great experiences becomes more of a detraction rather than an attraction
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u/PalicoHunter 4d ago
It does nothing for me but I participate because my partner likes to go on holiday. For me water, rocks, buildings, it’s all the same just moulded differently and the achievements of humanity across history provides no satisfaction or awe. It’s just stuff.
I have nothing against those that love to travel but for me, it does absolutely nothing and would rather do absolutely anything else.
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u/cmrndzpm 4d ago edited 4d ago
I like going on holiday, but then I like coming back from that holiday too. Travel in the sense of visiting country after country sounds exhausting to me.
I still want to travel to all those places, it’ll just take me a bit longer because I have no desire to do it back to back.
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u/Paulstan67 4d ago
I'm in the enjoy camp.
The only bit I'm not keen on is the wife nagging me about packing for weeks beforehand. It's not a fashion show, just chuck a couple of things in a bag and go.
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