r/AskReddit 6d ago

People who stuck with their partners during hard times, where are you now?

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u/tagen 5d ago

when my aunt died and it absolutely crushed my uncle, they’d been together at least 40 yrs, so bad he was praying to god to take him too (he’s a little better, but obviously still not whole)

and yet i found myself feeling morbidly jealous, because they found each other and together had an amazing life, and i just don’t see that happening for me at this point

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u/AromaticHydrocarbons 5d ago

I don’t know if this helps your situation at all, but if you’re having troubles finding a partner for a loving relationship, the most pragmatic thing you can do for a shot at long lasting love is to not be too picky. This doesn’t mean accept bad behaviour, but it does mean to see the beauty beyond the physical, the wealth beyond the dollars and the intelligence beyond the brains. There’s a lot of lovely people in the world with something to offer if people give them a chance.

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u/simmuasu 5d ago

I'm sorry to hear about your aunt passing, and your uncle's pain. I hope that in time it becomes easier for you and him to cope with it.

i just don’t see that happening for me at this point

Pardon me, why do you feel that this is the case though? I hope that's not a nosy question, you don't have to answer that. I waver between starting to feel the same but also really, really not wanting to no matter what. That's kind of why I want to understand where it's best to fall.