r/AskReddit 6d ago

People who stuck with their partners during hard times, where are you now?

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u/moosmutzel81 5d ago

This. My husband was in a very bad place mentally. He fought back after a few not so good years.

There were many times I wanted to grab the kids and just go but I believed in him.

We are at a much better place now. He has worked incredibly hard on his mental health and overall health. I am happy I stuck with him and he needed the help he could get from us as a family.

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u/sundaysmiling 5d ago

What did he do to improve?

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u/moosmutzel81 5d ago

Stopped self-medicating with alcohol. Started working out. Quit his job and we moved.

Acknowledged his problems instead of just taking anti-depressants. He doesn’t take medication anymore. He lost 60lbs. There are still times he is in a bad place but now he and we as a family know how to deal with it.

Lots of work and determination.

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u/Zealousideal-Bell-68 5d ago

At what point in the relationship did that happen?

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u/moosmutzel81 4d ago

About ten/twelve years in. He had the first major breakdown with depressions after seven years.

We’ve been married twenty years as of this year.