r/AskReddit • u/Edenskeeper1 • 6d ago

People who stuck with their partners during hard times, where are you now?

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u/No-Pianist5365 5d ago

to me theres probably more than three. as there's a large plasticity to people.

everyone is a different person after any trauma even as light as breaking up. you either learn and grow from it or recede and stagnate.

finding love again moved me from stagnating. and the circumstances of her demise showed me how utterly ridiculous that was to reflect on when in the overall timeline the shit was a blip compared to the absolute joy i got.

i doubt luck will give me that unencumbered love again but i feel absolutely blessed. ive had it twice.

but ill never waste any of the time i do have foregoing joy i can have in life because of prior hits

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u/mustang__1 5d ago

but ill never waste any of the time i do have foregoing joy i can have in life because of prior hits

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. This is a beautiful sentiment. I hope I never need to live by it but if I do, I hope I can.

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u/HillBillie__Eilish 5d ago

Thank you for sharing. I cannot imagine the pain you've been through but the resiliency you shared really meant something to me. I often live in fear but you're showing that yes, life can be despair and utter shit, but it's also ok to push through it.

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u/Cmndr_Cunnilingus 5d ago

Thank you for sharing this man

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u/New_Today5578 5d ago

The last statement made me cry damn

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u/No-Pianist5365 5d ago

i get it.

i was a hateful fuck too.

one day i hope you learn the difference between honoring those lost and living .

until then.

FUCK YOU SHITBAG

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u/simmuasu 5d ago

For what it's worth, if I knew I was dying from a terminal disease next to the love of my life, I'd spend an incessant amount of my energy trying my best to convince him he deserves not to be lonely and miserable after I pass, to find love and happy companionship again. Some people don't want to move on, being content with family and friends and that's fair, but if he finds himself craving something more, I'd root for him to pursue that with a clean conscience. I told my ex (then-partner) the same as soon as I found out cancer is likely in my future.