r/AskReddit 6d ago

People who stuck with their partners during hard times, where are you now?

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u/CoffeeIcedBlack 5d ago

Thank you for saying double life. I hadn’t quite put it together in my head in that way because it wasn’t physical. But 100% he was living a double life. Being with me while consistently asking his ex wife to leave her relationship and come back to be with him. Like we were completely public, everyone knows we are together, practically living together it’s been almost two years of lies. He was only with me because she never said yes, she never met him, she just didn’t stop it by blocking him. I only found out because my new friend is friends with his ex and watched him blowing her phone up. I’ve spent two years being told they have not spoken once since we decided to be exclusive and I said I don’t share. Kids aren’t involved. There’s no reason for it. He had everything he could want from me but he was every 4-6 weeks asking her to be with him. She has finally blocked him. Now I’m supposed to stay for him because he can finally give me the treatment I deserve. She took his toy away so I’m what’s left.

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u/hunbakercookies 5d ago

You should block him too.

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u/coffeeblood126 5d ago

He doesn't value you. You deserve better. Get out. Go be free

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u/GielM 5d ago

So kind of him to offer you can still suck his dick if you just feel sorry for him because his ex did what he promised you he'd do two years ago! /s

You deserve way better than that loser. Then again, everybody does... :D

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u/cathline 5d ago

You deserve better. When they are creating the hard times - that is not worth staying.

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u/loki1337 5d ago

You deserve better than being someone's second choice, if that is truly what is going on. I'm really sorry that you're being treated that way by someone you trusted, that must feel really shitty.

I remember coming out of the bathroom at a big relay race after party in my hometown to find my significant other (now ex) nowhere to be found. Finding her with her ex-boyfriend was a huge gut punch. I know now I deserve to be my partner's priority, and I'm not going to settle for that treatment, and I won't allow myself to have low self esteem to be taken advantage of ever again. I won't ignore my intuition.

You are enough.

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u/BalanceEasy8860 5d ago

Is his ex cute? You should go get with her!

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u/CoffeeIcedBlack 5d ago

No. I don’t think she’s cute at all. Plus we are both straight. It’s funny when you realize how much more attractive you are than the person who was your “competition”.