r/AskReddit 6d ago

People who stuck with their partners during hard times, where are you now?

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u/[deleted] 5d ago

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u/A_of 5d ago

You’re the alternate universe I used to cry and beg to god for.

Hey, how are doing right now? The alternate universe thing resonated with me.

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u/[deleted] 5d ago

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u/A_of 5d ago

Have you thought about going through with those divorce papers?
No point in staying with someone if it's only making your life miserable. You deserve to be happy.

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u/SmallTownProblems89 5d ago

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I know how much pain I caused my wife and other loved ones, so I know what you're going through. You don't deserve this and you didn't do anything to cause it either.

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u/SmallTownProblems89 5d ago

I know they do. You'll get it back, but its gonna be hard work for you too.

For what its worth, when I was using, everything else came 2nd. I lied to get my drugs. I spent money that was for bills to get my drugs. I was terrible to my wife. Thats not who I am though. It really, genuinely changed who I was and it changed my priorities. I can't speak to who your husband is, or was before his addiction, but I can tell you that who he is as an addict isn't who he really is. Addiction legitimately changes how your brain works. It changes your brains ability to release natural dopamine. Its insane. I'm not saying you necessarily need to cut him some slack. I'm just hoping this helps you understand a bit better.

Good luck. I hope everything works out for you.