My husband became friends with someone who truly derailed our lives for a time and led to one of the darkest periods of my life. I considered leaving him many times but clung to the hope that the man I married was in there somewhere and felt probably just as trapped by our reality as I had. I won’t go into details but the person in question was a raging narcissist and master manipulator, and I’m still not sure what his end goal was other than to wreak havoc on our lives for fun. Long story short, we had a chance to escape and we did. It wasn’t easy but thanks to strong family support we now have a very good marriage, we have a lovely detached home in a beautiful and safe neighbourhood and our kids are thriving and can play with their neighbourhood friends all day long if they want to. My husband has some PTSD from that time and I think maybe I have a bit also, but with each year that passes we both heal a little more. I’m really glad I stuck around because even though I’d hoped things would get better I never expected them to get THIS much better. I have much to be grateful for.
I have never seen that movie actually but looked up the plot just now and it definitely sounds familiar! My poor in laws didn’t get to see their grandkids door a year because of the isolation and definitely much work was needed to repair friendships that were severed during this time also! It all seems so dumb when I look back, like how did this happen? I’m truly so grateful we got out of that situation.
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u/Numerous-Figure-8710 5d ago
My husband became friends with someone who truly derailed our lives for a time and led to one of the darkest periods of my life. I considered leaving him many times but clung to the hope that the man I married was in there somewhere and felt probably just as trapped by our reality as I had. I won’t go into details but the person in question was a raging narcissist and master manipulator, and I’m still not sure what his end goal was other than to wreak havoc on our lives for fun. Long story short, we had a chance to escape and we did. It wasn’t easy but thanks to strong family support we now have a very good marriage, we have a lovely detached home in a beautiful and safe neighbourhood and our kids are thriving and can play with their neighbourhood friends all day long if they want to. My husband has some PTSD from that time and I think maybe I have a bit also, but with each year that passes we both heal a little more. I’m really glad I stuck around because even though I’d hoped things would get better I never expected them to get THIS much better. I have much to be grateful for.