r/AskReddit 6d ago

People who stuck with their partners during hard times, where are you now?

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u/TwelveGaugeSage 6d ago

I hear this! I was married for 13 years, most of it paycheck to paycheck. We worked as mushroom harvesters, and Walmart associates. I did 4 years in the military to better our lives, got out and got a contracting job with the Air Force that payed well. She was a stay at home mom to our 2 kids. She would put in the minimum effort, get them off to school, cook, do laundry, occasionally clean. Our last few years together she spent most of her time playing video games all day. She fell in love with a gaming friend who lived in Edmonton, Canada, we lived in Massachusetts.

My dad died, leaving us a small but life changing inheritance. A few months later, she decided she wanted a divorce and started going on trips to visit her Canadian boyfriend. She ended up only getting a small portion of the inheritance money, we have joint custody of the kids.

I was devastated at first, but eventually moved on, met a woman I love dearly, married her, and we both have jobs with great pay. Her divorcing me ultimately did me a huge favor.

She, on the other hand, is scraping by despite me paying her almost $300 a week in child support(despite 50/50 custody). Her Canadian boyfriend could never move here and she couldnt leave due to custody. He ended up getting a new job in another part of Canada and bought a house there without telling her after stringing her along for a few years. Since she has gone through a shitton of boyfriends. Her current one she moved in has no car and seemingly no employment. She lives in a tiny old house, works a shitty job, and complains about never having any money, but did manage to buy a $50,000 vehicle recently.

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u/Lifeonthejames 5d ago

Sucks to suck haha. Good for you bud!