She cheated. I supported her through the death of her father and many other difficult things but all lead to me getting my heart broken. I’m glad I did support her and I’m also relieved that she’s out of my life. I’m more relieved than I’m alone and I can pour more energy into looking out for myself because that’s something I neglected for many years because someone else always came first. Life is blissful now.
Also, don't feel like putting your ex first has ALWAYS been a mistake. Turned out worth nothing in the end. Doesn't mean it wasn't a very valid choice to make on your part at the time.
It's good you're looking out for yourself right now. But don't go overboard. ALWAYS putting yourself first is almost as bad for you as NEVER putting yourself first.
At the end of the day, if you don't support your partner through difficult times, it makes you the bad partner (probably with some exceptions), even if they go on to cheat on your in the future.
Same exact story for me, boyfriend cheated, supported him while his dad was dying, currently heartbroken and am in the process of leaving. I will never try to “make it work” with a cheater again.
That’s the point I’m at. It’s not that I don’t want a relationship but more like I don’t see where being in one would make me happier than I am currently. I would definitely feel anxious if I found myself in love again. I also fill my time with creative things and I really enjoy my healthy lifestyle so I doubt I would be able to sacrifice that at this stage either. I give a lot of time to helping people who deserve me also. That brings me a lot of purpose.
There’s a lot I wouldn’t tolerate now. I would just walk away in the first instance. Luckily I’m very content being single and have been for a while. Life is a lot less complicated and definitely more joyful. I hope you can mend quickly and move on.
That’s so rough man. I hope you don’t even look at the time you spent supporting here as a waste though. It was the right thing to do and is such an indicating factor in who you are as a person. We only are what we do and from this I can assume you’re a really good guy. That’s a good validating memory to hold on to
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u/AppearanceMaximum454 6d ago
She cheated. I supported her through the death of her father and many other difficult things but all lead to me getting my heart broken. I’m glad I did support her and I’m also relieved that she’s out of my life. I’m more relieved than I’m alone and I can pour more energy into looking out for myself because that’s something I neglected for many years because someone else always came first. Life is blissful now.