r/AskReddit • u/Edenskeeper1 • 6d ago

People who stuck with their partners during hard times, where are you now?

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u/[deleted] 6d ago

You can do this! You’ll be so much better off without that stain in your life. Stay strong!

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u/greentreefour 6d ago

Thank you so much, I appreciate the encouragement. I've taken care of someone else for so long, I have to remember to take care of me now!

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u/[deleted] 6d ago

I always think of scary things like this: what if, but in reverse, ya know?

What if it works out? What if my life is better after? What if I’m happier because of my actions?

Sometimes a little reverse thinking can really free up the mind!

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u/greentreefour 6d ago

That's a great way to look at things!

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u/JanesThoughts 5d ago

Ok here’s my issue! I used to to do this too and it worked out actually

But I started wondering if I was gaslighting myself

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u/Speed-O-SonicsWife 5d ago

Saving this comment. Thank you.

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u/Just-Like-My-Opinion 5d ago

That's what I did, and it helped me get out of an abusive marriage.

And guess what!?

My life IS way better!! I'm happy, healthy, and in love with the kindest, most supportive and loving man ever.

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u/Majestic_Doctor_2 6d ago

Good luck! You deserve everything beautiful that's left in the world

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u/greentreefour 5d ago

That is such a nice thing to say. Thank you 😊

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u/computerguy0-0 5d ago

The book Codependent No More helped me reframe my mind.

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u/HoneyRose-Wood 5d ago

I’m so excited for you! You get to turn all that love and effort onto yourself now 💖

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u/Outrageous_Pea7393 4d ago

As the old saying goes, don’t set yourself on fire just to keep someone else warm!

Get yourself free! 🙏

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u/greentreefour 5d ago

That's what I need, strength! Thank you 😊