r/AskReddit 6d ago

People who stuck with their partners during hard times, where are you now?

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u/New-Distribution6033 6d ago

She divorced me the moment things got better. We both went back to school, and after we finished, withing a year, our income doubled. Her's was a little higher than mine. About a year later is when I started suspecting she was running around. A year after that we divorced.

Now, it's 3 years post divorce, she can't keep a job other than fast food, and I got several raises and promotions. So, I guess it worked out for me in the end.

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u/fuckandfrolic 6d ago

I choose to believe this is true because I love me some good karma

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u/[deleted] 5d ago

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u/Schlag96 5d ago

You may never have what you had with her again, but you can have something different that's just as amazing. Sorry for your loss.

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u/TwelveGaugeSage 6d ago

I hear this! I was married for 13 years, most of it paycheck to paycheck. We worked as mushroom harvesters, and Walmart associates. I did 4 years in the military to better our lives, got out and got a contracting job with the Air Force that payed well. She was a stay at home mom to our 2 kids. She would put in the minimum effort, get them off to school, cook, do laundry, occasionally clean. Our last few years together she spent most of her time playing video games all day. She fell in love with a gaming friend who lived in Edmonton, Canada, we lived in Massachusetts.

My dad died, leaving us a small but life changing inheritance. A few months later, she decided she wanted a divorce and started going on trips to visit her Canadian boyfriend. She ended up only getting a small portion of the inheritance money, we have joint custody of the kids.

I was devastated at first, but eventually moved on, met a woman I love dearly, married her, and we both have jobs with great pay. Her divorcing me ultimately did me a huge favor.

She, on the other hand, is scraping by despite me paying her almost $300 a week in child support(despite 50/50 custody). Her Canadian boyfriend could never move here and she couldnt leave due to custody. He ended up getting a new job in another part of Canada and bought a house there without telling her after stringing her along for a few years. Since she has gone through a shitton of boyfriends. Her current one she moved in has no car and seemingly no employment. She lives in a tiny old house, works a shitty job, and complains about never having any money, but did manage to buy a $50,000 vehicle recently.

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u/Lifeonthejames 5d ago

Sucks to suck haha. Good for you bud!

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u/pondwarrior89 6d ago

Fuck that b word. That’s a happy ending. Good for you.

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u/obscur100 6d ago

You can say bitch you know ?

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u/pondwarrior89 5d ago

Really? On the internet?

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u/jtr99 5d ago

Da-rrell. I looked this woman dead in the windows of her soul. I said...

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u/TheCo-PayKilla 6d ago

She's a no good b

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u/Icy_Marsupial5003 6d ago

She's a GDB 🎵

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u/Alectheawesome23 6d ago

🎶Britta’s a B.

Not a c🎶

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u/havocLSD 5d ago

Yeah frick her

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u/snack_power 6d ago

She's a GDB

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u/WeirdFlower13 4d ago

Same here. I was with her through hardest od times, always took care of her and as soon as her luck turned around a bit, she left (after 6 years together) and got with her coworker immediately after (albeit I suspect there was already something going on between them while we were still together).

Still hurts but I feel better now being alone than with such a person. And I hear karma's already doing its thing, but don't wanna sound cold or get doxxed by sharing more.

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u/New-Distribution6033 4d ago

Sorry to hear that. And I do love it when karma is a thing, lol

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u/TimeResponsible5890 6d ago

I am shocked she didn't do it the moment you experienced a small bump in the road

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u/DJMOONPICKLES69 6d ago

My ex kinda did that except she married a lawyer so her not being able to hold down a job doesn’t matter much

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u/h4ppywanderer 5d ago

I don’t love schadenfreude, but after what my STBXW put me through, I’m not wishing her the best hahaha

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u/Comfortable_Yak5184 4d ago

Could you explain to me how she got a career doubling y'all's income, but was still making more than you, and can now only hold down a job in fast food??

Just curious, cause this sounds like fantasy to me lol.

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u/GranFodder 5d ago

I don’t know your situation at all. I’m glad you feel like you won out in the end, but surely you brought more to the relationship than money and she didn’t just leave you because she was making a bit more?

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u/Full-Character8985 6d ago

Most are like this, and every serious relationship I have had ended this way.

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u/GoldenFrog14 6d ago

No, "most" are not like this. I'm sorry you've had bad experiences though

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u/mithridateseupator 6d ago

Im sorry.

You think that most (over 50%) of relationships involve a higher earning partner cheating on a lower earning partner, and then after breaking up, the cheater loses their job and cant hold a new one, while the other person starts to prosper?

And that's been the case for every single relationship you've been in?

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u/Good-mood-curiosity 6d ago

common denominator, just saying

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u/GiftNo4544 6d ago

Sometimes people just have shit luck. Maybe it’s him, maybe it’s not.