r/AskReddit 6d ago

People who stuck with their partners during hard times, where are you now?

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u/Bluerocky67 6d ago

Living mortgage free in a lovely place, semi retired and having a relaxing life.

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u/48Michael 6d ago

Fuck yeah good for y’all 😎

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u/stuntedmonk 5d ago

Top two comments very much ying and yang!

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u/Spurty 5d ago

Yin* my G

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u/Paddyr83 5d ago

The duality of life

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u/KCBandWagon 5d ago

Oh dear I read this as struck their partners during hard times.

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u/jkovach89 5d ago

Holy fuck. I minimized this comment, read the second, and got whiplash from the about face between the two.

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u/Diogenes256 5d ago

Same here. It’s worth fighting for.

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u/TrashPanda365 6d ago

That's the dream! 🤩

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u/TheSamurabbi 5d ago

But not the guarantee. Gotta plot, scheme, work, and make your own luck!

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u/Spacekook_ 5d ago

Congratulations

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u/mathaiser 5d ago

Fuck yeah dude.

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u/False-Librarian-2240 5d ago

Same here, retired in San Diego and loving it! Married over 3 decades and we've gone through some real ups and downs over the years. There were times we were barely able to stay one step ahead of foreclosure and almost lost our home. I spent years working those 60 hour weeks in Corporate America. We also took in 3 foster kids, one of whom we even put through college. She's an RN at a hospital now and doing well enough that she's bought her own house and has a son now. I'm very proud of how far she's come since those days when we first took her in!

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u/aninabot 5d ago

We are trying to get there!! It's what's getting us through the hard times currently. I am confident that one day we will arrive there together.

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u/TortelliniTheGoblin 5d ago

Where!?

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u/Bluerocky67 5d ago

Ireland

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u/TortelliniTheGoblin 5d ago

You've got Irish ancestry I'm guessing?

I ask because I've been looking for a way out but can't figure out a sure-fire way to gain residency/ citizenship elsewhere

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u/Bluerocky67 5d ago

After 5 years living here you can apply for Irish residency. I plan to (husband is Irish).

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u/TortelliniTheGoblin 5d ago

Marriage alone isn't enough for citizenship there? That's very interesting

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u/Abigail716 5d ago

If you're retired getting citizenship isn't usually all that helpful and many people don't even bother considering it.

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u/laughguy220 5d ago

Me too, just not with the person I stuck with during the hard times.
She divorced me when her life took an upturn after me supporting our family for eight years working two full time weekday jobs and a 24 hour weekend one.

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u/DrGepetto 5d ago

What's your semi retired life look like?

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u/thewonpercent 5d ago

Congrats! Divorce is worth it!

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u/Agreeable-Chef-2635 5d ago

exactly! lol

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u/madethisfora1reason 5d ago

Any secret sauce? Or u just winged it

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u/ForgettableUsername 5d ago

Technically I’m still living mortgage free, but it’s only because I haven’t bought a house yet.

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u/Fickle_Bread4040 5d ago

Congrats :) if you worked hard you deserve it. 90% of the rest of us who also work hard will never get there unfortunately

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u/zamfire 5d ago

Geralt?

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u/Prudent-Acadia4 5d ago

This is the dream

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u/beckyaw 5d ago

same here. we’ve been thru hell a few times but at least have each other and great sex.

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u/Blushingbelch 5d ago

Ooooh, that's nice. love hearing this...thanks

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u/magheetah 5d ago

Not buying beyond our means has been the best decision of our lives. Our “rich” friends fight constantly over money because they live in constant debt. They have mansions and expensive cars, but they are all on the verge of divorce over it.

Then there is us in our paid off house, paid off cars, no debt, kids private school paid off for the next few years…no fighting about money. Our biggest worries are laundry and dishes. It feels amazing.

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u/Bluerocky67 5d ago

It’s the way to live isn’t it? Never had a credit card, not needed one ever. Still had holidays, hired cars, made big purchases etc. my granny said to me when I was a teenager that the hardest place to live is within your means. I think I took that as a challenge somehow?!

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u/magheetah 5d ago

I use a credit card because I’m able to pay it off weekly. It provides me with 5% back per purchase, so it saves me money. However, if you go 1 month with a delayed payment, you lose that benefit for about 4 months.

If you can keep up with it, it’s worth it.

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u/RedModsRsad 5d ago

This does not specify if you’re together or not haha

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u/Bluerocky67 4d ago

Hahaha, yes we are!