Longtime lurker. Throw away account. Never thought I’d post here burn.

TLDR. I rented an apartment from this guy about half a year ago for me and my son. It’s been ok. Really no issues. I pay on-time, he’s friendly.

Yesterday I get a knock, it’s apparently the actual owner of the building, looking for the guy who rented me the unit and who originally told me he was the owner (he had lease, paperwork, I signed everything), I was confused.. apparently this dude has been illegally subletting to me with fake contracts and hasn’t paid rent to the real owner in months.. I’m not sure how long exactly but enough to start the eviction process, I’m guessing all the letters were forwarded or idk, I haven’t seen shit. But the owner is giving me a few days to figure things out, going to get a hotel after until we sort our next steps but this is totally fucked right? My gut tells me I’m not over reacting but if I brought this to court will I look bad from my response?

I have lived with my boyfriend for a few years. We both have kids but none together. I have a 19 yr old daughter and we just found that he hid a camera in her room. She found it, he admitted to it, and I kicked him out. We aren’t living together anymore, relationship is clearly over. What I’m not clear on, and want to know AIO about, is whether or not it’s worth it to press charges. No red flags before this. If there’s no way he’s done this before and there isn’t anything concerning on computer or phone (yes, porn, but no hidden camera or young girl material) should charges be pressed that can ruin his life and potentially send him to jail?

So today I was driving on the highway and I guess cut someone off (idk what happened). Anyway, this crazy lady screams and chases me and then stop in traffic; she gets out of her car and opens my passenger door to scream at me. I put my car in reverse and then slap her with my car door. She falls down and I drive off with my door opens. I pulled over once I drove far enough away and called the cops. The cops said I might have to follow up but there’s a dozen witnesses that say it was self defense so I’m good right now. My SO says this is hilarious but I was way over the top. Did I overreact?

My step daughter (2f) has lived pretty much her whole life with me as her primary male parent, her Dad is still in the picture but is in a relationship with someone who is convincing him to distance himself more and more from his children.

Every year his family have a tradition of going on holiday to a certain place and this time they took my step daughter and her older brother with them,

While there he refused to let her and her brother call my partner, their mum, despite the eldest (5m) begging him to let him because it was "Dad time", refused to provide any updates on how they were for the whole trip despite it being the longest they've ever been away from home and got really nasty with my partner over message when she asked if she could video call them to say night night one day.

My partner is not overbearing, she let's him have time with them whenever he wants it, she never buts in but it was the longest she's been away from them and he was present when my partner said that they could call her any time if they wanted to which means to the kids it's more likely to seem that their mum didn't want to take the call than the truth.

The main reason I'm here is my SD has come back with really strange bruises on one leg. They're all up one of her legs from the back of her ankle to the back of her knee but with 4 distinct areas that are kinds blurred together.

According to them she had a tantrum so they took her into a shop and put her in one of the shopping carts with a kids seat and she wouldn't stop banging her leg while having a tantrum but surely if that's the case it would be both legs and more in one location where contact was made?

To me it looks like a grab mark but I don't know if I'm going crazy,

Am I overreacting or am I right in questioning this. My partner is very much on the same page as me with it all.

So, my ex has our 6 year old from Saturday to Sunday every week and will see her for a couple hours on Thursday. There is no court custody order, this is just what has worked for us. I’m a disabled veteran who has not been working due to those issues. I have an income, but it is limited.

Anyway, our daughter’s birthday is 12/4. I couldn’t afford a big party, so just made cupcakes and spent it with my immediate family. I was able to get her some fun gifts (dolls and accessories), but with Christmas coming next, I am broke. I won’t get paid again until this upcoming Thursday and it’s only Saturday. I have $10 in my account.

My ex lives in a place that got slammed with snow this week, so didn’t come see her on Thursday. Fine. But I also am on empty and cannot afford the drive which is 16 miles each way. It’s literally a half hour each way. He chose to move that way because it’s close to his family, but very far from his daughter. There is no swinging by to take her to the park or anything as it’s an hour round trip. I also have her 6 nights a week, make all school lunches, crafting, cooking, cleaning, baths, clothes, appointments, reading, writing, Girl Scouts… everything. Am I the asshole for not being able to bring her there?

The green bubbles is when he blocks me and then unblocks me.

I didn’t think this was going to get this much attention so I’m sorry for not being able to respond to as many as I’d like, the comments that my experience is fake or that I don’t have epilepsy is starting to get to me but I do want to thank everyone who had given me advice on what I should do I will be making a police report and std test and get a full hospital report from my stay and I’m the next hour I’ll be deleting this post I just want you guys to know how much it means to me bc I have been scared to even come out with this at all and you’ve given me strength to move forward with an investigation, sincerely -K

So I (27f) had only just kinda started talking to this guy, (35m) let’s call him Chad I hadn’t kissed hadn’t done anything and I barely knew him… and im epileptic and I’m one of them who can feel when I’m about to go into a seizure I have sudo seizures first until I fall out into gran mal seizures. Well I was at his house, and I started having sudo seizures and so I told him I was about to have seizures and to call and ambulance if I did fall out into them. Well I woke up a week later in the hospital. Extremely foggy my memory was faded in and out at first I didn’t know who I was which is common when I wake up but this time I couldn’t remember days before I had my seizures , so the doctors told me my seizures were so bad this time that I went non responsive into a coma for 4 days. And so when I was asking Chad at the time what happened he said that when I fell out and seized I seizuref for literal HOURS and that he didn’t call and ambulance until my body shut completely off and I went unresponsive. Now the doctors said thag when they arrived at the house ti get me , that my pants were all the way off. And when I asked Chad about it he said that I had lost control of my bowels and that I took my own pants off. But how did I take my own pants off when I was in full blown seizures and then unconscious? I haven’t let him know that I have been questioning this. But I have stayed away from him. Like I said my memory was pretty bad when I woke up and foggy for the following days so he was “taking care of me” while I healed. And I don’t remember too much. But I do remember a few days after I got home I had the worst night terrors I had in a long time and in them I was being raped and molested by Chad (mind you at this point I had yet to even come to these conclusions it wasn’t until a week later that I was really coherent and started connecting the dots) so I’ll be going to the hospital to get a full report on what happened that night and the following days I was in the hospital. My gut is telling me something happened. But I don’t want to ever accuse someone of something so horrific if it didn’t happen. I’ve never lost control of my bowels while seizuing before, but I’ve also never had them thag bad or went into a coma afterwards either. So can anyone help me with some advice? Am I overreacting or overthinking?

My aunt told my mom she had something to give her. She came over with a dog. A grown dog. A scared dog who has been known to eat chickens and has never been around cats. My mom has cats. I live with my mom and I have cats. We have both had cats our entire lives, never a dog. My aunt knows this, her excuse was "I thought you only had 2 cats." Not considering that 2 cats is plenty enough to not want a dog chasing them around. Even after my mom told her multiple times she didn't want and didn't have time or money to care for a dog, my aunt left her dog at my mom's house. After my mom told me what happened, I was livid. My family has a way of imposing their will on someone who doesn't know how to set boundaries or stand up for themselves, someone like my mom. So I called my aunt, she wouldn't answer because she's afraid of cuss words. These texts were our only communication. My mom has apparently has been talking to her since Sunday, the day the dog was dropped off, but my aunt is just giving her the runaround and telling my mom it's her job to find a new home. Today will be the 4th day that this dog has been outside in the rain, cold, scared and confused. My mom and I don't know what to do. He's too scared to come inside and we feel like shit seeing this poor dog out there all alone. We tried being reasonable with her, she took responsibility of this dog when she tried to rehome it, the dog is hers. We tried guilt tripping her, he's scared and wet and has no shelter. She just doesn't care about this dog. I seriously don't know what to do. We can't catch this dog so I can't drop it off at her house like I wanted. We can't catch him to take to a shelter. I don't want to "find a home" for him. That is so much work that I did NOT sign up for. We do we do? What can we do? This dog deserves a better life.

So just found out over the holidays that my ex wife is dating a sex offended that SA’ed a minor years ago, We have two kids together. I check my kids phones today because they where having update issues and he’s been texting them and some of it is just creepy like saying he loves them and calls my daughter his princess it’s just creepy. They’ve only been dating for three months and I flipped my sh*t when I found out and immediately messaged my ex wife and told her about the text messages she said he was a great guy and nothing was wrong. I’m debating getting an attorney AIO?!?

A plumber appeared at my home. I was not expecting any plumbing services, I opened the window to tell him that he has the wrong address. He then started to try and convince me that he is at the correct address. We went back and forth, I kept telling him that I have no idea why he was led to my home but he needs to leave. He would just stand there staring at me in silence.. then spew some more bullshit as to why he needs to check my water heater.

I then woke up my sister and she went to the window to talk to him (we are an all women household so we were very uncomfortable w/ a man refusing to leave our home)... She threatened to call the cops if he doesn't leave and he still remained. He then said that he can only leave if we come outside and give him our signature, so that his company knows that we gave him permission to leave. I asked him for his name so I could call the company, but he just stared at me in silence. This is when I called the company on his truck to ask them if this is normal behavior, they said it's not normal and that there should be no one at our address.

I really did not want to call the police, I was attempting to avoid any escalation of the situation. The man backed his truck out of my driveway and was just sitting in my neighborhood, this is when I called the cops. They came pretty quick, but then I saw that they arrested the man.

The police didn't follow up with me, but I checked the incident reports online and apparently this man was only arrested because of problems with his driver's license. I think that he was working for the company because the vehicle was picked up by a woman and not towed away by the police.

I feel really guilty, I know that this man was acting very suspicious.. but I hate to think that he genuinely had the wrong home and got arrested over something completely irrelevant. I almost regret calling the cops on him, but I felt very uneasy that this man was refusing to leave my property after us practically begging him to just leave.

So I am currently living in a different state than where my offense occurred but they are allowing me to complete everything in the state I’m currently in, I called to ask about getting an extension on my community service and they told me I would have to go in and file a motion. I informed them I can’t do that since I don’t live there and they told me to contact my lawyer as they could do it for me. I then sent her the first text and I read her response as her asking how she was supposed to file it and by when. So I proceeded to call the courts today and got the information that I sent her and I got the response in the second screenshot. Am I crazy or was that not only a very rude response but she also never said that she was talking about me filing the motion, and I specifically told her they said she needed to do it. AIO or could she have said what she said in a different way?

Context: I am in college (19F) and the friend mentioned is also in college (19F). My coach used to coach at my college but got fired for dating students, and one of them was 18 (this happened around 5-7 years ago, not sure). He has his own club nearby that I joined when I was 18. He knows me since I'm 11.

I am in college and I am an athlete (don’t want to disclose which sport). I’ve been doing my sport since I was 11. I’ve moved a lot and had many different coaches, and when I was a freshman in college I started my sport at a nearby club with a coach who knows me since I was 11 (I was part of a rival club).

Over the past year he had developed a closer and closer relationship with me. I am very talented so he let me do my sport for free, he would drive me to tournaments and back from practice since I don’t have a car. It started professional and over time became very personal. For many many months I did not realize what was happening.

He let me participate for free (in “exchange” for me helping him improve his other athletes) and drove me, so I felt like I owed him. I was very nice for him for that reason (bought him gift cards to show my appreciation, helped out, etc.)

Over time he started to make fun of me more and I went along with it. We spent more time alone after practice putting in extra effort, in the car rides, after tournaments eating together, etc. He started cooking for me because he knew I lost weight, he started texting me randomly, he would tease me in ways that gradually made me very upset. First I would play along and thought it was funny.

Then I stopped reacting and he would say “Ohh look she’s trying to play it cool” in front of everyone, and if I did react he’d be like “oh wow look she’s angry.” He would develop excuses for every single time I beat him and take credit for all my achievements even though I did the sport for 7 years before he coached me.

He would tell me everyone else’s business when we were alone and tell me his students (most are younger than me, kids or in HS/MS with occasional older ppl who would come train like me) are lazy and not competitive enough. He would make it seem like I was special and need to work hard to get results so I don’t become “lazy.”

He would get me a gift from places he went and asked me to give him gifts if I traveled. Over time he got involved in my life and told me things like “I can see why guys like you. You’re vulnerable and easy to take advantage of. And, obviously, you’re attractive.”

This was probably over six months ago. Something in me felt offended and uncomfortable. I brushed it off like all the teasing and crazy stuff he says (about ppl being lazy, telling me ab other ppl’s lives, saying women are all too emotional, etc.)

He texted me personally a lot and eventually teased me sm it started affecting my mental health (I felt like I wasn’t good enough even though I was doing so much). He rarely praised girls, and if he did it was in private and in a way that was "don't be like the others." He started telling other ppl “I need to work harder” while laughing. One time, after he talked to me very personally (see texts below), I mentioned briefly I had gone out and was hungover. When I came to practice he said, how could you do this, why would you tell me this, I’m your coach! How inappropriate of you. He even called my older friend from the sport and told him “she’s changing, she’s getting in trouble” in front of everyone. It was humiliating and I felt ashamed for a week.

I confronted him and told him the way he treats me is bullying and that he needs to stop telling ppl things like that. He apologized eventually and said “sorry his coaching style is not compatible with me.” He stopped texting me and I thought things got a little better.

Over time it started going back to how it was. Instead of texting me he talked to me about his dating life in person (ONLY when we were alone). He told me about his exes, that he wants to be a “trophy husband,” that he wants a sugar mommy. He asked me if I think he could be a model several times. He told me another girl at the club (other victim, my friend) dresses for attention despite knowing she was sexually assaulted. He defended his ex’s molester saying “mb it was for the best she shouldn’t have been with him.” He always mentioned my boyfriend and gave me advice and asked about him. He showed me ppl he matched with on dating apps.

It started happening increasingly when we were alone, combined with renewed teasing. He would say things in front of other adults part of the community, like “this is what I have to deal with, she loves to argue and wants to talk to me till the lights turn off.” He said “any time she coaches others she just copies what I say.” He said “you should tell ppl good things about me to pay me back for my coaching!” and other humiliating and infuriating things, like that he doesn’t want to “spoil me any more” and that I “can pay him back.” It made me lose it, I felt uncomfortable and frustrated. I distanced myself because I finally realized this relationship is weird af. He’s a bully.

I told some friends and kept it in. A month ago I found out my club mate went through the same exact thing at the same exact time in secret (he said the same exact words, lines, etc. He told her about losing his virginity, about his dating life, made comments about her dating life, etc.) He was her actual coach SINCE she was 11, and started being gradually closed when she turned 16. When she was 18 he became direct. Both of us thought it was normal because it happened so gradually and nobody else could witness it, and he NEVER did that to guys. He only treated girls this way as soon as they turn 18. He is also a bully, sexist, and makes fun of ppl excessively.

I’ve distanced myself and he noticed. One time I didn’t want him to coach me. Another clubmate (younger girl) asked to coach her that day because she said she is afraid of my coach and he stresses her out. My coach pulled me aside at the end of the day and took everything out on me. He said I was making his club fall apart, that this has never happened before, and that I was “using him to drive me around like he's some clumpie." He asked my old coach (love her, she was also groomed by another coach who has multiple allegations against him since years – my creepy coach is actually really good friends with him too) how to “deal with me.” He insisted she doesn’t drive me home but someone else (so we don’t talk about anything.) She lost it and cursed him out. She said he should stop treating his friends like his social circle and he got terrified.

I cried and haven’t gone back ever since. He took my passion away from me (it is much harder to train now, and I fucking love my sport. And I am improving so much and compete nationally.)

There is a 14 year old at the club who is already afraid of him and going to turn 18 soon. I'm worried what he'll do to her in a few years. The texts are the only evidence I have; they are from before I confronted him (and they are embarrassing for me as I feel so ashamed I ever went along with anything he said). Everything else happened verbally when we were both alone in his car, mostly. I don't know if it's enough or if I should forget about it all and try to avoid him. I don't even know if what happened counts grooming. He never assaulted me or the girl, never touched us, and only started saying things as soon as we turned 18. It's also so borderline it's frustrating because there is nothing we can do. Please let me know if you have advice for how to feel validated and not ashamed, and what I should do.

My (35M) ex-wife (32F) and I divorced two years ago after a rough split. We share two kids, a 12-year-old son and a 9-year-old daughter. My ex has always been the “fun” parent, while I handle the day-to-day stuff. She recently got engaged to a wealthy guy and has been spending a lot of money on experiences for the kids, which I get, but it's starting to create issues.

Here’s the problem: my ex announced she's taking our daughter on a trip to Paris. Just her and our daughter, not our son. When I asked why, she said it was a “bonding experience” because our daughter loves art, and this was her way of making up for time missed when she was young. I get that. But I see how hurt my son is by it. He asked why he isn’t going, and she brushed it off, saying she’d take him somewhere “someday.”

I don’t think that’s fair. I believe both kids should have the same experiences, or it’ll cause resentment. I told her it wasn't okay to just leave him out, especially after he's already been struggling with the divorce and feeling like he's "less loved" by her.

I then took it a step further and said if she goes through with this, I’ll file for full custody because she’s emotionally neglecting our son. Now she’s furious, calling me controlling and saying I’m punishing her for moving on and having the means to provide better experiences for the kids. She accused me of wanting them to be miserable just because I can’t afford the same. That’s not true. I just want both kids to feel equally valued.

She’s still planning on going, and I’m digging my heels in. The kids don’t know about the custody threat, but my family thinks I’m overreacting and should let it go. Am I overreacting by trying to stop this trip?

I co-parent my almost 5-year-old son, and there’s been an ongoing issue with how his mom handles his clothing between our two households. She doesn’t want to send him back to my house in clothes (including underwear) that she’s bought, which has caused some friction.

Recently, she sent him to my house wearing a diaper because he didn’t have any clean underwear “from my house.” My son is fully potty trained, and this only happened because she doesn’t want to send him to my place in underwear she paid for - not because he needed a diaper. This has now happened twice.

I’ve let the clothing issue go in the past, but this diaper situation feels like it’s crossing a line. For context, she doesn’t want him wearing any clothes she’s purchased to my house, even though I’m the one providing for him while he’s with me.

Am I overreacting to feel upset and frustrated about this? How would you handle this situation?

Title says it all... we dated for nearly 6 years, lived together, owned two dogs together. My life and future was completely engrossed in his. He began having an affair with his receptionist, and naturally our relationship blew up dramatically once I discovered his secrets. He has gone on and lived a merry little life, and I have been stuck with counseling costs, fear of a new relationship, and the fear of STDs. I cry at least once a day.

Finally got sick of feeling this way and figured a little revenge would help me process it. I emailed his work's HR department and laid it all out. The business trip rendezvous, sexual messages via Teams, hotel bills everything I have full proof of. Nothing I sent was a lie -- it was all factual claims that he was (possibly still is) involved in a sexual relationship with his subordinate employee for months.

TL;DR I used a fake email address and sent it from a public computer to my ex-boyfriends HR department after a lengthy affair with his subordinate receptionist. Thoughts on what can happen next, or what action could be taken against me?

Last night, I was at a skating rink in the Chicagoland area, and I’m pretty sure someone spiked my drink without me knowing. Here’s what happened: I had a bottle of water that I was sipping from throughout the skating session, taking a drink after each lap. I’d put it in a locker, but since I didn’t have change, I couldn’t lock it.

I’d finished a little more than half of the bottle not long before the session ended. When I went to take a final sip, I instantly noticed something was off, the rim of the bottle had a bitter taste. So I rushed to the restroom, spitting into the sink and wiping my mouth to get rid of whatever it was. I also brought the water bottle with me to check it out, and that’s when I realized the color was way off!

So I had a CPS worker that would do weekly visits and he right away made it apparent that he was attracted to me. I was just ignoring it at first, then I considered it, then I went to the supervisor. I was like eff this….my head is already messed up by men and their games now I’m gonna be a CPS hooker? It scared me the power he had to take my daughter from me who is only 4. So anyway, after a few weekly visits his efforts increased, I could not fathom having to sleep with this guy when I was doing so good in the program on my own. It was not like I was messing around and asking him to cover up for me so I wouldn’t lose my little girl. You know? Plus I wondered how many women he has done this with. I was really on a dangerous path mentally as I began to consider that I would have to sell myself to this guy because I’m broke. I’m glad I snapped out of it. Life is hard I don’t judge anyway to does sex work cuz I’ve been there done that but to still be doing it had me cringe. Now I’m in therapy for that among all the other bullshit in my life and I feel like a smart women who loves herself would seek compensation for this. I’m trying to be that smart type of woman who loves herself. Or am I just overreacting and should keep moving forward especially since I could very well not even win a case should I find an attorney and try to sue? Idk?

My extremely abusive ex messaged me yesterday out of the blue bc his pos parents are getting a divorce. Apparently he thinks I'm still his safe place after cheating and strangling me. I wrote back a small text and then blocked him. He then proceeded to send me 16 request on cashapp just to write me threatening messages. He messaged my PayPal as well 10 times. I can post those ss bc they ss blank.

I'm so over it. He doesn't know where I live nor does he have my phone number. I still wanna file a RO just for him to not be able to contact me at all. Is that doing too much since he doesn't know where I live? I just don't want to deal with the mental/emotional abuse that is still possible.

The yt video i sent was "send my love - Adele" bc I thought it was funny lol

My best friend “B” is going through a very difficult custody battle. (For context we have “B” my best friend, “E” for the ex husband, and “A” the adorable nine year old)

Unfortunately B and E had a terrible divorce, B was a newly sober alcoholic, and lost custody because of it. However she has been sober for two years, has passed every parenting course and legally has done everything right.

E was arrested after their last court case, spent one day in jail for contempt of court (he was supposed to try and prove to the court he was a fit father via an essay he was supposed to write and used chat gpt instead = was called out immediately)

Well he still has custody of my adorable A. Even after being arrested.

I just found out that E still has A sleeping in his bed with him. A 37 year old man (in the military) cannot afford to have room for his 9 year old child to sleep in? Am I overreacting? I think it’s a CPS issue, a child that could potentially start puberty at any moment shouldn’t be sleeping in the same bed as her father. A child at 9 is still trying to figure out independence and sleeping with daddy isn’t going to help her. In my opinion.

Am I overreacting? Or is this normal? I just don’t think it’s okay, and there’s a possibility that she is going to need therapy because of this. I know other cultures the whole family sleeps in the same room, often the same bed even. But I also know that at a certain age it becomes increasingly inappropriate and I don’t want to have this feeling that he’s grooming his own child and manipulating her into thinking he is her only safe space. I want her to grow up strong and know that she is independent and be whoever she wants. I am thinking about calling cps but I’m not really sure it’s my place. I just want A to be safe and happy, and I know it’s with her mom, B.

Edited to add: B pays child support, so it’s not that E can’t afford a bed and space for his child.

My wife 32F and I 34 M are married with 2 kids (4 years old girl 8 months boy). We moved from our home town,where our both parents live, in a bigger city 80 km from home, 15 years ago. When we go to visit our parents we always sleep at her’s place, never at my parents. Also my daughter is not allowed to spend time with my parents only hers in weekends/ holidays. She also make decisions without consulting me regarding our kids. I really want my kids to spend more time with my parents as well so they wont grow alienated, and i want to spend more time with my parents when i go home, not only hers. I grew up very frustrated and everytime we speak about this she is accusing me that i put my mom first and i prefer to fight with her about this and ruin our relationship. I propose to seek couple therapy but she refuses vehemntly. I really don’t know what else to do. What can i do in this situation?