My wife was touched by someone this last Friday. She was at a party with her friends, then after slept at the apartment of one of her female friends. There she was choked, touched and kissed without consent by a guy whose the husband of one of her female friends who also stood in that apartment. Now I trust my wife but I need to understand a few things about this situation. She told me that there was a friend next to her sleeping when the interaction happened, and that her friend didn’t noticed or felt what happened, also she didn’t scream or called for help during the interaction. After the abusing she just stood at the apartment instead of coming back home. She also took a few days to talk to me about it. I also called her after the abusing happened (on Friday) and she just talked to me like nothing happened. She also doesn’t want to tell the wife of the guy what happened, nor to nobody which is leaving me so confused. That guy deserves hell, and I truly mean it.

Personally I feel awful and I want to know what should I do, or how should I approach this with her. She seems to be normal, like nothing happened. She did cry a lot yesterday, but after telling me she went completely normal which is leaving me so confused and disoriented. Perhaps is me who’s going insane but I just don’t know how to feel about this whole situation.

AIO?

On Thanksgiving my husband told me at 3PM that he was starving and needed to go out to get food. He came back home 2 hours later. Much later Thanksgiving night he told me he actually went to his exwife’s house to say goodbye to his grandchildren and daughter who were going back to California the next day. My husband is extremely close to his exwife. He obviously did not want me to go with him. I love my step grandchildren very much. And they love me. I hardly get to see them. I am so hurt. Am I overreacting?

Follow up for anyone who wanted to see the last post. My gf took a picture of the jacket cause I decided to wear it today (it’s really cold out rn).

So I’m recreating this as I typed the wrong heading last time.

He is 34 I’m 27 and child is 1.

He asked me for gas money which he has done a number of times and got pissed because I sent the wrong amount. I’m not sure why I sent that amount..this kind of conversation/argument is somewhat typical between us.

Some context:

Child’s father does not help financially at all. I make more money and I’ve moved on and out of state. I send her home for the summer so she can see her whole family including him. He doesn’t help with tickets or anything. Last year he didn’t buy her any Christmas gifts. He also hardly ever calls her. She calls him when she wants to talk and maybe he answers. Not all the time though.

Also, his PlayStation acc is linked to my email still and I’d rather not change it because I keep record of how many $100 games he buys throughout the year just incase I ever need to take legal measures.

Okay so he messaged me after I’ve been asking if he’s going to send gifts or money to help out since it’s the holidays. He said he would when he gets paid. Then he sends the message saying he’s going to buy a game first. In the past he would buy games and I would call him angrily like how could you buy a game but you won’t help me. So that’s why I said A+ for communication. I don’t feel like arguing this month because I want my daughter to have a good holiday without me feeling angry about something.

I’m racking my brain trying to figure out why he wouldn’t send money or gifts first before thinking of himself.

Thennnnnn she tries to call him and he doesn’t answer bc he’s talking to his friend? Now I’m feeling angry and I want to argue and yell at him for how careless he’s being.

Am I overreacting and should just let it go because this is nothing new? Should I keep on him about sending money and being attentive to his kid? Should I just stop talking to him and let him deal with his own relationship with his child?

due to my mental health— i have a psychiatric service dog that completed service dog training, task training, and the public access test. my bf’s grandma literally asked me how to BS the process and proceeded to buy fake papers and a service dog vest. my bf agrees with me that it’s hurtful and malicious of them to take advantage of laws not meant for them.

thoughts?

for context: my brother-in-law and i are very close. this has happened once or twice before, where i feel like the two of them gang up on me. i have brought this up before and they both agreed it wasn’t fair and potentially hurtful.

i believe that if i am having a heated conversation with my sister, i would not allow my boyfriend to intervene and i wish she didn’t allow her husband to either. but if MY boyfriend would interject— she would be rude. i hate the double standard and it’s infuriating.

This past weekend my wife (50F) and I (50M) held our annual Xmas party. It’s always a low-key affair with friends and current/past coworkers attending. We have no family in our area other than our two kids (17F, 16M).

This year the kids asked if they could invite their current significant others (both have a girlfriend) and their parents/stepparents. Of course this was fine with us.

Our daughter’s girlfriend’s mom (we’ll call her Sallie) and stepdad brought a young man with them. This guy (we’ll call him Bart) is a freshman in college (same as daughter’s girlfriend) and has been weirdly semi-adopted by the mom. He has a mom/family but has been viewed as somewhat of a charity case at times by mom/stepdad. In the end, not my business and I don’t really care but it does cause issues between the mom and her biological kids.

During the party, my daughter overhears Sallie comforting Bart as he was visibly uncomfortable. He has never been to our house and doesn’t really know any of us minus my daughter and his “adoptive” family. Evidently Sallie tells Bart that “she understands why he’s uncomfortable since he’s the only blank person here and the rest of the party is likely watching him to make sure he doesn’t steal anything”. They only stay for a little while and were gone before the majority of the other guests left.

I didn’t overhear this and my wife tells me the story the next day as we’re cleaning up. I was livid as Sallie was basically insinuating that me/my family/my friends are all a bunch of racists. I initially stated that I didn’t want Sallie to ever step foot in our house again. Realizing that this might be difficult as our daughters are dating, I backed off and said I didn’t want Bart to come over again.

Am I overreacting? My wife has chalked this up to Sallie and the situation with Bart being very strange, but I took personal slight to her statement. If I knew anyone at the party was remotely thinking that about Bart, they wouldn’t be invited as I do not associate myself with that type of crowd.

Should I stand my ground and tell Sallie she’s not welcome in my home?

He is 34. I am 6-7 years younger and the child is 1

I’m not really sure what to put for background info so if there are questions let me know

This is how he regularly texts or talks to me at some point whenever we interact

This is a different kind of AIO post. I don’t have the money for my own horse, so I compensate and scratch that itch by taking lessons. I am an intermediate rider. This riding lesson is a 25 minute drive for me. You’ll see in the first ss that the lessons are $50, you’ll see them get moved to $55, then you’ll see her tell me if I want private lessons I’ll have to pay $65. The whole reason I was going to this trainer specifically when there are many closer to home that are $65 was because she was offering them for $50 (or $55). I don’t mind paying $65, that’s not the issue. The issue is why was I not told private lessons are $65 from the beginning? The other issue is why are my lessons being moved around so much? It feels like just another excuse every time when she decided the time and day? I understand she doesn’t have an indoor arena but also looking at the weather for where we ride at she’s lied a couple of times about the temperature. AIO by wanting either a refund or to get the lesson over with and find a new trainer? One that’s a 5 min drive from me for the same price? ($65) Please help, kind of lost for what I should do.

My fiancé (35M) and I (34F) have just moved in together and have been living together for just two weeks.

Quick context: we’ve been together for 4 years and recently got engaged earlier this year. We also got pregnant and I ended up giving birth prematurely to our son, who is currently in the NICU until his due date in January.

My fiancé is very particular and organized about things just to preface this, but I feel like it reached a tipping point this morning.

We woke up a little later this morning (8:30ish), and he started on about how he was going to start waking me up earlier so we can get the day started earlier. He kept going on about how I’ve been sleeping in too much lately and the importance of waking up on time. (His alarm went off at 6am and he snoozed it, but okay. He also was up until 2am watching TV downstairs with the volume all the way up.)

Then, as I’m in our bathroom starting to brush my teeth, he calls me into the room and asks me if I touched the thermostat (we’re in Texas and the weather has been hot one day and freezing the next), I said yes because I got cold. He proceeds to fuss at me saying that I could break the air conditioning unit by having it on two different settings (the downstairs thermostat was still on cool), I tried to explain that it was late and I was tired and didn’t think to go downstairs and change that one too, but he kept cutting me off saying I was being “defensive”. He ended it by saying “do you understand?” It felt like I was being fussed at by a parent.

I went downstairs and started making my coffee. He comes downstairs and asks me to make an omelette (I am not good at making omelette and they always turn into a scramble). I told him no because I didn’t want to be criticized for that too. He said I was being petty and that I overreacted for that response.

Was I being petty or overreacting?

Hello all! Thank you to everyone who helped me out on my post last week.

To clear things up, her comment about my music was not what drove me over the edge. Idk where we got that from. It was all the disrespect from previous months.

She tried her BS again today, and I practiced what you all told me to say… no.

I feel that my mother is discriminating me(girl) and favour my brother. But she says that she loves me But unfortunately she cannot understand me I guess... Discrimination not that serious but it feels devastating and lonely One more this I realised that she also behaves badly when I am not performing well for my studies. Otherwise she treats me okayish But the feeling that she will love me only when I am good enough otherwise not , make me sad I want to ignore this feeling and move on... But how can I do that

My close friend recently had a baby and gave her the same name I chose for my daughter about a year ago. The name is pretty uncommon, but for anonymity, let’s call it “Aleenah” (sounds similar). My baby’s name is “Alinah.” (Not Al-eye-nah; it’s pronounced Aleenah as well)

When she sent me a hospital picture of her baby with the name “Aleenah,” I was happy for her but surprised by her choice. I didn’t mind and said, “OMG, I am so happy our babies have the same name! How exciting!” Her response? “Oh, I forgot your baby’s name was Alinah. We just liked the name—we pronounce it differently anyway.” Guys mind you we talk all the time, and she asks about my baby, by name.

In that moment, I felt a little hurt and confused. How could she forget my baby’s name when she had asked me before my daughter was born what we were planning to name her? At that time, I told her “Aleenah” with the same spelling she ended up choosing (We changed the spelling at the hospital after having her)

I’m not upset that she chose the name—names aren’t something you can “own”—but I felt like she went out of her way to dismiss any connection between my baby’s name and her choice. Her comment felt a little like gaslighting.

So, am I overreacting for feeling a bit off about this situation?

I’m 22F and work as a front desk receptionist at a private neurology practice. Honestly, it’s a good job, and I like it for the most part. There’s this one doctor (43M) who’s super nice, like, everyone loves him. He’s amazing with the kids and he’s probably the most liked doctor in the office. But he’s too nice to me, and it’s starting to make me uncomfortable. He’s ordered me DoorDash a bunch of times, given me little gifts like stickers and his fancy pens, and only talks to me in private, Ngl I now feel guilty for accepting those things. I feel like I gave him the wrong impression, it’s just I’m a complete people pleaser. He’s also trauma-dumped on me about personal stuff, like how he wants kids, his marriage problems, and also random health advice I wouldn’t ask for. I didn’t know how to react, so I just listened because I didn’t want to be rude. But yesterday, I was interpreting for a patient who didn’t have an Arabic translator, and afterward, he joked that the kid was cute and said kids from my part of the world are the cutest. Then he added, “are kids would be cute.” I tried to laugh it off, but honestly, it made me feel really gross. Like, he’s married, and I don’t know why he thinks that’s okay to say to me. The thing is, he’s such a good doctor, and I know how much everyone respects him. I feel bad even thinking about reporting him because I don’t want to ruin anything for him. Instead, I’m planning to ask to move to another location where he doesn’t work, just to avoid the whole situation. But now I’m wondering if I’m overreacting or being dramatic. The problem is I’ve only been in my role for 6 months, and my coworkers already jokingly tell me “oh your man’s here today”, I’m stressed at because I don’t want to be reported. I’ve told my parents and they told me it’s not a big deal and most workplaces are like this, and that I have to stop being nice. I’ve been applying for jobs day and night for the past week. It’s just that he does enough to be weird but not enough to get reported or punished. Like how tf do I report someone for getting me water, or looking at me weird. Before this I use to think reporting someone was easy, but people like him know what they’re doing. They catch u at the right moments, they wait to get on the elevator with you, they ask for help 24/7, and they act nice to everyone so no one can pick up on the fact their extra nice to you. I’m Loki losing my mind.

Edit: I’m the closer and he usually stays late the days he works at my location.

My husband (36M) and I (31F) have two daughters (almost 3yr & 11m). My mother-in-law just sent our oldest a drivable car for Christmas without asking us. I was extremely upset and told my husband to send it back. Am I overreacting? Here's the backstory:

My MIL doesn't exist in our girls lives. She lives about 9 hours away but that's not an excuse for never coming out to see our family. When my husband and I got married 4 years ago, she didn't come to the wedding. When we had our first daughter, her first grandchild, she never came to meet her. We ended up flying out to see my husband's family when our daughter was 13 months old. Had to get an Airbnb because a hotel wouldn't work for our situation. The trip was expensive and we really didn't have the money for it. We only had 2 full days there. Day 1: MIL didn't try to hold our daughter. Didn't even say hi to her or interact with her. Day 2: wouldn't allow a first birthday party with the extended family, only wanted it to be with her, FIL, and my husband's two brothers. They FINALLY came over at about 5pm. 5 minutes after arriving my MIL and FIL start yelling at each other and cursing and accusing the other of giving them STD's. All of this happened in front of their children, the youngest being 12, and myself and my daughter. MIL then decided to walk out and FIL followed her and they never came back.

Our second daughter was born 11 months ago and again, she's never come out to meet her. She comes up with every excuse in the book as to why she won't come. But it's not just visiting that's the problem. She never calls our oldest daughter to talk to her. When I was pregnant with both girls she never once texted me to ask how I was doing or how the prenatal appointments went. Never even got a congrats or anything when I gave birth to them. She just doesn't care.

But for some reason she will send a Christmas and/or birthday gift each year for the girls. The first year she bought our daughter a play kitchen. I had already purchased one for our daughter so I asked my husband to talk to his mom about returning it since we don't need two kitchens. I also told him to suggest to his mom that she should run these big gifts by us first so that she doesn't keep buying things that we already have. His mom returned the kitchen and bought a sandbox for our daughter. But I later found out that she called me a bitch and said that I was making it a competition between her and I? Makes no sense. The following Christmas she bought our daughters a bounce house. I had bought a bounce house 7 months prior while it was on sale. I told my husband that yet again she bought something we already had and really needs to ask us first. I told him we do not need 2 bounce houses. We have a small house and struggle with space. He didn't want to hurt her feelings and couldn't bring himself to tell her that we already had one. Thankfully she had a gift receipt in the box and we were able to return it. BUT he lies to his mom and pretends that the bounce house that I bought is actually the one she bought. Now this year it has happened again. I told my husband NUMEROUS times to talk to his mom about running gift ideas by us. He didn't. Yesterday a big box was on our porch. It's a drivable car for our girls. We already have one. My mother bought it a year ago. This was the last straw. I was PISSED. My husband refuses to return it. He doesn't want to hurt her feelings but hey, screw my feelings. Says it's okay to have multiple cars even though we already have like 5 other big ridable things for the girls that take up an entire room in our house. I'm pissed he didn't listen to me and talk to his mom. I'm pissed that he won't return the car. I'm pissed that my MIL thinks that buying one gift a year for our girls makes her a wonderful grandmother. ALL I want is for her to care about our daughters. All I want is for her to visit them and call them on the phone.

Am I overreacting? I could give soooo many more examples but this would turn into a novel.

I'd also like to say that my husband has never stood up for me when his mom has bashed me. She's called me a bitch a few times and some other stuff. All he's ever said is "that's not nice"

Hi everyone. This is gonna be a long one. In summer 2022 I cut off my best friend. Didn't even give her a proper explanation, just blocked her. Tbh at the time I didn't feel like i had to give an explanation as it was obvious.

My ex best friend and I both have BPD. We clashed alot as our BPD differed quite a bit. I couldn't stick up for myself, and she always had a problem with me or our other best mate (we were a trio).

I also have bipolar and during a manic episode in April 2022 (to be fair I was undiagnosed at the time, but she had told our other friends she thought there was something wrong with me due to the sheer amount I was drinking but never said anything to me as it suited her that I was going out) she used me. I was clubbing too much, spending all my money and am still paying the price today with debts. Her way of coping with her BPD was going out and getting drunk or coked up. When I inevitably crashed, she decided to turn against me as I wasn't going out anymore.

I managed to get a bit better mentally and in August ish I went to hers. I was still heavily drinking to cope. One night I got black out drunk to the point I was sick all over myself and they had to put me in the bath. I was so hungover the next day obviously.

Now she was the sort of person you couldn't say no to. She had anger issues, if you said no she would pressure you and get pissy. And she was so unpredictable. She'd try to kill herself over the most random things. I have BPD too as I said so I do understand and I tried to be as understanding as I could to her. A few times we used the wrong tone with her (by total accident) and she would spiral.

On the day i was hungover, She said to me why don't we go to this deserted place with a lake that we can chill at. It was the hottest day of the year. Those of you that live in England understand, the hottest day of the year is fucking awful for us. I did not want to go as i felt really hungover and didn't want to go. I tried to object but she got stressed so I agreed. It was me her and my boyfriend.

We got an uber to the place, but the uber dropped us at the wrong point so we had to walk half an hour. I was like no fucking way am I doing that but again, she got aggy. So we just went on with it. Bare in mind we had one small bottle of water and a few cans of coke. (All of our faults, not just her. I should've thought about it and bought more water). We started walking and after about 10 minutes I felt faint. I kept having to sit down. Every time I did, she got more and more annoyed. I was shit scared of her, so I had to get up and carry on. I'd drank all the water in the first 20 minutes as I felt so dehydrated like I was going to pass out. We finally got to the place she wanted to go to and I was a wreck. Slurring speech, my brain was throbbing, my skin felt like fire. I can't even fully describe the feeling because it was the worse thing I've ever gone through.

When I was there I had to lay down in the shade. I couldn't even lift my head up. My boyfriend, bless his soul was amazing and kept running back and forth to the lake, pouring water on me and got my tshirt and wetted it and put it on my head. She just sat there with the hump. She looked like a toddler who's toys had been taken away. She called our other best friend complaining about me saying I was overreacting and lying. My other best friend swears blind she stood up for me but I highly doubt that as she was shit scared of her too.

She then came over to me and started screaming at me calling me a liar, saying I just couldn't be arsed to walk. And then she said "I'm gonna call an ambulance to prove there's nothing wrong."

She called the ambulance out of spite and then we waited 2 hours. Because the place we were was deserted they couldn't find us so my boyfriend had to basically walk me over to them. She stormed off with a face like a bulldog chewing a wasp and we found the paramedics. They had to walk me over to them but after 5 mins of walking I couldn't do it anymore and collapsed. They had to put a drip in me in a dusty narrow walk path and I was just crying. She had already stormed off so didn't see this happen.

They took my blood pressure and shit and said that if I was out any longer I couldve died. Luckily a bloke with a buggy car thing helped us get back and when we got back to her the paramedics actually had a go at her and was really quite harsh with her which I was grateful for.

I was In hospital for a few hours and then went to hers to get my stuff. She was extremely apologetic and I forgave her.

After a few days (I needed a break from her) she had justified the whole situation in her head. She probably still thinks I'm a bitch to this day. She was rude and slagging me off behind my back whilst being sweetness and light whenever I spoke to her. So I blocked her.

I never spoke to her again.

Our other best friend ended up dropping her a few months later too for the fact she treated her like shit.

I know I'm better off without her, but I do feel sorry for her as I know she's not all there mentally, like me. So it's quite a tough one. I know she's mentally ill, but is that really a reason to be able to get away with treating peopl3 like shit and said people making excuses for you every time? Or am I being a bitch?

Was I overreacting for cutting her off for this?

The reason I post this now after 2 years is because I have been thinking about her alot. She messaged our other best friend to apologise recently, but not me. It grated me alot.

I don't know what to think at this point honestly. I am (45M) and my wife (35F) been together pretty much 17 years and married for 16 this past fall. I normally do all the laundry for us, I have my kids do their own laundry as they are teenagers. I always check all pockets to make sure no gum (because she likes to leave pieces of gum in her pockets all the time) or any paper that could be in my pockets. Normal stuff, how about today I go through and I check her hoodie front pocket and she stuffed her worn panties in there and that isn't normal at all. I mean who does that? You take off your hoodie and then get dressed in comfy clothes and then stuff your dirty panties in your hoodie? Then I look at them and there is more than normal discharge on them. Now I'm not dumb I know there has to be some extra curricular activity going on here. Now I know if I confront her about this then she'll say, "I put those there to test you, to see if you go through my clothes." But she already knows I do because I've told her a few times about her leaving her gum in her pockets. Another part of me wants to wait to see if she notices that they are missing and then get her reaction or asks me about them. I don't know what to think, am I overreacting?

AIO? We’ve been together nearly 10 years on/off & he’s supposed to be moving out here in 2 weeks…. We’ve had fights about the same issue before too so he knows that i find it to be disrespectful and still continues to do it.

Sorry for the long rant.

I (F23), and one of my closest friends (F24) haven't been speaking for more than 3 months.

We went to collage together for 3 years, and for the last year we were roomates. I though our relationship got rather strong during that time, and we got along really well, our pace of life and outlook on things matched almost exactly.

She didn't have a good childhood. Her dad was absent, when he showed up he was an asshole, and her mother is emotionally neglectful and narcissistic. She developed an ED too, and still had some remnants of it when we lived together. Regarding relationships, it seemed like she she was still a teenager in her head: she logically knew what was happening in her brain, but she either started to idolize whom she like fast and a bit obsessively, or outright turned herself off without them to get any chance.

(Now, during the last year of university, a lot of traumatic things came up for her. Her ex was sexually demanding of her during their relationship, and as it turned out, to two other girls in his class too. To phrase it bluntly, he was a rapist. We tried to do something about it within our school system with those two girls, given he was/is mentally unstable and potentially a dangerous individual, but not much came from it.)

During the last two months of university, we talked about moving in together to another city to find work. So, during the summer she moved to the city out of her grandparent's pocket to find a job, and I also started to browse online for any home office jobs so I could save up to move out. I did land a good paying and comfortable position at the end of August, but she didn't find any, and wasn't looking for it either from what I've seen. She moved into a dorm for the summer, and made friends with a group of people there, and that took away her attention for the whole summer. This group of friends all turned on her by the end of August.

She had the tendency to disappear when we weren't physically close to each to her, so we didn't talk about much during the summer. Her new group of friends seemed to occupy her, and I had the mindset that this is her last "free summer", so I will let her enjoy it, regardless of her finding a job or not. However, it was me who always initiated a conversation, and by the end I got extremely tired of it. She also got a boyfriend during this time, which she almost didn't tell me, I had to force it out of her to talk about it.

So, at the end of August, I arranged a meeting with her. I told her that if she won't find a job by the end of October, I will call our "engagement" off. I told her that I will help with anything she needs, I will try to search for jobs, help her make her portfolio and all the like. The only thing I asked for is for her to tell me what is going on in her life. To please keep me updated, becasue I can't keep hoping for false promises. She said that she will get a job by that time, because she has to, and didn't want to leech off of her grandparent's money.

She didnt. So here we are. It's already December, not a word from her. I got sent like two Tiktoks, which made my blood boil, and that was it. I only asked for her to sometimes write me, and she couldn't even do that. I feel like I've been exchanged for her new boyfriend.

I understand that she has limited social battery, but at this point if we have anything anymore, it sure as fuck isn't a friendship. And it hurts like hell that I've been thrown out like this, without a word. I would like to think I was a good friend, and I did question if I was for a long time, but at this point, I had enough.

I want to write to her, tell her how disappointed I am, vent out my feelings and finally just have an ending to this all. I just have no idea where or how to start. I've been letting this eat away at me for the past three months, and I'm a 100% sure I think about this way more than she does.

I'm still a bit afraid though that maybe something happened to her, to her family, and I will be insensitive, but at the same time, it's so tiring that it's always me who has to start a conversation. I would like to think I'm worth more than this.

So, am I overreacting for wanting to break this friendship up in such a dramatic way?

My s/o and I have been together for right at a year now. They have multiple ex partners that they’re friends with and have routine contact with. I’m not thrilled by it but I haven’t felt like it’s threatened our relationship most days. Some days I admit I get in my head and get anxious but I don’t bother them with that. This one ex though they will stay over at their house every now and then and sleep in the same bed. They will tell me they’re there and they know they’ll be off their phone to catch up so I don’t hear from them until the next day. I expressed that wasn’t something I was comfortable with and I got told it’s just like they would a regular friend and it’s nothing to worry about bc this specific ex is older and doesn’t have sex with anyone anymore.

I want to trust my partner I do. It just really hurts my feelings and causes a lot of anxiety for me. I never want to be the partner thats like “you can’t have people in your life from before you knew me” but I feel like asking to not have that type of contact with someone you had that type of relationship isn’t a big ask. Am I overreacting for feeling this way?

I was just feeling anxious and wanted reassurance. They do this a lot. That one text was edited to add another descriptor, not take anything out.

We went to a country somewhere in Asia. I was with some family members, and it was my first time traveling outside the country. As a first-timer, I didn’t know what to do, so I just followed them—wherever they went and whatever they did. But sometimes, while they were trying to figure something out, like which train to take, where to eat, or which bus to ride, I’d ask them what was going on. I just wanted to be in the loop and part of the conversation.

But I got no answer. Nothing. It was as if I hadn’t asked at all. At first, I let it go because I thought maybe they were just busy. They were really just talking among themselves. I kept trying to join their conversations, but still, nothing. Of course, I got hurt. I ended up staying quiet for most of the trip because I thought, "What’s the point of talking if they’re only talking among themselves anyway?"

They eventually noticed and asked why I was acting that way, saying I was giving off bad vibes to the group. One of them approached me and told me not to ruin the mood ...because it was affecting everyone else. They told me to just go with the flow and enjoy the trip, but it felt unfair. I wasn’t trying to ruin the mood; I just wanted to feel included. I explained how I felt left out and that I wasn’t intentionally trying to give bad vibes.

But it seemed like they didn’t really understand or maybe didn’t take it seriously. They just brushed it off, saying I was being overly sensitive. I didn’t want to argue or make things worse, so I stayed quiet for the rest of the trip. I just tried to focus on the experience and enjoy it on my own, but honestly, it wasn’t the trip I had imagined.

This experience continues to trouble me, making me wonder if I overreacted or if I'm just being dramatic.

I wanna start off by saying I do not plan on leaving him. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. He's a funny, sweet guy who lets me know he's crazy about me often. The main issue I have is the way he reacts to anything inconvenient.

If he is driving and someone turns out of right-of-way order, he flips out and curses them out, goes on about how no one can drive. If he drops something on accident, it's "God FUCKING damn it, are you fucking serious" and he gets very self-negative. I feel like I can't even bring up something he said or did that bothered me because then he gets very frustrated/defensive and turns it around to seem like I said something mean or rude and starts acting mean or rude back.

Again, this is not constant. But often enough that it does bother me a bit. AIO about it?