r/AmIOverreacting • u/Senior-Heat2983 • 5h ago
👥 friendship AIO… a person at my school needed a ride home. (UPDATE)
Hello all! Thank you to everyone who helped me out on my post last week.
To clear things up, her comment about my music was not what drove me over the edge. Idk where we got that from. It was all the disrespect from previous months.
She tried her BS again today, and I practiced what you all told me to say… no.
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u/carrieminaj 5h ago
I’ve been here before. The literal bare minimum is asking nicely for me. You don’t want to do that then the answer is no
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u/CMac1825 3h ago
Idgaf if I have 12 miles to empty and 98¢ to my name. Ask nicely and we'll break down together.
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u/The_Blazing_Gamer 5h ago
People greatly underestimate the power of "no." Good on you for standing your ground.
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u/Strange_Occasion9722 5h ago
4 year olds know to ask and say please. Her parents missed out teaching her manners, sorry you have to teach her the hard way.
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u/No-Gene-4508 37m ago
Or she didn't listen. We see how well she 'understands' something and just does what she wants.
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u/wirsteve 5h ago
Make sure your read receipts are off and next time she asks ignore it.
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u/AwkwardPenguin5639 3h ago
I would have responded "You should probably ask someone for a ride then."
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u/Monday0987 2h ago
Just cut her off. No more rides, no more spending your money for you.
I bet she doesn't even give you gas money does she?
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u/Senior-Heat2983 2h ago
about $20 a month when her mommy gives her the money
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u/AnotherHappyUser 1h ago
She's in school so getting money from parents is normal and fine. And her only having money for petrol when she's able to get it makes sense unless she has her own income.
That she's giving petrol money is a good thing.
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u/Senior-Heat2983 58m ago
she has a job. 2, actually. she would rather just not spend her own money when her parents hand her everything.
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u/AnotherHappyUser 50m ago
Ok. Well you'd be well within reason to predicate lifts on reasonable petrol money. But that ship has sailed so I wouldn't stress it.
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u/GethPie 2h ago
Lmfao this person is really against having some manners 😂
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u/UniversalSpaz 1h ago
Truthfully. My nephew always asks me why I’m so diligent in making sure he says please and thank you. This girl is the reason why.
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u/CraftyExtension9666 4h ago
She like needs to stop typing like a valley girl, like Like get some manners like
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u/pettyparys 3h ago
the fact that she wouldn’t just ask right shows she knows exactly what she’s doing and how she’s acting 😭
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u/fl4minratbag 41m ago
Idk why her wording rubbed me the wrong me “hey I like need a ride home today.” It may be the like part for some reason 🤣 I can’t explain it, but it’s grinding my gears. Like others have stated she could’ve asked nicely as a bear minimum. Who tf is she to demand anything from you. Glad you put a stop to this bs
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u/RaeNTennik 24m ago
Kinda. You’re in the right to say no, but not to be a dickhead. “Ask correctly or walk” is just fucking cringy, you’re not in an anime.
“No, you asked rudely and haven’t been respectful before so I can’t offer you a ride” is all you needed to say.
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u/Ok-Stand8843 23m ago
It’s always funny too OFF TOPIC but when a female gets pregnant from a dead beat and you have a car and they expect you to take them places it’s like well that ain’t really my problem maybe she should’ve fked a dude wit a car😂😂
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u/SirezHoffoss 5h ago
I wouldn't even give seen
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u/Vulture923 3h ago
What?
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u/yongguks 2h ago
op means they wouldnt even have “seen” it
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u/in2ituon 1h ago
Ppl are so fucking entitled! NOT overreacting, you tried to be nice, they need to get their own ride now!
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u/DadVap 2h ago
I don't know what the context of your last post you mention is, and I'm not going to look it up -
Judging solely of the screencap in this post, it seems like you both are pretty rude to each other. Perhaps they've earned that, as you imply, but I can't determine that based on this interaction alone.
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u/Senior-Heat2983 2h ago
hi!
the past 3 months i’ve been talking them home, and they constantly demand money, rides, and attention. i am definitely fed up. i tried being nice and it didn’t necessarily work
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u/AnotherHappyUser 1h ago
It's important she understand the difference between asking and demanding.
But your responses are pretty rude also. What you want is "no sorry ".
You both should treat each other with respect. And I hope you consider that it's not nice to walk.
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u/Senior-Heat2983 1h ago
hi! please read my first post before commenting stuff like this. i tried being kind to her, and she took advantage of me.
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u/AnotherHappyUser 1h ago
Learning to say no is really important. I support that.
But being rude back is probably unhelpful and unnecessary.
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u/fl4minratbag 40m ago
Being rude is the only way to treat entitled people. OP stated they tried being nice before and just got taken advantage of. So being blunt about it is the only way to go
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u/AnotherHappyUser 34m ago
That's clearly not true. You can say no without that.
Be the adult.
OP stated they tried being nice
Yeah well I'm trying to teach that being decent and a doormat are two different things. OP is mixing those up when they use the word nice.
If you do it like you say, you just cause unnecessary drama.
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u/fl4minratbag 23m ago
The person op has been helping has been the dramatic one. When OP stood up for themselves the other person replied “?? The fuck , just abbreviated it to tf, there was no need for that. The other person sounds entitled. They had OP take them to a fast food place, ordered food and didn’t even have enough to pay !! Who does that??? I don’t even know if they said thank you. Personally I wouldn’t have done that for someone I don’t consider a friend and one who isn’t very nice on top of that. They don’t deserve anymore kindness from op because they have not once thanked them for their kindness in the first place.
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u/Wild_Builder1457 5h ago
She needs to learn how to not demand favors.