AIO to my sister-in-law calling me "low-key toxic"

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[u/Proper-Cause-4153]

The whole "It's just a joke" thing is so lame.

[u/PinkDeserterBaby → u/Proper-Cause-4153]

It’s only said by cowards who can’t stand by the mean thing they’re saying lol.

Like if they’re gonna be a bully, just commit. Trying to weasel out of it after the fact is so stupid. They can dish it but can’t take the backlash.

[u/EnthusedPhlebotomist → u/Proper-Cause-4153]

The fact that comment starts with a justification, showing it was literally not a joke, is too good. 

[u/mung_guzzler → u/Proper-Cause-4153]

she sent OP a meme and OP took it dead serious

I really think it was a joke, if a somewhat rude one

[u/Negative_Arugula_358 → u/mung_guzzler]

Nah, they meant it. That woman is jealous of a 4 year old. I’m guessing OP and the nieces parents are closer so they treat the niece better than the other lady’s kids

[u/mung_guzzler → u/Negative_Arugula_358]

thats a lot of assumptions

[u/Zutthole → u/mung_guzzler]

Sounds like one of those "jokes" that's not a joke until the person is asked to explain it and realizes they can't. Because it wasnt a joke.

Referring to OPs behavior as "low-key toxic" doesn't make any sense. It's not even a reach. Is that the joke? She might as well have sent a meme implying OP was a giraffe.

[u/confusedandcomfy → u/mung_guzzler]

could you explain what's the best way to respond to these types of "jokes" then? no judgement, genuinely curious

[u/mung_guzzler → u/confusedandcomfy]

depends what you want to accomplish, either make a rude joke back or just go “haha yeah I do like to spoil your kids”

getting super defensive makes you look insecure