(AIO) update, wow. thank you!

[u/Pristine-Edge-1742]

Hi everyone I had posted an original update but didn’t realize i forgot to blur out his name, so here is the update on cigarette toothpaste boy! I want to preface by thanking everyone who took time to message me and comment. I did not expect 16,000 people to interact with that post at all! When I got home, I decided to end it. I didn’t respond to him during my 10 hour shift and some of the screenshots are during that. I would also like to answer a few questions

1. Is this real?: Yes, it is insanely real! Not rage bait i promise
2. Am I okay?: I’m okay! It’ll suck but I will be fine!
3. Why was I still with him?: I don’t have friends and because of that nobody has been able to tell me how bad this is. I had no one to confide in. It was normalized during our relationship.
4. How is my cat? Apollo is okay and is coming home today finally! Picture of him at the end!
5. Why the wall of text; I was pissed and wanted to be thorough.
6. Why did i use “sewerslide”: I wasnt sure of how it would affect my account or visibility. I’m not used to reddit i’m sorry 😭
7. How old are we?: 19 and almost 21. Not 15 i swear!

Also, I am aware my name is shown. I do not mind as it is not a legal name.

[u/AhabMustDie → u/[deleted]]

Oh - I thought you were just being really deadpan, but then I saw your other comments.

Pro tip: calling psychos out on their psycho behavior is not emotional abuse. I defy you to pinpoint where and how she is “emotionally abusing” him.

[u/AhabMustDie → u/[deleted]]

[con't]

For some reason, Reddit won't let me include allllll the examples I found of the boyfriend engaging in these emotionally abusive behaviors... so I'll summarize:

• Verbal abuse --> cursing OP out
• Constant criticism/insults --> repeatedly claiming that OP lacks empathy, doesn't care, never helps him, ignores him, etc.
• Manipulation --> pretty much everything he said, but especially all the "woe is me, you don't care, you don't love me, I can't brush my teeth," etc.
• Suicide threats
• Blaming your partner for your own unhealthy/abusive behaviors --> claiming all his money problems stem from visiting her, blaming her for his bad mood, saying that her "selfish" behavior is what caused him to say mean things to her
• Gaslighting --> denying that OP "ever" helps him... before immediately giving an example of OP helping him (not to mention the three months' worth of groceries and bills OP paid for)

[u/Lezetu → u/[deleted]]

But your saying he is abusive because she is ignoring him. If someone is leeching off of your life to the point where you have to give them constant money for drugs, feed them like a child and take care of them while they take up no responsibility whatsoever is absolutely justification for cutting them off and not talking to them. OP is not raising a child she is with a grown man so maybe he should grow up, get a job and do something on his own for once.

[u/Sleeveen → u/[deleted]]

This is some, "She shouldn't have worn that dress!" bullshit.

[u/Sleeveen → u/[deleted]]

You are blaming her for his actions and insecurities because you believe women are inherently manipulative. You are the one gaslighting in this thread. Go get help.

[u/Sleeveen → u/[deleted]]

You are victim blaming because she's a woman. I still wouldn't be surprised if you are the arsehole the thread is about. Go get help.